#also difficult because wfh

[lesbin]

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[witchslove]

re: pervy milf wanda

I know we’ve been in a dommy mommy wanda phase but omg a subby milf wanda that has such a dirty mind… touching herself after she sees you go home after a sweaty workout, or grinding her clit on her palm, through her underwear, at her wfh desk because you stopped by to fix her wifi or some silly excuse like that, and just the thought of her begging you for permission to come drives her insane

-🚀 (also hi sorry been busy heh)

OH MY GOD YES

I love the idea of her having a dirty mind and wanting you so bad she just can’t help herself, especially if you’re not already together.

She almost feels bad for lusting after a younger woman, but she can’t help the way her body reacts to you. She knows it’s wrong, she tries to remind herself of that, but it’s difficult for her to contain her feelings for you, her attraction to you, especially when she cums so hard thinking of you.

She often invites you over to help her with random chores around the house just so she can ogle you, the ache between her thighs becoming more and more unbearable the longer you’re in her presence. Sometimes she sees you coming home from the gym, sweaty and toned, and she imagines what you’d look like with less clothes on as she rubs circles into her clit.

When you come over to fix her wifi one day, she doesn’t even make it to her bedroom before she’s touching herself under her work desk, desperately chasing her release just moments after you’ve left. She rubs her soaked panties underneath the desk, two fingers slipping past the fabric to slide into her tight hole, her palm grinding against her aching clit with every thrust. She imagines it’s you fucking your fingers into her, kissing her neck and praising her. She imagines you’d talk dirty to her too, telling her she feels so good and making her listen to the wet sounds of her pussy, but what abruptly sends her over the edge is the thought of her begging you to let her cum for you. She cums hard, moaning your name as she falls apart at her desk.

[kirkewrites]

looking for more rp partners on discord!! would absolutely love another small town mumu (multimuse) or two, extra info about me & what i'm looking for under the cut!

hi, thanks for looking!! my name is mo, i'm 29, she/her, and i'm in the PST (GMT-8) timezone! i'm exclusively looking for rp partners who are 24+ please! i write on discord only in a private rp server (using tupperbox!) that i'll make for us! i looove organization and will include plenty of different channels and categories for us to get super invested in this rp!

i write all genders, but only write f/f, m/f, and nb ships. i'm looking for a writing partner who is similar in enjoying and wanting to write all genders (and who have equal muse for all their ocs regardless of gender) as i'm interested in exploring multiple types of ships and characters! i am also looking for a partner who likes to write a wide variety of ages, as I enjoy writing characters anywhere between the ages of 20s-50s. i prefer using & being opposite by faceclaims with resources from films & tv (i'm not interested in opposites such as sabrina carpenter, harry styles, madison beer, and the like)

i'd love a rp partner who loves to worldbuild, plot, write headcanons (or do little rp memes), share inspo stuff, and chat ooc! pinterest boards and playlists are a bonus! i really enjoy building a friendship with my rp partners as well as a fun, collaborative writing experience! as for the rp itself, i would absolutely LOVE to create a small town with a new partner and come up with its location, the names of shops and other places, some NPC names, maybe plot up some modern town lore & history, ect, and fill it up with a bunch of diverse characters and relationships we can continue to add on to over time! i'm interested in exploring relationships of all kinds, including romantic, platonic, familial, antagonistic, ect! i love being able to write a living, breathing town filled with characters who can all freely interact with each other. side bonus, if you watch soap operas (especially general hospital!) and want a soap opera inspired mumu, i am definitely the gal for you!

because i'd love a slowly expanding cast of characters (start with 2-4 characters each and go from there?), it's very preferable to me that replies stay on the short side, as in one paragraph or less (with some exceptions ofc!). this way we can prioritize quality over quantity, and actually get to see relationships & plots evolve over time in many threads rather than spend weeks or more on a single thread that results in us never actually getting to all the good stuff we've plotted. in my experience, it's way more fun to have an evolving mumu where replies are short and take maybe 5-10 minutes to write. it also allows us to keep the progress of the rp going at a continual pace, which keeps it fun, exciting, and fresh!

i can write smut when the relationship/thread calls for it, and i also enjoy talking about nsfw headcanons alongside sfw hcs, but i'd say i prefer a 80/20 story to smut ratio. this ofc only applies if my partner is comfortable with it, it's by no means a strict requirement! i am also comfortable with most dark or complicated themes, but this will be case by case basis. what i'm looking for is a good variety mix of drama & intrigue, angst & fluff, smut & sweetness, tragedy & other dark themes, ect! but nothing too intensely or consistently dark or taboo.

i'd consider myself to be a pretty active rp partner for the most part, as my work schedule is partially WFH and allows me a fair bit of free time. when replies are around 1 paragraph, i can usually do at least one set of replies a day (if we are writing multiple threads at a time, i personally enjoy writing 2 at a time!), and i'm down for rapid-fire sessions as well when able! i prefer my partner to have similar activity (it's difficult for me to stay invested in a rp when the majority of it consists of hcs & shared inspo with very little actual writing happening), though i don't at ALL want my partner to feel pressured to write replies!! it's just a hobby, not a jobby! things happen & life gets busy! i really appreciate communication and transparency with rp friends! just lmk what's up and i'll do the same for you! and if you can't do replies, i'm always happy to just chat ooc or do some inspo chatting, musings, or plotting!

