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The hill I will die on is that CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) is just gaslighting and should absolutely not be the "default" mode of therapy
#if you feel like your therapy sessions are at best not helping and at worst making you feel worse please look into DBT or somatic therapies!#truly and i cannot stress this enough FUCK CBT#therapy#i have been in therapy regularly for 12 years now. i have done the work#i can genuinely say that DBT and somatic therapies have saved my life and CBT made me WORSE#like it took several years of concerted effort to UNDO the damage that CBT did#its so upsetting that people are encouraged to “get help” but are not given any way to learn about different modes of therapy#like if someone needs therapy badly enough that they are looking into therapists for the first time they might give up after a CBT session#and i would understand!!!#but please dear GOD find a therapist who works with DBT and/or somatic therapy of any kind
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the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again
#yeehaw#1k#5k#10k#posts that got cursed. blasted. im making these tag updates after... 19 hours?#also i have been told it should say speech loss bc nonverbal specifically refers to the permanent state. did not know that!#unfortunately i fear it is so far past containment that even if i edited it now it would do very little. but noted for future reference#edit 2: nvm enough ppl have come to rb it from me directly that i changed the wording a bit. hopefully this makes sense#also. in case anyone is curious. though i doubt anyone who is commenting these things will check the original tags#1) my friend did not do this on purpose in any way. it was not intended to distract me or to hit on me. im a lesbian hes a gay man. cmon now#he felt very bad about it afterwards. i thought it was hilarious but it was very embarrassed and apologetic#2) “why didn't he use 🫵🏼?” didn't exist yet. “why didn't he use 🆗?” dunno! we'd been using a lot of hand emojis. 👌🏼 is an ok sign#like it makes sense. it was just a silly mixup. also No i did not invent 👉🏼👌🏼 as a gesture meaning sex. do you live under a rock#3) nonspeaking episodes are a recurring thing in my life and have been since i was born. this is not a quirky one-time thing#it is a pervasive issue that is very frustrating to both myself and the people i am trying to communicate with. in which trying to speak is#extremely distressing and causes very genuine anguish. this post is not me making light of it it's just a funny thing that happened once#it's no different than if i post about a funny thing that happened in conjunction w a physical disability. it's just me talking abt my life#i don't mind character tags tho. those can be entertaining. i don't know what any of you are talking about#Except the ppl who have said this is pego/ryu or wang/xian. those people i understand and respect#if you use it as a writing prompt that's fine but send it to me. i want to see it#aaaand i think that's it. everyday im tempted to turn off rbs on it. it hasn't even been a week
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the way that irving and helly's body language INSTANTLY switched from conflict to comfort as soon as helena switched out was INSANE. he cradled her so fiercely AND SHE CLUNG BACK. irving knew he wasnt going to come back from that, but helly was worth more to him than his life was at that point. all she knows is that she's cold and wet and that irving was there, and of course irving wouldnt hurt her, so she embraces him back! anyway they love each other theyre family and i need to bite something
#im losing my goddamn mind#listen. irving is sucidal. helly is suicidal. both of them Get It#so i feel like he understands that helly would rather die along with helena than let her use her body against her friends#and the way that IN DOING THAT he kills himself. knowingly. he knows hes not going to recover from that#severance#severance spoilers
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thought about what a robin to the absolute!batman would look like. conclusion: small
#i dont think absolute batman will ever get a robin which is sad but understandable. this is just a what if in my head#i also think it would be funny if jason was jokers illegitimate son in that verse#this can be any robin here#dc fanart#dc#dcu#dc comics#my art#batman#dc robin
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Harley Sawyer is a very normal man from Poppy playtime
#myart#chloesimagination#comic#fnaf#five nights at freddy's#fnaf fanart#springtrap#william afton#harley sawyer#poppy playtime the doctor#poppy playtime chapter 4#poppy playtime#do you think William and Harley match each other’s freak#or is Harley technically a bit more deranged#tbh if given the opportunity I think both William and Harley#would gladly look over the others body#tear each other apart just to understand the science behind them#I think it’s beautiful awful man and awful man meet
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#this is so beautiful#i love the chinese languages and characters so much#from my understanding this would not be in a modern language that i could possibly read with standard chinese knowledge though#makes me wanna study chinese history and language history so bad ngl#language#art inspo#asia#games#peklo ref#fav
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experimenting
#monoshin#hitoshi shinsou#neito monoma#mha#my hero academia#bnha#boku no hero academia#my art#Linktoo art#comic#GAHHH im finally done#mob bday art soon but I gotta rest my hand for a bit ^_^ ivebeen pushing myself too hard recently#I do have my small idea for this mobs bday year tho!#monoshin insofar they understand each other's unique situations ... HELP!!!!!#shinsou takes way longer to warm up to monoma but I do think he'd be the one to first approach him about copying it#then (using voicelines from my hero ultra rumble) monoma would be a total brat about using it and likes using it to command people#bro lovesss to use shinsos quirk to tell ppl to do things and shinso canonically would be like -_- don't abuse it...#it really implies that monoma's copied his quirk a thousand times before#wasn't planned but happy birthday monoma!
