#get to know yourself

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Pick a Card: What is Unique about You?

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Welcome to a new pick a pile reading. Today we'll do the winner of last poll, with What is Unique about You? Which is a ''get to know yourself'' type of post.

We'll look at 3 different things: what makes your mind unique, what makes your heart unique, and what unique wisdom do you hold. For each row, I'll draw at least 3 cards to get a full picture.

So focus on the picture that draws you in the most, and remember that this is a general reading meant for multiple people so it might not resonates 100%.

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PILE 1

Cards: King of swords, 2 of Cups, the Emperor, Ace of Swords, 10 of Swords, Page of Swords, Queen of Wands, King of Cups, Page of Wands, 10 of Wands

Right off the bat, pile 1, you have a very intellectually active mind, always pushing boundaries and looking forward. Air and Fire dominate your reading, and there is a strong presence of King figures. You seem strongly seated in your power and the things you've learned, and may shine as some type of authority figure to those around you. With two Tens, there is also the idea of completion, which implies the end of a cycle as well and the beginning of a new one. But let's look at the rows.

What is unique about your mind:

To you, seeking knowledge is the greatest form of power one can aim for, and you take it to heart. You're always reaching out to learn more, which is a way for you to transform yourself and overcome life's difficulties. Your mind is explorative, methodical, and forward thinking. I also get the idea that you might be neurodivergent in some way, and that you use this thirst for knowledge to bridge the gap between you and people, always pushing to learn more about those around you, like an eternal student of humans, which helps you function in society. You like order and cataloguing things, organizing everything you've learned in systems which again helps you understand the world and those around you better. There is no topic that your mind cannot tackle, you break things down until you have full control over them. You probably have many areas of interest.

What is unique about your heart:

You've been through your share of heartaches and know what it feels like to hit rock bottom. Despite that, you've never let it paralyze you for too long, for you know that when you fall the only way is up. You're heart is brave and determined, but you may also guard it fiercely. Your heart is ruled by your mind, but it also has a strong passionate fire which fuels your progression in life. You've got this well of optimism within you that makes you look forward in spite of everything else. You probably hide it well though, and may enjoy a more twisted or darker style of humor, which is well-meaning and is more the result of your life experiences than a desire to shock for no reason. For you, laughing in the face of pain is a way to move forward and to tell life that it can't keep you down forever.

What unique wisdom do you hold:

You know that you can overcome anything with the sacred fire on your side. Your unwavering passion and go-getter attitude are the reasons why you came this far. You've also learned that your emotions are not here to put you down but great guides that can help you through life if you listen to their messages. Despite your mind ruling everything, you're deeply empathetic and while you keep that to yourself, it is a strong force that underlines the way you move in life. You've learned that it's necessary to work hard to get what you want and you're deeply ambitious, not so much in financial matters since pentacles are absent from all of your cards, but on a soul-level.

PILE 2

Cards: Ace of Wands, the Hanged Man, 3 of Pentacles, Ace of Swords, Queen of Swords, Knight of Swords, 3 of Cups, 8 of Wands, 4 of Wands, 10 of Pentacles, Page of Wands, the Magician

What makes your mind unique

This is the pile of the deep thinkers who plan ahead carefully in order to take the right actions. You have a knack for thinking outside of the box and being highly creative, which allows you to see the steps ahead in a very practical and goal oriented way. It may look like you take your time before acting, but so much is happening under the surface, and when you do decide to move, it's calculated and purposeful. There is also an element of passionately researching things before setting on an opinion, relying on the wisdom of others to feed your own. There is no end to your quest, there's always something more to learn.

What is unique about your heart

You are a deeply honest person who strives for being true to what you feel and think. You may have a tendency to rationalize your emotions, which may make you look a bit harsh or detached at times because you say things as they are without considering how it makes other people feel. However, you are deeply loyal to your circle of loved ones and will go above and beyond to defend them. You are highly communicative of what you think/feel (those things tend to blend for you) and do not hold back in any circumstances. Being truthful is a way to honor yourself and you like speaking up, not only to make things right, but also, to bring clarity to yourself. It's like you need to talk or write to bring sense and order into what happens within, and you tend to do the same for others.

What unique wisdom do you hold

Again, a very fiery creativity comes through here. You've learned to be proud of yourself and what you've achieved. That in order to create something great, you must start with the first piece and patiently build it bit by bit. And that will mean different things for different folks, but for example it could be a creative venture, or a career/studies, or even a strong social circle that took you years to nurture. You never lost your passionate spark, always looking forward to what can be improved, looking up optimistically. There is no end to your adventure and you want to add even more wins and achievements to your track records. You truly are a creator and truth seeker in the deepest sense, inventive and clever, and your found the fire to carry you forward for years to come.

