#or those who engage with flag/sexuality discourse

[alyosita]

actually, now that i've had time to think about it and actually discuss it w people i know irl, i guess i align myself as pro-fiction?

no, i don't condone crimes and sexual assault. i'm just saying i'm extremely anti-censorship and dead dove: do not eat media has every right to exist. ain't it just stupid to argue about niche fandom bullshit like this..........there is Life outside your phone........just block and move on regardless of how morally fucked up the content is

[unsolicited-opinions]

this is a genuine question: why do you think the queer community is so bad when it comes to the antisemitism and even the overt Hamas support? I can’t figure it out at all. Jews have always been a huge part of and even pioneers in the community. now we’re banned and harassed and unsafe. I see a pride flag online these days and feel terror because I expect a watermelon or red triangle to be right next to it, it’s happened so often. I’d feel safer in a church than at a pride event. why do they hate us so much now? even those of us who are also part of that community?

I've been trying to figure that out, too.

I was pretty sure that the origin was in postmodern academia, but I didn't know much more.

I have never formally engaged with Queer Studies, nor with Gender and Sexuality Studies,so I had no idea where to start.

Someone on #jumblr (I regret that I don't recall who) pointed out this collection of essays, Poisoning the Wells: Antisemitism in Contemporary America.

Chapter 2 is "Pinkwashing Antisemitism: The Origins of Queer Anti-Israeli Discourse by Dr. R. Amy Elman.

I'm way outside my wheelhouse here, despite holding a degree in one of the social sciences.[1]

I'm going to try to summarize this in a way which is shorter and more digestible than reading the whole thing, but there's a link to the whole thing at the bottom of this Very Long Post.

Disclaimers:

1. Acknowledging the depth of my ignorance:

I don't have the contextual knowledge to know with confidence if this is an intellectually honest argument, or even if the history is fairly presented. If anyone on Jumblr has more experience studying this topic, I'd sure welcome their thoughts.

2. A note to LGBTQ+ readers on "queer":

I understand that some in the LGBTQ+ community don't care for the term "queer," and some regard it as a slur. I have tried, for this reason, to cease using this word in my daily life. Below, I'm going to use the word "queer" a lot here, however, because Elman does and the scholars she discusses do. If you're among those who dislike this term or find it hurtful, I hope that you will not see my doing so as a slur or an insult

3. My editorial comments are in blue.

4. This is long. Not as long as the article itself, but long for Tumblr. You are forewarned.

Got a coffee or an energy drink?

Continue below the break:

Elman says the increasing appeal of queer politics was for specifically millennials, and the BDS movement actively pursued a "queer" plank to broaden its appeal.

This tracks.

She says that Leaders from both movements saw a potential for synergy, with some suggesting queers could transform BDS from a "vanguard movement" to a "popular" movement.

Elman gives a history of the "Queer Movement" in which she argues its adherents are particularly susceptible to BDS's "pinkwashing" accusations.

She says:

- "Queer" is an intentionally broad, deliberately ambiguous term encompassing various sexual and gender minorities who reject traditional LGBT politics as conservative.

- The queer movement emerged in the late 1980s and early 1990s in opposition to both neo-liberalism and feminists who critiqued sadomasochism (S/M) and the sex industry.

- This opposition to feminist critiques of the eroticization of inequality, says Elman, is a crucial factor in understanding queer politics' susceptibility to antisemitism.

- Elman says early queer activists prioritized passion over reason, making them potentially vulnerable to harmful ideologies.

The Feminist Sex Wars

- There was conflict, says Elman, between lesbian feminists and proponents of S/M, arguing that the increasing acceptance of S/M within the lesbian community weakened its ability to resist fascist values.

I don't see the need to politicize whatever one enjoys in private as long as it is safe, sane, and consensual, but okay.

- Elman draws a parallel between the eroticization of fascism in the past (referencing Susan Sontag and Sheila Jeffreys' concerns about Nazi aesthetics in queer subcultures) and the current uncritical embrace of certain radical ideologies.

- Elman says the embrace of "outlaw" identities and the downplaying of the harmful implications of S/M practices (including the use of fascist symbols for parodic purposes) are problematic trends within queer politics.

Which made me think of seeing Queers for Palestine protestors calling Jews "Nazis" and combining the swastika with the mogen David.

- Elman argues that the rise of queer politics led to the silencing and marginalization of lesbian feminists who focused on women's rights and opposed the industrialization of sexuality and S/M.

Like Andrea Dworkin?

- Elman says Queer Theorists have dismissive attitudes towards lesbian feminist concerns and that the once-flourishing spaces and intellectual contributions of lesbian feminists were diminished within the broader "queer" coalition.

As a cishet man, I had thought the broadening of the movement, the addition of each letter in LGBTQ+, gave all parts of it more strength, but it seems obvious to me now that lesbian concerns aren't always the same (and may not be aligned with) gay men's concerns, enby concerns, trans concerns, etc.

I can see how being subsumed by a larger movement could dampen the voices of its different component populations and diminish the perceivability of the points on which they don't agree.

Judith Butler features prominently here.

- Elman seems to say Butler's nuanced stance on her lesbian identity is rather different from her non-nuanced Jewish identity, and it is "as a Jew" that she declares her anti-Zionism.

...in 1989, [Butler] was asked to provide a lesbian lecture and responded that she would rather describe herself as "being" homosexual because identifying as lesbian felt "neither true nor false." Yet, she demonstrates no similar reluctance to claim a Jewish identity years later. To the contrary, it is "as a Jew" that she condemns Israel and vows to develop a Jewish opposition to Zionism.

A decade after Butler vacillated over being lesbian, she similarly described her nearly two-decade-long relationship to S/M discourse as "active and complicated," a position in keeping with the tenor of her fourth book, The Psychic Life of Power. In it, Butler speaks of her "paradoxical" embrace of "injurious" names because they "constitute" her "socially."

Huh. Jewish identity without nuance? I'm not sure I've ever seen that...?

- Elman says Butler's engagement with S/M discourse and her concept of erotically embracing oppressive power structures are linked to the potential eroticization of antisemitism and the demonization of Israel.

As Martha Nussbaum explains, the central thesis of The Psychic Life of Power is that “we all eroticize the power structures that oppress us, and can thus find sexual pleasure only within their confines.”

If Nussbaum is correct, there may be no better explanation for the ongoing eroticization of antisemitism and the demonization of Israel.

So concerned was Nussbaum by Butler’s influence on American women’s studies programs in the 1990s that she concluded,

"There is despair at the heart of the cheerful Butlerian enterprise. The big hope, the hope for a world of real justice, where laws and institutions protect the equality and the dignity of all citizens, has been banished, even perhaps mocked as sexually tedious. Judith Butler’s hip quietism is a comprehensible response to the difficulty of realizing justice in America. But it is a bad response. It collaborates with evil. Feminism demands more and women deserve better."

"Hip quietism" makes me want to read more Nussbaum.

Butler was chair of the International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission (later renamed Outright First)...which was a UN recognized organzation. While the name might cause the casual observer to to think it would focus on gays and lesbians, it has seemed to focus on Israel.

Outright First claims it advances LGBT rights through awards consistent with its agenda, yet the first of these was not made until 2005, fifteen years after its founding and the same year that BDS was ostensibly established.

That year, the organization honored Mary Robinson, who decriminalized homosexuality as Ireland’s first woman president (from 1990-1997).