this got so long, if you read all of it ily! if you have any questions or are interested in all this shit by me, please send me an IM!! if you like or comment on this ad, i'll try to reach out to you! ty!! if i don't reach out it's likely because i found something in your guidelines that i don't think is compatible with this plot ad (usually has to do with desired reply length being multi-paragraph/novella, activity being listed as low, if the blog is heavily smut-centric, or if rules state exclusively wanting to write one gender or one kind of ship)

[drdemonprince]

Can we really expand our window of tolerance as autistic people? I’ve been working on that kind of thing for so long and I can’t tell if I’ve made any genuine progress or if I’ve just unconsciously doubled down on masking :(

We can! But our expanded distress tolerance can't come out of nowhere. Something has to give. So for example, for me, I have way fewer sensory issues these days than I used to have, by a wide margin, and I have significantly less social anxiety and don't need much social recharge time on the level that I used to. I have more distress tolerance for sensory input and for social stressors now than I ever have before -- but this has required lifestyle changes and unmasking in order to get there. Let me break down both these improvements and how they happened:

Even as recently as a year ago, I would have terrible sensory meltdowns on a regular basis. But I haven't had a single sensory meltdown in months, maybe not even a single one for the entirety of 2023 so far? And that's because I have a) cut out caffeine, dramatically reducing my physiological stress levels, b) cut back on some workplace stress by reducing my commitments, c) stopped taking on additional projects outside of work that I didn't want to do and that only caused me stress (workshops and talks), and d) began working from home far more consistently, and made myself a wfh office that is more comfortable.

Now I operate from a really solid base of sensory comfort most days and I'm not overloaded with information or overwhelmed with obligations. This means I am far more tolerant of screaming people on the bus, the upstairs toddler slamming her feet on the floor, ambulances blaring by, noisy concerts, people bumping into me at the bar, etc.

I also am, for the first time in my life, clear-headed enough to recognize when I am starting to experience sensory distress, and can intentionally put on sunglasses or pop in ear plugs or remove myself from an upsetting situation more quickly. I had to experience what being relaxed and not overstimulated felt like, and get accustomed to living that way, in order to recognize subtler signs that I was feeling shitty and take steps to address those small annoyances before they exploded. I can handle a lot "more" in an intentional way now because I built my life to allow "less." My overall distress tolerance has still expanded -- but it's because I stopped masking and began attending to my sensory and stress regulation needs.

For the social piece, my distress tolerance has also gone up due to unmasking. If I was still motivated by passing as NT or being socially acceptable all the time, I'd be so overwhelmed being around people and worn down by every interaction. I also wouldnt be able to advocate for myself. But in the past few years I've become more and more openly weird and outspoken in my needs and true feelings, and I've recognized that the right people actually love me more when I do so and show up for me, and so being honest or even difficult to deal with is not really a threat.

This means I just don't experience much distress being honest or difficult to deal with anymore. I really can tolerate the discomfort of telling someone they're wrong or that I'm hurt without freaking out about being hurt or abandoned, because I've had a lot of good experiences with it and because I enjoy being unmasked so deeply that I just can't put my personality back in a bottle.

Masking lowers distress tolerance because it frays your nerves with stress and wears you out and bars you from ever getting to attend to and regulate your discomfort when there are signs of it happening. In order to increase your distress tolerance, you actually have to learn to better honor your discomfort early, and preventatively, so that you don't bubble over into a meltdown after days or weeks of ignoring your needs.

I think some people think distress tolerance is about becoming more tough, but it's quite the opposite. We become more resilient by getting better at recognizing and attending to our hurts.

[siriuslysatorusimping]

Kiko update: things are looking brighter

I’ve been trying to spend more time outside lately. Last year, when I started writing Another Level, I was purely WFH and, admittedly, would go weeks without leaving the house, and days without leaving bed. I would log into work from bed and sit and write all day and most of the night.

But I’ve been making an effort to sit in the backyard on the weekends or the days that I WFH. Just a bit of sunlight, even if it’s just five minutes. And I’ve been taking Arli with me occasionally, too. She’s a purely indoor cat and has been since I got her. She used to enjoy time on the balcony when we lived in apartments, but the house has been a bit difficult because I have to be with her in the backyard. That’ll probably change when we move again once this lease is up.

Now that it’s just the two of us again, she’s happier and healthier than I’ve seen her in years. Just like me, she’d lost weight and was super anxious all the time over the past few years. They say your pets are reflections of you and if that ain’t Arli, idk what is. She didn’t do well when we got Atlas because he was too energetic and pushy for her. (I have heard through mutual friends that Atlas is doing well, which doesn’t surprise me since my ex-husband treated him better than he treated me, anyway.) I’ll never get to see Atlas again, and as much as I miss him, I’m so glad Arli is healthier now that he isn’t around anymore. She hadn’t really cuddled with me much since we got Atlas either, but she’s gotten pretty damn insistent about it again and it’s very sweet 🥹

Anyway, that’s my update. I’m still writing some things, but I’m taking more time to focus on me and my health instead of locking myself inside and forgetting the world exists. Summer hours are ending for my job, so I won’t be spending 10 hours at the office a day 🙌🏽 but I also no longer have Fridays off 😔 it’s a give and take.