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can we stop pretending like it’s so super easy for trans men to pass. “oh just put on a baggy shirt and cut your hair-“ it literally doesn’t work like that and I refuse to believe you actually think it’s that easy
#I do as much as I can pre t and I still get misgendered constantly#it’s to be expected and I understand#but I wish people would stop making it out like it’s so easy to pass#bc it’s not!#and when you talk about how easy it is it a) makes people feel like they must not be trying hard enough and that’s why they don’t pass#and b) undermines the difficulties experienced by trans men#trans#lgbtq#ftm#trans man#transgender#transmasc#transgender man#trans pride#donnieisaprettyboy#ftm problems
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Yet another AO3 bot situation - please spread the word!
Hi, it's me again, the person who wrote that viral post about fanfiction plagiarism! Today I'm here to warn you about abuse perpetrated by bots who have stolen AO3 usernames.
There's currently an epidemic of bots going around leaving (apparently random) horrible, hateful comments on people's fics. This isn't the first time bots have invaded AO3, but the big problem with this wave is that they're using real AO3 usernames to do it.
I learned about this when another writer contacted me after receiving the following comment on their story:
Now, while that is my username, I DEFINITELY did not leave this comment (and anyone who would leave something like that on a fic should be slapped! What an awful thing to post). This fic is in a completely unrelated fandom that I have never participated in, nor has that author participated in any of my fandoms, so the probability of it being some intentional fandom drama thing to make me look bad is also low.
The writer whose fic the comment was left on enlisted the aid of some friends and tracked down other guest comments with unrelated usernames attached, which is pretty strong evidence that they are being left by bots at random.
The TL;DR: If you receive a cruel comment from a (Guest) with an actual AO3 username attached, it's most likely from a bot. Please do not lash out at or dogpile the AO3 user who owns that name, and who in all likelihood has no idea that their name has been hijacked for evil.
If finding this kind of comment on a fic, even left by a bot, is likely to upset you, I would recommend changing your comment settings so that only users who are logged in can leave comments. To do this, edit your story settings, and under "Privacy," select the radio button that says "Only registered users can comment," as shown below.
Please spread the word to other AO3 users! And if you see mean guest comments on other fics, maybe let the author know that it's probably from a bot and not a real person who thinks their writing is bad.
#ao3#archive of our own#fanfiction#writing#bot attack#i really don't understand why someone would even do this. why don't ppl use their powers for good?