Robinson also served as the UN’s first woman High Commissioner for Human Rights and, in this capacity, Robinson oversaw the 2001 UN World Conference against Racism, Xenophobia and Related Intolerance in Durban, South Africa.

Despite the conference’s noble rhetoric, the antisemitism that it manifest led Robinson to resign in disgrace.

It was in Durban that “anti-racist” organizers revived the scurrilous Soviet charge from decades earlier that Zionism is a form of racism and Israel is an apartheid state. Although Robinson called these allegations inappropriate and unacceptable, she did not reject the conference’s final declaration that contained them.

Ach. The feckin' Irish again.

...in 2008, Desmond Tutu became the second recipient of the organization’s “Outspoken” Award. Tutu, a Nobel prize winning anti-apartheid activist, is also an outspoken critic of Israel for “practicing apartheid” in its policies against the Palestinians. While he too condemned bigotry against gay men and lesbians, like Robinson, Tutu may be better known for his opposition to Israel than for any long-standing and deep defense of LGBT rights. Thus, one wonders whether the “critical partnerships” Outright First fostered were less those that promoted the world’s LGBT communities than those that helped legitimize anti-Israel activism.

This example, it seems to me, is a more appropriate illustration of “pinkwashing”:

that is, pinkwashing may be less about bolstering Israel’s reputation than providing Israel’s sworn enemies a seemingly progressive mask behind which to conceal their animus.

Pinkwashing, Triangles, and Softcore Holocaust Denial

The term "pinkwashing" initially referred to corporate profiteering from pink-themed breast cancer awareness campaigns.

Elman contrasts this with the reclamation of the pink triangle by gay activists as a symbol of defiance after the Stonewall riots, noting that this is a "disturbing" appropriation of a Nazi symbol.

Years before American corporate executives bolstered sales through gender-conforming pink promotionals to women, American gay male activists openly embraced pink to signify their gendered defiance after the Stonewall riots of 1969.

This political reclamation manifested itself in their adoption of the pink triangle Nazis used to denote and facilitate the destruction of those men they identified as homosexual. That this exclusively male Nazi symbol came to signify LGBT rights is disturbing and reveals a movement that, whether through ignorance or choice, embraced a fascist aesthetic

Is that fair? The idea of reclaiming is to take the symbol away from the oppressor and redefine it, right?

ACT UP's use of the pink triangle and its analogies between the AIDS crisis and the Holocaust are presented as examples of "softcore" Holocaust denial that paved the way for later strained comparisons.

By 1987, the Nazi pink symbol gained American prominence when the AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power (ACT UP) used it for its logo, which also read “Silence Equals Death.”

Founded by Larry Kramer, ACT UP’s mission involved combating the public’s indifference to “the AIDS Holocaust.” Equating the epidemic with Jewish genocide, ACT UP’s gay pride float that year depicted a concentration camp within which activists posed behind barbed wire. Kramer’s book, Reports from the Holocaust: The Making of an AIDS Activist, further popularized this agitprop and the pink triangle marked its cover. As the HIV death toll mounted across the globe, ACT UP’s rhetoric and the Nazi triangle became internationally ubiquitous

So Elman believes this was softcore Holocaust denial through universalization/appropriation by the queer movement.

Holocaust images...absent the Jews. We see a lot of that on social media from the LGBTQ+ community right now.

BDS and "pinkwashing"

Sarah Schulman, an ACT UP alum, was as a key figure in popularizing the "pinkwashing" accusation against Israel. Here's an inside look at how that happened:

And here's Schulman's 2011 NYT piece:

If you need to get past the paywall, use this link.

Schulman's argument is that Israel's promotion of its LGBTQ+ rights is a cynical tactic to conceal human rights violations against Palestinians.

It couldn't be a natural outcome of an electorate with a majority which is socially liberal enough to not want to persecute their LGBTQ+ family members? Why not?

Oh, it's because Jews are sneaky and devious /s

Elman critiques Schulman's anti-racist pretense, arguing it invisibilizes Israel's diverse population and misrepresents the motivations behind Israel's LGBTQ+ initiatives.

The investment in Tel Aviv as a gay vacation destination is acknowledged, but its negative framing by BDS as "pinkwashing," says Elman, creates not just an entry point for antisemitism, but also a permission structure.

Soon "pinkwashing" took on a different meaning from the one intended by the women who originally coined it.

When applied by "pinkwatchers" whose sights are trained exclusively on Israel, the accusation became an entry point for antisemitism.

According to Wikipedia, it now describes "a variety of marketing and political strategies aimed at promoting products, countries, people or entities through an appeal to gay-friendliness in order to be perceived as progressive, modern and tolerant."

As Cary Nelson observed, "the pinkwashing accusation gives license" to condemn Israel, while discounting all of its achievements (e.g. legal protection against sexual orientation discrimination, recognition of same sex marriages, joint adoption, and open military service) without any reservation.

Want to know the first thing Sarah Schulman posted to Twitter on 10/7/23?

Here's Canary Mission's page about Schulman.

Elman continues:

There may be no better way to simultaneously encourage antisemitism and dismiss Israel’s LGBT initiatives (whatever their shortcomings) than to insist those efforts undermine the rights of Palestinians.

Were it not for BDS double-speak, Schulman could not maintain that she “never” betrayed queer people, despite her having acted in “solidarity” with “presumably straight Palestinians” to oppose Israel’s LGBT community.

Like countless other “queers” who take “pride” in being “ashamed” Jews, she received political “guidance” from “presumably straight” folks like Omar Barghouti, the purported founder of BDS.

Known for his explicit desire to “euthanize” the “Zionist project” and his vocal opposition to the two-state solution, Barghouti insists that not even “the end of occupation” will end his struggle.

Elman wraps up:

Like “Islamophobia,” “pinkwashing” and its corollary “homonationalism” are accusations often employed to silence critics while simultaneously providing those who issue them the appearance of being concerned about LGBT people and other minorities. Yet, this posturing offers little in return.

In fact, these denunciations are in keeping with the Organisation of Islamic Cooperation’s longstanding assault on homosexual conduct, gender equality, and universal human rights at myriad UN fora under the insidious cover of anti-racism and anti-imperialism.

You can grab a PDF of the whole book here.

That BDS similarly promotes itself through the cynical appropriation of social movements and ostensibly progressive claims that vilify the Jewish state represents a consummate act of public diplomacy in which anti-semitism itself has been pinkwashed.

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[1] I agree with Neil Postman that the social sciences would more accurately be called moral theologies...and are not sciences.

You can read more about Postman's point here if you want to know what I mean by that..

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EROGENIC

WARNING: THIS TERM IS SOMEWHAT SUGGESTIVE AND INTENDED FOR (BODILY) 18+ USERS. Read below the cut at your own risk.

Erogenic - A term for one who wishes to have erogenous zones not found on the human body, or sees their ideal body or inner self as having them. Intended for use by nonhumans, alterhumans, and/or transspecies folks who desire to have these parts and may try to find a way to replicate them to affirm their identity, but it is not exclusive to these groups.

Erogenic individuals may feel dysphoria around the body part(s) they identify with wanting/having, and it may affect or be tied to one’s gender and sexuality.

Inspired by aldernic and altersex/xenosex terms; can be used alongside them or as its own label depending on one’s preferences and personal identity. Not intended for radqueers and those with harmful transIDs.

You are welcome to coin your own terms under this label system, and make alt flags!!!

