#aromanitc

[ivydbomb]

Throwback to the time I commented ‘I’m aro/ace’ under a YT video and all the comments on my comment were ‘those pronouns are fake. You damn liberals’ or something like that.

Reblog if your pronouns are also aroace

Edit: To all the people saying ‘I’m not sure if I can reblog this’ feel free to reblog if you support aroace people. You don’t have to be one!

[qweerty30]

People who don’t like certain identities a pride are so funny.

Imagine going to a circus and asking why one of the clowns are there.

Im honking my nose and doing a wierd dance for a reason ! >:(

[zalpacka]

We should 100% normalize saying "I love you" to friends in a platonic, non romantic way. Yes, I love my bestie with all my heart. Does that mean I want to do stuff that you'd normally find in a ao3 stuff with the tag "AJAOFHEIS SMUT" in it? NO!

I WANNA CUDDLE IN A BLANKET FORT WHILE BINGE WATCHING THE OWL HOUSE, NOT MAKE OUT!

Just cuz someone loves someone who isn't related by blood, doesn't mean that it's romantic

Annnnnd I went off on a tangent :/

[spicypotstickerbliss]

ironic that Cupid was an arrow ace tbh

[schrodingers-intelligence]

Someone low key aphobic: Romantic and sexual attraction is what makes us human!

The A-Spec community, holding up a penguin: BEHOLD A HUMAN

[shiftingwithmars]

”Guys and girls can’t be just friends—“

respectfully, stay the fuck away from me

[daybringersol]

gotta be honest, i hate the whole oppression contest between romance-favorable and romance-averse aromantics that’s going on right now. both of those groups are pressured to act like the other. you know why? because people just don’t like us being aromantic. that’s it. nobody’s more privileged than the other, at least not in this context.

if you’re alright with being in relationships, then you’re told you’re not really aromantic. the goal is to make you doubt you’re aromantic.

if you don’t want to be in relationships, then you’re told that aromantics can date, so you should! the goal is to make you more palatable, to make you romance-favorable so then, they can gaslight you into thinking you’re not actually aromantic. or they just straight up call you heartless (shoutout heartless aros, love you guys <2) and/or inhuman, but thats just their true colors showing. they think that of all aros.

and the aromantic people who says shit like that? they’re trying to throw the group they’re not part of under the bus to make themselves either more palatable or less ‘confusing’. they’re scared.

nobody’s winning here. let’s all just shut the fuck up for a second and recognize that these people just don’t want us to be aromantic. that’s it. doesn’t matter if you’re romance-averse, romance-favorable or anything else. they just want us to conform. and if you’re accusing the other side of being responsible for your oppression, you’re playing right into their game.

[thecommunalfoolboy]

Why can’t we have a campy musical about an aroace person figuring out what they are, complete with a running gag where they constantly almost throw up when sex is mentioned

[drizzledrawings]

Happy pride!!!

[loki-god-of-mischief-13]

Pride Mezuzahs

If I forgot your flag, tell me. Happy pride to the Jews in my phone.

[person25]

Something that has always bothered me is when a show/movie says something like “I want you to find the person for you. Then you’ll understand how it feels to be truly happy.”

Every time it’s said i yell “wrong!” at the tv. Really, are you saying the only way i can find true peace in life is if i’m in a romantic relationship?

My parents never understand why i have such strong feelings about this but that’s not much of a surprise.

[no-fear-queers]

FRIENDLY REMINDER #5

BISEXUAL MEN ARE REAL AND ARE VALID

BISEXUAL MEN AREN'T "sEcReTlY gAy"

BISEXUAL WOMEN ARE VALID

BISEXUAL WOMEN AREN'T "eXpErImEnTiNg"

BISEXUAL TRANSMASCULINE ENBIES ARE VALID

BISEXUAL TRANSFEMININE ENBIES ARE VALID

BISEXUAL TRANSNEUTRAL ENBIES ARE VALID

BISEXUALS REGARDLESS OF GENDER (or lack thereof) ARE REAL AND VALID

BISEXUALS ARE STILL BISEXUAL AND VALID REGARDLESS OF WHO THEY'RE DATING

BISEXUALS ARE STILL BISEXUAL AND VALID IF THEY'RE NOT DATING ANYONE

BI ACES AND BI AROS ARE REAL AND VALID

[its-kayyyy]

You are valid (:

[beawritingbooks]

Here is how I explained asexuality to my mother:

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My Mom: What exactly is asexual?

Me: It means that I experience little to no sexual attraction.

My Mom: I just don’t understand that. You thought [name redacted] was cute.

Me: I still think [name redacted] is cute. I just don’t experience any sexual attraction towards them.

My Mom: That doesn’t make any sense to me.

Me: Well, I can recognize when someone is ugly, cute, uniquely hot, and when they are considered sexy, but I still don’t experience sexual attraction to any of them.

My Mom: I’m not saying that you don’t feel this way, or that I don’t believe you, but how could that be possible?

Me: Okay, so, let’s say that I have 4 pairs of shoes in front of me. The first pair are crocs, the second pair are ballet flats, the third pair are those chunky spice girls platform sandals, and the fourth pair are red stilettos.

My Mom: Okay…

Me: Now, I would classify the crocs as an ugly shoe. Do you agree?

My Mom: Yes.

Me: I would classify the ballet flats as cute.

My Mom: So would I.

Me: I would classify the platform sandals as ugly-hot. I know you hate them, but they call to me, and I still love them to this day. Does that make sense?

My Mom: *laughing* Yes.

Me: Lastly, I would classify the red stilettos as hot and/or sexy. Like, that’s a sexy shoe.

My Mom: Absolutely!

Me: Okay, now, even though I can recognize that these shoes have varying degrees of attractiveness, I do NOT want to fuck the shoes…and that is also how I feel about people.

My Mom: Ooohhhh, that makes way more sense to me. I get it now. Well, I don’t “get it,” because I’m straight, but I understand what you mean.

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Basically, this is how I felt trying to explain things:

[spindlekick]

Can you believe it took me over a decade to come to this realization

[daybringersol]

as someone in the aro community (and i think this is also applicable to the ace community, which is why y’all are included), i think there is something to be said about people trying to find a moral explanation to their repulsion. in a some situations, it is helpful and there is a conversation to be had about it but in a lot of others, it’s just recycled purity culture, i’m going to be honest.

before you send a post about how you think it’s actually exhibitionist to kiss in public, or predatory to talk about people you want to sexually pursue with your friends, please ask yourself first if there is genuinely something wrong morally going on there, or if it’s just something that grosses you out. it’s completely okay if it’s something that grosses you out. you don’t need to make up a moral reason behind it. you can just say ‘it grosses me out’ and find a way to remove yourself from that situation, for exemple, by looking away, or asking your friends to not talk about those topics around you (if they refuse, that’s another problem entirely and you should get better friends).

it is as unhealthy for allo people to repress their romantic and/or sexual attraction than it is for us to repress our aromanticism and/or asexuality. this isn’t like an theoretical extrapolation, this is a proven phenomenon, we’ve seen it with the catholic church. i understand and empathize with the fact that it feels like all of this is forced upon us, because it is, but there is a difference between someone telling us ‘i like this’ and someone telling us ‘you’re weird/broken if you don’t like this’.

anyways, sorry for the rant, i keep seeing posts in the aro and/or ace tags that try to justify their repulsion with morality, and i don’t want to single out anyone so i thought i’d make this post. there is no issue with posting about repulsion itself, for the record, it’s the moral justification that i think is unhelpful.

you don’t need any justification for your repulsion, you can just be repulsed. that’s fine.