thenotsonaughtycorner

[thenotsonaughtycorner]

Let’s talk product knowledge real quick! Alright, butt stuff. Do I have your attention? Awesome, let’s get into it.

I shouldn’t have to start with this but for the sake of stupidity on the internet, USE LUBE!! For the love of whatever you believe in, use lube always if you’re doing butt stuff. Which leads me directly to my starting point, get a desensitizer to apply in addition to lubricant if you’re a beginner. There’s even lubes that have desensitizer in them (usually benzocaine). I always suggest training to my beginner clients, which of course includes acquiring a variety of things, but I promise you it’s worth it in the long run. Not only to ensure your pleasure but your safety. Prepping over a period of time with lubricants, desensitizers, relaxants, and plugs/toys will make your experience with ~the real thing~ much more enjoyable.

At some point, you may want to feel more once you’re comfortable with the motions and sensations. Ease off the desensitizer (with a pace that’s comfortable for you ofc), and use an anal relaxant. They typically have aloe extract in them to help with keeping the skin and muscles softer as they stretch to accommodate a toy or partner. Relaxants don’t contain any numbing agents, they are only used to assist in softening and relaxing your booty hole muscles. I mainly sell these to clients who are familiar and comfortable with anal play, a mid-tier rank on the scale of expertise.

Now for all the pro-players out there, that’s where stimulants come in. These contain no numbing or easing agents, made for heightening sensitivity and sensation. Typically they have a tingling effect caused by a variety of astringents. (Peppermint oil, bergamot oil, ginger root, etc) With this product as well as all others I ask you ALWAYS do research on the ingredients in them to ensure your bodily safety as well as your partners.

Be safe and have fun out there!

— J<3

[thenotsonaughtycorner]

“The importance of clitoral stimulation for female orgasm has long been discussed. When women are asked how they reach orgasm, they overwhelmingly report stimulating their clitoris. Clitoral stimulation results in more consistent orgasms during solo masturbation, but the clitoral stimulation and orgasm consistency decrease when a male partner is introduced. The women who continue to stimulate their clitoris when with a partner are more likely to be orgasmic with their partner. When masturbating for a laboratory study, all 26 women included in this study reported using clitoral stimulation as their primary means of reaching orgasm.” -ScienceDirect

Disclaimer: Everyone’s bodies are different, things like mental health/medical history/diet/lifestyle etc. can affect sex in a multitude of ways. Once again I am NOT a professional, this is us researching and learning together! Please remember that!

In most studies I’ve read as well as clientele I’ve spoken to, clitoral stimulation is key to coming undone (so to speak). In a test group of 749 women in 2016, 94% of women reported they require clitoral stimulation to achieve climax. PVI ranks after manual and oral stimulation for its ability to bring a partner to release, however that’s not to say PVI doesn’t achieve orgasm. 36% of women from a survey taken in 2020 says that clitoral stimulation enhances the ability to be brought to climax while having PVI. In addition, there are some women (or vulva owners, we’re all inclusive on this page) that can be brought to orgasm by g-spot simulation alone!

A few things I’ve noticed socially related to this topic:

First, a lack of confidence among female partners to request their male partners to use toys or other stimulants in order to achieve climax. With that, a lack of knowledge and care from male partners that believe a toy is “replacing” them or makes them feel inadequate. Judging by the statistics you can google (or make him google) about clitoral orgasms, it’s clear that it’s not about any insufficiency from the male partner. Vulva owners have a much more complex “wiring” system when it comes to stimulation and climaxing, so having an open conversation between partners about specific needs (and the statistics you screenshot) will ease the tension from both sides. Why fake it? Everyone deserves to orgasm! I tell my male clients all the time that toys are meant to add to the experience, not overtake it. Do your research, be safe, and have fun!

— J <3

[thenotsonaughtycorner]

Hello, welcome in!! ☺️☺️☺️

Happy to have you, my name is Jainey and I work as a pleasure consultant in my day to day life. By no means am I a professional or an expert, I just have an abundance of knowledge and like to do research on sexual health/wellbeing as well as product knowledge and the history of sex itself✨

This page is purely for me to reach and educate a wider community of people who want to learn more about themselves and all the things our sex ed. teacher never taught us😂

I try to do the best research I can but nobody’s perfect, so feel free to reach out with any questions/comments/corrections at any time!! I’m here to have fun and maybe shed some light on a subject I’m passionate about, I hope you’ll join me! 🫶🏼