EXAMPLES OF MORE SPECIFIC LABELS (will make their own posts):

EROWINGSIC (or WINGS EROGENIC):

A term for one who wishes to have wings that function as erogenous zones, or sees their ideal body or inner self as having them.

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EROHORNSIC (or HORNS EROGENIC):

A term for one who wishes to have horns that function as erogenous zones, or sees their ideal body or inner self as having them.

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EROWIRESIC (or WIRES EROGENIC):

A term for one who wishes to have wires (or similar internal mechanical workings) that function as erogenous zones, or sees their ideal body or inner self as having them.

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[legallybrunettedotcom]

the funny thing about those posts about how no one on tumblr fucks/goes out or whatever is that they always read as like super try hard. theres just something so 13 year old-y about coming onto tumblr.com, logging into your fandom blog and being like "omg you losers don't fuck hard and nasty and Smoke Drugs like I do!! only cool people who fuck watch super fucked up tv shows like ME, the guy who watches nbc Hannibal!", like wow ok you're super cool babe i bet you've never watched an episode of bluey, you're soooo edgy, you wanna take me back to yours and we can watch your super fucked up irredeemable shows that only horny chads with fat hogs like you could ever possibly understand (succession).

it's like hanging out with someone who just started smoking weed and is still being really annoying about it. i think some of those people's brains would explode if they realised that out there there's a bluey watching, our flag means death fan, piccrew profile picture, hamilton quoting disney adult who is having crazier kinkier sex than they can even imagine

lmaoooo right?? those polls and reactions they produced were soooo immature. i actually couldn't believe the way people were acting. like people in their 20s saying oh you don't fuck? LOSER !!! tumblr has become a bit of a stage for those who want to live out their mean girls fantasy. i don't think anyone should be forced to talk about their sexual experiences or lack of them, or just sex in general, but also don't think those same people should be acting like it's some unnatural and weird act and people who have sex and discuss it are nymphomaniac freaks and those discussions are gonna hurt their poor little innocent soul, they're all such babies and so clueless waaaah. and regarding media, shows and movies you mention, it's like one second we were talking about media literacy and the state of art today, unwillingness to engage with something more challenging and the next one it's like how do i turn this into a chad vs virgin battle. honestly i've been mostly ignoring all of this discourse. it was like a sign every day that made me go ok time to log off.

[binhwantstoeatoreo]

Week 5: What is Digital Citizenship? Hashtag Publics, Political Engagement and Activism.

Digital Citizenship and the Inequalities of Intersectionality

Just in the first month of 2025, a new guildeline from Meta is now allow users to call someone is mentally ill based on their sexuality or gender identity (Lavietes, 2025). This raises a question—while digital spaces are often idealized as equal platforms for all voices, who ultimately dictates the terms of digital citizenship, and whose presence is systematically undermined or rendered disposable within these power structures?

In today's hyper-digital world, being online isn’t just about scrolling, liking, or posting anymore—it’s about how we exist in these spaces. Digital citizenship goes far beyond using technology; it’s about navigating online platforms responsibly, engaging in activism, and understanding the hidden forces shaping our digital experiences. On the flip side, our online lives aren’t as free and fair as we might think. Algorithms, platform rules, and systemic biases don’t affect everyone equally, often deepening the struggles of marginalized communities.

Key Themes of Digital Citizenship

Social media has revolutionized activism, turning hashtags into global movements and giving individuals the power to challenge institutions from their screens (Bruns & Stieglitz, 2013). Movements like #MeToo, #BlackLivesMatter and #ShoutYourAbortion are proof of how digital platforms can mobilize millions, amplify marginalized voices, and spark real-world change. The speed and reach of social media have made it a crucial tool for raising awareness, organizing protests, and holding those in power accountable.

However, the same platforms that empower also expose users—especially those from marginalized communities—to significant risks. Online harassment, doxxing, and targeted attacks are rampant, often silencing the very voices these movements aim to uplift (McCosker et al., 2016, p. 3). Algorithmic suppression further complicates matters, as platform algorithms prioritize engagement over equity, sometimes burying activist content in favor of more advertiser-friendly material.

The process of platformization—where social media companies act as gatekeepers of political and economic influence—adds another layer of complexity (Duffy et al., 2019). These platforms shape what is visible and what remains in the shadows, subtly reinforcing power structures that activists seek to dismantle. This influence is especially evident in political engagement; digital campaigns and targeted ads have transformed election landscapes, sometimes manipulating public opinion through misinformation and algorithm-driven content distribution (Vromen, 2020, p.5).

Moreover, biased moderation policies disproportionately impact marginalized users. Cobbe (2020) indicate that algorithms disproportionately flag and remove content from marginalized groups, limiting their ability to engage in public discourse. At the same time, hate speech and misinformation frequently evade moderation, as harmful content often slips through algorithmic gaps (Walters, 2022). Policy changes, such as Meta’s decision to remove fact-checking in favor of user-moderated "community notes," further raise concerns over the unchecked spread of misinformation (Booth, 2025). This issue extends beyond Western platforms, as seen in China, where feminist social media accounts are frequently suspended for discussing women’s rights (PEN America, 2024). As digital spaces continue to shape public discourse, addressing these biases is crucial to ensuring equitable participation in online activism.

As the above creator on TikTok discussed, that the platform's algorithm system tend to shadow banned specific contents or creators based on their skin color (@theeglamnaija, 2022).

While social media remains a vital tool for advocacy, its structural limitations remind us that digital activism must go beyond the screen. Real-world action, policy change, and continued resistance against digital inequalities are essential to ensure that activism isn’t just seen—but heard and acted upon.

Intersectionality in Digital Citizenship

Choi and Cristol (2021) introduce an intersectional approach to digital citizenship, emphasizing participatory democracy. Their research highlights how systemic inequalities rooted in race, gender, and sexuality shape digital experiences. While digital activism has empowered many, disparities in online safety and representation persist. To demonstrate, the Black Lives Matter movement has effectively utilized social media to mobilize support, however, Black activists frequently encounter higher levels of online harassment compared to their white counterparts (Lee et al., 2024). Many Black individuals often experience more significant decreases in functioning and increases in negative emotions due to online interactions than white individuals (Marshall et al., 2022).

Onwuachi-Willig (2018, p. 106) highlights how the #MeToo movement on social media, originally founded by a female Black activist named Tarana Burke, has been largely credited to a white woman—Alyssa Milano, reflecting a broader pattern of erasure within mainstream feminism. This exemplifies how feminists of color, particularly Black women, are continuously marginalized and excluded from the very movements they help build on digital spaces. Additionally, Black feminists have reported facing more harassment and erasure online compared to white women (Model View Culture, 2015).

This disparity highlights the unique challenges Black activists face in digital spaces, where their efforts to advocate for justice are often met with disproportionate hostility.

McCosker (2016) examines how cyber safety measures prioritize mainstream users while neglecting the unique vulnerabilities of marginalized groups. Policies often fail to address specific threats against queer people of color (QPOC), who experience racialized homophobia and transphobia. While McCosker critiques these regulatory failures, Noble (2018) warns that increased moderation can also silence marginalized voices. This tension underscores the need for community-led governance and algorithmic audits that detect and correct biases.

The Unequal Cyber Experience for Queer People of Color

Despite digital spaces being hailed as inclusive for LGBTQ+ youth when they spend an average of five hours per day online, approximately 45 minutes more than their non-LGBTQ peers (GLSEN, 2013), QPOC still have to face heightened risks compared to white queer individuals, as they are more likely to be exposed to racism, which can negatively impact their mental health (The Trevor Project, 2024).

