#oscars discourse

[saveahorserideaneddie]

shifting gears away from 9-1-1 and onto oscars discourse:

above is a list of every Best Actress winner over 40 from the past 25 years, and the age they turned the year that they won. Of those 25 ceremonies, 11 of them awarded a ‘mature’ actress

in the past 15 years, of the 15 actresses who won, only 5 winners were under the age of 40

while it’s true that this notion of hollywood hating in older women is definitely true and a real issue, the notion that it is perpetuated by the oscars is… honestly a but laughable

the reaction to demi moore’s loss has been very strange to me… the people upset the most are arguing that Mikey Madison (25)’s win somehow “proves The Substance right” are missing the fact that in the past two decades, there has been a majority of mature actresses taking home the good trophy; yet all i keep seeing tossed around is that “the oscars are ageist” “they only award younger actresses” “mikey madison didn’t deserve it because she’s too young���

i need yall to hold my hand when i tell you this- the whole point of The Substance was that talent doesn’t have an age, and that a balance of both older and younger is the only way to get what you want, but that that balance is unachievable due to the way society pits women of different ages against each other

if anything- the only thing proving the substance right are the people who are pissed at mikey’s win; you are watering her performance down to her age and her looks (ignoring the phenomenal performance she gave in anora), and creating this fake drama between her and demi moore, simply because demi didn’t win

now don’t get me wrong- i was pretty much firmly in the camp of demi or fernanda being my personal too choices, but even though i may be disappointed that neither of them won, i won’t discount mikey madison’s undeniable talent that she showcased in anora by giving into the societal pressure of having to “pick a side” in a fake conflict between two women of different ages. i can be happy for mikey’s win while simultaneously being disappointed that fernanda or demi didn’t take it, and the same goes for both if them! why are we putting words in this poor woman’s mouth when she has seemed nothing but genuinely happy for mikey (bc, you know, she’s actually a good person who understands it wasn’t personal after she quite literally swept the rest of the season)

at the end of the day, there has been a clear uptick in the amount of mature women winning the Best Actress oscar, not to mention the amount of mature women nominated which is its own separate uptick. the oscars are not ageist because your fav who happens to be over 40 didn’t win, and acting like they are only makes you look foolish, and actually brings attention away from the actual negative actions committed by the academy with this year’s ceremony.

[windowsloth]

say what you will about him, sean baker really looks like a sean

[phanchester]

happy birthday @amazingphil! 🎀🌸💗

[valyrfia]

i have to say the disconnect between the traditional media and the actual fan sentiment is absolutely wild in F1 at the moment. take oscar's overtake on lando in turn 1 in monza. every single fan that i've spoken to irl or seen online thinks it was the best move ever, super exciting to watch, and all in all just good racing whereas every single journalist immediately got on air and cried about it (looking at you will buxton) and chose into the baku weekend to continue to villainise oscar to hell for not just acting as second driver (even though there were no team orders to do so).

[wisteriagoesvroom]

why do straight men get blessed w the nicest natural brows istg

[insanedevotion]

trying to explain that yes i am a lesbian (figured it out a couple weeks ago) yes i am still quite down bad for multiple f1 drivers primarily oscar and lando. i dont even know

[rubyreadd]

except it’s your driver that has an entourage that shittalks Lando (don’t even deny it lmfao y’all bragged about it and called it county) while Lando has never been an asshole to precious Oscar

To be honest anon I'm not quite sure what the argument you're trying to make is.

"Oscar's entourage"?? Where?

If you're talking about Max saying that Oscar came in as a number one driver and so of course he wasn't going to bend the knee to Lando just because. Or even George having a chuckle about Lando qualifying P17, then that's just plain and simple mind games.

If you mean Mark Webber and him telling Charles that he had the opportunity to overtake Lando in the championship at Baku, or being outspokenly supportive of Oscar, then that's just Mark doing his job. He's an F1 pundit and Oscar's manager, he's going to have opinions on both subjects.

Lando on the other hand has the full backing of the British media, especially Sky Sports, who are a major English language distributor of F1 coverage. In Monza they could not shut up about how Oscar's fair and hard racing was actually unfair to Lando because Oscar should've held position and defended Lando's lead.

Yet in Australia when Oscar was ordered to relinquish position to Lando because he was on fresher tyres and McLaren wanted to challenge Ferrari, there was no remarking that it was unfair to push Oscar off a home race podium when Lando could not close said gap to Ferrari.

Similarly, when Oscar and Carlos touched in Miami and Oscar dropped to the back of the grid, then put in a mega effort to gain back several positions as well as set the fastest lap of the race, only to be told by McLaren to back off so as not to cause a safety car, it was accepted as the right thing to do.

