#normalised dysfunction

[makingsenseofwhathappened]

"They're not harassing you. That’s just how they talk." Oh okay. I’ll just rewire my nervous system so it understands context.

[sirenm3lody]

THIS POST IS FOR SEX EDUCATION AND HELPING TOO NORMALISE EXTREMELY REAL CIRCUMSTANCES!!!

Rilyn: he/she/xe/it

ok so I know I’ve spoken about erectile disfunction across all genitalia havers on my blog before but I feel I should go into more detail about specific aspects based on personal experience as someone with a vagina.

When I’m having having sex or masturbating yes there are times I end up finishing, but I also experience sudden flash backs and overthinking that cause my brain to try and stop focusing on sexual stimulation and instead trigger an anxiety attack, panic attack or depressive episode. This will lead me to push harder, to try harder, I will end up in pain because of how badly I just want to finish but physically can’t, in those moments it’s best for me to stop, but unfortunately you aren’t thinking of that when you’re telling yourself you aren’t worth love or affection if you don’t finish, something that should take a short amount of time alone for me takes me over an hour because I’m forcing myself to continue despite the end getting further and further away. I want to finish, but I can’t. I end up either finding something new to get me off or I give up, both options lead me to feel like shit if I am not reassured.

You don’t often see people talk about their personal experiences with their sexual life as it’s been made taboo, and embarrassing. But if you don’t know what’s happening in those moments and you see no one speaking about it you will feel so much more alone. These aren’t taboo subjects. They may feel awkward or scary but they’re important.

I’m hypersexual. My hypersexuality has been active since I was a kid and I have been living with it, and been getting affected by it for that whole time and still continue to struggle today, this affects how my body experiences sexual stimulation, whether it’s aimed at someone or not, masturbation for me is a tool to get rid of an inconvenient situation, but if I don’t finish in a specific time span when I’m thinking of it as a job or chore [I can’t decide if I do think of it that way, it’s just the context in the situation] then I will be in pain, I will feel like I’m not worth love, or like I need to work harder, push harder, think of something new and arousing, but even if I find something exciting to think about my body is still giving up, I want it, I want to finish but when my body is beginning to force that feeling away and I need to push harder to get off to finally finish so I can be done with it and get on with my life I feel awful.

It is ok if you experience this. It is ok if you need to stop. It’s ok that your body is stopping. It’s ok that no matter how much you want it your body simply won’t let you. That is ok. It will always be ok. No matter what anyone says it’s ok. If no one if validating you, let me. If that’s what you need that’s what I’m here for. Because I didn’t know what I was experiencing were the symptoms of ED until now, and it would’ve helped me through so much if I knew sooner. But I know now. And now I’m going to bring awareness to this.

If anyone has anything to add to this, please do, if you want to share your experiences and thoughts that’s also very helpful, bringing any sort of awareness to how different bodies can experience sexual feelings is important.

Remember! You are all amazing, perfect, worthy beings and I’m proud of you, even if I am some random person on the internet. I’m proud of you.

Use protection if you can, if you feel tingling or pain even with the right prepping, try a non silicone based lube or condoms, because it’s not normal to still feel pain even if it’s a little bit after all the correct steps. Make sure you don’t have your joints out of place for too long if you’re hyper mobile, drink plenty of water, eat food after sex even if’s a little bit, go pee, or you will get a UTI. That’s why you feel the need to pee after sex or sexual stimulation. Be safe. Be kind. If your partner says they’re experiencing anything I’ve mentioned in this post, stop. Tell them they are still amazing and assure them they are loved and cared about. If it’s a hookup situation, and they experience this depending on how close you are I still recommend comforting them, even a little bit, even if it’s a hug.

I hope everyone’s doing well, my asks are open for anything sex education related if needed :]

[rexxmako]

btw if you're the type of person who says "ok but [media] has been around for [x] years nothing is a spoiler you should've known this" you're not as cool as you think you are. you just aren't. some people just haven't been able to access or get around to accessing a movie/show/book. maybe they did really want to get around to it after ages of putting it off, or ages of not being able to get to it, but look! you spoiled it with your, guess what, spoilers!