Social media algorithms often fail to detect nuanced racial and homophobic slurs, allowing targeted harassment while suppressing discussions on racial and queer oppression. Platforms like Instagram and TikTok have been criticized for shadowbanning Black LGBTQ+ creators, limiting their reach while white queer influencers face fewer restrictions (Delmonaco et al., 2024). Twitter has been slow to address racialized harassment, leaving many QPOC users vulnerable (Sircar, 2024). YouTube disproportionately demonetizes QPOC content, flagging intersectional discussions as "not advertiser-friendly" (Romano, 2019). Instagram also blocked LGBTQ-related hashtags for teens (#gay, #trans, #lesbian, #bisexual, etc.), limiting access to crucial support networks (Lorenz, 2025). If digital spaces are to truly foster responsible and inclusive digital citizenship, platforms must address these structural inequalities in content moderation.

Final thoughts: Moving Forward: Inclusive Digital Citizenship

To foster a truly inclusive digital space, digital citizenship must adopt a critical approach that acknowledges the challenges faced by marginalized communities. Policymakers and platform developers must address biases in content moderation and algorithmic design. Additionally, digital literacy programs should incorporate intersectionality, ensuring that young QPOC feel empowered and safe online.

While digital platforms provide powerful tools for activism and self-expression, they must also be held accountable for perpetuating systemic inequities. Digital citizenship should not only emphasize responsible technology use but also advocate for structural changes that create equitable online environments. This includes better reporting systems, transparency in algorithmic decision-making, and amplifying QPOC voices in digital policy discussions.

Moreover, fostering inclusive digital citizenship requires collaboration between tech companies, educators, policymakers, and online communities. Social media platforms should invest in anti-bias training for content moderators and implement clear policies that protect marginalized users from targeted harassment. Online communities can also play a crucial role in advocating for fairer policies, amplifying QPOC voices, and holding platforms accountable through digital activism.

Ultimately, digital citizenship should dismantle digital barriers rather than reinforce them. The fight for a more inclusive cyberspace is ongoing, and ensuring that queer people of color feel safe and valued in online communities is a necessary step toward true digital equity.

References:

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Booth, R. (2025, January 7). Ditching of Facebook factcheckers a “major step back” for public discourse, critics say. The Guardian; The Guardian. https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2025/jan/07/ditching-facebook-factcheckers-major-step-back-public-discourse

Bruns, A., & Stieglitz, S. (2013). Towards more systematicTwitteranalysis: metrics for tweeting activities. International Journal of Social Research Methodology, 16(2), 91–108. https://doi.org/10.1080/13645579.2012.756095

Choi, M., & Cristol, D. (2021). Digital Citizenship with Intersectionality Lens: Towards Participatory Democracy Driven Digital Citizenship Education. Theory into Practice, 60(4), 361–370. https://doi.org/10.1080/00405841.2021.1987094

Cobbe, J. (2020). Algorithmic Censorship by Social Platforms: Power and Resistance. Philosophy & Technology, 34, 739–766. https://doi.org/10.1007/s13347-020-00429-0

Delmonaco, D., Mayworm, S., Thach, H., Guberman, J., Augusta, A., & Haimson, O. L. (2024). “What are you doing, TikTok” : How Marginalized Social Media Users Perceive, Theorize, and “Prove” Shadowbanning. Deep Blue (University of Michigan). https://doi.org/10.1145/3637431

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Lavietes, M. (2025, January 7). Meta’s new hate speech rules allow users to call LGBTQ people mentally ill. NBC News. https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/social-media/meta-new-hate-speech-rules-allow-users-call-lgbtq-people-mentally-ill-rcna186700

Lee, C., Gligorić, K., Kalluri, P. R., Harrington, M., Durmus, E., Sanchez, K. L., San, N., Tse, D., Zhao, X., Hamedani, M. G., Markus, H. R., Jurafsky, D., & Eberhardt, J. L. (2024). People who share encounters with racism are silenced online by humans and machines, but a guideline-reframing intervention holds promise. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 121(38). https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.2322764121

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McCosker, A., Vivienne, S., & Johns, A. (2016, October 12). Negotiating Digital Citizenship: Control, Contest, Culture. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/312491876_Negotiating_Digital_Citizenship_Control_Contest_Culture

Model View Culture. (2015). The State of Online Harassment: Decentering Whiteness and Colonization. Model View Culture. https://modelviewculture.com/pieces/the-state-of-online-harassment-decentering-whiteness-and-colonization

Noble, S. U. (2018). Algorithms of Oppression. NYU Press. https://doi.org/10.2307/j.ctt1pwt9w5

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PEN America. (2024, July 12). China: Suspension of Feminist Social Media Another Example of “Zero Tolerance.” PEN America. https://pen.org/press-release/china-suspension-feminist-social-media-another-example-zero-tolerance/

Romano, A. (2019, October 10). YouTubers claim the site systematically demonetizes LGBTQ content. Vox; Vox. https://www.vox.com/culture/2019/10/10/20893258/youtube-lgbtq-censorship-demonetization-nerd-city-algorithm-report

Sircar, A. (2024, October 18). X’s Latest Content Findings Reveal Troubling Trends In AI Moderation. Forbes. https://www.forbes.com/sites/anishasircar/2024/10/18/xs-latest-content-findings-reveal-troubling-trends-in-ai-moderation

The Trevor Project. (2024, July 31). LGBTQ Young People of Color in Online Spaces. The Trevor Project. https://www.thetrevorproject.org/research-briefs/lgbtq-young-people-of-color-in-online-spaces-jul-2023/

Vromen, A. (2020). Digital citizenship and political engagement: the challenge from online political campaigning and advocacy organizations. Information, Communication & Society, 1–7. https://doi.org/10.1080/1369118x.2020.1726987

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[mybodymylifemyidentity]

My blog does not promote harm to others! I value the tumblr guidelines and follow them, if you do not, please go away -_-

I cant give you transition tips. I am not a doctor or a therapist or any of that! That is not what this blog is for.

My stance on controversial topics is dictated by who follows or reblogs from me. thats a crazy thing to assume? anyone can reblog my stuff, that doesnt mean i agree with them or disagree with them.

This blog is not the place for sexual things, sorry. and no discourse in general either. i mean it.

I have no "Do not interact", please just be kind. If you are unkind, i will block you. I will not engage with you. I wouldnt publish any askbox hate. I only ask that if you are bigoted against someone's trans identity, you ask yourself if you are repeating the exact same transphobia you dislike in other places, and if you are just disgusted/afraid of new things, VS actually effected.

this blog is not under the radqueer label, not because of "agreeing or disagreeing" but because that is just not the subject of the blog. i am not pro radqueer or anti radqueer. that is not the subject of this blog.

it's not my fault or responsibility if other people do things. insane the kind of things you have to say these days. effing obviously!

(i post on queue)

The art on this blog is ok to use if you use it nicely. Just be a kind person. You dont have to credit it if youre just using as a reaction image and that kind of thing. I would prefer if you dont use my artwork in a hateful way, but i cant control you, but if you see people edit my artwork to be hateful, please do not engage. many of the people who may edit my stuff to be hateful or upsetting to you are going to be trolls, so just dont interact with them? dont feed the trolls -_-. if they edit hateful flags and stuff on my art, being bigoted is already enough punishment, they live a sad enough life already, so dont try to punish them "for" me. i dont want anyone to be rude anyways, and if you attack others "for" me, you make me mad at you. every time you see hate, try to make a positive post! every time you see bigotry, make a kind post towards that group. if someone uses my artwork to be transphobic and you see it, spread more kindness in those spaces / in your community. uplifting eachother is so much more important than "counter attacking" random internet strangers. If someone makes you mad, block them.

