#it's not that simple

[yuseirra]

I was wondering: what's your opinion about teen parents like age 15? Western critics usually don't like it due to health issues, while my opinion has always been that it's perfectly normal nowadays. Don't have anything against young love, in fact, your feedback might be helpful for a project I'm working on...

To be short, it's not perfectly normal...

I'm a bit baffled if you believe it's something that simple. And I'm genuinely curious on how you believe it is perfectly normal, it's actually concerning to my eyes, in fact, how did you come to believe in the idea? Do you live in a society where many people live in such a way? Have you seen a lot of examples where it works out really well?

It could have been the norm in some societies like a hundred years ago, in classic literature we have Juliet's mother saying she had Juliet when she was her age and all, but even then, having a child at that age was still considered very early. I doubt it's been considered as desirable even then.

Love is love and people have their circumstances, and of course people can date and love each other at that age and younger than that too. However?? I feel giving birth is something that needs a lot of support and consideration

The fact that I sympathize with Ai and Hikaru's situation doesn't actually equate to the idea that it is ideal or that it's a good situation. What I want to express would be that: they still can be great parents and make the best out of the situation they are in. What happened to them was unplanned and that can happen to people. I just want to wish the best for people who find themselves in various different situations and believe they can find their happiness in it but this doesn't mean I'm all for teen parents and marriages,

Before anything, let's ask this question: Would you be able to raise your children well if you have kids in age 15? People can do that but a lot of sacrifices would have to be made and let's be practical, what about school? education? How are you going to get a job and support your family? It's not only your life you'd have to take care of from that point on. And 15 is still an age in a modern society that is considered quite underage, there is a reason why we have age standards where we set the age of adults and children.

You brought the idea of health issues, there is that, too. There IS certainly that.

Why do you think Ai left Hikaru? Why do you think she felt the need to do it when she clearly cared for him so much and actually wished to be forever with him? It was for HIS sake. She didn't want to be a burden to him. She, who's also a really young girl who was only a year older than him, got really worried for his sake because she realized that having kids would definitely put the both of them in a tough situation. He wanted to raise them he said, but she thought the idea wasn't realistic and she should keep it a secret. And that is a pretty fair idea she's had because the situation they were in isn't what's really what's deemed as desirable or common in the modern era. Why would that be so? I hope you think about that if you haven't. It's not because it's evil or morally wrong to do it, but...it's for both the potential parents and children's sake. It's already happened to them so Ai tried to make the best out of it but I think we could all agree she'd have been in a much comfortable and better spot if the babies came along when she was much older and had a stable environment.

This is written on the spot and I'm sure what I have here isn't the best answer one can give,

But what I feel I can say is that it's not about being against young love that people believe you should wait till becoming adults till you get married and have children. Those are different subjects. However, there are people who do end up being that way and if that happens, they should be given a chance to live a fulfilling life too, that's what I think.

[thelunastusco]

Also, while we’re here:

Not all non-disordered systems are non-traumagenic. Trauma-formed systems can and do exist without also having DID/OSDD/etc.

Not all non-traumagenic systems are non-disordered.

A systems ORIGINS, a system’s FUNCTIONING, a system’s DIAGNOSTIC STATUS, and a system’s SPIRITUAL/PSYCHOLOGICAL BELIEF can all be very different things. 

Ie, you can have 

a trauma-formed system that isn’t disordered and isn’t dxd with anything, who see themselves in a spiritual light

a non-traumagenic system that is disordered, is diagnosed with DID, who see themselves in a psychological light

and many other combinations!

Please stop using DID/OSDD/etc as a synonym for “trauma-formed”.

Please stop using traumagenic as a synonym for disordered.

Please stop using non-traumagenic as a synonym for non-disordered.

Please stop assuming all trauma-formed systems see themselves purely psychologically, and all non-traumagenic systems see themselves purely spiritually.

The plural community, on all sides, is so rich and diverse. Community support, and an individual system’s needs, are not always so easily divided into two very small boxes.

[0rb0t]

"this character is aroace so putting them in a relationship is harmful to real aroace rep"

me, in a long term relationship, with a kid on the way:

[ineffableigh]

Good Omens Characters and Empathy

People are really out here saying Aziraphale has no empathy and is selfish, and man that hurts. Because I don't know about you, but I see Aziraphale as an incredibly empathetic character, painfully so.

