#even cis positive

[nonbinarymlm]

Cis gays and trans gays are kissing, actually 

[communistkenobi]

I’m reading a paper that uses the term re-transition as opposed to detransition and it crystallised a lot of my problems with the term. detransition implies an ability to return to the “default” “normal” cisgender body that lurks within all of us, just waiting to be re-excavated after a period of intentional (deceitful) burial, and a turning “back” or away from the freakish mutilation and “deviance” of transgender transition to a more natural, more authentic body - a body that can never be transformed, only temporarily cloaked by medicine and social trickery on the part of trans people

[electricpurrs]

hey you 🫵 do you want to grow appreciation for japanese media that you wouldn't know otherwise and grow a more diverse taste to all the weird art that exists in the world?

i have a few recommendations for you!

i've been dying to recommend some youtube channels that i really love but never have the chance to bring up, but i think they have interesting things to say about japanese media!

Hazel makes video essays about anime and other media, i'm currently very entertained by her videos about obscure OVAs and old playstation 2 games. i really enjoy how she talks about things and hearing her perspective on various subjects

Amelie Doree (though i'm not sure if she goes by that or Noelle which is what she uses on her patreon) makes videos essays on (mainly eroge) japanese visual novels, from very famous and genre-defining ones, to extremely niche and often completely untranslated and undiscussed in the west ones! her videos are incredibly interesting and have given me a whole new appreciation for the visual novel genre of which i wasn't familiar with before

a good video of hers to start is "Why a Forgotten Visual Novel is the Best Trans Story I've Read' it talks about sexual topics but i think its clean enough to leave its good first impression regardless of how you feel about the medium

RickiHirsch (i believe she goes by Ricki) makes videos about a variety of subjects but often including also japanese games, anime and manga. one of my favorite and first video of hers i saw was "Queer Horror: Understanding Gender as Body Horror"

and lastly, i want to prove my point by recommending a modern anime i myself have watched completely on my own that i really enjoyed and think others would like!

have a totally legal link to My Senpai is An Otokonoko

this anime is from 2024 and i stumbled on it completely by accident. i was scared off a bit by the title (otokonoko being the common japanese term to describe a crossdressing man) but i was kinda pleasantly surprised by the softness and sincerity in which this show aproaches its topics.

its a romance/slice of life/drama show and its melodramatic and sugary sweet but a genuinely wholesome experience. the main character is extremely transfem coded (if you can even call it that? its in the text) and the show doesn't mock or demonize her for it and fully focuses on her perspective and feelings the whole time (and doesnt in any way deny a trans reading), and also its the first romance story probably ever where i've seen a character realize they're actually aromantic as a conclusion to their arc. its cute its sweet and if you watch the first episode and think thats for you then all 12 episodes will go by flying and you will cry. because i did

do it for her ^^^

[sun-marie]

Y'know, with all the (mostly good) writing and focus on gender in Taash's arc, I think what Neve's arc is doing in relation to gender is the most powerful thing this game does with gender (or resonates with me the most at least, a cis woman myself)

Other people have mentioned it before, but by all accounts Neve is fulfilling a "male" role in this story. She's the noir detective not the femme fatale, she's a terminal cynic, she eats bad food, she lives alone in a small apartment, and in one route of her arc she is a hardened protector of her city. All of these elements, while not necessarily restricted by gender, are absolutely associated and attributed to male characters.

But Neve also refuses to give up her femininity. She asks Taash if they "like" being a woman (implying Neve does) she wears lowcut-shirts and dresses, she ties her hair up when she goes out. Just because Neve doesn't fit what society typically thinks a woman is, she still is a woman. I can so easily see the writers going down the route that she's "not like other girls" and having her fully reject any and all femininity, and I'm so glad they didn't. It's more subtle then something like Taash's arc, sure, but I really appreciate a lot.

[scholar-of-yemdresh]

Allos are so truly brainpoisoned by allonormativity/compulsory sexuality because tell me why I saw a review for a book expressly advertised as a platonic male/female friendship, come up with conspiracy theories and blaming "purity culture" for the two leads not fucking at the end.

