#girlcode

[shntlcry]

Be a woman other women can trust.

[justlivliving]

Girl Code

Honest to God, I just wanna talk about how important Girl Code is. Yeah, I get it, you like the boy, but come on. Your girls are way more important.

My best friend and I just stopped being friends. We were friends for eleven years and she decided to go after the guy I liked. I tried to be cool with it, but she rubbed it in my face any way she could. She constantly sent me snaps of him, made sure I saw that she was always texting him, and would talk about him constantly. Eventually, I dropped her.

They broke up three months later.

Never choose a boy over your best friend. Three months is a long time for a high school relationship. But it isn't worth a friendship that could last forever. Forever is way longer than three months.

Just wanted to write it for anyone who was feeling conflicted.

[organicbeing]

Girl Code: The Unwritten Rules We All Know (But Sometimes Forget)

Let’s be real for a second: girl code is basically the Constitution of friendships. It’s like a magical handbook we all mysteriously download into our brains somewhere between our first bra and that “What was I thinking?!” haircut in high school. Yet, somehow, some of us still need a refresher course. So, here it is, with a little humor and a lot of truth—why girl code matters and what happens…

[musicarenagh]

"Girl Code" by Edie Yvonne: A coming-of-age story told through music “Girl Code” by Edie Yvonne is the most powerful and refreshing wave that hit the indie pops music scene with a complete parade of rhythmic vigour. This song is a tribute to adolescent turmoil involving friendship ruptures and restorations under the theatrical dynamics of young people’s lives. https://open.spotify.com/track/79N2DTtaeGZcwedj8pnInb?si=85fd83a0345a4575 “Girl Code” is not static instrumentally as it has a strong innovative drive that mirrors its theme related to changing friendships. It artfully combines brashness and elegance, revealing something new every time you listen—the mark of good music production. Edie Yvonne is not only heard, but her voice echoes. The strength of this relationship is that it’s both vulnerable as well as empowering all at once as if Florence Welch siphoned her power through Billie Eilish-esque introspections—forming bonds over broken ones. It portrays much more than just listening; it evokes every string, and synth that pulls at us all because we have all been there. [caption id="attachment_52940" align="alignnone" width="480"] "Girl Code" by Edie Yvonne: A coming-of-age story told through music[/caption] The "Girl Code" is fueled by a certain electric charge, which can be interpreted as the thrilling moments when shared secrets either build friendships or destroy relationships. Like watching lightning trace fractures across the sky: a powerful homage to the sentimentality of modernity as terrifyingly beautiful, intensely connecting. “Girl Code” enchants as much as it understands – it does not only just sing, it directly addresses itself to the fickle teenager’s heart. Edie Yvonne uses melodic waves to identify emotional markers in "coming-of-age" stories, suggesting that "age" is less important than "becoming one's own person." Follow Edie Yvonne on Website, YouTube and Instagram.

[hay-bails]

are we ever getting an explanation for this or

(edit: guys this was mostly rhetorical/a joke but i appreciate all the earnest explanations haha)

[ninboo]

their bedrooms side by side look like those “boys vs girls” memes

[samofmine]

yes dean tell us more about your brother's delicate features and luxurious hair

[sammygender]

the girl sam fic just being about religion is so real though... every day i mourn the fact that sam winchester wasn't a woman because his character and arc are so interwoven with themes historically associated with femininity. ruby is the evil demonic witch seductress found historically in literature, but i'd argue that sam doesn't fall into the male tropes as much as he falls into female ones. you're not supposed to be going "ohhh no the poor strong good Man has fallen under her spell" because sam spends the rest of the show being blamed for what happens. the way sam is treated is more like "the poor innocent maiden has fallen into temptation." he embodies that dichotomy of purity and temptation in a way that's much more traditionally feminine than masculine. just think of the salem witch trials and the way that witchcraft and the demonic have been so historically tied to femininity. i read christabel for class and i couldn't stop thinking about sam winchester. i've never watched supernatural btw.

anon can i marry u

[mzbratzplug]

1-800-Fairy-Vibes 🦋

You will delight some. A spark that lights quiet corners, a gentle fire warming hearts. And you will disturb others. A wild wind shaking old trees, a truth too fierce to ignore. You are both and that is your power.