PILE 3

Cards: Justice, Temperance, 8 of Wands, 4 of Cups, the Hermit, Longing of Wands, 8 of Swords, 5 of Cups, Death, 7 of Pentacles rx, Queen of Wands, the World

What is unique about your mind

You are very quick thinking, rapidly making connections between things and sparking new trails in your mind. It's a way for you to bring order to your perception of the world, to make things right and balanced through understanding and making up your own opinion on things. You are very aware of humans shortcomings and have some type of rational empathy for the failures of others. You have a very neutral approach to things and always make sure you have all information at hands before making a judgement, but once you do, there's usually no turning back.

What makes your heart unique

You're somewhat a bit closed off emotionally, which makes you distant from your emotions. You have a very explorative way to approach them, as if you had to actively seek to understand them in order to perceive what they want to say. You really think that your emotions are to be listened to, but you also often feel threatened by them, which makes you hesitant to let yourself feel them. The other side of that, is that you can easily feel overwhelmed and stuck in what you feel, unable to see beyond. But you're fully aware of that and determined to see through this mystery. You may need to spend some time contemplating what you feel, perhaps through journalling or meditating, or anything done alone, which also implies that when you can't do that, you remain in the fog. You're also not someone who acts against their heart, which may freeze you in place a bit when you're not sure about how you feel. You are whole and authentic in that way.

What unique wisdom do you hold

You've been marked by loss and grief in the past, and felt like something that you held dearly, something you cherished and put a lot of effort into, got struck and destroyed. But you're fully aware that change, even when dramatically painful and unwanted, brings the seed of something new, and that you can find a new beginning in all things. This gave you a vicious sense of independence and optimism. Like the only way to get revenge on life is to shine brighter. You keep your sufferings close to yourself and I get the feeling that you go back and forth between looking back in regret and looking forward in hope. I do however feel like the hope side is stronger these days because of that wisdom of change I was talking about. Life is made of cycles and you know how to dance with its tune.

[inshelliesworld]

get to know yourself:

· What does your ideal day look like?

I'm going to answer this as an ideal fantasy day and not one set in reality 😂 wake up super early for morning sex and go back to sleep. actually get up whenever is natural for the morning song and dance routine at my own pace and have breakfast or brunch if I feel like it. Some yoga or a quick run. Shower. Tend to my business(es) and charities. Lunch with the besties. Write, paint, read, etc. Play with the dogs/cats. Dinner, games, movie, conversation with my man & our friends. Nighttime song and dance routine; bedtime reading and sex. Deep, peaceful sleep.

· What did you wanna be when you were younger?

a ballerina, an astronaut, a marine biologist, an actress, a lawyer, a psychiatrist....

. Who are you most inspired by? Why?

my grandmothers were the best women I've ever known and my bestie is currently fighting cancer with the best attitude

. Who would you love to meet? What would you ask them?

Josh. What? Why? How? When? (iykyk)

· What habit would you like to break?

procrastination (it's not a habit but I would like to get rid of my executive decision dysfunction, please & thanks)

. What habit would you like to start?

playing the piano

· What qualities do you admire in people?

critical thinking

. What does relax look like to you?

· When was the last time you did something you were afraid of?

today, probs... maybe yesterday

· What are you most proud of?

my coven 🌙🖤✨🧿🔮🪄🎶📚🍪🌌🫧🧹🌞🩵☪️

· What are you most afraid of?

The Handmaid's Tale becoming reality.

· If life stopped today, what would you regret not doing?

More travelling.

. Who would you like to (re)connect with? Why?

Laura. I just miss her.

· What skills do you wish you had?

How to be successful with the stock market

. What memories would you like to have when you're in your 90s? What stories do you want to tell?

fun times, life lessons, world travel, great books

what it's like to be a good friend and to have good friends, why laughter makes everything better, how the hard days don't last forever, when to tell the truth and when to shut the fuck up, who to trust, where to go if there's trouble, the secrets of believing in yourself, and the magic of falling in love every chance that comes around.

· What is your favorite book/movie/song? Why?

book: there's a lot but for 2024 my favorite was "The Midnight Library" by Matt Haig-- if this book doesn't change your perspective, gtfo. movie: too many to choose one but I will always watch Clueless or Wayne's World or Remember the Titans song: Wheel by John Mayer-- "And if you never stop when you wave goodbye You just might find if you give it time You will wave hello again You just might wave hello again"

· What do you love to do for or give to others?

deep, uncontrollable, loud laughs

· What makes you excited?

all red Starburst jelly beans

· What do you wish you did more of?

writing

. What would you do with unlimited money?

Put a bunch of lobbyists in DC / buy the government

· What area of your life makes you feel the best?

I feel like this question is oddly worded.... but my best answer is my insatiable curiosity and eagerness to learn makes me feel best.

