#polyphiliablog

[polyanamam]

[hiriajuu-suffering]

Oh yeah, I made mistakes.

[accessible-tumbling]

ID: A screenshot of a Twitter post by Polyamory Memes @ polyphiliablog with text reading: "A common argument against polyamory is "I don't share", which I find confusing.

I like to share good things I have in my life (after all, sharing is caring!) and feel the most intense joy when others get to experience my partner's love. Why would I ever want to keep it to myself?"

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[profoundlypained]

[thebibliosphere]

I recently entered a polyam relationship and was excited to get to know the community, so I looked up r/polyamory... it really is a great way to instantly fell bleak about everything, isn't it?

For what it's worth, the ethical non-monogamy subs tend to be less bleak and judgmental. (r/experiencedENM people are less pissed off because they're not always answering the same problematic questions over and over) Also, r/queerpolyam feels more supportive as well.

There are also some really good polyam content creators on Instagram--tiktok too by default, but I don't go there.

Polyphiliablog is one that crosses my feed a lot, and polyamfam is another. You can find lots of other polyam-centric blogs and creators through them too.

(Also, welcome to the community!)

[dykecharliee]

polyamory isn't like the absence of jealousy! like, polyam people def still feel that emotion, it is natural and normal. its more like about ability and desire to be with multiple partners. def recommend learning more if youre curious! check out on instagram: chillpolyamory, shrimpteeth, unapolygetically, instagram . com/p/CnkAr4TOTRz/ , polyphiliablog, bimbo.theory, feeldco

I do know that polyamorous people experience jealousy, of course! I don't have the desire to be with multiple partners, so that's why I'd be jealous lol but I definitely am curious about it, and I think if I enter a relationship with the intention of polygamy, I'm thinking maybe it'll be different 🤔

Thank you!! I'll definitely check those out ☺️

[polyamproud]

Thank you for following us!! We so appreciate every reblog, comment and like we get. Your support means so much to us and to all our polyamorous siblings worldwide. We wanted to offer a hand to anyone feeling a little lost. Or a little curious. Or a little determined. To that end, we put together this solid (but by no means exhaustive) list of resources for polyamorists seeking more connection and immersion in our community.

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[Image Description: A set of 7 images. In the bottom right corner of each image is the “@polyamproud” watermark, immediately followed by the polycule symbol. The watermark and polycule are in pink for all images with a black background and in black for the images with a pink or white background.

Image 1: A single square image with a black background. The majority of the image is filled with a hexagonal pattern. Each hexagon, with the exception of one, is an outline of the shape varying between either white or pink. The pattern extends from the bottom left to the middle right. Near the middle left of the image is one white hexagon with a pink polycule symbol in it. At the top of the image is left-aligned, bold white text which reads “even in a community of many, it’s easy to feel”, which is immediately followed by bold pink text which reads “alone.”

Image 2: A single square image with a pink background. The top of the image is filled with a hexagonal pattern. Many of the hexagons are simple outlines varying between either white or black. Some of the hexagons spread throughout the pattern are either completely white or completely black. A hexagon near the top left is white with a black polycule symbol in it. At the middle half of the image is left-aligned, bold black text which reads “we put together some”, followed by bold white text which reads “resources”, followed by bold black text which reads “that can help you start to fill in the gaps:”.

Image 3: A single square image with a white background. Both the top right of the image and the bottom half of the image is filled with a hexagonal pattern. Half of the hexagons are simply outlines varying between black and pink, the other half of the hexagons are completely pink or completely black. Near the bottom middle of the image is a black hexagon with a pink polycule symbol in it. At the top of the image is left-aligned, bold pink text which reads “books”, then followed by bold black text which reads “about polyamory.” Beneath it is a bulleted list of 6 book titles as well as their authors. Each bullet is in the shape of a black heart. Each book title is italicized black text while each author name is in black text. The first bullet reads “More than Two by Eve Rickert.” The second bullet reads “The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton & Janet W.Hardy.” The third bullet reads “When Someone You Love is Polyamorous by Dr. Elizabeth Sheff.” The fourth bullet reads “Polysecure by Jessica Fern.” The fifth bullet reads “The Polyamory Breakup Book by Kathy Labriola.” The sixth bullet reads “Polyamory in the 21st Century by Deborah Anapol.”

Image 4: A single square image with a black background. Both the middle right and the bottom left of the image is filled with a hexagonal pattern. Many of the hexagons are either completely white or completely pink. Two of the hexagons spread throughout the pattern are simple white outlines. One of the hexagons near the middle right is white with a pink polycule symbol in it. Near the top of the image is bold white text which reads “accounts to follow.” (Please note that the accounts listed are instagram accounts.) Beneath it is a bulleted list of 12 account names. Each bullet is in the shape of a white heart. Each account name is in pink text. The list, in descending order, reads: “polyamory_awareness”, “polyamorouswhileasian”, “polyamfam”, “polyamproud”, “polyphiliablog”, “shrimpteeth”, “marjanilane”, “lavitaloca34″, “black_poly_nation”, “remodeledlove”, “puritytopolyamory”, “polyam.gal”.

Image 5: A single square image with a pink background. Both the top right and the top left of the image is filled with a hexagonal pattern. Many of the hexagons are either completely black or completely white. Two of the hexagons spread throughout the pattern are simple black outlined. One of the hexagons near the top left is white with a black polycule in it. At the middle right of the image is right-aligned, bold white text which reads “podcasts”, followed by bold black text which reads “to listen to.” Beneath it is a bulleted list of 13 podcast titles. Each bullet is in the shape of a black heart. Each podcast title is in black text. The list, in descending order, reads: “Multiamory”, “Making Polyamory Work”, “Amory”, “Normalizing Non-Monogamy”, “Polyamory Weekly”, “The Ready for Polyamory”, “Polyamory Uncensored”, “Practicing Polyamory″, “Loving without Boundaries”, “Talk Your Poly Off”, “Non-Monogamy Help”, “LessTahn83 Podcast”, “Poly in Real Life”.

