#SettingBoundaries

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

Removing myself from all situations where I don’t feel loved, supported, appreciated, or respected.

[edersondeaquarian]

May 01, 2024 @ 02:05 AM, Wednesday

In order to leave the house, I had to accept that my relationshit with my sibling’s significant other had deteriorated beyond repair.

My mother chose to side with him, which upset me. When I read the private message between my sister and nephew about when I would be leaving, it confirmed my decision! She also called me a disrespectful name and used my first name for the first time, instead of calling me 'Kuya.' Because of this disrespect, I am cutting off communication with her.

I take pride in myself and refuse to be treated poorly, especially by someone I care about.

[sup3rqu33n]

i’m not ashamed of my body or talking about sexual health. my body’s mine, and it deserves respect.

[biblebreak]

"Sometimes my badness comes out of brokenness, my boundaries can protect me until I am healed enough to let others in"

[healyourmomwound]

I speak to myself with love and gentleness. #selfcompassion #selflove

I speak to myself with love and gentleness. #selfcompassion #selflove https://www.youtube.com/shorts/0PB88fsZCZc via Talk With Anna https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1PtxjRMtwgvFzcP9T-M0ew July 22, 2025 at 03:15AM

[joelekm]

Borderline vs. Narcissistic Love: How to Tell the Difference | Dr. Daniel Fox

This video talks about the differences between two types of love: one with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and one with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Dr. Fox explains how BPD love is very emotional and intense, while NPD love is more about control. He tells a story about Lisa and Mark to show these differences. The video also talks about how people with BPD and NPD handle fights, how to talk to them, set boundaries, and decide if the relationship is healthy or not. In the end, he gives advice on how to protect yourself and recognize warning signs.

[daviddavi09]

EP19: The Ripple Effect: How Divorce Affects Friendships and How to Cope | Art of Classiness

Breakups and divorces don’t just impact romantic relationships—they change friendships, too. Have you ever lost a friend in the split, struggled to support someone through heartbreak, or felt like your friendship dynamic was never the same? In this episode, we’re breaking down how breakups reshape friendships, how to navigate these shifts, and how to be there for a friend without losing yourself in the process.

[mariafraniayu]

The Sound of Envy in a Crowded Room

It’s the first day back in the office, and for what feels like the hundredth time, that uncomfortable sound fills the air again. It isn’t a noise one can hear with their ears, but rather a heavy, silent static felt deep in the soul—the unmistakable feeling of envy, wrapped tightly in anger and dislike. This silent broadcast resonates through the crowded room, a stark contrast to the low hum of…

[thejourneyofastrangerlife]

Drawing the Line at Manipulation

Today, my mother-in-law created another dramatic episode — her signature cleaning spree, the kind she uses to mask her narcissistic behavior. This comes right after yesterday’s argument, and honestly, it’s unbelievable. My husband, poor thing, doesn’t even see that she’s playing the victim again. I don’t know how to escape this loop of drama. Every time, I’m expected to let things go — that’s what my husband keeps saying — just so she can restart the same chaos again whenever she wants?

No matter what I do, it’s never enough. From now on, I will just let it be. Whatever she wants to do — it’s up to her. It’s no longer my problem. I’ve tolerated this for almost a year. She refuses to let go of her son and constantly finds ways to create tension, just to push him further away from me. Why am I always the one left to endure all this?

And here’s what’s been on my mind lately: tell me, what more am I supposed to do? I try to see things from my husband’s point of view, but even that leads to me being blamed or compared. What am I really in this household? A maid? Is a wife just an unpaid servant in her in-laws’ eyes? Is that what it means to marry — to become obligated not only to a husband but to his mother too?

Let me be clear: I am not a maid. I am a human being, a wife, a partner — and I deserve respect, care, and emotional safety. I am not being unreasonable for wanting to be seen, heard, and supported — especially by my husband.

In a healthy marriage, we are supposed to be partners, not someone’s scapegoat or domestic helper. I shouldn’t have to constantly earn my right to exist in my own home. And the constant pressure to justify my emotions, the emotional manipulation, the guilt — it’s draining and unfair.

All I’ve been asking is:

For my husband to see the reality and stop being blinded by guilt or obligation to his mother.

For him to help set boundaries with someone who refuses to respect them.

For me to be treated with the same basic decency I give to everyone else.

If he can’t step in and support me when I’m being mistreated, then we are not functioning as a team. And that’s something that needs to be addressed — honestly, directly, and without brushing it under the rug.

Sometimes, the strongest thing you can do is stop trying to please people who benefit from you staying small. I’m tired of shrinking myself to keep the peace. I deserve a life where I feel safe and respected — not one where I’m constantly trying to survive.

[marksmusingsuk]

Mark Will Fix It.