Problem is, Heaven has taught him to be silent, and to be afraid. Aziraphale is a DEEPLY fearful character but can't show it. Don't show emotions. Don't stand out. Feelings are wrong and misguided. Do not question God. Stay in line. Aziraphale is steeped in the law and dogma of Heaven and was only just starting to come out of it, and they drag him back in.

Incredibly relatable to me as a traumatized hyper-empathetic autistic person. Just look at how he stands a lot of the time, hands clasped together, very stiff. "Quiet hands" as it were, unless he's feeling safe with Crowley.

Long story short, stop looking for a villain (besides that fucker The Metatron) and remember everyone shows empathy in different ways, and not everyone has the same way of interacting with their trauma.

[beatsforbrothels]

Jameel Na'im X - Death By 3's

[spineless-lobster]

“NOT WHAT I’M CALLED” has been in my head for the past few days so have this

[myspace]

Simple Plan recording the What’s New Scooby-Doo? theme song

[goldensunset]

if someone is talking about how much they love their parents do not jump in and start venting about your issues with your parents. if someone is venting about their issues with their parents do not jump in and start talking about how much you love your parents. peace and love amen swag city

[themasterofruins17]

It is!!! Not that simple, I mean xD Love that term :)

[kenapiece-main]

Can you believe I'm having to make this meme even after successfully finishing up taxes and applying to job

[inbabylontheywept]

so once me and my wife were watching a documentary where a snake ate like a million eggs. that snake just went to fucking town on eggs. and the snake made the eggs look so good that i kept thinking about it, and thinking about it, and thinking about it, and eventually it was 11pm and i ran out of willpower and decided to eat one (1) singular raw egg just to prove to myself that the snake was surely a liar.

the snake was not a liar. texture is like, super important to me and raw eggs are very Texture so i had another one, and then another one, and then another one, and eventually i ran out of eggs.

i had like, fifteen raw eggs.

i didnt really know how to explain this momentary madness to my wife, so my Plan was to put all the eggshells into a grocey bag, and then throw that grocery bag in the dumpster, and if she never noticed that would be Excellent and if she noticed immediately i could lie and say that the eggs went bad.

except i cant lie very good, and of course with murphys law being such, i got salmonella.

so i threw up a lot and my wife asked me what poisoned me so and i tried very hard to dodge the question but i was oozing shame like oil from a room temperature cheese and eventaully i gave in and told her everything and to her enormous credit she was more flabbergasted than actually upset. she did make me promise to not eat any more raw eggs, which i have stuck to, and she gives me weird looks during nature documentaries now as if desire was the only thing keeping me from eating thousands of pounds of krill anyway i made a joke earlier about being able to eat my age in eggs and my sister in law in law made a drawing to comemorate the moment and also because it was my birthday. she's excellent. thank you 10000000% @cintailed. you should all visit her page and admire her work.

[stellaluna33]

The way to fix a disturbing number of problems is "Cultivate good habits, and then do them consistently." I do not like this. 😠

[rantsofaveryhurtperson]

But what do you do when you don't have any of that stuff? What do you do when people have hurt you so much that you're terrified of them? What do you do when you can't function because you've been broken so much and there's no one to rebuild you?

**gently grabs your face** Listen to me.

When things are hard, move toward joy. Move toward those who light you up, like little fireflies your heart. Play the music you love. Take a chance. Make plans with people you adore—old and new. Put joy on the calendar like a goddamn holiday. (There is something to be said for making plans. I love plans. I…am a dork.)

When things are hard—and god knows, the news is full of terrible��flirt with someone you care about. Make some art about it—about everything. Bake something or cook something and if there’s too much, bring it to your neighbor. Pet a dog. Pet a cat. Find a reason to be silly. Be silly.

The brightest parts of my life, lately, have been unexpected magick. It’s there if you look, I promise. And, honestly, sometimes even if you’re not looking and you just run headlong into it. It's the connection and the love that will help see us through the hard stuff. It's the affection that feeds our strength.

[malwarechips]

yknow i never noticed the sheer rareness of images having ids or alt text on this website until i started adding alt text to my art (and trying to remember to add it to any images i post in general, especially text screenshots) and that makes me kinda sad

[shamefulzombie]

Not Perfect