I hope everyone is doing well and that people about to start a new semester are ready 😊

- 💕 Kiko

[stressedlawsecretary]

Today's Focus

I am an idiot, walking a tightrope of fortune and fame.

02.28.25 - It is both the end of the week and the end of the month. Goodbye February! You may be the Monday of Months, but you are also the month of love and so I will be sad to see your pink and red tones fade to green in the coming March. However, the arrival of March means the arrival of spring, which might actually be my favorite season of the year. So here's to warmer temperatures, melting snow, and little sprouts of green poking up from the ground!

Work - I am incredibly grateful I am WFH today because it got me out of a massive 331-person mailing going on in the office today (that's how many COs are illegally on strike rn.) However, CSB is on vacation for like an entire month and all his emails are being forwarded to me. So I don't actually know what my day will look like, other than continuing redacting.

Background Noise - Back at home, so back to binging the DVR; I added just as much as I took off last time so I'm aiming to get even more off than I did on Wednesday (a difficult thing to do but let's see.) Also, I have plenty of YT slop to put on mute; speaking of YT, I managed. 27 videos yesterday so I am keeping up well with my average.

Study - Friday (and the weekend) are for reading Wikipedia, and I know I have plenty to go through if I don't have too much work work to do. But I did well yesterday! Three (3) press releases, a half a dozen (6) pages of A Short History of Paper Money & Banking, the same in chapters (6) of The Marvelous Land of Oz, and an additional half a dozen (6) news articles I picked up here and there.

Extras - Okay, it is Friday, so I have to clean the catbox and prep it for the weekend; it's also the end of the month so I have to start the monthly reset stuff - today is probably going to be towels & dad's sheets. I'm making another sheet pan meal for dinner: salmon, broccoli, and sweet potatoes; then it's the last three (3) episodes of Kiramager for the week before I spend my Friday night coloring and playing My Cozy Room. Maybe redecorating my boutique.

[winemom-culture]

what do you do for work? im child free bc i cant even fathom having the money to take care of one like i can barely take care of myself and my partner with our dual incomes

I’ve worn a couple hats job-wise in my son’s life from cosmetology to childcare to finance to insurance but most recently I’ve landed on the marketing field as a tradeshow & event specialist for my company.

By no means am I paid 6 figs or anything crazy, I’m still clawing out the financial hole of some debts, but I’ve been very blessed to like double my previously abysmal incomes from the other jobs within the last 2ish years through career jumps. The downside is I’m a serial job hopper which can ofc be a bit risky in interviews.

I think I try to mostly be conscious with the money I do get because most his life we did live with my parents on various kinds of assistance so it wasn’t without a struggle and that’s why I do get where you are coming from, totally, this bitch of a country doesn’t make it easy. I literally think programs we were on as recent as like 2019 have been nuked.

The prices of so many things have skyrocketed that even with a relatively reasonable income and presumably my partner who also has a reasonable income there’d still be struggles with another kid in present-day, and I don’t even think we’d need childcare like my son did (again, blessed 2 death my job is also like 90% WFH).

I guess all I can say in my case personally from 17 and pregnant in the trenches to now it seems like in retrospect you just get this drive to always find a way to make it work out for your kid and it’s always been worthwhile even when it’s difficult dog shit, but I’m definitely not naive about the familial support some people don’t have and frankly sometimes dumb luck it took for that to be my case.

Sorry this is a novel now I’m in my feelings missing my kid but best of luck to you and your partner in your endeavors 🙏

[jubilantmedusa]

January Art Post

I’m trying to actually learn how to paint this year - logging this all for my own amusement.

The goal for January was just to play around and experiment with technique.

My goal for February is to continue this, and maybe try a face.

Sketchbook Start Page - this is an easy Andrea Nelson tutorial. I’ve used this technique before, noteably with markers for one of my Zuko Dragons. In retrospect I went a bit nuts. It doesn’t look as neat as I’d like. But it was fun!

Brush exercise - to learn what your paint brushes can do

Circles exercise - another Andrea Nelson tutorial, designed to help you play with wet on wet vs wet on dry. I kinda bombed it 😆

Trees - no particular tutorial - I was just playing around, vaguely inspired by this series

The watercolor vs guouache experiment

Penguins brush control exercise - a Lacey tutorial, surprisingly difficult. I think I need a wider brush.

More penguins / rock experiments

Zen doodle - but also a brush control exercise. I should do more of these.

Colorful mountain path - another Lacey tutorial, it turned out so-so

Line mountain tutorial - ditto above

Leaves & branch tutorial - fun! And I think it looks just fine

Watercolor techniques tutorial - another Andrea Nelson tutorial designed to introduce painting techniques - and I added cats! 🐈‍⬛ Love them. My son’s favorite is the dry brush window because he thinks that cat looks like a kitten and it’s “so cute” 🥰

Knight 1 - this was one of my only “I am looking at a photo and painting it” entries, didn’t even sketch. And I love how it turned out! Reference photo.

Knight 2 - ditto above. Didn’t turn out as well as the other one, but I still really like it. Reference photo.

Cute elephant tutorial - I did this wondering, “could I paint something to hang in my daughter’s room?” I have some work to do, lol

Cute koala tutorial

Easy flower tutorial - meh

Easy beach tutorial - and Andre Nelson tutorial. Might be the easiest tutorial I did and I love how it turned out!