[anotherhumansthings]

Getting a divorce >>>>> centering your children

Now that there's so much more understanding that "staying for the kids" only harms everyone involved, it makes sense that people are just choosing not to have kids. By centering your kids, you're just creating a layer of dysfunction (whether thin or suffocating) when you could have just gotten a hobby and maintained other fulfilling relationships.

[prokopetz]

The trouble with trying to talk about "the players just dick around while the GM does all the actual work of making the game happen" as a dysfunctional mode of play in tabletop roleplaying spaces is that it's so normalised that a lot of GMs genuinely don't realise that's what's happening. They'll look at a description of the problem and with a perfectly straight face declare "yeah, that shit would never fly in my group, that's why we [proceeds to describe a way of organising play in which the GM does all the actual work of making the game happen]". And we wonder why GM burnout is such a universal phenomenon!

[unteriors]

So like, I know (or rather assume) that this blog is a commentary about old and decrepit homes being sold, and how that's due to Capitalism Bad, and how it's terrible how people live/used to live in those inhumane conditions. But what's up with the posts that just show completely normal interiors, just with some old furniture? Like, a good chunk of interiors on this blog I look at and feel like they're just regular grandma/grandpa homes. They have old furniture and maybe odd lighting in the picture being shown, but they don't look dirty or badly maintained, or even necessarily "poor". Perhaps there's something I'm missing here.

The title of the blog is more a reflection of the context we exist within while looking at its content - or finding it in the first place - rather than a commentary. If you spend enough time looking through real estate listings for imagery that goes against its intended purpose, and which contains a greater insight into the world than the narrow constraints of its institutional context would ordinarily allow, then you become pretty aware of how dysfunctional and weird the entire system of financialising housing is. I live in a country with a major housing crisis (not unusual) which has an enormous industry, with cultural backing, designed to normalise the idea of treating housing as a speculative asset, with ever-increasing value backed up by government policy. To see this as good and normal and acceptable relies on people having (I think) a very superficial understanding of the world; part of my motivation for doing this is sort of recognising that this is artificial and trying to look for the more interesting reality underneath the propaganda for a dysfunctional system.

I think part of the problem here is the word 'normal.' Like what's the difference between a normal and an abormal interior? These all exist in the world. I have images on this blog of mansions as well. What I find interesting in photos of older, unrenovated houses, and of older photos of cities generally, is how they reflect a period with a completely different attitude of how housing should be allocated and of how housing policy should work (though the seeds for our present crises have been around since the 1950s). You're made aware of the chasm between that version of the welfare state and the precarious hell that many people are forced into today. Even the interior design seems to reflect a different philosophy - an increasingly bland and naive cynicism. It's a bit like how some architects seem to design buildings in a way that functions to serve their own self-promotion - bold designs more interested in promoting their own brand than in responding to the needs of their users or the broader community. I get a similar sense when you look at what's considered normal in contemporary interior design. Grey and beige sleek corporate minimalism (not sure if that is the right term) seems like financialisation itself dictating design via marketing and house flipping. Looking back at photos of untouched European houses belonging to recently-deceased baby boomers feels like walking through catacombs by comparison.

[gallifreyinstituteforlearning]

⚕️Interpreting Gallifreyan Bloodwork

This guide is for use on Gallifreyans and Time Lords only. Always seek your human advice from human health providers.

🩸 How Gallifreyan Bloodwork Differs from Humans

Gallifreyan blood is vastly different from human blood due to triple-helix DNA, dual-heart circulation, and the presence of artron and lindos compounds. While some human blood tests can provide limited insights, many are ineffective, requiring Gallifreyan-specific diagnostics for accurate interpretation.

🧪 Blood Tests & Their Efficacy

Human Tests:

Venous Blood Gas (VBG) (Acid-base balance, oxygenation) ✅ Useful for pH, glucose, electrolytes, lactate.

Arterial Blood Gas (ABG) (Oxygenation accuracy) ❌ No advantage over VBG in Gallifreyan physiology.

Full Blood Count (FBC) (RBCs, WBCs, platelets) ❌ Useless—Gallifreyan cells do not match human equivalents.

