#any hate comments will be deleted

[hivemindclown]

Just something I noticed

Thank you for your sacrifice beast x ancient shippers 🫡

[cozylittleartblog]

"content creator" is a corporate word.

we are artists.

[tea-cat-arts]

Sometimes I wonder what Jiang Cheng could've become if his parents didn't instill a mix of "crippling fear of failure" and "impossibly high standards" in him. Cuz like, his dad was holding him to the vague standard of being as good as wwx, his mom yelling at him whenever he goofed around like wwx, and then both of them expressed disappointment when he's less successful than wwx. The thing both of them seem to ignore though is that wwx got where he is entirely because he had the freedom to fuck around and find out- he trained tirelessly because he made training fun for himself, he was innovative as a cultivators because he experimented and persisted through failures, and he was able to act in line with the Jiang clan moto because his actions had less political pull than members of the main family. Jiang Cheng on the other hand- if he fucked around he got told to "stop stooping to the level of servants." If his achievements were lesser than wwx's, he got either dismissed by his dad or yelled at by his mom to try harder. And if he picked fights with the Wens, they'd have an excuse to destroy his clan. Like ya- no shit that'd create an adult who's terrified of failure.

The kite game serves as such a good metaphor/embodiment of this set back- with Jiang Cheng never being able to shoot as far as Wei Wuxian because he pulls back and shoots closer the second he misses.

And its sad too because he's shown to be pretty brilliant when he's in "fuck it, we ball" mode. Like, when he's not freezing up, he manages to pull off things like rebuilding his entire clan from the ground up, leading armies and taking back territories from the Wens, and I'm fairly sure he's the only character we see counter the Lan music cultivation techniques (feel free to correct me if I'm wrong on that last one. Also feel free to add any of the other cool shit he did that I'm blanking on at the moment, cuz I know I'm forgetting something).

That being said- even with his anxiety, he's still one of the top cultivators. Imagine what a force of nature he'd be if he could sustain "fuck it we ball" mode

[cherrio-krispz]

people are genuinely defending the disgusting behavior sour just did n saying it’s all an “overreaction”

i’m out of here dude. that’s pedophilia??

literally the only way for sour to understand that SHIPPING A CHILD AND ADULT IS WRONG, NO MATTER REAL OR NOT. can the utmv fandom not be dense for once about morality?? please????

[chio-chan2artbox]

Then I'll just do more 😇

[aspenaspenaspenaspenaspen]

“Pretty, just like your mother.”

[bietrofastimoff23]

Based on the fact that Criston cannot get along with any man on the screen who is not his ward, but easily establishes friendly contacts with women and even says, "every woman is an image of the mother, to be spoken of with reverence,“ I have a strong feeling that he was raised only by women and did not have any significant father figure during his growing up period. there was probably one single mother, but I like to think that there were several significant women in his childhood.

I think if delve deeper into his character and behavior, i can find more evidence, but not today.

[casavanse]

Oh you know what, what the hell. Fuck it.

I wanted to write something for today. I really did.

I can't. I don't know what to say. My entire body is like in a state of shock. I don't feel anything. I don't think. I don't think I can.

We've been in this war for one long, long year. It's been a whole year and still there are more than a hundred of us still there, and only god knows how many of them are alive.

I can't make myself say anything more about that, and there's nothing I can add to these facts to make them any more clear.

And I don't care what you think, and I don't care who was here first or who you think is right, but there are people there. There are innocent people held hostage by a terrorist organization that wishes we were all dead.

And we will. Do. Everything. To get. Them. Back.

Now.

Am yisrael chai.

[yandere-daydreams]

Helloooo out of curiosity, how do you deal with hate? Like on or off anon? Sorry if you’ve answered something similar before but yeah. I’m just starting out as a yandere writer (inspired by you and this blog!!). I posted a fic and it didn’t even have over 200 notes when I got my first hate comment (not on anon). My fic wasn’t even on the main tags lol.

honestly the only advice i can really give is not to interact with it. discourse in any form is very draining and unpleasant, so while there is that knee-jerk reaction to defend yourself, you'll be better off just deleting the ask/comment and moving on. it's also much worse for newer/smaller blogs without established followings, so with a little time, you do eventually grow out of being an easy target for people with simply nothing better to do. just kinda weather the storm for a while and it'll get better quickly.