Improvised Italian coast - just googled a photo. I didn’t like this at first but now I’m more into it.

Fairy - Mother Holle - inspired by an illustration in The Great Encyclopedia of Fearies. It’s okay.

Fairy - The Pillywiggins - to be painted soon! And seriously I better before I accidentally draw another flower 🌺 😭 I’m excited for it!

Wild Robot to amuse my son

Marker doodles! Cats & bar interiors. I am mainly doing markers in the background of meetings during WFH days. So no surprise those are Ask a Manager cats and T.Lounge interiors.

[tealeavesandthorns]

//builders are going through my house to build a wall out back and my anxiety has just gone through the roof 😭😭

The parking situation outside ours is always bad even with us having a drive because other people think they're entitled to it. They've also temp blocked my neighbour from hell on the other side and I'm waiting for that Fury to be unleashed (given him AND his kids are ALWAYS blocking/using/driving over my drive, or making it as difficult as possible to get onto it you think they're would be give and take but this guy is a ROYAL ASSHOLE.)

So I'm just anticipating aggro and I def, with my tism and justice rage, am not the right person to deal with him/it but then my relatively soft other half will def be too nice....

Tearing my hair out already and wishing I was in the office not wfh 🥺😭😭😭😭

[fereldanwench]

husbando still has to work today, so I've enlisted the help of my SIL to do another round of moving this morning/early afternoon, and then tomorrow, she and my brother will also come over for a few hours to help with getting most of our smaller stuff out of the old place

(then we'll probably order some lunch and fuck around bc the four of us are just ridiculous together tbh lmao <3 brother and husbando esp bc they just start riffing off each other and then we're just all on the floor in tears laughing so hard)

we're moving from a first-floor unit to a higher floor in the new place (which I'm actually stoked about, i much prefer being higher up), so we decided to hire movers for heavy furniture/appliances because fuck that noise. we did a 3rd-floor apartment move once NEVER AGAIN

i'm already so sore after just a few runs from yesterday though lmao my legs are gonna be so stiff after this weekend

anyway movers will be here early monday morning. we wanted to do it earlier, but they were all booked sat & sun so that is drawing it out a little bit. we're not gonna bring the cats over until we can sleep there (athena gets separation anxiety & i dont want her stressed in a new place without us around) so we'll bring them over Monday afternoon

but before that, on sunday we'll have sit around for two hours for internet to get setup at our new place, and idk what the fuck xfinity is doing. they make canceling their shit so goddamn difficult. it's not even like there's a chance they can retain us as customers, we literally can't use them in the new place

we've got until close to the end of the month at our old place to clean up, but i scheduled our utility shut-offs a little earlier, so next weekend will be the mega cleanup weekend

and then it'll just be the fun stuff! we're getting a lot of new furniture, and I'm so excited to have a living room again. our current one really morphed into husbando's office/man cave over the pandemic bc there was nowhere else for him to set up a WFH office, and i miss just having a couch to flop on with the kitties

i'm still not 100% sure what i'm gonna do with my new office space--i have one wall figured out, but the room is a little smaller than what i currently have, and i am losing some wall space so i'll have to figure out how to make 3 desks (one for art, one for gaming, and one for work) fit nicely in there. but it's a puzzle I'm excited to solve :D

and we have a good-sized balcony space i can't wait to furnish! that was one thing that was always lacking in our current space. plenty of space to expand my little urban garden and get some cozy seating out there

anyway, SIL will be here in just a few so no more rambling. I'm just a big ball of energy right now IM SO READY

[dinosaurcharcuterie]

The reason the high tops work is that the canvas and the lacing limit "wobble". If you need more support, look for a shoe with a firm/hard counter (the hard, half moon shaped bit that goes against the heel). It's like stabilizing a house's foundation instead of the listing upper floor. You can still combine this with an ankle high shoe of any kind, but if your lower legs swell, you can get a low sneaker or even ballet flats that will stabilize you. Th!nk, El Naturalista, Wolky and Rollingsoft/Gabor are a few brands that have this feature on durable shoes with a modern design. Gabor does widths. If you find the top of the counter is cutting into your skin, go to a cobbler and kindly ask if they could run a hammer over the sharp edge a few times. No shoes are worth bleeding for.

If you've got chronic diarrhea, a bidet will be kinder to your backside than toilet paper. If you can't access even a travel bidet, or forgot it at home while traveling, I once got the advice "at some point you just take care of the worst of it and take a shower". Not only is this true, but 10 minutes of hot water on your lower half while breathing in warm, moist air tends to also calm down (at least a little) whatever in your belly has decided to run on horse software today.

One good thing that came from covid is that the TP shortage magically revealed unto recycled TP manufacturers that they can get quilty TP money by making quilty TP. If you do find yourself using a lot of toilet paper, look into finding some high quality 100% recycled stuff. Less because of saving the rain forest, or the lacking logic in buying new material with the intent to throw it out, but because it's less likely to clog your toilet. If you're running to the toilet every ten minutes, you are not having a day where you will have a good time with the plunger, or concoctions involving dish soap and boiling water.