Also the reviewer questioning why they didn't get together because they were both bi, their logic was since they're both attracted to the others gender then they should get together!?And um jfc people with compatible orientations can be friends like holy shit being attracted to men/women generally =/= being attracted to every man/woman. Good God

Also there is absolutely no dearth of "spicy" m/f romantasy the one rare book where the point is the leads don't hookup will not kill you.

[tma-engels]

I tip my hat to to the cis man of every queer friendgroup. Masculinity is in crisis and you, alone, had the strength and courage to remind that half-cracked trans girl that she can just be a boy. Everyone else forgot, and you might've just saved him or them from a lifetime of regret. We're putting your head up with Marx and Engels'

[pathetic-tboy]

not to get discoursey on the nsfw account but you do realize both "chasers fetishizing trans women for penises they may/may not have/want to use is wrong and should be warned against to young vunerable insecure trans women" and "some trans women feel indifferent or even positive about their genitals/using them during sex and/or might not want bottom surgery and theyre still equally trans women to the trans women who do have bottom dysphoria or have/want bottom surgery and also deserve protection from chasers" can both be true right? i just dont think its fair to try to erase those members of the community because they might not align with your standards for "real" or "safe" trans women who "deserve" to be trans and safe from chasers ykwim? am i making sense?

[bumbling-kiddo]

came out to someone irl for the first time and it went well!!!!!!!!! (falls over and explodes)

[xenonsdoodles]

POV you are a high achieving high school girl with nothing weird going on brainwise and you're writing a story for class that has no particular personal significance. you write about these guys. what will your future self say when he remembers it

[sebdoesthings]

Yes, yes, god made me trans for the same reason he created wheat but not bread, but have you considered i hate baking?

[babyprime]

its like ok. I literally hate living here. I hate where I live. I have hated it here since I was little. I hate the weather I hate the culture I hate that there's nothing to do. growing up here was insufferable and I feel like I was born in the wrong place. but like. I live here so?? like I live here and my friends live here. It's hell on earth but moving would be annoying and I can't take EVERYONE. so like fuck yall im doing what I can in the place I am

[anti-transphobia]

If anyone wanted to know what it's like to be a trans person not aligned with masculinity online, I've had such a huge issue with both cis and transmasc people calling me dude and then arguing about it when I asked them not to that I had to set my nickname in discord servers as "don't call me dude/man/bro". That wasn't enough so I changed it to be in all caps and set my overall discord display name as "DONT CALL ME DUDE/MAN/BRO". Within a few hours I was @ed on a server I never talk in, a server where most of its members never talk because it's a mod development/compilation server so people are there for information and that's it, by an any pronouns trans person who hasn't spoken in that server in a YEAR and talked again specifically to misgender me

[bitegore]

baffled by the concept of coquette lestat. people were saying that? why were people saying that. how do you even get there. have you seen him? hes such a cis man. he's lestat. coquette?? he's lestat. LESTAT

[databent]

me whining about unimportant stuff under the cut as per usual

really cool of this one cisgender person i went to high school with and never fucking talk to to come to me a while back asking for Gender Advice because she was questioning if she was trans or not and im the only trans person she knows and then ultimately to immediately quit talking to me the second she decided she was still cis and not even like tell me or anything. like ok so you just wanted to use me for my transgenderism? im just a free transgender advice machine to you that you dont even have to pretend to treat like a friend once im no longer of use to you????? cool cool awesome. i literally only found out she came to the conclusion she wasnt trans because she told her cis dude friend instead of me and he just happened to mention this in passing because he knew id talked to her about gender stuff. even though i spent hours and hours being as open with her about my experiences and as supportive and helpful as i could. its so hard to feel like any of the people i know irl actually value me as a friend when they ALWAYS give up on even trying to talk to me the second i stop having something they can fucking use me for

[belovedblabber]

Ok the way some of y'all talk about Chappell Roan on here is so transparently just like, people having some internalized fucking HATRED for lesbians

[lenasai]

i love getting vagued 👍 very cool 👍👍👍👍