[bedrockfactory]

For all the asks: I created Tharr only for myself and I don't need approvement from anyone. If you don't like the design changes, it's ok you don't have to.

[moodymisty]

I very very rarely get upset on this blog, but this email pissed me the FUCK off. I’ve gotten quite a few messages with this tone before, but this one really set me off. It's been a shit week for me, and I didn't need this.

I spend hours a week trying to write shit for free for all of you, because I genuinely enjoy it and love it so so so much. Your ideas and comments make me so happy. But sometimes I need to take a fucking break.

Three days ago one of my birds suddenly went from alive and happy to seizing and dying in my arms while I comforted her the best I could, so I'm taking a few days off. Sorry if that's inconvenient for you.

Jesus Christ. And you guys fucking wonder why so many other writers are so fed up with the 'content' grindstone and just quit or hide in private discords. You don’t update something for a bit and you get people knocking at your door like you're fucking Wal-mart. If you can’t be bothered to add a few more words to your comment, why should I be bothered to write more.

Put some basic fucking human effort into communicating with the people who spend hours creating your self indulgence pieces out of kindness and a love of the community. How about instead of saying "MAKE THIS" you say hello and put some effort into your ask. You're asking someone to spend hours of their life writing something for you, not ordering chicken nuggets.

And if the person who sent this comment sees this? I'm sorry I'm this angry and you're the unfortunate target of it, but maybe next time you notice something hasn't been updated in a few months you remember that there's a human being with a life behind it before sending a one word demand for more. Shit happens. I highly doubt you can't find something else to read.

[magickpancakes]

do you still support wolfertinger666? Because they’ve recently been accused of many things and I saw your art of him and was wondering if you still do?

(kinda long answer, not really looked through too well, idk)

TLDR: thinking of separating the art from the artist. I do like Salem's art, but at the same time the things im seeing that he has done in the past are really... but at the same time it doesnt look like these problems are very recent, or like a continued thing (?)

Im not well versed in this topic, so until theres a clear story and clear proof that whats going on is an ACTIVE problem, i just kinda... dont want to go throwing myself into what looks like a big hairy mess

gonna be honest... i dont follow other artists close enough to be caught up on any recent scenarios, including Salem. I didnt know about any accusations against him up until this ask, and although i have looked into his history a bit, i wouldnt say i completely know the situation.

to my understanding, people are mad at him because the previous main alter of his body, Puppychan, did horrible things, and now hes mained by a different alter, with a new username and artstyle. It also seems like people are mad at him for continuing to draw suggestive art pieces, athough his account shows lots of not wanting minors anywhere near it. Hes also being accused of faking being trans, and faking disorders, tbh it seems like a bunch of mess, lots of stuff going back and forth

(If im missing any info or smth, again not exactly knowledgeable on this topic, please let me know so i can make a true and proper decision on how to feel about Wolfer)

Im gonna be honest... YES if it is true that Wolfertinger used to be Puppychan, then well yknow its really not great if everything that people says he did is true. But at the same time, based on what ive seen, it seems like Salem wants to move forward. This doesnt mean he has to be forgiven for what hes done, but like, idk, tbh this seems like a lot of old drama people keep bringing up or smth idk

i dont want to make a situation worse, in fact, id really rather not be a part of this... drama, or whtvr youd call it. I think until theres a clear story on what is going on with Salem, im just gonna continue bein in the background here: not exactly full on supporting Salem, but i do like his art. I dont like or condone any of the actions he is accused of but like, i dont want to abandon someone just based on accusations of old drama.

AGAIN IM NOT ENTIERLY SURE WHATS GOING ON WITH WOLFERTINGER666, IVE GOT MINIMUM KNOWLEDGE ON THIS STUFF. PLZ DONT GO FIGHTING IN MY COMMENTS OR HARRASING ME BECAUSE I DONT IMMEDIATELY HATE SALEM OR SMTH

any good reliable unbiased evidence on this scenario might be appreciated tho. but also tbh i might just leave this topic here idk

(not proof-read, barely checked spelling, idk if i should even post this tbh)

[afterartist]

“After why do you hate instagram” “after instagram is a great app why do you hate it??”