If you're the kind of person who can get away with wearing dresses: you can hide a lot of bloated tummy under an A-line dress. Also, people think you put effort in your appearance if you wear a dress. I've got a few in knit jersey with flutter sleeves for days when I need to see a doctor for a vaccine, blood sample or BP reading. I've also got a few ankle length dresses if I don't have wfh days left but can't fit into anything but oversized jogging pants. You can sneak the jogging pants on underneath if it's cold.

If you've got a really bad bloat day and your underwear won't fit, but going commando is not an option... Adult diapers are surprisingly accommodating to waist fluctuations. Most supermarkets and drug stores have them near the period products. They are fully plastic, so either make sure you have times where you can let your skin air dry, or look into ways to prevent diaper rash for your skin type. They're also good for anxiety about soiling yourself if you've had accidents when sick/exhausted/in too much pain.

Sometimes you need a pain killer. Sometimes you need a spasm reliever. Ask about this to your doctor if you have cramps or muscle pain that has the same response, or less, to ibuprofen as it does to m&m's. Some of them work on smooth muscle, like in the GI system and uterus, others work on skeletal muscle, like those in the abdominal wall and limbs.

Pregnancy pillows are a friggin godsend for sleeping on your side after abdominal surgery or if you're prone to joint pain. If those are too expensive, too difficult to find or too heavy... I've used an Ikea Blåhaj in a pinch. The big, 100cm one. Put a cotton T-shirt or pillow cover over it in summer if its polyester body gets too warm.

Endocrine system making you feel like you're overheating even after everything has been checked out and deemed fine? Sweating a lot? Get some natural fiber clothes or underlayers with a high linen content. Or hemp. Or ramie. These are fibers from plant bast cells (instead of cotton fluff or pulped plant waste, like viscose or bamboo), and are better than their already comfier brethren at absorbing and wicking away sweat. They're also great at slowing down BO. You'll still feel hot, but not being sticky, stinky and hot will help. They don't have to be woven clothes or fancy clothes. My 55/45 hemp-cotton blend T-shirts from Up-Rise usually go for standard-affordable slow fashion prices... But they have decent promo codes at least three times a year, so at least half of my shirts were bought at "will not immediately dissolve" fast fashion prices.

The best medical aid or medication is the one you can use. Talk to your doctor/pharmacist/ortho tech if something isn't working for you. That's telling you doctor how bad side effects are, sure, I've mentioning I couldn't take a liquid medication on time because I needed to be near cutlery I could sanitize to take it, and got switched to the tablet formula. My compression wear compliance in hospital skyrocketed by being switched to knee-high ones as opposed to thigh-high. I've found out my tech can separately bill my insurance for the orthodic shoe inserts prescribed, and me for the "medically unnecessary", extra thin, carbon fiber witchcraft that means I can buy off the rack shoes.

I've been disabled for almost 29 years. Here's what I've learned.

Tablets sink and capsules float. Separate out your tablets and capsules when you go to take them. Tip your head down when taking capsules and up when taking tablets. Liquigels don't matter, they kinda stay in the middle of whatever liquid is in your mouth.

If your pill tastes bad, coat it with a bit of butter or margarine. I learned this from my mom, who learned it from a pharmacist.

Being in pain every day isn't normal. Average people experience pain during exceptional moments, like when they stub their toe or jam their finger in a door, not when they sit cross-legged.

Make a medical binder. Make multiple medical binders. I have a small one that comes with me to appointments and two big ones that stay at home, one with old stuff and one with more recent stuff.

Find your icons. Some of mine include Daya Betty (drag queen with diabetes), Stef Sanjati (influencer with Waardenburg syndrome and ADHD), and Hank Green (guy with ulcerative colitis who... does a bunch of stuff). They don't have to be disabled in the same way as you. They don't even have to be real people. Put their pictures up somewhere if you want; I've been meaning to decorate my medical binders with pictures of my icons.

Take a bin, box, bag, basket, whatever and fill it with items to cope with. This can be stuff for mentally coping like colouring books or play clay or stuff for physically coping like pain medicine or physio tape.

Decorate your shit! My cane for at home has a plushie backpack clip hanging from the end of the handle and my cane for going places is covered in stickers. All of my medical binders have fun scrapbooking paper on the outside. Sometimes, I put stickers and washi tape on my inhalers and pill bottles. I used my Cricut to decorate my coping bin with quotes from my icons, like "I've seen enough of Ba Sing Se" and "I need you to be angrier with that bell".

If a flare-up is making you unable to eat or keep food down, consider going to the ER. A pharmacist once told me that since my eye flares can make me so nauseous that I cannot eat, then I need to go to the hospital when that happens.

Cola works wonders for nausea. I have mini cans of Diet Pepsi in my coping bin.

Shortbread is one of the only things I can eat when nauseous. Giant Tiger sells individually-wrapped servings of shortbread around Christmas or the British import store sells them year-round. I also keep these in my coping bin.

Unless it violates a pain contract or something, don't be afraid to go behind your doctor's back to get something they are refusing you. I got my cardiologist referral by getting in with a different NP at my primary care clinic than who I usually saw. I switched from Seroquel to Abilify by visiting a walk-in.

If you have a condition affecting your abdomen in some way (GI issues, reproductive problems, y'know) then invest in track pants that are too big. I bought some for my laparoscopy over a year ago and they've been handy for pelvic pain days, too. I've also heard loose pants are good for after colonoscopies.