This blog focuses mostly on wide label general transids. i wont do microlabel drawings, sorry. I /might/ do general but specific identity flag things. (EX: transgender -> transmasc -> transmasc gender flag that is microlabel.) this isnt because i "dont like microlabels" or something, but because it would be exhausting.

Due to this, I do not do sexuality or paraphile content either. This is a trans blog, sorry. (SO no "can you do this with the gay flag?" or "can you do this with the objectophile flag?" sorry, i wont do it. you can of course be inspired by me and do it yourself though!)

"Can i trace or edit your artwork?" sure, whatever. i prefer a @ or at least my url mentioned somewhere if youre too shy to @ but i dont really care.

"Can we be friends?" probably not. i mean this in the nicest way possible! i love everyone on earth, but we dont know eachother. i love seeing people share kindness and love and i want to share kindness and love with you, but unless you naturally meet me in a server somewhere (im not really in any) im not really going to have a talk with you or anything, im not a big talker anyways. we can be kind to eachother and whatever but... idk you and im not here to make friends as much as i am to make our communities share the love.

"may i draw characters you design on here? " of course! they belong to the community! you can headcanon them, ship them, ect all whatever!

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I take request!

I do:

reaction gifs/pics /emojis

design a wolf for a identity and flag

reaction images / gifs based off other images (old deviantart PLZ and thinsg like it, and rage meme faces are my favorite.)

Art of the designs i make on this blog (if you ship them, want reaction images specifically, etc. basically the above ^ but with those designs instead of blank wolves.)

maybe more later :3 idk

I only draw canines or MAYBE felines. Soz thats just how it is. i am a certified wolfaboo

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I do the following flags automatically / as default:

transid

transgender

transracial

transpecies

transabled

transage

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List of existing character designs:

None yet!

[dumbdomb]

Read my pinned post BEFORE you interact: like, reblog, reply, dm, ask, or follow. Must be over eighteen years of age to interact. 18+ only. You do not have my consent to "Like" this post without reading my pinned first. MDNI.

this is just to further inform my own followers of the misinformation being spread by conservative, smurfetteskater.

this conservative is falsely accusing the creators of the original pride flag made in 1978 of being associated with nambla. it's true that david thorstad was part of gay activism during this time and moved on to sexual liberation for pederasts. he was also very gender critical, btw. but he did not collaborate on the pride flag.

lynn segerblom, james mcnamara, and gilbert baker created and designed the original pride flag. rainbow flags have a history of inclusion, and this intention was part of the reason for it being used during a very political time in gay civil rights history. as you know, this march lead to the white night riots after the killing of then supervisor, harvey milk. (on his wiki page, you can read about his response on the brigg's initiative. also, this was all happening in the 70s with Jonestown going on and all... yikes.)

anyway, this is why i don't like people from r/eddit on my blog. it's always users with connections and information from 4/8ch4n and l0lc0w and generally iv> (i veer right, as in right leaning politics) conservatives here to recruit and spread misinformation and hatred.

i'm not here to argue or tell those people off, i'm not a discourse blog. that's why i never joined twtter. i hate that this site, which has primarily been geeks, girls, and gays from the early karp days has been actively marketing to get more signups from the very people who drove many users off of the site in the first place. to my followers, if you don't clean up who you're interacting with then you allow our ecosystem to be run over by these tr0l1s. if you enjoy engaging in that sort of discourse, take it to the new platforms replacing twtter and r/eddit. stop harassing people who are not bothering anyone else. i don't tell any one person here how they ought to live their life, yet these argumentative and hateful people keep coming up to me tryna tell me how i should live...

NO: lurkers, likes only, inactive, empty, or blank blogs. DO NOT LIKE MY CONTENT. DNI. ♥️

[trannydykes]

New Pinned Post!

Hello! Not everyone checks abouts anymore so I decided to make a new pinned post, for ease.

About me:

My name isn't Aven, but if you need to call me something call me that

I'm a young adult, in my early 20's

I'm a Butch Lesbian

I'm Genderqueer/Nonbinary and identify with an unspecified Xenogender

Note to the above, I am TME so I wont speak over trans women/transfems so please correct me if I say something incorrect or harmful and I will fix it

I use She/They pronouns on this blog but know I use Neopronouns in my day-to-day life

I'm Autistic and have Dissociative Amnesia

Any information omitted is just to be safe, because I frequently engage in discourse last thing I want is to get hate sent to my main blog or other sideblogs. Or hate that is very specific to my identity.

The purpose of this blog is for spreading awareness of issues within the queer community, and when not doing that, spreading positivity. (I also reblog posts relating to queerness in general, mostly about being a lesbian or butch)

I mostly cover Lesbian and Transgender topics, but do occasionally talk about ableism in the queer community when it comes up. Because I am white, I do not make posts about racism in the queer community (I will reblog them, I don't ignore them). Instead I try to keep myself educated and spread awareness on topics using this blog.

Now I can get a little discoursey, so below the cut is things that have been, and probably will be again, brought up. If you have a problem with this, I try not to debate as I'm not too articulate, so just block me if it bothers you.

Frequent Topics of Discourse Below::

Men can't be Lesbians, doesn't matter if they're trans men. This actually comes from Radical Feminist circles who believe sexuality is based on your genitals, instead of gender

Lesbians can't like men, it's an exclusive identity

On the above 2, just because your sexuality is fluid doesn't mean all sexualities are, do not project your experiences onto everyone else. It's not restricting, it's how I live

Bi-Lesbians cannot exist, lesbians are exclusive identities. And most Bi-Lesbians identify with the label to say "I like women and nonbinary people". Congrats you're a dyke, nonbinary isn't a 3rd gender

The Vincian/MLM/Blue Gay Flag is a cheap rip off of the Lesbian flag and has no substance to itself

Radical Feminism isn't radical, nor feminism (we've heard this one b4)

Androphobia/Misandry, and by extent Transandrophobia/Transmisandry, cannot exist

Arohet/Acehet Cis people are inherently queer

Pronouns =/= Gender

To the above: Presentation =/= Gender. Butches/Studs are not trying to look like men

Not every trans person has Gender Dysphoria, but every trans person has Gender Euphoria. Being a Transmed is bullshit and bootlicking behavior

I also try to spread positivity for Xenogenders and Neopronouns

And like I said, along with fighting for my ideals and beliefs, I spread positivity. I'll spread posts with cute girls in them because it makes me proud to be a lesbian. Or art of trans people being happy. And I also reblog every queer donation post I see onto this blog, because in the end we help each other out.

And to wrap this up, I am a human, I make errors, and I learn from those errors. If you disagree with me, and want me to change my view, don't tell me to kill myself or send me hate, that doesn't do your cause justice. I may not be down to debate, but I'm always down to hear people out. I don't always agree in the end, and if I do I don't always agree 100%. But I try to hear everyone out, especially because I am someone who is easily confused. If you wish to send hate, send hate, be yourself idc. But you can win ppl over by being nice more often than being a bag of dicks. <3

[dancewithlou]

After the discourse that happened on Twitter with harries the last couple of days I’m thinking about how I felt the first time I heard Only the Brave, I had been struggling and wavering back and forth over whether I was queer or not questioning and questioning, I was confused and struggling to understand myself, I still struggle to this day with my sexuality, but I remember reaching the end of Walls and those guitar strums came on and Louis started singing in his beautiful voice with the lyrics ‘pour mercy, mercy on me’ and so on, and when I tell you I burst into TEARS, everything that had built up and had been resting on my shoulders for years finally made sense I finally felt like I could breathe! I felt understood in a way I never did before, it not only helped me realise who I am but also to this day helps me ACCEPT who I am.