Urea & Electrolytes (U&E) (Kidney function) ✅ Detects chloride (Cl⁻), creatinine, magnesium (Mg²⁺), potassium (K⁺), sodium (Na⁺).

Troponin (Heart damage/disease detection) ✅ Detects Gallifreyan troponin levels to assess myocardial strain.

Brain Natriuretic Peptide (BNP) (Heart failure monitoring) ✅ Detects NT-proBNP, useful for evaluating dual-heart strain.

Group & Save (G&S) (Blood typing for transfusions) ❌ Useless—Gallifreyan blood groups are House-specific and not compatible across Houses.

Liver Function Test (LFT) (Liver enzyme assessment) ✅ Detects ALP, GGT, ALT, AST to monitor liver health, particularly in relation to lindos metabolism and toxin exposure.

International Normalised Ratio (INR) (Clotting rate) ❌ Useless—Gallifreyan clotting mechanisms differ from human systems.

Specialised Gallifreyan Tests:

Z-Cell Count (Immune response monitoring) ✅ Essential for assessing general and specific immune function.

Artron Levels (Time-energy exposure, immune activation, healing response) ✅ Essential for assessing infection, injury healing, psionic function, and Time Vortex exposure.

Lindos Levels (Regenerative activity indicator) ✅ Detectable only before, during, or after regeneration. Presence at other times is abnormal and suggests systemic failure or forced regeneration attempts.

House Blood Testing (Genetic matching, transfusion compatibility) ✅ Detects House-specific protein markers, ensuring safe transfusions.

Platelet & Clotting Factors (Coagulation health, haemodynamic stability) ✅ Excess platelets indicate haemoinstability, increasing the risk of multiple embolisms and stroke, particularly in cases of aspirin poisoning or anticoagulant dysfunction.

🔬 Gallifreyan Blood Reference Ranges & Abnormalities

pH (VBG/ABG) (Acid-base balance, metabolic function)

🟢 Normal: 7.1 – 7.4 🛑⬆️ Higher pH suggests metabolic alkalosis, respiratory bypass activation, or regenerative instability. 🛑⬇️ Lower pH may indicate acidosis, systemic infection, or artron overload.

Glucose (Energy metabolism, regeneration status)

🟢 Normal: 3.0 – 6.5 mmol/L 🛑⬆️ High glucose suggests lindos activation, metabolic shifts from regeneration, or time-energy instability. 🛑⬇️ Low glucose suggests systemic metabolic failure, starvation, or hypoartronosis.

Lactate (Metabolic function, regeneration status)

🟢 Normal: 0.5 – 2.0 mmol/L 🛑⬆️ High lactate suggests metabolic distress, post-regeneration recovery, or artron dysregulation. 🛑⬇️ Low lactate suggests poor energy reserves or extreme starvation.

Troponin (Heart damage monitoring, dual-heart strain)

🟢 Normal: 0.01 – 0.15 ng/mL 🛑⬆️ High troponin suggests dual-heart strain, pre-regenerative cardiac failure, or bypass overuse.

NT-proBNP (Heart failure marker, circulation monitoring)

🟢 Normal: 0 – 500 pg/mL 🛑⬆️ Elevated levels indicate early-stage heart failure, one heart compensating for another, or cardiac stress.

Z-Cell Count (Immune response, infection monitoring)

🟢 Normal: 5,000 – 15,000 mcL 🛑⬆️ High Z-cell counts suggest active infection, systemic inflammation, or immune hyperactivation. 🛑⬇️ Low Z-cell counts indicate immunosuppression, chronic illness, or psionic burnout.

Artron Levels (Infection, healing, time-radiation exposure)

🟢 Normal: 500 – 4000 mcL (higher baseline in Time Lords) 🛑⬆️ 4000+ mcL suggests hyperartronosis (psionic overactivity, radiation exposure, tissue repair). 🛑⬇️ Below 500 mcL suggests hypoartronosis (immune suppression, tissue degeneration, metabolic failure).

Lindos Levels (Regeneration marker, biological restructuring)

🟢 Undetectable unless regenerating 🛑⬆️ Presence outside of regeneration suggests forced regeneration, internal instability, or pre-regenerative stress response.