Do whatever works, even if it's weird. I've sat on the floor of the Eaton Centre to take my pills. I've shoved heating pads down my front waistband to reach my uterus.

High-top Converse are good for weak ankles. I almost exclusively wear them.

You can reuse your pill bottles for stuff. I use my jumbo ones to store makeup sponges and my long skinny ones to hold a travel-size amount of Q-Tips.

Just because your diagnostics come back with nothing, it doesn't mean nothing is wrong. Maybe you were checking the wrong thing, or the diagnostic tool wasn't sensitive enough. I have bradycardia episodes even though multiple cardiac tests caught nothing. I probably have endometriosis even though my gynecologist didn't see anything.

You can bring your comfort item to appointments, and it's generally a green flag when someone talks to you about it. I brought a Squishmallow turkey (named Ulana) to my laparoscopy and they had her wearing my mask when I woke up. I brought a Build-A-Bear cat (named Blinx) to another procedure and a nurse told me that everyone in the hall on the way to the procedure room saw him and were talking about how cute he was. Both of those ended up being positive experiences and every person who talked to me about my plushies was nice to me. If you don't feel comfortable having it visible to your provider during the appointment, you can hide it in your bag and just know it's there, or if you're in a video appointment, you can hold it below frame in your lap.

Get a small bucket, fill it with stuff, and stick it in your bed (if you have room for it). I filled a bucket with Ensure, juice boxes, oatmeal bars, lotion, my rescue inhaler, etc. in October 2023 in anticipation of my laparoscopy and I still have it in my bed as of January 2025.

If your disability impacts your impulse control (e.g. ADHD, bipolar disorder), you should consider setting limits around your spending -- no more than X dollars at a time, nothing online unless it's absolutely necessary, and so on. Or, run these purchases by someone you trust before committing to them; I use my BFF groupchat to help talk sense into myself when I buy stuff.

Feel free to add on what you've learned about disability!

[akash1618]

19 jun. thursday

finished retro last night. suriya is the only saving grace to the film. bad story. funnily, even 24 was being played on zee action, so i was conflicted if i should watch 24 or finish retro. went with retro then.

of all the films that portray the mc as a messiah or an incarnation of god, nothing can ever come close to khaleja for me. trivikram and mahesh babu did it more beautifully. also, suriya here was supposed to be kartikeya, krishna, and then jada muni. i mean, i do get that all gods are one, but it was a unique take, and i admire that. what felt funny was pooja's character being named as rukmini in the film, building up suriya as krishna, and then letting suriya be jada muni. this killed the symbolism of rukmini and krishna.

this would be my second time noticing. first came in sita ramam when vishnu betrays ram. it screamed "how could they?" because on one hand they had "ram" and "sita mahalakshmi" symbolism going, and on the other hand, vishnu betraying ram,

also, maybe it's just me but the films portraying humans as "gods", even subtly, have a knack of showing the humans in somewhat bad light sometimes. say srk in swades, being shree ram back from exile, but shown smoking. or mb in khaleja always swearing at people. and now suriya smoking and drinking as well. maybe the closest to shree ram portrayal was by ram charan in rrr where he lies and stays by the britishers, drawing inspiration to how shree ram deceptively killed king bali. this negative light portrayal rather seems intentional, to show that humans can never be gods, but always have a part of god in them.

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wfh today. raining lightly, but proly red alert. slept back and woke to work.

insta being funny. since i searched for some virgo that day after watching whats your raashee, my feed has virgo posts appearing on my profile. meh. i dont even like sun sign astrology. funny thing being this - virgos fight between themselves. the august vs september virgos. it'd have been understandable to see them fight against the other 11, but then this. "september virgos are original virgos. august are just prematures." "nah, august comes first, so we hold more power." eh? well whatever.

also, read on insta - "home can be a person too."

idk. how? how could home be a person? how would you define home? maybe a safe space? so home being a person implies being someone's safe space? maybe. that's all i can think of rn. can i be the home to someone then? maybe difficult with the mess i am. making someone feel safe around you, for them to speak with you without a care, is difficult. considering i am an infp, it should've came naturally to me. yes, i do find people sharing their secrets with me and being open around me sometimes, but it takes a lot of time and talking. but this alone doesnt make me a "home" to someone, because if i was, maybe people would've stayed in their home.

where do i find my home then? should i look at places, or at people?

for someone else, maybe i'd be the home that has a leaking roof. maybe the one that doesnt feel warm in winters. the one with paint coming off. a creaky door. randomly placed furniture.

but really, can home be a person? when do ik i've found my home? maybe i am asking the wrong question. maybe the question is - have you realised you found your home? but then, the answers are more confusing than the question. but maybe, not always.

yes ofc this image because this has been on my feed in some form from days. maybe home. symbolism again because suriya is on the darker side and pooja is on the lighter side.

looped name of love by cinema staff. sad rock feels sadder than slow sad songs. rock ones feel more raw. you can just listen to a sad rock and figure out instantly that it's sad without knowing a single word from the lyrics. but name of love is also slightly hopeful. sakura is pure heartbreak. might loop buck tick tomorrow then.

but then sakura is also special. it depends on what day i am listening to it. on happy days, it feels a bit lighter; and on sad days, it feels bucktick's saddest creation.