Because I literally have multiple people in the comments sections telling me to ‘kys’ per week that get left up for months because “telling someone to off themselves isn’t again com guide lines” or something

Yet when I try to GENUINELY COMPLEMENT SOMEONE

“It’s attention seeking behaviour!! You’re trying to get followers and likes by being a suck up”

wtf?? Thanks I have enough gaslighting about being a manipulator by the medical industry as is I don’t need to feel like a POS for trying to be kind to people too

Tho if you guys do actually think I was being manipulative pls let me know

I’d rather admit I am wrong than make people feel uncomfortable

But I’m fairly certain I’m right in this situation

[cdroloisms]

I just came across your post about vagueposting and I think I agree with it, but the situation you most likely wrote it about is hardly a "vagueposting" because you could say who it was about after reading it literally one time and that person got jumped and insulted in the anon ask anyway so discussing it in person could be safer...

I'm reeeally sorry for bring up a past situation, but I don't think it's a good idea to write nasty things about another person and specific details about how they interact with the fandom and their post, say things that will help to easily identify a person and at the same time insult them or say how you think they feel about the characters or the story based on your feelings about their one take that you didn't like and then call it's "vague" because there is no name in the post. I mean, It can lead to bad consequences, it literally did in that situation.

And yes, I do think people have the right to discuss bad takes or takes they don't like, but there's a way to do it without giving away every detail about the post and the person who wrote it so everyone knows who you're talking about, and if you're not good at being vague, just discuss it in a private chat.

this ask is old but i was busy last week, so forgive me for the late response. i was debating answering it at all, but i dont want myself to be misunderstood, so just. to clarify under the cut.

i'll agree with you that the post/situation in question wasn't vagueing. now, i don't know exactly the difference between the number of followers i have and the number of followers that the blogger in question has, and when it comes to the number of active dsmp followers i think both of us have even less of a clue. that being said, both of us frequent much of the same circles, so i think it's fair to say that many of my posts will end up being exposed to a very similar audience to his, and so therefore this response about the situation you're talking about will be just about as clearly traceable to a specific person as the post he made that started the situation in question. just as a general observation.

if i'm understanding your ask correctly, while vagueing a take is fine, the vague shouldn't be clearly identifiable if you're going to speak badly about it or disagree heavily. to which i have to ask what, specifically, is defined as clearly identifiable? i think most takes in this fandom can be pretty easily traced to a person, even if that person is not the only person that believes in that take--just as an example, c!tommy as a butterfly pinned behind glass was a take in response to the c!sam and c!dream stream after techno escaped, and grew to be a pretty prominent theme to the point of a zine being modeled after it, but i can also trace it to a pretty specific tumblr post with a name attached. i also think that that same statement probably isn't true for many fans who maybe joined later on in the fandom. i mean, i'm aware that i'm being pedantic here, i'm aware that the situation in question created conflict specifically due to it being within dreblr and in a space where multiple people would've seen both posts and felt ensuing awkwardness bc they know both people either on a personal or acquaintance level, but i mean the same applied ages ago whenever strategist-interpretation and trauma-interpretation c!dream apologists felt like going at it again on the dash.

in this scenario specifically, what made the situation clearly identifiable was the nature of the take that was being discussed. the main identifying detail was the take that the asker was asked about, imo, and i mean ... yeah i mean. most takes that haven't blown up pretty heavily do end up being tied to one or two people? i mean, staged finale is a take that can be tied to three people who argued in favor of it the most before the rest of dreblr got on board only in late 2021. i simply don't think that a take that maybe only one person has argued for (which, i dont remember the statistics of the take in this situation, so i dont remember how many notes it had or how many people in total may have expressed public agreement towards it, honestly) is exempt from discussion when it is posted in a meta or analysis space as an analytical piece, which i do think applies to this take from what i remember about it and how it was tagged.