Platelet & Clotting Factors (Haemostasis, stroke risk)

🟢 Normal: Variable based on individual regenerative state 🛑⬆️ Excess platelets suggest haemoinstability, aspirin poisoning, or embolism risk. 🛑⬇️ Low platelets indicate clotting failure, possible regenerative exhaustion, or internal bleeding risk.

📌 Key Takeaways for Bloodwork Interpretation

✔️ Z-Cells are elevated in Gallifreyan immune response.

✔️ Artron levels increase in infection, injury healing, and radiation exposure. Time Lords naturally have higher baseline artron levels than other Gallifreyans.

✔️ Lindos should only be present before, during, or after regeneration. Presence at other times is a major red flag.

✔️ Hyperartronosis and Hypoartronosis can cause severe neurological, metabolic, and cardiovascular consequences.

✔️ House-matching is essential for blood transfusions. Mismatched blood leads to systemic failure.

✔️ Clotting instability can cause multiple embolisms or stroke, requiring monitoring in cases of anticoagulant use or regenerative dysfunction.

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📚 Clinical Case Studies

Now you know absolutely everything about Gallifreyan bloodwork, you can apply them to some simple clinical scenarios. There are three fully explained case studies, followed by two additional scenarios for you to think about.

🩺 Case 1: Post-Regenerative Complications

📝 Patient Background & Presentation: Patient is a Time Lord, 918/3rd generation, Newblood. They present 10 hours post-regeneration with severe fatigue, dizziness, difficulty walking, and pallor. They complain of "feeling wrong in my own body."

🧪 Tests Ordered: Venous Blood Gas (VBG), Lactate levels, U&E (Electrolytes & Kidney Function), Liver Function Test (LFT), Artron & Lindos Levels

📊 Lab Results: - pH: 7.08 (⬇️Acidosis) - Lactate: 5.6 mmol/L (⬆️Elevated) - Sodium (Na⁺): 128 mmol/L (⬇️Low) - Potassium (K⁺): 3.1 mmol/L (⬇️Low) - Magnesium (Mg²⁺): 0.9 mmol/L (⬇️Low) - Lindos: 14,500 mcL (⬆️Very High) - Artron: 650 mcL (⬇️Low)

🩸 Interpretation: - The low artron levels and high lindos levels indicate post-regenerative instability, where metabolic processes have not fully stabilised following regeneration. - The elevated lactate and acidosis suggest impaired metabolic clearance, possibly due to lingering regenerative strain. - The electrolyte imbalances (low sodium, potassium, and magnesium) are contributing to the patient's dizziness, weakness, and fatigue.

💡 Diagnosis: Post-Regenerative Metabolic Instability with Hypoartronosis

🩺 Case 2: Time Travel Incident

📝 Patient Background & Presentation: Patient is a Time Lord scientist, 402/1st generation, Oldblood. They were admitted following a collapse mid-experiment after direct exposure to a raw time vortex rift. Unconscious upon arrival, GASS score rapidly deteriorating.

🧪 Tests Ordered: Venous Blood Gas (VBG), Lactate levels, Z-Cell Count, Artron & Lindos Levels, Liver Function Test (LFT)

📊 Lab Results - pH: 7.25 (⚖️Normal, slightly acidic) - Lactate: 4.3 mmol/L (⬆️Elevated) - Z-Cell Count: 13,800 mcL (⚖️Normal) - Artron: 8,900 mcL (⬆️Very High) - Lindos: <50 mcL (⚖️Normal) - ALT/AST: Slightly elevated (⬆️)

🩸 Interpretation: - Critically elevated artron levels suggest hyperartronosis due to raw time-energy exposure. This has led to neurological overload, explaining the collapse and psionic disturbances. - Elevated lactate suggests tissue stress and impaired metabolic clearance, likely due to the overload of artron. - Liver enzyme elevation indicates mild systemic strain but not full organ failure.