[kirkewrites]

looking for more rp partners on discord!! would absolutely love another small town mumu (multimuse) or two, extra info about me & what i'm looking for under the cut!

hi, thanks for looking!! my name is mo, i'm 29, she/her, and i'm in the PST (GMT-8) timezone! i'm exclusively looking for rp partners who are 24+ please! i write on discord only in a private rp server (using tupperbox!) that i'll make for us! i looove organization and will include plenty of different channels and categories for us to get super invested in this rp!

i write all genders, but only write f/f, m/f, and nb ships. i'm looking for a writing partner who is similar in enjoying and wanting to write all genders (and who have equal muse for all their ocs regardless of gender) as i'm interested in exploring multiple types of ships and characters! i am also looking for a partner who likes to write a wide variety of ages, as I enjoy writing characters anywhere between the ages of 20s-50s. i prefer using & being opposite by faceclaims with resources/gifs from films & tv (i'm not interested in models, musicians, or opposites such as sabrina carpenter, harry styles, madison beer, and the like)

i'd love a rp partner who loves to worldbuild, plot, write headcanons (or do little rp memes), share inspo stuff, and chat ooc! pinterest boards and playlists are a bonus! i really enjoy building a friendship with my rp partners as well as a fun, collaborative writing experience! as for the rp itself, i would absolutely LOVE to create a small town with a new partner and come up with its location, the names of shops and other places, some NPC names, maybe plot up some modern town lore & history, ect, and fill it up with a bunch of diverse characters and relationships we can continue to add on to over time! i'm interested in exploring relationships of all kinds, including romantic, platonic, familial, antagonistic, ect! i love being able to write a living, breathing town filled with characters who can all freely interact with each other. side bonus, if you watch soap operas (especially general hospital!) and want a soap opera inspired mumu, i am definitely the gal for you!

because i'd love a slowly expanding cast of characters (start with 2-4 characters each and go from there?), it's very preferable to me that replies typically stay on the short side, as in one paragraph or less. this way we can prioritize quality over quantity, and actually get to see relationships & plots evolve over time in many threads rather than spend weeks or more on a single thread that results in us never actually getting to all the good stuff we've plotted. in my experience, it's way more fun to have an evolving mumu where replies are short and take maybe 5-10 minutes to write. it also allows us to keep the progress of the rp going at a continual pace, which keeps it fun, exciting, and fresh!

i can write smut when the relationship/thread calls for it, and i also enjoy talking about nsfw headcanons alongside sfw hcs, but i prefer a 80/20 story to smut ratio. this ofc only applies if my partner is comfortable with it, it's by no means a requirement! i am also comfortable with most dark and/or complicated themes, but this will be case by case basis. what i'm looking for is a good variety mix of drama & intrigue, angst & fluff, smut & sweetness, tragedy & other dark themes, ect! but nothing too intensely or consistently dark or taboo.

i'd consider myself to be a pretty active rp partner for the most part, as my work schedule is partially WFH and allows me a fair bit of free time. when replies are around 1 paragraph, i can usually do at least one set of replies a day (if we are writing multiple threads at a time, i personally enjoy writing 2 at a time!), and i'm down for rapid-fire sessions as well when able! i prefer my partner to have similar activity (it's difficult for me to stay invested in a rp when the majority of it consists of hcs & shared inspo with very little actual writing happening), though i don't at ALL want my partner to feel pressured to write replies!! it's just a hobby, not a jobby! things happen & life gets busy! i really appreciate communication and transparency with rp friends tho, just lmk what's up and i'll do the same for you! and if you can't do replies, i'm always happy to just chat ooc or do some inspo chatting, musings, or plotting!

this got so long, if you read all of it ily! if you have any questions or are interested in all this shit by me, please send me an IM!! if you like or comment on this ad, i'll try to reach out to you! ty!! if i don't reach out it's likely because i found something in your guidelines that i don't think is compatible with this plot ad (usually has to do with desired reply length being multi-paragraph/novella, activity being listed as low, if the blog is heavily smut-centric, or if rules state exclusively wanting to write one gender or one kind of ship)

[the59er]

10 Feb 2025

10th February 2025, Monday Listening: When did Your Heart go Missing, Rooney

CNY at the office and it's always fun because during this season, the boss is always in a good mood, and so are we 😂

I think something happened after work which ended badly so I took magnesium to make sure I fall asleep. Could be a placebo effect but it does help for me.

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11 Feb 2025

11th February 2025, Tuesday - Thaipusam holiday Listening: Everything will be Alright, The Killers

My morning was horrible. Spent the ENTIRE morning in bed nursing my massive headache and sniffles. Felt better after Zohor and a nap. Was supposed to meet up at Ara to return a cable but there was a misscomm so headed to 21 and just passed it on.

Difficult, confusing day.

I didn't want to head home so I killed time just parking before eventually buying something to eat, bought panadols and (a sucky) latte at 15 Courtyard.

Night was spent working.

