#manners

[dailymanners]

When going through security lines where you have to take off things that generally take time to put back on, such as shoes, if the line is busy and there are people behind you it's more considerate to collect your shoes / belt / jacket / etc and step away from the conveyor belt if possible to put them back on, rather than crowding right in front of the conveyor belt and blocking other's access while you're putting your things back on.

Especially in major airports, generally past security there will often be areas with tables and possibly chairs too for people to put their shoes / jackets / belts back on rather than crowding in front of the conveyor belt and blocking other's access, so if you're in a larger security area like an airport look for tables or chairs set up for people to go to for putting their stuff back on.

Of course it's not always possible, such as if if the security area is somewhere outside (like for a large commercial amusement park) and it's wet / rainy out you maybe don't want to walk very far in your socks or bare feet.

However, if possible, moving away from the conveyor belt to put your stuff back in is preferable to blocking others' access to grab their stuff, which allows the line to move more fluidly so everyone can get through security faster.

[frenchiefitzhere]

Etiquette reminder:

If someone says they like something [a game, piece of media, etc.] and you immediately say that thing they like is terrible…

YOU are actually what is terrible

Let people enjoy things for fucks sake

[captainfantasticalright]

Edwardian etiquette with Edwin Payne.

This guide promises to cover why Edwin's posture is always straight and not slouched, why he barely does physical touch (but we see that evolve), and some of his mannerisms and vocabulary.

It also includes a whole late Victorian/ Edwardian dictionary here if you want to learn some old lingo.

However, it does not include instructions on how to tango nor on how to write postcards, two things that people in the Edwardian era loved to do.

[danskjavlarna]

Source details and larger version.

All kinds of vintage advice.

[creative-anchorage]

Tags by @xoxoemynn:

#mmhmmmm #some people seem to get a perverse glee out of it and I will never understand that impulse

You don't have to like the same things as other people. You don't even have to understand why, but you definitely shouldn't be making them feel shitty about liking that movie, TV show, band, character etc

[yesterdaysprint]

A Manual of Etiquette with Hints on Politeness and Good Breeding, 1868

[mysharona1987]

[pixierainbows]

Pixie make new page on AAC device , quick answer buttons with ( hopefully ) de-escalation responses for people saying rude things . Pixie get phrases from tumblr person “ daily manners “ !

https://www.tumblr.com/dailymanners

[dailymanners]

When visiting someone else from a different region and especially a different country, it's always polite to bring local gifts with you from wherever you're visiting from.

Say for example, you're studying abroad and will be staying with a homestay family during your time abroad, then it's polite to bring something special and unique from your country / region, like candy, spices or seasoning, etc. to give as a gift to your homestay family. Or maybe you're doing a work exchange program, then the same applies that you should bring a gift that's unique to your country / region for your colleagues during your time in the work exchange program.

This also applies if you have loved ones living abroad, or you're living abroad and going to visit your loved ones in your country of origin.

In the case of visiting a loved one who lives abroad, be sure to bring them something that's a "comfort" from home that's difficult or not possible to get where they live. Maybe a special tea or snack that they miss from home that's easy to fit in your suitcase. Or vice versa, when living abroad and going back to visit your loved ones in your country of origin, it's nice to bring them something special and/or unique from where you've been living.

If you don't have a huge budget, it doesn't have to be something fancy or expensive. A bag of candy that's easy to pass around and share with everyone is a popular and easy choice.

In the case of studying abroad and/or doing a work exchange program, part of the reason for bringing a gift is to show gratitude to your hosts for being willing to host you, and it's good to make a good impression on your hosts since they will likely be your front line for helping you adjust to the country you're studying or working in.

As for visiting loved ones abroad, or visiting home while being abroad, it's always exciting to get a special treat from a different country. Or in the case of being visited by a loved one from your country of origin, it can be really meaningful to get a taste of home when you're far from the comforts of home.

[classycookiexo]

[foldingfittedsheets]

My mom was a huge stickler for manners, a few in particular. Most specifically that kids must always give up their chair to an elder. If it got to the point that an adult had to ask for a seat we had done fucked up. Every family gathering the kids would pop up when an adult joined the room.

This got amusing as it was an inter generational trait. Every person was subject to this conditioning. Any younger person was obligated to give up their chair to an older person. One Christmas the family was sprawled in my nana's dining room. Everyone was laughing and chatting when my great-grandma walked into the room. Every single person in the room jumped to their feet to offer her their chair in unison- except one.

My dad, engrossed in telling a story, had missed the memo. He looked up in bewilderment as the whole family stared at him in outrage that he'd stayed seated when the oldest person present had walked in.

He's never lived it down.

[pseudonymjones]

[victusinveritas]

The Illustrated Book of Manners: A Manual of Good Behavior and Polite Accomplishments, 1866

"If the amount of happiness, immediate or ultimate, is increased by any costume, it is right to wear it."

[al-firdaus]

‎It’s such a beautiful trait of the Prophet ﷺ how he would give his undivided attention to those he would talk to. He wouldn’t just turn his face but he would turn his whole body and make everyone feel like they were his favourite. Something i think we tend to fall short in.