#how to human

[humandrift]

A weekend in April

[asdpawprint]

how does one differentiate which instances of "how are you?" should be answered with The Script ("I'm good, how are you?") vs which ones can involve honesty? asking for a friend (it's me, I'm the friend)

[sailor-hufflepuff]

To tell the truth, for me the appeal of the Regency Romance Genre is something like:

-5% a single man in possession of a good fortune

-35% pretty dresses and bonnets and parasols

-60% a society with actual codified rules, that everyone knows and is taught, and never having to guess what the appropriate thing to say or do to not get labeled a Weirdo Who Can’t Have Normal Conversation. I would ROCK an interaction where I had a specific list of topics and duration of time, underpinned by how much I am allowed to share or not share about my personal life based on our relationship.

[trichorats]

does anyone have advice/ ressources on structuring/ planning day to day life (in and out of university)? i kind of haven´t taken part in normal life for awhile and dont have a reference for humaning correctly

i do enjoy the structure that my lectures give me but tbh i struggle a little structuring my day around them lol (yea also that work/life balance uhh) but especially when lectures end i get a little lost and overwhelmed. any tips would be appreciated. :D

[tar-thelien]

Annon!!!!! I LOVE YOU!!!!!

I don´t know how to respond.

HOLY FUCK I´VE GOT A CHEKMARK! I´M VALID!!! I´M A REAL PERSON!!!!!!!!!!

Annon, for real, you´re my hero♡ of all time♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡

Now it can´t be a bad start for school!

[daniel-nerd]

how to human when you’re home alone?

[macksting]

So you want to joke with a cashier

First off, consider why you're doing this. I'm not saying don't do it, I'm just saying you need to know what your expectations are, and consider whether it's a good idea. Second off, don't do so in a way that makes things slow down. They're trying to get through their day, and things that break flow can make that worse. On that note, be conscious of how long the line is; if nobody's waiting, they might be less harried and your humor may land or be served accordingly. Third off, and relatedly, don't joke in a way that you require they acknowledge it. Throw that joke out while sliding the card or while bagging, don't meet their eyes, just say something you think they might find funny and if they like it they like it, and if they don't they don't. (Obviously if you strike out a lot, maybe consider why.) Fourth, don't joke about something that a customer might benefit from, generally, or that would be distressing for a customer to believe or say. "So I guess it's free" is the obvious example and will read as a joke that simply isn't at all funny, but please understand, even if it's known to be a joke, retail workers have to deal with so many people who have such warped expectations all the time. They may have cause to think you're serious. There may be precedent. They don't need that stress. Customers are barely people sometimes.

Fifth, don't take it personally if they don't find it humorous. God only knows what they've been through today. Their brains might be oatmeal and milk and unable to think more today. They have coworkers, bosses, boss's bosses, quotas, and customers and random BS, and it's exhausting. If they laugh, good. If they don't, that's neutral. If they are annoyed, that's feedback. Speaking of feedback, I am open to suggestions, critique, and replies. I've just been putting off writing this for a while. I don't even work retail, I worked in a call center. But I do joke with cashiers a lot because I want to improve their day, and I wanted to talk about how to go about it and the mindset to have going in and coming out of it.

[humandrift]

“Are you lonely?” “Yes.” “Did you make the right decision?” “Yes.”

[ellegy42]

Queen

A few months ago at my cousin's wedding, the DJ she was a drag queen: six feet or taller with huge hair, lots of makeup, a short as fuck dress covered in glitter, and heels that are more accurately called stilts. I cannot stop staring at this woman and I know I'm being painfully obvious about it because I'm the most awkward human alive, but I'm also terrified of human interaction so it goes on longer than it really should.

Eventually, I manage to get up the courage to go over. I'm fully aware that this lady's clocked me and thinks I'm coming over to be a complete bitch because again, I suck at People Things and have the worst RBF ever even when I'm not trying to figure out a fucking puzzle way out of my comfort zone. She's watching me like she's trying to decide whether to punt my short ass across the venue or just verbally eviscerate me once I've made an ass of myself.

Now, I suck at interactions but I'm great at subverting expectations so I get there and crane my head back so I'm looking at her face when I blurt out, "Okay seriously, how the fuck are you standing right now?"

Queen takes a second to recalibrate because I've clearly thrown her but she still thinks I'm probably a little bitch and tells me she works at a drag bar, obviously expecting me to be disgusted because yeah, I've been staring and I haven't been at all subtle. I give zero shits.

"That's great but how are you standing in those heels?"

Queen's finished downgrading me to "socially incompetent" and is obviously amused now, and just tells me she's practiced a lot. I still can't comprehend it - seriously, Queen's shoes are bigger than my entire damn head - but I'm clearly not going to get it so eventually I just throw up my hands and stalk off, grumbling about how she's probably an Amazonian goddess or something.

[monstrouscrew]

what's the actual point of drawing fan art if whatever idea you have, either someone has already executed it better than you can do without burning yourself out, or however dear the unique result is to you, it goes to the void (too alien to be perceived lol). fans are a concept we may take into account, yet we cannot comprehend how it works. also drawing to entertain the fans... ugh no. abso-fucking-lutely no. i have ideas for fan art, then i just ask what's the point. badly, badly written neural network. generate without wasting your energy on this imitation of being self aware.

[macksting]

Complimenting others

So you wanna make someone's day. First off, choose something they clearly do on purpose. Cool clothes, cool hair, neat tattoos, etc. If it's a physical quality they have no choice in, it's weirder by nature. Note that this does have nuance; many trans folks may have worked hard for our appearance despite having little actual choice in many facets of it. But I still think the safer and better route is to compliment folks on something they do, not something they are. Obviously this includes weight. Never assume anybody can do or has done anything to change their weight. Besides, we don't want to be the kind of society that judges folks that way. That's where eating disorders come from (partially, sometimes.) Second off, if you do not know this person well, don't do it in a way that requires they acknowledge it. This applies to strangers on the street, cashiers, or anybody really. Sometimes people compliment others with an agenda beyond trying to make someone's day, and folks may feel they have to be wary of that. So as not to give them something to worry about, compliment them when you're about to part ways, such as when you're grabbing your grocery bag or when you're about to surrender their attention to the next person or when you're crossing different crosswalks or passing in opposite directions. It makes it less likely to them that you have an agenda, and actually genuinely just wanted to pay a compliment. Third off, if you see them again thereafter it can be mildly awkward, but your good faith will prolly show through. There's worse things than a little awkwardness. Fourth, don't take it personally if they don't notice or care. Everyone's got their own shit going on, who knows. They might even be hearing impaired or something like that. Remember you're doing this for them, and they can take or leave it. Sidenote: The great part about #1 in my experience is that, when I started thinking that way, a lot of other people became more attractive and cooler to me because I started seeing people differently.

[humandrift]

January and photos of the sky. And I found a yoga studio!! Teaching yoga and Pilates and learning reformer and going on dates with a cute new man. Life life life all at once

[angrylittlesliceofpizza]

plus, these days it's SUPER COLD.

showering:

pros: you get to feel clean. you get non greasy hair, non oily feeling skin, it just in general makes you feel better, more energised, refreshed.

cons: there are so many steps. oh my god are there so many steps. before getting into the shower there are steps. during the shower there are steps. and once youve gotten out of the shower? guess what!!! more fucking steps!!!!!!!! UGHHHH

[monstrouscrew]

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[humandrift]

Grateful I’m not the person I was last year!!!