💡 Diagnosis: Acute Hyperartronosis Due to Uncontrolled Time-Energy Exposure

🩺 Case 3: Severe Cardiac Distress

📝 Patient Background & Presentation: Time Lord ambassador, 2752/7th generation, Oldblood. The patient was admitted with chest pain, dizziness, palpitations, and difficulty maintaining balance. Heart rhythms are synchronous.

🧪 Tests Ordered: Troponin, NT-proBNP (Heart failure marker), Venous Blood Gas (VBG), Z-Cell Count, Electrolytes (U&E)

📊 Lab Results - pH: 7.38 (⚖️Normal) - Troponin: 0.22 ng/mL (⬆️Elevated) - NT-proBNP: 710 pg/mL (⬆️High) - Z-Cell Count: 6,900 mcL (⚖️Normal) - Potassium (K⁺): 5.8 mmol/L (⬆️Elevated)

🩸 Interpretation & Diagnosis: - Elevated troponin and NT-proBNP levels confirm cardiac distress, likely due to strain on both hearts attempting to compensate for each other. - Elevated potassium suggests possible metabolic involvement contributing to electrical disturbances in heart function. - Synchronous heart rhythm and symptoms indicate a high risk of impending heart/s failure.

💡 Diagnosis: Severe Dual-Heart Strain with Electrical Instability

🤔 Self-Interpretation Cases

🩺 Case 4: Post-Surgery Issues

📝Patient Background & Presentation: Patient is a Time Lord, 1890/5th generation, Oldblood. An hour ago, they underwent surgery to correct a post-regenerative issue in limb attachment, which required anaesthesia and a blood transfusion. Since surgery, they have had a rapid deterioration, with confusion, severe fever, and difficulty breathing.

🧪 Tests Ordered: Venous Blood Gas, Z-Cell Count, Liver Function Test, Electrolytes (U&E), Artron Levels

📊 Lab Results: - pH: 7.02 (⬇️Severe Acidosis) - Lactate: 6.1 mmol/L (⬆️ Critically Elevated) - Z-Cell Count: 18,200 mcL (⬆️Hyperactivation) - Liver Enzymes: Critically elevated (⬆️) - Sodium (Na⁺): 121 mmol/L (⬇️Dangerously low) - Artron: 9,200 mcL (⬆️ Very high)

💡 Questions to Consider

What could be a potential cause/diagnosis?

What does the elevated Z-cell count indicate about the immune response?

How does House-specific transfusion compatibility play a role in this case?

Why are sodium levels dangerously low?

What does the combination of high artron and high lactate suggest about metabolic function?

🩺 Case 5: Accidental Aspirin Ingestion in a Gallifreyan

📝Patient Background & Presentation: Patient is a Gallifreyan, 612/2nd generation. They were found unresponsive after a trip to an Earth hospital to see a friend. They present with swollen extremities and face, severe nosebleeds, petechiae (tiny bruises), slurred speech, and tachycardia.

🧪 Tests Ordered: Venous Blood Gas, Platelet & Clotting Factors, Liver Function Test, Electrolytes, Z-Cell Count, Artron Levels

📊 Lab Results: - pH: 7.45 (⚖️Normal, slightly alkaline) - Platelet Count: 350% above baseline (⬆️Dangerously high) - Liver Enzymes: Moderately elevated (⬆️) - Potassium (K⁺): 3.0 mmol/L (⬇️Low) - Z-Cell Count: 22,400 mcL (⬆️ Severe immune response) - Artron: 5,700 mcL (⬆️ Elevated, systemic activation detected)

💡 Questions to Consider:

What could be a potential cause/diagnosis?

Why is platelet count dangerously high?

How does aspirin toxicity affect Gallifreyan haemostasis differently from humans?

Why are Z-cell and artron levels elevated at the same time?

How does the presence of left-side weakness and slurred speech relate to this case?

Medical Guides These are all practical guides to assessing and treating a Gallifreyan in an emergency or medical setting.