Lando is not defenceless nor is he is a victim of some "Oscar entourage". Oscar has been a good team mate to him, has up until now bided his time, but if Lando is going to leave a gap then Oscar has every right to be a racing driver.

Ayrton Senna was a McLaren champion after all.

Now, granted, Lando has not been verbally dismissive of Oscar, but actions do speak louder than words. When Lando refused to give position back to Oscar in Hungary until the penultimate lap, it was as Nico Rosberg said: Lando wanting to humiliate Oscar.

Yes this was whole situation could've been avoided if McLaren had given Oscar the preferential pit stop strategy he had earned after getting the better start on Lando and leading the race for more than half the laps. However, if Lando had acquiesced to giving the position back when he was first asked to, there would have been a further twenty laps where he could've fought Oscar for the win, with a good chance of taking P1 because his tyres were up to heat.

Instead, he had a tantrum and delivered McLaren a tainted 1-2 that completely undermined Oscar's maiden win.

He also chucked a fit at Lewis in the cool down room, when all Lewis was doing was complimenting Lando on his speed, and then went on to snub Oscar on the podium by not spraying Oscar with champagne. A behaviour he repeated in Monza.

I know your argument is likely to be that F1 is a high stress environment where everyone is fighting for wins and championships and no driver wants to lose out by a few tenths or a lap, so it's natural for drivers to act out when they do. But for contrast let me talk about Charles and Max.

In Baku this weekend it was clear that Charles was intensely frustrated with his P2, yet he still had the grace to congratulate Oscar, compliment him on his race craft, and celebrate with Oscar on the podium. Similarly, Max went out of his way to wave at Lando after the race, even though Lando had bitten just that little bit more into his championship lead.

And what did Lando do? Snitch on Max for overtaking under the VSC even though it was after the chequered flag.

It's this kind of repeated unsportsmanlike behaviour that leaves me with diminishing goodwill for Lando. I laud Oscar for being cunty when he stands up for himself and his right to race, because Oscar shows maturity and respect towards his peers even when he is disappointed with his results. Lando however makes his poor performance (even when it objectively isn't) everyone else's problem.

Oscar has been driving F1 for one and a half seasons. Lando has been driving for six. Yet it is Oscar who carries himself with the mindset of a champion.

At the end of the day anon, it's unlikely that I am going to sway your opinion about Oscar and that's fine. You are free to like and dislike whatever driver you want. All the advice that I can offer you is to block the anti Lando tags, block Oscar's tag, and block anyone who posts F1 content, opinions, and discourse you don't like. Including myself. I am a stranger on the internet, it's not worth your time or peace to get upset in my inbox because I am voicing my distaste for a driver on my personal blog.

[c4rlando]

ok weird take but ever since max hasn’t been winning back to back to back I’ve grown to really like him? like he’s so funny, takes no shit, and is such a talented driver. I hated seeing him win before but now I’m full on rooting for him if norris can’t take it

[kuiperoid]

Queen Coke Francis talks about the history of the Hays Code and the wave of puritannical thinking towards media seen among young people these days, sometimes under the guise of social progressivism.

[gxtzeizm]

the fact that me, as a fan of both lando and oscar without any bias (maybe a bit on lando but not that much), is going to witness both "oscar fans, lando antis" and "lando fans, oscar antis" posts all in my one dash 🥲🥲

also the fact that atp i couldn't even bother enough with this same situation on both lewis and george. now it happens on lando and oscar as well which got me like....

[lesbiannieism]

just come across a post of yours on twitter LMAO youre getting popular over there

NO WAY 😂

[ivystoryweaver]

I have thoughts about Jonathan Levy

thanks to @missdictatorme's mindblowing fic Delicacy

series spoilers below but some will be above the cut

First about the series... See, I know Jonathan discourse is tricky. Some people dismiss him outright because he cheats on his second wife. Understandable.

Some people love him as an innocent, choosing to ignore the events in the final episode, meaning he was only hurt and never did anything else that hurtful to someone else. Also understandable.

But taking a look at the whole person, does anyone consider why he cheats?

I'm not trying to excuse it, but to understand it. When Mira leaves Jonathan, it destroys him. He fights against his love for her and works to get better, to get functional, to move on. He falls back into bed with her because she's familiar, because he loves her, because it feels good to have the person who destroyed you want you back.

He even gets to the point where he can sort of turn her down when she believes it was a mistake. He loves her, he wants her physically, but he knows it's bad for him.

So why does he cheat? Because he thinks it's over for him. He had a chance at a life with a woman he loved, a wonderful daughter, and it crumbled. It takes her leaving and lots of therapy to realize how much they were hurting each other all along. And yes, Jonathan hurt her too, just not in the same way, and you could say maybe "not as much", if there needs to be a comparison.