and back to the discussion of what's acceptable as far as directly responding versus vagueing, i mean, a lot of the discussion i've had on my blog (abt discourse etiquette in General in meta spaces on dreblr moreso than this specific situation, largely bc i did want to avoid commenting on a situation that 1) i really had no business in and 2) i have reason to be biased about. the main reason why i'm talking abt it now is bc hopefully enough time has passed for feelings to be less fraught and bc i want to make certain thoughts of mine clear, in case they weren't clear enough in my original posts abt dreblr and whatever) revolves around both direct responses and vagueing having their reasons as well as pros and cons, and both will likely continue to exist in analysis spaces and generally i don't think it's productive to really comment on what people can or can't do on their own blogs. in this scenario, i don't think "vagueing about one specific person in a way that may be clearly identifiable to parts of their audience" is uniquely unacceptable? a direct response very clearly would make the person in question identifiable -- outside of how it's kind of impossible to make a post vagueing someone in a way where No One has Any Idea who you might be talking about without making the post like, incoherent inherently, if vagueing (not identifiable) is okay and directly responding (identifiable) is okay, then why is vagueing (identifiable) not okay?

now, i understand that any situation where the person in question might be identifiable, some people may take the open disagreement as permission to harass them. and obviously, harassment sucks. part of the whole point of opening up this conversation on my blog was bc i worry, with the way that a single conflict between dsmp opinions has kind of rippled through dreblr recently and the responses to this "situation," that an environment is being created with too much of a forced global consensus that punishes people for stepping out of the status quo in both opinions and behavior, which is obviously bad for the whole community, and was looking to voice some of that and have a conversation on solutions. and i understand that in this situation, a lot of your problem with the blogger has to do with his general attitude in discussing the take and his statements on the person who made it. now, i think you have every right to find his statements offensive and disagreeable and to unfollow and/or block him. that being said, i am not exactly a PR agent, and i want to reiterate that what people do on their own blogs isn't my business and i don't think it should be my business. or uh, anyone's business, for that matter. i don't think that everyone "in dreblr" is beholden to keeping to a certain person's standard for "acceptable" disagreement and "acceptable" sharing of their own opinions on their own blog as long as they're not inciting harassment, which entails, like, actively encouraging harm to happen yk. i mean, you can think that the blogger was being rude or an asshole and prefer to never see him again, that's fine. that's your prerogative. but i mean, i'm not gonna tell the guy how to interact with the fandom on his own blog, haha.

to be clear, im not telling you what you can or can't do on your own blog either. if you wanna make a post about how his posts contain harmful rhetoric, how he's an idiot, or how he's rude bc you disagree with his public posts on this situation or on the dsmp as a whole, i mean, i'm not gonna handwring over it and tell you that you're not allowed to do that. it's none of my business, and i like to think i'm not that hypocritical. and honestly, i think that in a space where we're talking about analysis, commenting on harmful rhetoric happens often and should happen often when it happens -- literally anyone can make an analysis post that has harmful rhetoric, and sure it's fiction and no one has to answer to the analysis police for making a bad analysis post, but i've also been in this space and seen enough truly mind-boggling amounts of parroting takes about torture that make people sound like CIA psyops to go "well saying that someone's analysis post contains harmful rhetoric is really rude" pfft. again, i'm not saying i'm immune to hypocrisy, but i've certainly malded enough times in public about the shit people have said in this fandom to take issue with that. now, getting a little less into the strictly-analysis side of things, i understand that insults like calling someone an idiot may not sit right with everyone, to which i say. block to your heart's content. but c'mon man i've called people idiots before i'm no saint 😭😅

anyway. i hope this clarified some things, anon. take issue with whatever and whoever you like, honestly, whether that's me, the person that i just not-vagued for the last however many words, etc etc -- again, your prerogative. and i agree, it's a shame the situation devolved into stuff like insults in both bloggers' inboxes when it really didn't have to be like that like. at all.

[iinrainbows]

I need to get off tiktok I'm turning into those ugly internet trolls who gets their kicks from picking fights lmao

[teh-nos]

I think the readers overall were not keen on that final chapter but that's okay it was my first go at the 'epilogue with a baby' structure and I may have made it overly twee or something (or maybe even not twee enough, idk) and so I shall not do it next time I write a multichapter (assuming there is a next time which is something I argue with myself about because Oh So Conflicted). But either way I don't need to write any more of that fic as it is done now. Hurrah!