⚕️💕Gallifreyan CPR

⚕️👽Gallifreyan Assessment Scoring System (GASS)

⚕️👽ABCDE Assessment

⚕️⚠️Sepsis Emergency Response (SER)

⚕️⚠️Severe Trauma Protocol

⚕️🌡️Gallifreyan Thermoregulation and Emergency Response

⚕️🔮Psionic Emergency Pathways

⚕️✨Post-Regeneration Management

⚕️💤Gallifreyan Healing Coma Management

⚕️🩸Interpreting Gallifreyan Bloodwork

⚕️👶Gallifreyan Paediatric Emergencies

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[vsa-pieldepapel]

To give credit to suselle, while the writing might not end up being stellar, if it were to become canon it'd be an explicitly lesbian relationship in what's by all intents and purposes a mainstream game despite being indie developed. While the fans are a little annoying, that's still huge. Normalising a relationship between two girls for younger audiences is an amazing thing

(I don't disagree with your thoughts for the record. I'm just saying like. Suselle being canon might not be satisfactory for true susie appreciators but it'd be a net positive overall imo)

Man I’m not ~representationbrained~ enough to gaf about that lol. If you want a better done lesbian teenager relationship luz and amity owl house do that. Representation does not offset bland writing with flimsy bases and it feels almost patronizing to make the one relationship that is explicitly demonstrably homosexual inoffensive and lame and stagnant.

Alphys and Undyne are suselle but not shit, given at least there is the implication that undyne is aware of and considerate of alphys’ self esteem issues and suicidal tendencies, adding a layer of complexity and emotional intimacy and earnestness, and Undertale is similarly T rated.

My 1st priority is tell a good story. Rep is better when it’s backed by that rather than existing for the sake of existing. Ssa people want good stories too. That’s the reason why tumblrs woke jerkoff stories where everyone is queer trans demiflux polyamorous grey sexual with did and 3 sets of pronouns per character bio ultimately flop and have no audience. A compelling character will always defeat a maximum representationbrained one.

And like you say its a disservice to the character of susie and I will act smug and superior about it bc many people claim to love her but still clean up her harder edges, downplay her gnc and dysfunctional coping mechanisms, and are hostile to real women who share traits with her aka being rude, defensive, “masculine” which I know from firsthand experience … so like. What do I care what they think.

I (based and cultured) know in my heart kris is a very gnc female person who discovered bisexuality via a baby crush in Noelle and is potentially experiencing it again via Susie and lesbian krusie and lesbian kriselle OBLITERATE susienoelle from my bisexual woman perspective on what I want in yuri so. lol

[npd-confessions]

Greetings,

How does NPD generally work? What's the symptoms and criteria? What's your knowledge on Covert NPD? Are you aware what age it typically begins to develop and why?

/genq

Asking for research purposes and just to be more knowledgeable on the subject

Hi. I'm not exactly a psychologist or anything so apologies if my explanations are pretty meh.

I wouldn't know much if anything about Covert NPD because I have malignant NPD which is a different subtype.

But generally, NPD is a disorder that is characterised by intense grandiosity, an incredibly unstable self esteem, an inability to regulate one's sense of self, emotions, and ego, intense interpersonal problems (usually stemming from the normalisation of abusive communication tactics in the home, a lack of empathy, or issues surrounding hierarchical and black and white thinking), intense mood fluctuations (coloquially referred to as "narc highs" and "narc crashes," we tend to struggle with irritability and have problems with adapting to change and dealing with stress, and often suffer from social isolation and depressive states.

From what I've been told by the professionals I've worked with, NPD is largely suspected to be caused by genetic predisposition and trauma such as neglect, household dysfunction, physical, sexual, emotional or psychological abuse.

If you wanna see the criteria specifically, here:

A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements).

Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.

Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions).

Requires excessive admiration.

Has a sense of entitlement (i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations).

Is interpersonally exploitative (i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends).

Lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.

Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her.

Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes.

[lethroe]

Can we normalise having management as a goal for DID, CDD, OSDD, etc? Why do people act like integration is the only healthy goal for a disordered system?

What if I dont want to fix what isnt broken?

What if I dont want to live like it isnt my experience?

What if I dont want to hide it?

What if I want people to accept this form of neurodiversity as it is and not make me pretend its not there for their comfort?

Not all dissociative systems are dysfunctional and that doesn't take away from the dissociative systems that are. Your goal can be integration but why does mine HAVE to be for me to be valid.