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i miss the static youd get from kissing old tvs and the buttons and the av cable ports and how some of em had built in vhs or dvd players and the volume they had and huggability
#kae.txt#i brought this up to my mother the nostalgia of having one and she was like yeah...ive thought about getting#one just to have cause i feel like it might be something i would be able to understand how to repair easier than a modern tv#no basis for why she thinks this but i get it. that and also for an old game system she might want lol#genuinely do feel this way but i cant act like it wasnt a thought spurred on by The Character. speaking of
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so I keep walking by this Dyslexia Learning Center and it gives me pause every time bc the logo looks something like this
which seems mean
#this sort of thing might be useful in helping non-dyslexic people understand more about dyslexia#but if i was a Dyslexic Person looking for the Dyslexic Center to help with my Dyslexic Needs i would be pissed as hell
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I, a hearing person who likes subtitles just as a preference, shouldn't have to read a subtitle that's obvious nonsense, go back a couple seconds, and listen again in order to figure out what's going on. An accessibility feature should not be the most half-assed part of a professionally made production. Scripted media has absolutely no excuse for not having subtitles or having subtitles that aren't perfectly verbatim. Professional captioning services should be ashamed of the shoddy work that they put out. Captions should be treated as a part of the production, just like filming, editing, audio balancing, etc - and anything that releases with missing or bad captions should be seen as unfinished
#the subtitle mistakes i've seen are absolutely fucking embarrassing#subtitles should make something easier to understand not harder#and i can hear just fine so i'm lucky!#i've seen the kind of mistakes that would make an entire video unintelligible to someone who doesn't have the audio for any reason#it's unacceptable
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i have chronic pain. i am neurodivergent. i understand - deeply - the allure of a "quick fix" like AI. i also just grew up in a different time. we have been warned about this.
15 entire years ago i heard about this. in my forensics class in high school, we watched a documentary about how AI-based "crime solving" software was inevitably biased against people of color.
my teacher stressed that AI is like a book: when someone writes it, some part of the author will remain within the result. the internet existed but not as loudly at that point - we didn't know that AI would be able to teach itself off already-biased Reddit threads. i googled it: yes, this bias is still happening. yes, it's just as bad if not worse.
i can't actually stop you. if you wanna use ChatGPT to slide through your classes, that's on you. it's your money and it's your time. you will spend none of it thinking, you will learn nothing, and, in college, you will piss away hundreds of thousands of dollars. you will stand at the podium having done nothing, accomplished nothing. a cold and bitter pyrrhic victory.
i'm not even sure students actually read the essays or summaries or emails they have ChatGPT pump out. i think it just flows over them and they use the first answer they get. my brother teaches engineering - he recently got fifty-three copies of almost-the-exact-same lab reports. no one had even changed the wording.
and yes: AI itself (as a concept and practice) isn't always evil. there's AI that can help detect cancer, for example. and yet: when i ask my students if they'd be okay with a doctor that learned from AI, many of them balk. it is one thing if they don't read their engineering textbook or if they don't write the critical-thinking essay. it's another when it starts to affect them. they know it's wrong for AI to broad-spectrum deny insurance claims, but they swear their use of AI is different.
there's a strange desire to sort of divorce real-world AI malpractice over "personal use". for example, is it moral to use AI to write your cover letters? cover letters are essentially only templates, and besides: AI is going to be reading your job app, so isn't it kind of fair?
i recently found out that people use AI as a romantic or sexual partner. it seems like teenagers particularly enjoy this connection, and this is one of those "sticky" moments as a teacher. honestly - you can roast me for this - but if it was an actually-safe AI, i think teenagers exploring their sexuality with a fake partner is amazing. it prevents them from making permanent mistakes, it can teach them about their bodies and their desires, and it can help their confidence. but the problem is that it's not safe. there isn't a well-educated, sensitive AI specifically to help teens explore their hormones. it's just internet-fed cycle. who knows what they're learning. who knows what misinformation they're getting.
the most common pushback i get involves therapy. none of us have access to the therapist of our dreams - it's expensive, elusive, and involves an annoying amount of insurance claims. someone once asked me: are you going to be mad when AI saves someone's life?
therapists are not just trained on the book, they're trained on patient management and helping you see things you don't see yourself. part of it will involve discomfort. i don't know that AI is ever going to be able to analyze the words you feed it and answer with a mind towards the "whole person" writing those words. but also - if it keeps/kept you alive, i'm not a purist. i've done terrible things to myself when i was at rock bottom. in an emergency, we kind of forgive the seatbelt for leaving bruises. it's just that chat shouldn't be your only form of self-care and recovery.
and i worry that the influence chat has is expanding. more and more i see people use chat for the smallest, most easily-navigated situations. and i can't like, make you worry about that in your own life. i often think about how easy it was for social media to take over all my time - how i can't have a tiktok because i spend hours on it. i don't want that to happen with chat. i want to enjoy thinking. i want to enjoy writing. i want to be here. i've already really been struggling to put the phone down. this feels like another way to get you to pick the phone up.