So, Jonathan dates. He has sex. He discovers a side of himself that was sort of repressed in being the virgin Jewish boy who married such a force of a woman as Mira. He realizes what he likes and tries new things. Then he tries them on Mira. They both like it, but they can't be together. It's over, it's too harmful.

He wants love, but almost as much as that, he wants to be a husband and father. He wants more children. It killed him that Mira terminated her pregnancy, but he knows there is no other choice, it is her body and her choice and he would never go against that, ever.

So he finds a nice Jewish woman who he feels good enough with and gets her pregnant. He has those things he's always wanted. But he doesn't have love.

So, why does he cheat? Because he's given up. He finally "grows up", in a way? (in his mind anyway) But in a sad, defeated way. He actually doesn't believe there is a world where he can have real love, passion, sex, fatherhood and be a good husband. It's a fantasy, forever out of his reach. It's absolutely impossible, in his mind. It's completely shattered.

So the only way to get on with his life is to compartmentalize these parts of himself. With Ava and his new baby, he will try to be a good father. His wife is a puzzle piece to hold that together, and make him a husband even though he's not in love with her.

Mira is a separate part of his fragmented, broken life now. She is where he can find sex, passion, even love. But he can't have them all together. That doesn't exist, he thinks. It was a boy's dream and he's a battle-weary man now.

This compartmentalization is his survival now. He knows it's wrong, but it's not convincing enough for him to suffer anymore than he already has, and stop it.

So some people hate or dismiss Jonathan because of the final ep, or completely ignore that ep, because they can't reconcile how he could do this, and I get that! I totally do.

But it's because he's resigned himself to a world where he can't have love. He can't have his dream, it doesn't exist. And that is a bleak world for Jonathan.

He's given up. So he doesn't try to do better, or be better or act better. He's in a very dark place at series end.

And I WANNA FIX

P.S. Do your self a favor and read Dolli's fic Delicacy

[wisteriagoesvroom]

how is oscar like, 5’10. to me he’s just a little guy 🤧

[scuderia-hamilton]

whoever said that people want Oscar to be Bottas, but Lando isn’t Hamilton cooked fr

and i also saw someone say that the problem at McLaren is that Zak prefers Lando and Stella prefers Oscar and i agree with that so much

[inchidentally]

okay prefacing that this is only referring to a small but loud part of the community... to follow up on the thing of supposed Lily Z fangirls turning around saying how she's "better than other wags" (????) bc she's "silent and has no public communications and doesn't take up space apart from looking beautiful" (???) (bc apparently we're not even internalizing the misogyny anymore it's just right out there saying a woman should be seen not heard, publicly beautiful but only serve her man and not want attention for herself) but then after praising that she clearly does not want a load of public attention, proceed to freak the fuck out IN. ALL. CAPS. in comments sections everywhere that she appears even in the background and draw attention to a woman who's clearly does not want be in the limelight....

so yea speaking in that vein can the other incredibly obvious fake fangirls of wags please stop using AI beauty filters on these women's pictures and posting them where they can see ?? that is not Lily Z's real jaw or mouth shape, that is not Alex's real nose and that is not Lily H's cheekbones or eye shape. guess what you aren't selling the whole I'm only here for the girls claim when you make it blatantly clear you don't think they're naturally pretty enough and have to run them through digital plastic surgery and yes we can all see how blurred and weirdly smooth it all looks when you do it so I guarantee the women themselves will go 'yikes that's me but... not me'

and reminder that a woman's college degree is not a Barbie accessory nor is it a "selling point" for her boyfriend that's rly disgusting to talk about it that way !!! pls just leave a like on the original photos of wags posted by official accounts if you're unable to inadvertently demean women whenever you post about them (and yes I know a lot of ppl aren't being weird but it's getting way too comfortable in very public spaces !) and also no she doesn't believe you when you claim you hate Oscar and think he's ugly and stupid and wish she'd just... randomly walk where he is but somehow not have him present when how would that work when you never even see her if she's not with Oscar like wtffff are ppl even doing anymore can we calm down and be normal and actually respect women and not treat them like commodities wow

[lotusbxtch]

Ok I gotta put this one to a poll because it’s been bouncing around my head: do you think there’s a difference between a breeding kink and a cum kink (ie wanting to be filled up with cum from your person(s))?

Also recognizing that the discussion will be different/more nuanced in queer partnerships/relationships/sex.

Please discuss!!

ETA: if you think they are different, what would the desire to be filled up be called? Cum kink? Creampie kink? Taking suggestions, haha.

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