#sky is aro ace

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I go in the asexual tag out of curiosity for the first time in years and I instantly get slapped with porn lmao

War.... war never changes

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For the record, the discrimination being described goes against the code of ethics set in place by the American Counseling Association, and I have a feeling there are other countries with similar guidelines. If your therapist treats your gender identity or sexual/romantic orientation as a problem needing to be fixed, even after you have explicitly said "you may not be educated on this but this is not something I see as an issue," please report them, either to the state licensing board or the ethics committee of the appropriate professional association. The mental health field should be an inclusive space, and you're well within your rights to hold your therapist accountable.

I can't speak to anything outside of the counseling field, but this is becoming a pretty standard expectation. Mental health professionals need to be better.

fun fact (not fun at all fact actually) :

aromanticism and asexuality are still treated as issues to be fixed in most therapy settings, at least in the western psychiatric institution. i cannot fucking mention my aromanticism or asexuality to a therapist or it’ll immediately become their primary concern and goal to fix. whether or not i have a partner/am trying to have a partner is actively being used as an indicator of my wellness, regardless of if i WANT one. i cannot have access to needed mental health ressources because of fear of conversion therapy. aro and/or ace conversion therapy is the norm in most psychiatric institutions and we are getting told by the rest of the queer community that our oppression isnt real and that there is no link between our struggles and theirs.

more thoughts on the medicalization of asexuality and/or aromanticism

answers to common notes

aplatonic perspective

ressources

background information

tips to avoid aro and/or ace conversion therapy

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"Love is what makes us human" Wrong, my ability to write poetry about the moon is what makes me human

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Hope every single Pringle (like me) survived Valentine’s Day

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I am HYPERFIXATED on this beautiful game and juicebox fiddlesticking crust you guys

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It is once again Valentines Day.

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Next time you are thinking that an aromantic person could never love an alloro person in a manner that would feel sufficient to the alloro person, I will send you my husband's phone number so he can tell you the 3000 ways you are incorrect

Pretty sure I have worried about him not feeling loved enough 100% more than he has ever felt it

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Hey OP! I think for the most part, these questions typically come from a place of concern and/or caring. Typically I hear a lot of, "I just don't want you to end up alone!"

I think being clear and firm is the best thing you can do. Thank them for thinking of you/being concerned about you, but you don't feel like anything is missing and you're happy. Most of the time that's enough. If they're persistent, I would just say, "I've expressed that I'm happy the way things are, and I hope you can respect that."

Tbh a lot of people are OBSESSED with making sure everyone is living the life THEY think is right, lol. But people all find happiness and fulfillment in different ways.

As an asexual who figured herself out pretty late (mid 20s) I tried to have a talk with my family about not having ever been in a relationship and not feeling the need to be in one. Unless some criteria are met first - as in me being comfortable to be honest and open - and even then I'm not sure how romance positive I am.

How do others react to hearing this "but how do you know? You just haven't met the right person yet. You don't even know what you're missing "? This is my experience and my body and mind and I feel like I can't get them to listen since they think they know it better. It feels like I'm missing the right words to make them understand. Anyone have experience or advice on this ?

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some days of color art and pride flags :) I am willing to take flag requests to update this with more flags

July 14th, 2024 (today)

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OCs | 20250609

Happy Pride Month!

First

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Sky, Aroace and Queerplatonic!

Requested by anon

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As someone who's identified as aro for well over a decade, the sad feeling will go away

aro culture is always switching between being happy you're aro because you feel like that's part of who you were always supposed to be, and then feeling sad that you'll never know what romantic love feels like.

(seriously, if i could stop being aro for a day to experience alloromanticism and then switch back afterwards, i would totally do it. i am SO curious, even though i wouldn't want to be allo permanently)

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Spice up your story by adding an allophobic character. While all of your characters should be aspec in some way to be considered good, your character can still be allo if you must AND be allophobic

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Ace and Aroace headcanons (part 2)

Mostly aroace headcanons in this part.

Amy from Looped is aroace

Brian from The Breakfast Club is aroace

Luc from Looped is biromantic ace

Maddie from Ever After High is on the aroace spectrum

Raph from Rise of the TMNT is aroace

Sticks the badger is aroace

Before the fourth Despicable Me, I saw Gru and Lucy as ace

For the first 99% of Sky High I saw Warren as a romance-repulsed aroace

Part 1 | Part 3

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WAIT WHAT???

IS THIS REAL FAM???

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I also would like to add that you are well within your rights to screen a therapist prior to having a session with them. Many will offer a 20 to 30 min call/video chat free of charge so you can discuss what you're looking for in a therapist. This allows you to ask the therapist about things like their therapy style (if it's more active or passive), what their areas of expertise are, and whether they have worked with specific populations or concerns in the past.

If they're not familiar with or haven't worked with aromantic people in the past, you have two options. One, you can gauge the therapist's willingness to educate themself and learn how best to support you. Or, two, you can tell them you don't think it's a good fit and thank them for their time, then move on to the next.

Some therapists are very willing to step up to the plate and do the work needed to fill the gaps in their knowledge. I've heard of many cases where a therapist ended up being an incredible help to a client even though they weren't initially familiar with some aspect of the client's identity. Unfortunately, this won't always be the case, so I think it's up to you to decide if you're willing to go through that process. If you don't want to, that's fine. You don't owe a therapist anything.

Do you have any tips on finding an aspec-friendly therapist? I’m just worried that if I go to an LGBTQ+ friendly therapist they might not be as knowledgeable about aspec identities and problems. I’m aroallo if that puts things into better context.

There's Aro Recommended, which has a directory on therapists other aros have had good experiences with. AUREA also has a really good page about finding a therapist when you're aromantic that might be helpful for you.

Otherwise your best bet is probably trial and error, talk to your therapist the first chance you get and ask them questions like if they know about or have any expertise in treating aro people of people with your identity, if they're comfortable with it, etc. And if you're not comfortable with their answers, or if you once things get going you're not comfortable with how things or going or how they're responding to your concerns, don't be afraid to pick up and try someone new. And hopefully it's not a long process, but just keep doing that until you find someone who's right for you.

Good luck, Anon! All the best!