[raamitsu-personal]

south korea really is that one country where it got people around the globe wondering whether majority of breathing living man in it were born/came from an unspoken dysfunctional family because their consistency in misogyny, extreme cruelty, deep hatred and disrespect towards women is terrifically beyond any human being’s comprehensible mind. the hellish audacity to say that any violence towards women should be allowed and normalised publicly? you know what? women should be allowed to have access to [any kind of] weapons and let them hang these soulless, heartless men’s head around the nation to signal an epidemic warning. I’d love [to support] that.

[bloggingboutburgers]

I really love your art and comics!

Can I ask you what made you like Bob's Burgers so much?

Thank you so much for the kind words!

I think the main thing that got to me about Bob's Burgers was that it was a broadly available adult animated comedy with a family where the family members ACTUALLY love each other for once - and back then that was kinda unheard of.

From the 90s onwards showing casually dysfunctional families where everyone is horrible to each other seemed to be the norm in animation, and it was rebellious and of its time back then but... By the time Bob's Burgers came around personally I'd gotten tired of the whole thing. My parents were a bit sucky at times, it felt like these series were just normalising the crappy behaviour they'd display as not a problem but a "funny haha" thing actually, and... Yeah not the vibe y'know? Meanwhile I grew really close to my siblings through shared hardship and the idea of family members sticking together for real through not-ideal situations was comforting to me.

So Bob's Burgers comes along with its "we're poor but we're happy" thing where the problems come from OUTSIDE the family rather than within, and if there ARE problems within, they come from human misunderstandings motivated by love? Yeah that was food for my heart. Ofc it helps that I got into the show back when S3 was out, and S3 imo was when the show really stopped trying to be every other adult animated comedy and decided to do away with the classic casual toxicity in order to just... Actually be kind. S1 and to a lesser extent S2 are much more awkward, aside from a couple actually good eps, and I tend not to go back to them as much as other seasons. But... Yeah that would be why

...I swear I was intent on making this short

[sisyphusunderthesun]

Hey man, I saw your post about all the hatred online for Hankcon, and I'm sorry to hear how negatively it impacts you. As a lurker in the fandom, I am so grateful to people like you for keeping the ship alive. If it's of any consolation, I think the people hating on the ship are usually very young people, or people with a really immature mindset. The internet these days is an incredibly toxic place, and that sort of behaviour is being normalised and encouraged for the younger generations by the most popular platforms for algorythm and engagement purposes. I don't think it's worth arguing with immature bad faith actors like them, and people with such a mindset have a poor understanding of seperating a fictional healthy age gap adult relationship from real life dysfunctional grooming of a minor. It's never fun to experience online hate, especially from a community that is supposed to bring you joy, but in my experience the healthiest way of coping is by simply ignoring their screeching and block them. It feels good not to steep down on their level. Obviously you should react in a way that works best for you, but I wanted to let you know that you don't deserve recieving hate or judgement for enjoying what you enjoy. Thanks for all your dope artwork! <3

I am really gratefull for this message. And it's true about the Internet, that was one of the reasons why I've been staying away from the social media for so many years despite the fact I've been on hankcon's side since the year the game came out. But I really wanted to share my love for hankcon and since my drawing skills improved within those years, I thought it would be nice to share my art too. I still hope that there is some good in people and that one day they will understand that our boys deserve nothing but love and comfort and happiness and that hating them makes no sense.

[maslows-pyramid-scheme]

I saw my former boss on the train last week. I wanted to catch up with him, but I couldn't for the life of me remember what his name was, just that his wife had said that he had a micropenis and erectile dysfunction not long before I quit... :/

Anyway, I know people have Problems that make it hard to navigate social situations, but I really wish we'd normalise a culture that expects people to at least TRY to learn appropriate boundaries.

[scumtrout]

The 'Simple Sabotage Manual' is wild to me because, when you're in a dysfunctional environment, everything already works like that.