· What do you want to achieve in the next 12 months?

become 'minimalist enough' & organized!

. What advice would you give 5-year-old you?

Don't carry around backpacks full of shit that isn't yours. Don't even carry around backpacks full of your own shit for too long. You're meant to put that shit down and walk away.

· How do you want to be remembered in life?

understanding, empathetic, fair, and loving

answers to this post

[thenotsonaughtycorner]

“The importance of clitoral stimulation for female orgasm has long been discussed. When women are asked how they reach orgasm, they overwhelmingly report stimulating their clitoris. Clitoral stimulation results in more consistent orgasms during solo masturbation, but the clitoral stimulation and orgasm consistency decrease when a male partner is introduced. The women who continue to stimulate their clitoris when with a partner are more likely to be orgasmic with their partner. When masturbating for a laboratory study, all 26 women included in this study reported using clitoral stimulation as their primary means of reaching orgasm.” -ScienceDirect

Disclaimer: Everyone’s bodies are different, things like mental health/medical history/diet/lifestyle etc. can affect sex in a multitude of ways. Once again I am NOT a professional, this is us researching and learning together! Please remember that!

In most studies I’ve read as well as clientele I’ve spoken to, clitoral stimulation is key to coming undone (so to speak). In a test group of 749 women in 2016, 94% of women reported they require clitoral stimulation to achieve climax. PVI ranks after manual and oral stimulation for its ability to bring a partner to release, however that’s not to say PVI doesn’t achieve orgasm. 36% of women from a survey taken in 2020 says that clitoral stimulation enhances the ability to be brought to climax while having PVI. In addition, there are some women (or vulva owners, we’re all inclusive on this page) that can be brought to orgasm by g-spot simulation alone!

A few things I’ve noticed socially related to this topic:

First, a lack of confidence among female partners to request their male partners to use toys or other stimulants in order to achieve climax. With that, a lack of knowledge and care from male partners that believe a toy is “replacing” them or makes them feel inadequate. Judging by the statistics you can google (or make him google) about clitoral orgasms, it’s clear that it’s not about any insufficiency from the male partner. Vulva owners have a much more complex “wiring” system when it comes to stimulation and climaxing, so having an open conversation between partners about specific needs (and the statistics you screenshot) will ease the tension from both sides. Why fake it? Everyone deserves to orgasm! I tell my male clients all the time that toys are meant to add to the experience, not overtake it. Do your research, be safe, and have fun!

— J <3

[ssgem1119]

[egophiliac]

missed the mark by (looks at calendar) uhhh. hm. but I really wanted to do something for the 5th anniversary! happy five years to these idiots 🎉

[gracies-dreams]

Hear me out: character development but answer the questions for yourself! Get to know YOU better 🥰❤️

An idea for my next journal entry...! ✎ᝰ. ݁₊ ⊹

Character Development: 50 Questions

What does your character do when they think no one’s looking?

What’s the one thing your character would save in a fire (beyond the necessities)?

Who’s on speed dial?

Your character gets turned down for their dream job. What’s their second choice?

What would they tell their ten-year-old self?

Where would they want to go on a first date?

What’s the best advice they’ve ever received?

What’s the worst advice they’ve ever received?

What’s one physical detail they’d change about themselves?

When was the last time they were held? By who?

What’s their favorite thing about their favorite season?

Their wallet gets stolen. What do they do?

Prioritize: Love, money, power, knowledge?

What’s something nobody knows about them?

What’s in their fridge?

What (creature, object, substance) are they most disgusted by?

What’s their second worst habit?

What are the victory conditions for their life?

In the end, your character fails to save the day. Assuming they survive, what do they do?

Your character is charged with a crime they didn’t commit. What do they do?

Your character is charged with a crime they did commit. What was the crime?

How would you describe your character’s life in one sentence?

What important statistic would they want displayed above them?

What’s the first thing they would buy if they won the lottery?

What profession do they most respect?

What childhood injustice did they never get over?

How would they handle having a panic attack?

Your character is burdened with an inconvenient superpower. What is it?

If they died and could come back as any person, animal, or object, what would they be?

What’s the best meal they’ve ever had?

Where would they stand at a dinner party?

Who would they invite to the dinner party?

What makes a perfect day for your character?

If given the opportunity, would they want to know how and when they died?

What’s the one thing they’ve always wanted to do? Why haven’t they done it yet?

What do they tend to joke about?

What’s off limits?

Whose wedding would they cross the world to attend? Whose funeral?

What impossible choice did they make that turned out to be the right one? The wrong one?

Your character has someone to hype them up. What would they say to get everyone excited about your character?

What recurring dream does your character have?

What is the meaning of life to your character?

What book does your character pretend to have read?