☘️

[the-woker]

The whole Jason Todd is girl-coded debate thing admittedly just rubs me the wrong way.

I understand that there are people who consider gender as a concept and there are other people who consider gender to be something very real. Both are correct and very valid statements of expression, but someone who is genderless and has a heavy respect and fondness for the feminine and people with such experiences, I feel like what we are declaring 'girl-coded' should probably be a bit more analyzed and taken with more care.  

I have no ill-will to any of the people who post about this, they all seem like kind people, and everyone is entitled to their opinions and to posting them.  There is nothing wrong with projecting onto a character, identifying with their struggle and using that to cope with your trauma.  As someone who’s favorite character of all time is Jason Todd, and enjoys gender-weirdness,  and has been severely mistreated for being perceived as feminine before, I understand entirely. 

But there's a point when I can't help but feel uncomfortable with assigning being violent, a victim, “hysterical angry-like a girl”, expressing rage via screaming, and looking up to women in general as 'girl moments' and explicitly stating these as the reasons a male character is girl coded. And those have been the very specific points I have seen cited as what traits Jason has that make him "girl-coded."

I'm putting this all under a read more since this discussion is really not that deep, nor is it really relevant to the average Jason Todd tag surfer. It's just something I keep seeing talked about in the past few months.

Admittedly, just to begin with, the argument that what makes Jason ‘girl-coded’ is the fact that he is a victim in general, has strong connections with women, tends to like strong and muscular women, and has been vitriol in his screaming matches with other characters simply does not sit well with me as an explanation for what people are associating women with.  A female character can indeed do everything Jason did in a comic story, and I would enjoy it greatly, however staking these specific traits of his as the “feminine” ones is treading into a dangerous territory.

Especially since I’ve seen a few times now that people are claiming Jason and Batman’s fight in UTRH to be a Patriarchy metaphor and how Jason represents women’s struggles. The first problem I have with that claim, is very simply that Jason and Bruce’s fight is explicitly not about Bruce being a system that failed to protect Jason.

Nor is it about a pressure for Jason to return to conforming to Bruce and his rules.  Bruce wants him back with him, because Bruce loves Jason, but at no point does he attempt to force him to return to him, nor does he even force him to stop killing.  He certainly gets in the way and he prevents several of them, but when given the direct choice to either kill or force Jason to stop killing, he simply walks away and only intervenes after Jason attempts to kill Bruce himself. Calling this an analogy for women fighting against oppression by an organized system designed to exploit them, is not an apt metaphor, as likable and sympathetic as it is towards Jason, and I’d personally recommend avoiding it.

In general, on that topic.  The argument could be made for other male members of the Batfam (take Dick Grayson’s constant sexual harassment for being a ‘pretty boy’ for example.), but Jason is also simply just not a victim of the Patriarchy.

Unlike Stephanie Brown, Jason was accepted immediately by Bruce as Robin and as part of the family.  He was murdered by his mother for being an obstacle in her operation of stealing from starving people, and by a madman who killed him for being one of his nemeses.  His murder was upsetting but had nothing to do with him not presenting himself as society claimed he should, nor for not obeying said society's customs and arbitrary rules.

Under the Red Hood is a fascinating, engaging, philosophical, and extremely emotional piece of media and it’s a favorite for many people (including me) for a reason.  Highlighting Jason’s actions as being a ‘girl moment’ when he is intentionally trying to push past Bruce’s only boundary, however, is an uncomfortable idea to proclaim. Especially considering when and how Bruce tries to negotiate and reason with Jason. Jason quite literally holds their relationship, and his life, over Bruce in an attempt to get him to behave how he wants, claiming that he does so as an expression of femininity has horrible implications. Jason is entirely allowed to do what he wants (I enjoy it greatly. His violence is very sexy and honestly we should bring it back) but that is a gender neutral choice, and I wouldn’t say that this run nor his backstory have much in common with women’s struggles to label them as “clearly being such”.

Additionally, The narrative is also not portraying Jason as “hysterical”; this was his first proper return to comics after 20 years. The intention of the narrative is to challenge the morality of Batman and to open an in-universe line of discourse for a discussion that for years, has been, and still is relevant in the comic community.  