the other day, i was frustrated by a book i was reading. it's far in the series and is about a character i resent. i googled if i had to read it, or if it was one of those "in between" books that don't actually affect the plot (you know, one of those ".5" books). someone said something that really stuck with me - theoretically you're reading this series for enjoyment, so while you don't actually have to read it, one would assume you want to read it.
i am watching a generation of people learn they don't have to read the thing in their hand. and it is kind of a strange sort of doom that comes over me: i read because it's genuinely fun. i learn because even though it's hard, it feels good. i try because it makes me happy to try. and i'm watching a generation of people all lay down and say: but i don't want to try.
#spilled ink#i do also think this issue IS more complicated than it appears#if a teacher uses AI to grade why write the essay for example.#<- while i don't agree (the answer is bc the essay is so YOU learn) i would be RIPSHIT as a student#if i found that out.#but why not give AI your job apps? it's not like a human person SEES your applications#the world IS automating in certain ways - i do actually understand the frustration#some people feel where it's like - i'm doing work here. the work will be eaten by AI. what's the point#but the answer is that we just don't have a balance right now. it just isn't trained in a smart careful way#idk. i am pretty anti AI tho so . much like AI. i'm biased.#(by the way being able to argue the other side tells u i actually understand the situation)#(if u see me arguing "pro-chat'' it's just bc i think a good argument involves a rebuttal lol)#i do not use ai . hard stop.
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i struggle drawing Skyfire so some stuff to familiarize myself with his design </3
#transformers#maccadam#skyfire#jetfire#my art#i still dont fully understand how to draw him but at least i can draw him more quickly now lol#ive drawn him only with starscream without actually understanding his design so i would spend waaaay too much time drawing him
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But that's dessert!
I FINALLY FINISHED THIS THING LET'S GOOO
I hope u all like it
#I love this song#I've been wanting to do something about this AU with this song for MONTHS#I am so happy I got the chance to do it as my final for class <33#I may post some wips for this on my main account if any of you guys are interested in that...#This was fun#please consider this my apology for no comic updates lately😞art school really is kicking my ass#Let me know what you think about this animation!!#I LOVE THESE GUYS I LOVE THIS AU AND I LOVE THIS SONG AND HOW IT FITS WITH THIS AU#I drew Asgore in like#one frame#and I think that's very funny#I swear he's there for a reason#technically all the characters that are important to this AU appeared here in some way or the other#except Flowey#I'm sorry flowey#If this animation was just a few seconds longer I would have added him but I had a 30 second limit#I'm slowly understanding how to animate......#forgettable-au#undertale au#undertale#papyrus#gaster#sans#papyrus!gaster#papyrus is gaster#alphys#gaster followers#undertale animation
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The Baby Is Fine
For sale baby shoes never worn. Oh he's not dead or anything he's just massive and they don't fit
For sale baby shoes never worn. They're Gucci, my sister got them for me and I'm not putting $600 shoes on a newborn Why the hell would anyone buy these? She's an idiot.
For sale baby shoes never worn. At least I don't think so. I found them in the eggs at the grocery store and they look pretty clean $20 obo
For sale baby shoes never worn. She doesn't have any feet but it's hardly slowing her down, honestly. I guess you can't miss what you never had.
For sale baby shoes never worn. Bought them and forgot about them for like six months, never even took them out of the box and now they're way too small. My brain is fried.
For sale baby shoes never worn. Fair warning though, they've got fucking minions on them.
For sale They were a gift from my great aunt and I don't want anything from that wretched harpy.
baby shoes I thought I could put them on my dog so he doesn't slip all over the kitchen floor but yeah it didn't work
never worn. I don't know. They're just ugly. Do I need a reason?
#this has officially breached containment so i have to mute it#but! believe it or not! I *do* understand the most overhyped poem in the world!#i promise!#me making different creative choices in a transformative work than you would have doesn't mean i'm a moron#it just means we have different ideas
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