I’ve always been the person who wants to fix everything. If someone I care about is struggling, I feel it deep in my chest, like it’s my responsibility to make it better. It’s not just about offering advice or being there to listen; it’s this overwhelming urge to take on their pain, to find solutions, to make things right—even if it means setting aside my own needs in the process.

Somewhere along the way, I’ve forgotten how to care about myself.

It’s not intentional. I don’t wake up each day deciding to put myself last. But when someone reaches out to me, their voice heavy with sadness or frustration, I drop everything. I give all of my energy, my time, my heart—because I genuinely care. I don’t want the people I love to suffer. But in doing this, I’ve neglected the one person I should be looking after just as much: me.

I tell myself I’ll get around to it. That one day, when everyone else is okay, I’ll take a break. I’ll focus on myself. But that day never comes. There’s always someone who needs me, and I don’t know how to say, “I can’t right now.” The guilt is instant, crushing. How could I possibly turn away when someone is in pain? I convince myself that my own struggles aren’t as important, that I can handle them on my own. But the truth is, I can’t keep ignoring myself forever.

But lately, I’ve started to realise that constantly fixing other people’s problems has left me drained. I’ve poured so much into others that I have nothing left for myself. My own thoughts, my own struggles, my own happiness—they’ve all taken a backseat. I wouldn’t treat a friend this way, so why do I do it to myself? I feel like I’m running on empty, giving and giving without ever refuelling. And when I do finally stop, when I sit with myself in the silence, I realise how exhausted I truly am. I realise that I don’t even know what I need anymore because I’ve spent so long focusing on everyone else.

I need to relearn what it means to care about me. To remind myself that my well-being matters just as much as anyone else’s. That I can’t keep giving from an empty cup. That it’s okay to step back, to set boundaries, to say, “I need time for me.” That doesn’t mean I don’t care about others. It doesn’t make me selfish. It makes me human. And if I don’t take care of myself, I won’t be able to take care of anyone else either.

It won’t be easy. It means breaking patterns I’ve followed for so long. It means reminding myself, over and over again, that my worth isn’t tied to how much I can fix for others. It means learning to be okay with saying no, with prioritising myself without guilt. It means rediscovering what brings me joy, what makes me feel alive, what gives me purpose beyond helping everyone else. Because I matter too.

Maybe you feel this way too. Maybe you’re so busy caring for everyone else that you’ve forgotten how to care for yourself. If that’s the case, let’s figure it out together. Let’s learn to make space for ourselves, to value our own needs, and to remember that we deserve the same kindness we give so freely to others. It’s time to stop waiting for the right moment to put ourselves first. That moment is now.

[theonlynailah]

6888- Black Woman in Leadership

Today is one of those days. I just need to vent. Had some interesting meetings with leadership, and now I’m a ball of emotions. I feel like I’m in an awkward space, but I’m trying to take my friend Travis’s advice: journal for 6-8 minutes, then let it go. So here it is.

💼 Work Feelings: Right now, it feels like I’m paying for the mistakes of my previous director. They left things in chaos, and now everything is falling on my shoulders. I get it—the work must go on—but because things weren’t handled properly before, it probably seems like I’m coming in too hot. There’s that old saying: As a Black person, you have to be three times as good to get half the respect. That’s exactly how I feel right now. I’m doing my best to keep emotions out of it, but it’s hard. I won’t lie—there’s a part of me that wants to call my old director and go off, but I don’t want to be the intro on somebody’s diss track.

👥 Friendships & Work Drama: Lately, some coworkers have made work… less fun. I never thought I’d be in a place where work drama felt like too much, but here I am. I’ve mended things with some people, but there’s still one lingering conversation I’m dreading. I’m supposed to go to book club tomorrow, but I’m not sure I even want to. Everyone wants to be my friend, but honestly? I need that boundary between work me and personal me.

🤍 Yearning for a Safe Space: I think I’ve been searching for a safe space my whole life. I thought I had it before, but I was wrong, and I’ve been struggling with that realization. I crave deep, platonic connections, but I also hold myself accountable in ways that make those relationships hard to find. If I’m being real, I think I’m waiting for the day I meet my husband because I believe that will be my safe space. I even sent my friend Travis a message today because I was on the verge of tears.

🖤 Final Thoughts: Honestly? I feel lighter just writing this. I appreciate this space. I know most people won’t read this, but even if one person does, I hope it resonates. There’s been so much on my shoulders, and just getting it out helps.

[sup3rqu33n]

self-care means protecting myself from STDs and fuckboys alike. i’m cutting back on weed too, 'cause this pussy deserves a clear mind.

[therelationshippro]

He Wants Me to Sleep Over—What Does It Mean and Am I Ready?