So while Louis may not throw a flag around as he walks over his stage, he does sign flags and tell fans to be proud and understand how important correct pronouns are for people, he congratulated a gay couple when they got engaged (which had they not tweeted abt it we would not have known about), he did for ltwt get up onstage every night and sing Only the Brave while Louie’s stood and waved their pride flags for themselves, for other Louie’s and for other queer people, it’s one of the most liberating songs I’ve ever heard. He doesn’t even make it about himself in those moments he allows the fans to take the lead to do what they need to do in those moments and that for me is more important and far more meaningful, than what others who are considered allies do, but to have people who haven’t even and won’t ever bother to listen to the song or even Louis’ discography to come online and tell Louie’s we are weird for making something our safe space because a song hits us SO deeply is so ethically wrong in my opinion just because what you don’t understand? Whether you are queer or not there is no excuse for that.

Regardless of Louis’ sexuality and what the song means to him the song for us as queer Louie’s means a heck of a lot and to have stood there in pit surrounded by Louie’s who were waving their flags in the air I had never felt so relaxed and free in my life, I felt safe and I felt like everyone in that room understood the importance of that song.

So yeh you as a non-fan may not ever understand the connection we have to that song, you may not ever understand why we feel the way we feel about louis and the connection we have with him, but you don’t need too! You don’t need to worry about queer Louie’s (even though we all know you don’t) you don’t need to throw your hateful comments around because at the end of the day it has NOTHING to do with you and in all honesty you can get fucked.

To queer Louie’s, don’t let shitty people on the internet tell you who or what can be your safe space especially when they don’t care and take no time to understand, especially when they ignore everything we as Louie’s say time and time again about WHY louis is our ally and how he has helped us and other queer people. They will never get it and at this point they’re proving that they don’t wish too and that for me is actually very sad and I hope they can move past and grow from these hateful feelings that they channel.

[vcoins]

[Image ID: A flag with 7 horizontal stripes. The stripes are, in order: crimson red, raspberry pink, carnation pink, white, carnation pink, raspberry pink, crimson red. Includes a crimson red heart in the center, with a black outlined pair of horns inside the heart. End ID.]

EROHORNSIC (or HORNS EROGENIC)

WARNING: THIS TERM IS SOMEWHAT SUGGESTIVE AND INTENDED FOR (BODILY) 18+ USERS. Read below the cut at your own risk.

Erohornsic (or Horns Erogenic) - An Erogenic term for one who wishes to have horns that function as erogenous zones, or sees their ideal body or inner self as having them.

Individuals may feel dysphoria around horns, and it may affect or be tied to one’s gender and sexuality.

Inspired by aldernic and altersex/xenosex terms; can be used alongside them or as its own label depending on one’s preferences and personal identity. Not intended for radqueers and those with harmful transIDs.

[Image ID: Purple banner with a lighter purple center, and small planets with rings decorating both sides. Text in the center reads, “My terms and flags are not intended for use by bigots, radqueers, xenosatanists, pro-contact/anti-recovery harmful paraphiles, harmful transIDs, and their supporters. I do not care or engage in most general discourse, but block freely if uncomfortable - it’s not personal.” End ID.]

[citizen-zero]

I guess part of the reason that the whole “proshipper/anti” discourse is so silly to me is because like. I actually lived the situation that so many of them talk about, the whole “predators will show your fic to minors in order to groom them” thing. Except that’s not…that’s not really what happened.

The 25 year old woman I “dated” when I was 15 was someone I met through the Hetalia fandom; we did a lot of NSFW RPs and bonded over smutty fic. She drew, commissioned, and purchased smutty art and doujins that she shared with me. She came to visit me twice and like, we never went further than kissing, but I know for a fact that she wanted to. She said as much, and I think if I hadn’t been worried about getting caught by my mom, we would’ve. And this isn’t super distressing for me to talk about but it still makes me feel a little dirty. Not in a shame-filled way, I don’t think it’s my fault or anything, but I don’t feel good about it either.

Anyway, point is, it’s literally the situation that people wave around as an example of what might happen if we let people write about Sexually Immoral Topics, and yet I maintain that none of it was the fault of NSFW fan art/fiction. Not even the handful of teacher/student or incest fics I read and enjoyed—even when I was “dating” her, I recognized that that sort of relationship was wrong and should only be enjoyed in a fictional context. That sort of content was cathartic for me because I could engage with it but didn’t have to see or experience it IRL where it would have actual consequences. It’s the same as how playing GTA let me shoot rocket launchers at cops and blow up cars without…you know, doing that.

No, all of it was squarely the fault of the adult woman who was trying to fuck a teenage girl. All the emotional stress I felt then and all the lingering sour taste I have now is her fault. It wasn’t a single one of those artists’ or authors’ faults that, for almost two years, I was denying/unable to recognize the wrongness of my own situation even though I could recognize it in fictional ones. All of it was her fault for earning the trust of a teenager and then pursuing a “relationship.” The only function that the sexual content served was to be just another part of fandom to bond over, just like we bonded over cosplay and merchandise and new canon material and anime episodes and dubs and—you get it. It was one part of a whole. Like, smutty fan works are so common that it didn’t raise a red flag, because, well…everyone likes that stuff. If we’d been hanging out offline it would’ve been a red flag because adults talking about about sex with teenagers in a non-educational context is creepy. But in the fandom space, it’s just normal and part of the fun and it was okay because it wasn’t about us, it was about fake people.

So that makes it hard for me to take the discourse seriously, because 1) I don’t think most of you even know what you’re angry about anymore, and 2) sexual fan works and RPs didn’t have the heavy influence in my situation that you think they did. They were a part of the equation, but that woman could’ve easily groomed me even if we’d never talked about sex before we got into a “relationship.” The reason why I could recognize the wrongness of a fictional relationship but not my own was because she had earned my trust and used it to emotionally manipulate me into believing we were an exception.

I think a lot of you have a very…early 2000s after-school special idea of the role fandom can play in grooming and abuse. I think a lot of you imagine a creepy adult sending a teacher/student fic to a 14 year old and saying, “See, this is normal and okay because it’s in a fan fiction.” And I’m not saying that never ever happens, but I think it’s far more common for it to happen the same way it does offline: the adult bonds with the minor over shared interests, earns their trust, makes them feel cool and special, and then uses that trust and goodwill to convince them that the abuse is okay and that other people “don’t/won’t understand.” It’s exactly the same tactics as adult men “dating” high school girls.

I think it’s unproductive at best to go after artists and authors who create the kind of content I was reading back then, because like, I recognized that the fictional scenarios would be wrong IRL and it still didn’t help. I’m betting most people reading AND making that stuff recognize on some level that it’d be wrong IRL. Blaming abuse on fan work and not solely on predators means that one of the ways that predators can gain your trust is by aligning themselves with “antis,” the same way that right wingers can get you to agree with them on anything by dressing it up in progressive language. I dread to say it but I am confident that it’s already happening.