Someone takes undeserved credit for your character’s work. What do they do?

What controversial belief or view does your character hold? Why? Do they hide it?

Your character is at a theme park. Where do they go first?

What’s your character’s favorite name?

What’s the biggest compliment they’d give themselves?

How does your character feel about bugs?

If your character could hit a reset button on their life, would they?

Source

[forbidden-interlude]

Something that helped me when I first started doing solo activities/dates is that no one gives a fuck about you. No one’s check for you like that, live your life.

And if they are that’s some loser lame ass shit and you don’t want validation from loser lame ass bitches

[heartsmade4more]

I think the best thing I ever did in my adult life was start digging deep and asking myself why I am the way I am and do things the way I do. It takes a ton of work and intentionality, but getting to know yourself on a deeper level will help you thrive.

[cruel-hiraeth]

when he insists on fucking your thighs before fucking your pussy as a wake up call. you don’t fully grasp how massive his cock is until he hugs your back, tucking himself just beneath your slick pussy. your plush thighs are forced to accommodate his girth, and he feels impossibly heavy—impossibly large—as his weeping tip nudges your clit. in awe, you look down as he begins a slow, steady pace. you try to imagine what it would feel like to have all of that inside you. would you break? or would it ruin other men for you? it’s as terrifying as it is arousing, and has you creaming all over his shaft. but you feel so empty; now more than ever, he has you craving the real thing.

[katsinspats]

Thematically appropriate comic for Make a Terrible Comic Day!!

I saw the original post this morning and it made me get out of bed to make something, so thank u Pseudonym Jones mission accomplished

[inkskinned]

i hate to say it because i'm neurodivergent and a chronic-pain-haver but like... sometimes stuff is going to be hard and that's okay.

it's okay if you don't understand something the first few times it's explained to you. it's okay if you have to google every word in a sentence. it's okay if you need to spend a few hours learning the context behind a complicated situation. it's okay if you need to read something, think about it, and then come back to re-read it.

i get it. giving up is easier, and we are all broken down and also broke as hell. nobody has the time, nobody has the fucking energy. that is how they win, though. that is why you feel this way. it is so much easier, and that is why you must resist the impetus to shut down. fight through the desire you've been taught to "tl;dr".

embrace when a book is confusing for you. accept not all media will be transparent and glittery and in the genre you love. question why you need everything to be lily-white and soft. i get it. i also sometimes choose the escapism, the fantasy-romance. there's no shame in that. but every day i still try to make myself think about something, to actually process and challenge myself. it is hard, often, because of my neurodivergence. but i fight that urge, because i think it's fucking important.

especially right now. the more they convince you not to think, the easier it will be to feed you misinformation. the more we accept a message without criticism, the more power they will have over that message. the more you choose convenience, the more they will make propaganda convenient to you.

[moonilit]

This is basically their teen dynamic lol

[nibbelraz]

OG Shang Qinghua loves his brother even if he says nonsense most of the time

[assiraphales]

haven’t uttered these words in years but steve rogers n bucky barnes, whether you like it or not, were written romantically. “til the end of the line” literally means til death do us part (a marriage vow)

[technically-human]

Stone, please, your boss is about to cause an international scandal

[bioethicists]

it's very important to understand how a personality disorder diagnosis functions in the psychiatric system, even if you identify with the diagnosis or find it useful.

personality disorders on your medical record will be used to discredit anything you say or do. they indicate "don't bother listening to this person; apply treatment regardless of their wishes but also they're probably manipulating/attention-seeking so maybe don't bother treating them". needing support becomes attention-seeking. behaviors that would be treated + supported in someone without this diagnosis are ignored or treated as manipulative. providers are instructed to "withdraw warmth" (a real thing in the DBT provider's manual, btw) in response to self-injury or suicidal ideation.

if you have been dx'd with a personality disorder professionally, you likely understand this.

now, here's the important part: this is not an issue of 'stigma' against a politically neutral, pre-discursive True Disease which is being Unfairly Maligned. these diagnoses were formulated based on the idea that some patients cannot be trusted, that some patients seek care too much. they are applied to patient charts as a justification for withdrawing care or as a dismissal of someone "not getting better" fast enough. in the uk, they are often employed by the nhs to shame or problematize people who use large amounts of nhs resources, arguing that receiving a lot of care through the nhs is a negative behavior stemming from a disordered personality.

there are elements of personality disorders which resonate strongly with many people, including myself, but you need to be clear-eyed about the origins + functions of this diagnosis. as a whole, they were created + function as ways to discredit + mistreat noncompliant or "difficult" patients. 'reclaiming' them is not going to change how they function systematically- it is going to make it easier to engage in this systematic neglect by evoking 'ableism' or 'stigma!' when people question the utility or application of the diagnosis.