If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you’ve probably started hitting some milestones. Maybe you’ve had your first kiss, met each other's friends, or even dropped the “L” word. But when your boyfriend asks you to sleep over, you might find yourself pausing and wondering, What does this mean? Am I ready for this step?

These are valid questions, and honestly, you’re not alone. Having your boyfriend invite you to spend the night can stir up excitement, curiosity, and maybe even a bit of nervousness. It’s a significant moment, and it’s okay to take your time processing it. Let's break this down together, explore what it could mean, and figure out how to decide if this is the right time for you.

Why He Might Want You to Sleep Over

When your boyfriend asks you to stay the night, it’s not just about convenience or avoiding a late-night drive home. Often, staying over signifies a deeper step in the relationship. It might mean he’s ready to spend more intimate time with you—not just physically, but emotionally, too. Sharing a bed with someone isn’t just about sleeping; it’s about closeness and trust.

Of course, every relationship is different. For some, this moment might feel casual, while for others, it could be a sign of moving things to the next level. The key here is to figure out what it means for you and your partner as a couple.

How to Decide If You're Comfortable

Before packing your overnight bag, take a moment to reflect on your feelings. Are you excited about the idea? Or do you feel hesitant? Your gut instinct is often a strong indicator of whether you’re truly ready to take this step. Here are a few questions to ask yourself that might help clarify your thoughts:

Do I trust him completely? Emotional and physical safety are fundamental. Do you feel secure in sharing such a vulnerable moment with him? Trust is the foundation of every healthy relationship.

Have we communicated about this? Have you and your boyfriend talked about what this would mean? It’s important to ensure you're on the same page and have clear expectations.

Does this align with my values and comfort level? Every person and every relationship is different. Make sure this decision feels right for you, independent of external pressures or expectations.

Communicating Your Boundaries

It’s okay if you’re not ready yet. This doesn’t mean something is wrong with your relationship or that you’re not as committed as he is. It just means you need time to feel 100% comfortable—and that’s perfectly valid.

If he’s truly the right partner for you, he’ll respect your decision and won’t pressure you to move faster than you’d like. The best approach is open and honest communication. You could say something like, “I’m so flattered you want me to stay the night, but I think I need a little more time to feel ready for that. I hope you understand.”

Setting boundaries is also about protecting your mental and emotional well-being. There’s no timeline for these moments—they should happen naturally and when you’re both in agreement.

Signs You Might Be Ready

If you’re unsure about whether you want to take this step, here are a few signs that could suggest you’re ready:

You Feel Comfortable and Excited: If the idea of staying over feels natural and exciting rather than nerve-wracking, you might be in a good place to say yes.

Communication Is Strong: You and your boyfriend have talked openly about what this means and have set mutual ground rules to ensure you’re both comfortable.

You Feel Secure in Your Relationship: If trust has been established and you feel confident in where your relationship is headed, this might be the right time to spend the night.

How This Blog Can Help

If you’re still feeling torn or unsure, this amazing blog post has you covered. It dives into why your boyfriend might be asking you to spend the night and provides helpful advice on figuring out whether you’re ready. It also talks about setting boundaries and making decisions that align with your values.

Sometimes, it can be reassuring to read through someone else's perspective and get a sense of clarity. There’s no pressure to decide immediately—take all the time you need to make the decision that’s yours and yours alone.

Final Thoughts

When your boyfriend wants you to sleep over, it’s about more than just sharing a night together. It’s an emotional and personal step that requires trust, communication, and mutual understanding. Don’t rush the process. Listen to yourself, talk openly with your partner, and make the decision that feels best for you.

Remember, relationships thrive on mutual respect, patience, and love. Whether you decide to stay over or not, trust that your feelings are valid, and the right person will honor them.

Looking for more thoughtful advice? Check out the full blog post here—it’s packed with relatable insights and practical tips to help you sort through your thoughts and make confident choices.

[healyourmomwound]

We have resources to help you move from hyper-critical to self-compassionate. #reparenting #lmft

We have resources to help you move from hyper-critical to self-compassionate. #reparenting #lmft https://www.youtube.com/shorts/ea6I06ahdm0 via Talk With Anna https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1PtxjRMtwgvFzcP9T-M0ew July 15, 2025 at 01:25AM

[joelekm]

Embrace Healthy Selfishness: The Key to Confidence, Happiness, and Personal Growth

In a world that often values selflessness, this transformative video reveals the power of healthy selfishness in creating a balanced, fulfilling life. Learn why prioritizing self-care is essential for reducing stress, improving mental health, and building stronger relationships. With actionable strategies for setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and nurturing personal growth, this video will help you cultivate confidence, self-love, and lasting happiness. Through inspiring insights and stories, you'll discover how embracing healthy selfishness can be the key to achieving true well-being and fulfillment. Start your journey toward empowerment and joy today!