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12 Feb 2025

12th February 2025, Wednesday Listening: Just a Girl, No Doubt

Back to work. I wore the tudung that Juls gifted me and I was complimented by YY and others! I guess they've gotten so used to seeing me in neutrals so the moment I wear a different color, it's an instant attention grabber 😂

Lunk was imtiyaz nasi campur and the mamak packed me way too much rice & lauk. Did not finish. The day went swimmingly well and then JT made me realize that it's Chap Goh Mei, so no wonder! Over the years, I have noticed that during Chap Goh Mei, my boss will always be in a better mood as well.

For dins, we decided on Ikea cafeteria which was surprisingly empty. Bought post-wb. Stopped by OU for Whisk but they were closing so 2121 walked to Tim Horton's and so we tried it for the very first time, and....meh.

But then again Im fully aware that people don't actually go to chain cafes for coffee. People go there for their "fun" drinks. I would genuinely go again to try out their dessert iced drinks.

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13 Feb 2025

13th February 2025, Thursday Listening: Clumsy, Our Lady Peace

BAD MORNING. Last night's coffee triggered my IB so I spent the morning - noon suffering. Then I recalled 2121 saying that he saw them using dutch lady milk. Damn you dairy!! Thank God today is WFH day.

I bought another post-wb flavor out of impulse. Not proud of the person I am turning into.

Work was decent. Gege's home so that's always fun. Told 2121's story about the masjid people to my Dad and Gege and they had a field day about it! 😂

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14 Feb 2025

14th February 2025, Friday Listening: Heroin Girl, Everclear

Managed to ninja my way into finishing one slide in just over an hour, when in actuality I had the entire night last night to prepare it. And the best part was it got approved during my 11am with my Boss 😎

Also today tried this for the very first time via Grab and they are surprisingly decent;

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15 Feb 2025

15th February 2025, Saturday Listening: Volcano, The Presidents of the USA

Morning spent vacuuming and doing laundry. Went to Parade to punch holes on my new belt.

Bought lunk. Home. Continued with errands. 2121 called to check in. Went out again to get a car wash and buy unnecessary snacks from the grocers..but this was legit delish;

I've become quite a boring person..

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16 Feb 2025

16th February 2025, Sunday - happy birthday to my '76 brother 🎂 Listening: Travelin On, Norah Jones

CSR day! It was surprisingly very tiring to the point of me taking a nap close to 3 hours the moment I got home and showered. It was an eye-opening, humbling experience..

They had several courts at the area and people were all playing pickle ball, lol.

Anyway, aside from the one bad day of the week, the rest was alright. I ate well despite being sick. Hoping for better health for the remainder of the month 🤲🏼

[coachtransformation]

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[abcdosaka]

Did I ever write out my New Year’s resolutions? I don’t think I really did. My resolutions are always really simple that I end up completing or at least partially completing a few of them. This time around I want to make some goals and plan them out instead of type B-ing my way through it.

1. Exercise. Gym. Pool. My body misses moving around so bad. This is definitely the worst part of the suburbs. Thinking about signing up for a city community centre membership since there’s a bunch of discounts for me and there’s one real close to my new place. The women only gyms here don’t have pools either so I’m just gonna have to accept working out with men there 🤢. I think Im at a point where idgaf anymore though like i can do it.

2. Start learning a new language. I’m thinking Chinese and/or (my family’s native language). lol given current political situations in the US but I was thinking about this even before the TikTok ban. And yet those yanks still got a head start on me. I just feel like both of these would be useful career wise. I should really brush up on my French as well it’d be useful for government work. (I’m extremely corporate pilled atm)

3. Read more books. I made a good reads this year to track my reading. I think last year all I got through was the asoiaf books lol. I’ve added a ton to my list though, especially non fiction. Non fiction might be my new thing. There’s a library close to my new place so I hope they have a good selection.

4. Furnish and decorate my new place. I still don’t have a couch or even a proper dresser lmao I mean no wonder I don’t like my current place. I knew I wouldn’t renew my lease when I signed it a year ago but i honestly do wish I furnished it more. I want a tv and a tv stand. And a coffee table. I want to take care of plants.

5. Buy a new computer and a better wfh set up. My current desk is kinda shit but the real problem is my laptop. I want a nice chair with back support and something to convert my workstation to a standing desk.

6. Learn about car maintenance. Apparently quite a few ppl actually learned through mechanic simulator or whatever that game is called. I feel like this is probably worth knowing. But also if I don’t really have a space to work on a car this might have to be put off.

7. Try to meet new people somehow. This isn’t very difficult but I’m trying to be discerning. I realized the reason I hate relationships is because I’ve almost always had my most important and close relationships end poorly or turn toxic or distant. (Distant being the most common bc of literal distance). Partly bc of me and partly not. I’m tired of wasting time and not valuing myself enough though like I’m not bothering with anymore flip floppy bitches.

I do think I need to go at it like fb marketplace instead of taking everything personal though. But instead of selling a product like I am the product. Oh wait that’s not great either. Hmm. In any case I need a better support network here like rn it kinda sucks and if I have an emergency I’m a little screwed. And I want to split rent with someone lol.

8. Learn personal finances. This one I absolutely want to get done and I think is the most feasible.

I do have pretty high hopes for this year bc i just don’t wanna be as sad as I was for the past 2 and now I feel like I am actually currently in control of a lot more than I was before so I think it’s possible I can be a happy work in progress.

By the way, writing this post took 20% of my phone battery. Resolution 8a. Get a new phone