Jason’s death was notoriously the moment that Batman got closest to breaking his rule and so they brought Jason back to be the character who pushed him on why he maintained it.  They made Jason angry and violent to raise the stakes of what the Joker did to him, and to raise the question of if there was a crime so horrible that it was a moral failing to continue the pacifist approach to criminal reform.  Jason is being treated in a significantly kinder light than most of the characters we would traditionally see doing these actions.  We all agree Lock-up was a bad guy, we can agree that the League of Assassins is wrong, but we’re given a chance to take Jason at face value and are not immediately told how to feel despite the narrative showing us his violence in a raw and uncut way. Killing a bunch of drug dealers while rising in the ranks of the drug trade yourself is hardly a selfless act of good after all. 

Disclaimer 1:  I don’t think Jason is entirely wrong about many things.  But I simply do not believe Bruce “owes” him killing, and that it is wrong of Jason to demand this of him or anyone for that matter. Nobody owes you their innocence and you aren’t entitled to breaking anyone’s boundaries. 

Disclaimer 2:  I cannot stress enough how much I like Jason.  This post is not meant to make anyone feel bad, or make Jason seem like the “bad guy” of the fandom.  It’s simply a disservice to his character to write him off as nothing more than an angry victim and call it an expression of femininity, and a reminder to be a bit more careful when labeling and assigning traits. 

[bumpinbonnie]

Listen. I love black jason but i can’t let you call him black coded if you don’t know who shondra gavin or onyx are srry.

[rederick-ignis]

happy halloween 🎃

trick or treat! : D

and a happy halloween to you! ahh, let's see here-

erm?

i think there's been a mistake, let me check again. no it's right here. it says treat on the label. what did you say? yes, no, that's not a treat. uh-huh yeah. no yeah. i know-look it's a crustacean, that's- that's close enough right? yeah. no? okay okay, no need to get crabby about it. fine.

[aquazip]

moises is not feeling great after last night's endeavors...

🚨there's been a murder in the free spirits house🚨

... duty calls

seems like dani isnt doing so well either

[navree]

didn't they also fridge Felicia's Day's character at like the peak of her (the actress') popularity? i remember there being some kind of commotion about it at one of the comic con panels, but i was and still am on the fringes of the fandom. so, i'm not entirely sure.

I don't know how popular Felicia Day was at the time, but yeah pretty much. They introduced some last minute villains to make Dean go crazy (for plot reasons and again, Dean is always at the scene of the crime), and one of them killed her offscreen, with Dean and Sam finding her dead and bloody in a bathtub, before the rest of the season is basically devoted to Dean's pain over the fact that she's dead and how Dean reacts to it and what that all means for Dean. She literally just died for no reason other than to advance a plot that didn't even need it because he had a supernatural (heh) reason to go crazy anyway; the only way it could have been more obviously fridging is if she'd literally been in a fridge instead of a bathtub. It did cause a lot of commotion from what I remember, given how classic a case of fridging it was and how there was still so much more to do with the character and how well-liked Charlie was, as well as the show's absolute dearth of female characters anyway (tho she was a canon lesbian so they couldn't ship her with either of the men, which I'm sure made it more easy to kill her off so they couldn't do PG-13 sex scene with Jared or Jensen and Felicia).

[divorce-enjoyer]

#transgirl jason todd you will always be famous to ME

care to share with the class? 👉🏽🥺👈🏽

free lazarus pit transition (but also, the theme of being haunted by your past self; the idea that dying and being resurrected is the death of the way people used to perceive you and the birth of a new identity; the fact that even after youve grown and changed the people you love will still look at you and see the person you used to be, not the person you are; in a way, jason todd is still dead, and someone new and different is standing in his place)

also as we all know women love being covered in blood

[sammygender]

you know back when i was mainly a succession fan i used to find the constant ‘roman/kendall is literally a teenage girl’ grating. more so w ken than rome but still like nah those are vaguely misogynistic adult men. just because they have immense psychological problems and childhood trauma doesn’t make them ‘girlcoded’. it rubbed me so the wrong way. but NOW? now i say sam winchester is girlcoded 10 times a day. he is. i’m sorry like what do you want from me. he literally is. i don’t care if he’s a 29 year old allegedly straight man. he’s GIRLCODED