I’m not saying anyone needs to read something they’re uncomfortable with, or interact with people who enjoy those things, but I do think you need to develop some nuance and recognize that the vast majority of people making the sexual content you dislike aren’t doing so for nefarious reasons. Yes, fiction can normalize and perpetuate bad ideas, but fiction isn’t the cause, it’s the symptom. You’re not going to end sexual abuse by witch hunting people who write about, like, teenagers dating and having sex (which, as we all know, definitely doesn’t happen IRL). At best it’s unproductive, and at worst you create an environment where teens feel even greater shame about wanting to explore their sexuality by writing about characters their own age, and adults feel afraid to draw inspiration from their own life experiences for fear someone will call them a predator. Which sucks for everyone, but it also means that queer teens and adults (who are already made to feel like their feelings are dirty and inappropriate) effectively end up closeted and unable to come to terms with their identities and see their experiences represented somewhere.

So…I don’t really have a smooth conclusion here. I just think the shipping discourse is fucking stupid because it assumes a world that runs on Internet Stranger Danger PSA logic.

[hislittleraincloud]

I actually saw the Claire's thing and rolled my eyes because I knew what was coming from them with these things.

Did these kids ever have any real life friends? Because it sure as Hell doesn't seem so. They're all mostly touch-starved virgins whose social lives were upended/crippled by 1) helicopter bubblewrap parents and 2) COVID. But you would have thought that before COVID they would have at least understood what same-sex friendship is all about/what it's like, and how difficult it is for the weirdest kids like Wednesday to 'make friends'.

I was a weird kid. I had few friends, but I still had them. I still keep in contact with a few friends from grade school (that's 45 years of friendship/knowing someone). Of course, I also crushed on a million girls when I was in middle and high school (and openly dated a good handful girlfriends in high school, despite the huge risk I was taking), but I still knew the damn difference between friendship and fuckship.

Friendship bracelets were a huge thing back in the 80s/90s. We made them for each other. And yes, some were the lesbo color pattern. But it meant nothing back then since the flag wasn't around until 1999. These Wednesday & Enid things are no different than those "Best Friend" heart necklaces we had, which still exist today. It's kinda gross that the older kids are insisting on pushing it everywhere there's a Wednesday & Enid deal. The grade school children who are the demographic for these items are too fucking young to understand what the historical sexual innuendo of being roommates is.

Yeah, I pulled a BUT THINK OF THE CHILDREN. The Wenclairs who disagree can either fuck off or engage in logical discourse with me about it, though logic escapes the lot of those who have already engaged with us/vice versa. I have a feeling I got some idiot anons waiting to scream at me about what I write (even though my writing is clearly not for grade schoolers 💀).

BuT bUt BuT...iT’s lIcEnSeD AND APPROVED by NeTfLiX!!!!11!!!! ThAt MaKes iT CaNNNONNNNNNN

Obviously Claire's is homophobic...

[parfaitpuppymogai]

[[ OLD PINNED - OUTDATED ]]

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ₓ˚. ୭ ○◦˚. .˚ₓ☆ soft fuzzy mogai ｡･:*:,｡･ﾟ☆

♡ intro & tagz, boundariez, byi, dni ♡

reqs: 0/0 - inbox closed (⁠´⁠∩⁠｡⁠•⁠ ⁠ᵕ⁠ ⁠•⁠｡⁠∩⁠`⁠)

(art by aimkidblast, i dont support her beliefs regarding endos though.)

hello there!! my namez r everett, modify & fuzzy, n thiz iz my mogai blog!! i primarily uze neoz + they/them primary, and my secondary priority iz he/it!!

im nonbinary (demiboy/genderfaun/paraboy/idk + many many xxenoz)!!

sexuality wize, im vincian/gay (nwlnw), and aspec & arospec!! :3c

(yes i use the green and blue flag, and i will never not use it. if you dont like it block me.)

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♡ coining (💕 a trick of the light to love you tonight)

♡ coining reqs (💝 although i have no arms to hold you in)

♡ themed gender liztz (💖 im not like other guys who have a surface)

♡ moodboardz/ztimboardz (💓 a shimmering puff of indistinct love)

♡ iconz (💞 whats better than the vague embrace of a soft fuzzy man?)

♡ pronoun/name suggeztionz & checkz (💌 i know it sounds crazy)

♡ chatting/misc poztz (💗 so please baby please baby step into the mist!)

♡ reblogging thingz from my old acc that im ztill proud ov (🍥 ghost town)

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♡ anything 2 do with groupz im not apart ov

♡ coining 4 harmvul/hatevul identities (exx. dream minecraft sexual, clovergender, etc)

♡ anything on the blacklizt

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♡ iv ur on my dni plz do not uze my termz, and do not recoin/"reclaim"/baztardize them!! (n plz do not complain abt it to me iv u r pro-endo. u already haz tonz ov alternative labelz 2 use az most ov the mogai community iz unvortunately pro-endo.)

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♡ know me irl

♡ are already on bad termz w me

♡ vall under bazic dni criteria

♡ are friends w anyone on my people blacklizt. i literally CANNOT trust u iv u r :(

♡ arent gay but still engage in gay flag discourse or have "x flag users dni"

♡ you go by the namez mentioned in my topic blacklizt

♡ dream/dsmp fans

♡ dhmis avatars (regular fanz r ok, but those w avatars vrom the show make me super uncomvy)

♡ uze wrath neopronounz, such as wra/wrath/wraths. someone with those neoz haz traumatized me & it's like one ov my biggest triggerz.

♡ are tolerant/a fan ov 4ch*n, l*lc*w, kiwif*rms, etc. im zurprized thiz iznt under bazic criteria

♡ headcanon lgbt characterz as thingz they arent. for example, headcanoning a canonically gay man as a nonbinary lesbian

♡ are a lgbt f*tsihiz*r (straight ppl who read yaoi, cis ppl who like "traps/f*mb*ys", etc)

♡ are a lgbt exclus ov any kind (ex. dont think asexxualz belong in the community, think xxenogenderz r "the reason cishetz think actual trans ppl r faking", etc)

♡ heavily r*lig*ous

♡ find thingz about me obnoxiouz to the point where you feel the need to talk about it

♡ my zpecial intereztz are a trigger/dizcomvort vor you

♡ into g*recore/h*tecore

♡ fans ov fucked up media (ex. fnf vs /v/-tan mod, alfr*ds pl*yhouse)

♡ fans ov my triggerz (i wont list them publicly 4 my own savety, but i will block u myselv iv i vind out)

♡ you think cisphobia, heterophobia, racism against whites, etc. iz an actual problem

♡ you think women can be vincian/vincians can like women, or that men can be lesbians/lesbians can like men (this includes demiboy lesbians/demiboy gays)

♡ you make jokez abt traumatic things (ex. "this song slaps harder than my dad") (those who have that trauma n use humor to cope r ok)

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here iz my dni banner, it doeznt have my vull dni but doez have thingz that i believe r the mozt important. the "ae" in my name literally meanz "anti endo" so itz not my vault iv an endo reblogz it.