Image 6:  A single square image with a white background. The bottom 1/3rd of the image is filled with a hexagonal pattern. All the hexagons are either completely black or pink. There’s one black outline of a hexagon at the top right. One fo the hexagons near the bottom left is black with a pink polycule in it. At the top right of the image is bold black text which reads “additional resources.” Beneath it are two bulleted list. Each bullet for both lists is in the shape of a black heart. The first list is made up of black text and, in descending order, reads: “PLAC (Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition)”, “Polyamory-Friendly Professionals Directory”, “Polyam Peer Support Sevices”. The second list is slightly more to the right in comparision to the first list. The list is made up of black text and, in descending order, reads: “@polyamorouswhileasian”, “@polyphilia”, “@shrimpteeth”.

Image 1: A single square image with a black background. The majority of the image is filled with a hexagonal pattern. The pattern starts from the bottom and fills up roughly 1/3rd of the image. Each of the hexagon is either completely white or pink. Throughout the pattern are three different hexagons with each their own polycule symbol in it. A pink hexagon at the very middle left of the pattern with a white polycule. A white hexagon near slightly to the middle of the image with a pink polycule. And a white polyculepolycule more towards the middle right of the image with a black polycule. At the top of the image is left-aligned, bold text which reads “you are”, followed by bold pink text which reads “valid.” Directly beneath it is bold white text which reads “you are”, followed by bold pink text which reads “supported.” Directly beneath it is bold white text which reads “you are”, followed by bold pink text which reads “loved.”

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[clayticklish]

So I have seen that you have talked about open/poly relationships and I have been questioning that for myself because just.. I can in ways see that for myself but here's a thing that I'm kinda idk if bother is the right word or just not connecting but-

When I start thinking about poly I think of like a circle.. like I get frustrated to think of the poly relationships where it seems where it's like two people who date one person and it's not where they are all with each other.. and I see that more where it's two genders (ex. two females with one male, or two males with one female). And like.. idk..

I just think of where some poly relationships could be like a circle where like.. everyone is with everyone and not where it's like a V..

..this is starting to get kinda long and I ain't the best at explanations.. I uh.. hope this makes sense..??? I have no clue..

Anonymous ask continued: ..this is me forgetting to ask my other question in my previous ask.. I'm the kinda starting to rant anon asking about poly/open relationships. So here's my other question. Is there a way to tell if being in a poly relationship or identifying as poly is a good idea(?)...?

Answer: There are many styles of open/poly relationships! This article does a good job of outlining the different types, and it includes the ‘V’ type that you mention where one person has a relationship with two separate people who don’t have a relationship with each other. The type you describe as a ‘circle’ is more commonly referred to as a Triad or Quad.

I’ve left this ask unanswered for awhile mainly because I couldn’t seem to come up with a good answer for whether or not identifying as poly is right for you. I recommend continuing to educate yourself about these types of relationships and perhaps starting to meet some poly people as friends before committing to taking on the label yourself. I’ve also recently started following @polyphiliablog on Twitter and Instagram, and I can’t recommend them enough as a resource for learning more about polyamory 🙂

https://linktr.ee/polyphiliablog

[describedposts]

[Image ID: A Tweet from Poly Philia @/polyphiliablog that reads as follows - I no longer refer to my friends as "just friends", as it implies that platonic love is less valuable, deep, and intimate than romantic love. They're just different vibes to me now, and the difference between the two blurs and becomes less important every day. End ID.]

[legacysam]

[ID: Tweet by @ polyphiliablog. “Polyamory is great because I get to experience all the joys of hugging, kissing, cuddling, and holding hands with people who are taller, shorter, or the same height as me 🥰”]

[polyamshellscape]

@polyphiliablog on TikTok

[polyanamam]

I'm in my 13th year knowingly beeing polyamorous, I surely made many mistakes but no bingo for me.

[polyamproud]

hi, polyam teen here. i've been suppressing my polyamory (polyamorousness? the fact that i'm polyam-) for the entirety of 2021 and only now am i starting to make an effort to come to terms with it. i had a rough experience when i first realized i was polyam and it's been hard to let myself be ok with the fact that it's part of who i am. it's even harder because i'm questioning if i actually am because i've been having mostly monogamous attraction and is that just something internalized?

Hi there, thank you for sending in this ask!

It can be a bit rough for some people when they realize they're polyamorous especially since it means you'll have to unlearn many of the mono-normative things you've been thought. It could be something that's internalized yes, but we can't say that with any certainty.

The best thing you can do to try and figure this out is to take the time and think it over if a polyamorous relationship would be fitting for you and test out if any of it appeals to you. It may of course take a bit of time to figure out if polyamory works for you or not but there's no need to rush it.

There are also many resources that might be of some help to you in trying to figure this all out such as the Polysecure book or various places that have a lot of advice available regarding this such as the Polyphiliablog.

[iamcrystalqueer]

[photo id: post by polyphiliablog: “You deserve better than someone who won’t forsake everyone else to be with you. Have some self respect.”

I feel like I deserve to be in a relationship style that empowers and fullfills me, and that relationship style happens to be polyamory. What if I desire polyamory because I respect myself too much to ever be miserable in a monogamous relationship? Who are you to tell me what I need to do to respect myself? End id]

[polyamzeal]