“Haggle over precise wordings of communications, minutes, resolutions.” “‘Misunderstand’ orders. Ask endless questions or engage in long correspondence about such orders. Quibble over them when you can.” “In making work assignments, always sign out the unimportant jobs first. See that the important jobs are assigned to inefficient workers of poor machines.” “To lower morale and with it, production, be pleasant to inefficient workers; give them undeserved promotions. Discriminate against efficient workers; complain unjustly about their work.” “Hold conferences when there is more critical work to be done.” “Multiply paperwork in plausible ways.”

I... don't feel like I'd be off-base if I said the above was already normalised in a lot of white collar work. People don't need to try to sabotage things in order to make life awkward. They just have to be a bit obtuse when doing their day jobs and/or hate each other.

I suppose the convenient thing is that if someone did want to sabotage a workplace using the above techniques, then the general incompetence of the environment gives them a lot of plausible deniability, and yes, it is demoralizing and breeds a sort of nihilism in the people who might otherwise make an effort. But a lot of workplaces manage to tick over despite being bureaucratic hellholes full of people who barely communicate.

[frigid666]

Love your recent post on why some women are hostile to separatism btw, I’ve just got to find the time to respond because I have things I want to say!! But the key points are around:

Just because something is generally a good idea for women doesn’t mean it always the case or that it is feminist to do so and vice versa

I think the idea otherwise comes from the perception that “normalisation” is more central than material/systemic forces i.e. the idea women need therapy rather than revolution, or that therapy is the revolution

I have had a controlling male family member who had acted in abusive ways *and also had lower risk tolerance than me*. He tried to e.g. physically prevent me from leaving at night for a walk because it was “unsafe”. I am very resistant to the idea that women don’t get to make their own decisions about how much risk they are prepared to accept.

This also ties in with how much I dislike the “are you calling your female ancestors who were abused stupid” line. I think when my nana was dating excons she knew that that was a higher risk decision actually. No, I don’t think it was stupidity. My abused female ancestors aren’t theoreticals - I come from a long line of family dysfunction but we actually talk about these things!

As you can see, I have a lot to say

are you calling your female ancestors who were abused stupid

this !! i agree with everything u said, but this popular talking point on radblr bothers me specifically. its so annoying that strangers on the internet feel the audacity to speak on behalf of a woman's female ancestors, what they would and wouldn't want. like, actually, i know for a fact my female ancestors would NOT want me to date a woman because they were all standard mexican roman catholics who would think it's a sin. that won't stop me, if i find a woman i love and want to be with, i will defy their wishes, and assume they are too close minded to appreciate the love i could have with a female partner. equally, they would be displeased if i remained single by choice. why do radblr users automatically assume women from the past would be a-ok with separatism and f/f relationships over being with a man?

on the other hand, i know for a fact that they would be thrilled if they knew a female descendent of theirs enjoyed a loving relationship with a man, given the sheer misery they experienced in their relationships. so like, it's not about thinking id be smarter than them if i chose to be with a man. it's just that i have way more material protections/rights than they did. my paternal grandmother was married off by her abusive parents in an arranged marriage; she had no money of her own, no access to education, birth control or protection against the physical and mental abuse my grandfather inflicted on her. she had nine pregnancies total, five of which reached adulthood. all of the women in my family are from one of the poorest states in mexico. they enjoyed none of rights i have right now. they did not know anything about feminism because it was inaccessible to them; they had neither higher education or access to the internet. their families left them alone with their new families that they had married into; no support from them to fall back on. objectively, it is far, far safer for me to be in a relationship with a man than it was for them. recognizing i have more advantages that would make pursuing relationships with men less a dangerous for me than my female ancestors had is not calling them stupid. a lot of separatists want us to just ignore the gains feminism has procured for women for the sake of encouraging female celibacy. normie women would not accept their talking points. for them to do so, they'd have to deny their own experiences and reality, which would end up with them feeling manipulated or gaslit. and is that really an effective way to bring them to the movement?

randoms on the internet need to stop acting like they know another woman's ancestors' wishes better than she does. this is just a larger aspect of why so many women, including rad-aligned women, are so annoyed with separatists. behaving with a lot of self-righteousness and attempting to gaslight women about their own families and interests is never going to go over well. they need to stop insulting other women's intelligence.