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🔥 shipping fandom 🔥

I have a variety of thoughts on this because I’ve seen a lot of discourse about it lol. I think shipping itself is like morally neutral like it’s not inherently good or inherently bad to get invested in and create writing or art about fictional romances, whether canon or not, but I think a lot of the frustrations that people have with the general culture surrounding it are fair to some degree. I think sometimes people act a bit overly superior for not engaging with it, but it’s true that some people can be very vocally defensive of it in a way where they refuse to confront the fact that creating sexual content about children is bad and there’s often a lot of racism and stereotyping that goes on as well, and I consider a refusal to acknowledge those things and a “let people enjoy things” response much more of a red flag than an inflated sense of self-importance over not engaging with it.

Also when people complain that people can only engage with stories through the lens of shipping, while I think that can be a bit of an over generalization because those things aren’t mutually exclusive and lots of people do both, there is certainly a subgroup of people who say they only read or watch stuff for the romance and it’s not just a case of people making up a person to get mad at imo. I think it’s one manifestation of a larger problem on the internet where people latch onto a specific type of content (sorry I hate that word I’m trying to find other ways of saying it), whether it’s late night comedy shows or memes or action games/stories, that provides a form of instant gratification and then tend to engage with lots of stuff through that lens to the exclusion of other things even when it’s not really appropriate or ends up being very limiting, and get overly defensive in response to valid criticisms of aspects of the genre because it’s become such a big part of their daily life. I’m sympathetic to having a short attention span because I struggle with it a lot too, and I don’t think it’s a problem exclusive to literature/reading or fandom as it exists on Tumblr (although that’s the form of it that you likely run into the most if you spend a lot of time on here so it’s reasonable to be frustrated with it), but I do think the overall trend is something that should be challenged on an individual and cultural level.

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hey, not asking out of like a discourse question, but out of genuine fear: are you pro-para/radinclus because the most popular ocd flag i saw made was made by a pro-para individual who follows a lot of dead dove accounts and although i support the idea of writing out dark content in a safe, trigger-warned, non fetishistic way, i don't support the sexualization and fetishization of childhood trauma even if it's in the name of supposed "ocd recovery". please tell me you're not pro MAP or pro para

I'm absolutely not pro-MAP or pro-any paraphilia that involves arousal from, or attraction to, situations or individuals that cannot consent, i.e. pedophilia, zoophilia, biastophilia, etc. beyond being supportive of them seeking treatment and setting up safety guidelines for themselves (like not being around children or not using non-adult-exclusive social media if you're a pedo for example). I am also not supportive of the creation or consumption of real or fictional content catered to those harmful paraphilias and I additionally consider consumption of content that involves real victims to be "full-on" offending, so to speak. I AM pro-para for everything else, but because of the broad and non-nuanced way it's used I don't label myself pro-para in general just so nobody misunderstands the scope of what I accept. In a non-pathological sense, the concept of paraphilias overlaps with fetish and kink in being non-normative sexual interests, which I'm very much supportive of so long as it doesn't involve any of the above (which btw are NOT "kinks", just making sure I'm not implying that). In a pathological sense, there are a many paraphilic disorders that don't involve sexual arousal or attraction to anything unethical. If the paraphilia itself is fine I don't see why that would change if that paraphilia causes the individual distress and impairs their life in some way. I figured I should mention both pathological and non-pathological because paraphilia can refer to both experiences.

I know this is a complicated answer, sorry about that /gen I rarely take "extreme" (all-or-nothing) stances on complicated things and simplifying my beliefs into those dichotomies is something I've decided I'm not doing anymore, even if it means text walls lol.

I hope this eases your fears. In the case that it doesn't and my support of consensual paraphilias bothers you, you should probably block me because I myself technically have paraphilias (none of which involve harm to others, to be clear, just unusual stuff). Objectum attraction is also commonly listed among paraphilias (although it is certainly not always the case and may not even be sexual) so we should be kept in mind in regards to this conversation.

P.S. P-OCD/Z-OCD I'm not talking about you here, you're not paraphiles, far from it. If someone is actually misusing those terms to justify engaging in unethical shit or harmful paraphilias I hate you

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so i was going through some of the daud posts here and sometimes you ship him with ppl??? idk if you know this but that makes ace ppl really uncomfortable so if you could not do that thanks.

[For context, Daud is canonly asexual.]

Listen I'm ace. And rather a stereotype at that. I'm introverted, like space and cake, and I'm sex-repulsed. But not every asexual are these things.

Back in my day, circa 5 years ago, Asexuality was a spectrum, and news flash, it still is. The thing that I've noticed in the ace community is exactly what you're talking about. You're excluding people in your own damn community. There is one ace blog I still follow because of this. All the others started to slowly gatekeep, and although I'm still allowed in bc by sex drive is at a 0%, I do not count myself as part of their "community" because that's not what it is anymore. It's a bunch of gatekeepers with 0% sex drive, calling their old community members allosexuals (Those who experience the "traditional" type of sexual attraction.)

My advice? Follow other ace tags that are on the other sides of the spectrum. Look at other social media sites. Tumblr can really be a trash bin of unneeded discourse, and isn't always a great place for these things. Like, there are people on this site where I KNOW for a fact, they're gonna have a stroke if they go to a real pride bc they saw a masc person in a lesbian flag shirt. The "Pride" side of tumblr is slowly becoming narrow-minded and fighting with itself. But, what else did you expect when the terfs settle here and try the run the place?

As for the spectrum, here are the big players:

Asexual: An umbrella term, but also refers to those who experience no sexual attraction.

Gray-Asexual: Refers to those who feel very little sexual attraction.

Demisexual: Those who only feel sexual attraction after they've created a close bond to someone. This could vary from a couple of weeks, to months, or over a year.

Other Terms:

Aromantic: An umbrella term separate from Asexuality, but often overlaps in many. Refers to people who experience little to no romantic attraction on a spectrum similar to Asexuality. Common labels are Aromantic, Gray-Aromantic, and Demiromantic.

Alloromantic: Those who feel the "traditional" type of romantic attraction.

Sex Repulsed: Refers to people that are repulsed by the thought of engaging in sex with anyone. Asexuals are not the only ones that can be sex repulsed.

Sex Neutral: Refers to those that do not have a preference of weather or not sex is part of the relationship. This may or may not come with extra boundaries, such as how frequent sex is part of the relationship. Asexuals are not the only ones that can be sex neutral.

Sex Preferable: Refers to people that prefer to have sex as part of the relationship. Fun fact, humans are so dumb, evolution or god had to make sex pleasurable for us to reproduce. There are also many who believe that sex is way symbol of trust, vulnerability, and unity. Like any ideals, it is up to interpretation, so do not press these beliefs onto others.

Queer-Platonic Relationship (QPR): Refers to a deep-rooted, committed, platonic relationship. Though they are common in the aro and ace communities, anyone can be part of a QPR.

So what does this all mean for shipping ace characters? Is this an excuse for fanfiction? No! And even if it is, who the fuck cares? Demisexuals, gray-aces, sex nuetral aces, sex preferable aces, and alloromantic aces exist in real life, and are just a part of the Asexual Spectrum as a 0% sexual attraction, sex-repulsed ace like myself! Ace characters being in relationships do not erase their sexuality, just as it wouldn't in real life. Like I said, one day, you will go to pride and you will either understand or have a stroke. I wouldn't recommend the stroke, my grandfather had one, so I urge you to accept diversity in the LGBT+ community.

As for Daud specifically, it doesn't say in lore where he lands on the spectrum, so hc away. Throw a couple of terms in there. Be creative. Personally, I hc him as sex-repulsed and demiromantic. As a little bonus, I hc Corvo as demisexual, and even hinted to it in that CurnCrow fic I did a while back.

Happy Pride!