#trans and enby inclusive!

[friends-call-me-snow-miser]

reminder that intersex people exist and to include us in ur activism and attempts at inclusivity

[whereserpentswalk]

Most passing and binary trans woman on earth: "actually I am biologically female, a real category that both exists and matters, because hormones. So obviously transphobes should respect me and its factually wrong to be transphobic agaisnt me because I've somehow managed to transition into a cisgender person."

Anyone even slightly educated on the broader queer community: "What if, now hear me out, intersex women and afab enbies tormented you using demons and magic spells."

[hwatermelons]

unconventional gender neutral terms of endearment ^^

(mostly made this cause my drafts always have "baby" a million times and then i replace them lol)

- pretty (as in pretty girl/boy, but without the gender word attached) - starlight/my star, sunshine - honestly if you put "my" before anything it could probably work as an endearment - animals: firefly (got the idea from sufjan stevens), bunny, dove, mouse, hamster, hummingbird, penguin, monkey 😭, kitten (this one's kinda popular) - flowers: tulip, rose, sunflower, a flower that's special between your characters - fruits/vegetables: pumpkin, bean, mango, lychee, kiwi, peach, nectarine, apricot, berry(!!), blueberry, strawberry, raspberry, cherry, etc - sweets! a special weakness of mine is sweets from the person saying the endearment's culture. like if someone who was also indian called me their kaju katli i'd melt (but probably not laddu unless it's clear they're teasing and i get back at them 💀). maybe runs the risk of being cringey tho? honestly as long as it's from the sayer's culture and suits their personality it's fine - examples of sweets that don't belong to a certain culture: cookie, brownie - nature: snowflake, raindrop?? (i guess it works if your character has something to do with water), sprout, sapling

and here's some classic gn terms of endearment if your character's more into that: - darling (i see this as a perfect alternative to princess/prince) - love/my love - lovely/beautiful - baby/babe (can be used in both cute and teasing/suggestive moods) - angel (personal favorite of mine!) - dear (it's so "grown old together" vibes, i'm in love with this one for this purpose) - honey, honey pie, sugar, sweet(ie). honestly if they're used for s/os, it feels kinda old-fashioned. but for parent figures saying it to someone much younger that they care about, children or otherwise? (i'm imagining a southern (from america) beekeeper with no children or spouse of her own who sells her famous honey to buy food for the small army of orphaned children that shows up on her front porch every morning for breakfast. and these are the kinds of things she'd call them. perfection.)

[charwhitkiss]

guys what is the gender neutral term for ma’am/sir cus I like saying ma’am/sir jokingly to my friends and I need to know what the gender neutral equivalent is so I can do my part in helpin the gendern’ts feel not-left-out 😓😓😓

[c10verfem]

i’m kind of confused as to why you follow me. i’m a transgender feminist who speaks quite often about the flaws of radical feminism, and while you claim to be trans inclusive you reblog from terfs so long as they aren’t targeting trans people in their posts. i don’t usually or ever do things like this, but any rad leaning feminist usually vehemently dislikes me because i believe nonintersectional feminism to be harmful, and that does extend to radfeminism.

I am very sorry. I am nonbinary myself, I do not dislike you. I have found myself leaning towards radical feminism for the past year or two but take major issue with how trans and nb people are treated and spoken of, especially transfems. I will not reblog posts from terfs anymore, I have deleted them. I will rethink my stance on radical feminism. I am once again sorry for any harm or upset caused by my actions. I will do better next time, thank you.

[dlnorampage]

you have a great blog and i appreciate the reblogs just now a ton just thought you should know

thank you so much & i hope you have a really good day!

i was kind of spiralling over the toxicity of queer discourse and how it affects us as a community. we are infighting in what's meant to be a safespace for everyone. we shouldn't squabble over labels and flags and all that. in the end we're all queer and there are much more important problems to focus like how theres places that neglect trans healthcare.

trans youth are in need. children are dying. and yet we focus on such minuscule gripes because some random person is identifying as this instead of that.

i recently realized how ive always been ostracized back and forth in the majority of my 'safe'spaces. being told i'm not valid because i identify a certain way. what counts as "valid" in the first place? what are the criteria for being "valid", when does it stop being "valid"? is it when their identity is "too complex" for you?

we are all tired of being ridiculed by queerphobes. we don't need to bring all that hate to our own community.

no one should ever feel ashamed of how they identify as. no one should ever feel ashamed over preferring certain labels over others. what defines your experience is yourself, after all. not others.

the shunning hurts the progress of self-discovery, because you are constantly told that simply being a certain is wrong. you are told that being yourself is wrong.

from the bottom of my heart, to all people that need to hear this. love to all queer people with identities that are commonly frowned upon. love to all queer people with "contradictory" labels. please keep strong.

i am no longer afraid to admit who i am, and you shouldnt be either. i dont need to hide my true self to fit the standards of other people, and you dont need to do so either.

to the exclusionists, unfollow me if you havent already; i really dont need you here. and to all queer people: you are all inherently beautiful.

[sunbleachedskull]

i love using microsoft word for evil

[dewgongs]

i know its a little messy but i like my version of the twink pride flag a lot more... made by a trans gay twink babey! idk if this'll gain traction literally at all but i like it so im hangin it on my blawg. just a redo of the og that kinda looks dehydrated imma be honest. here's the og:

[jbankai89]

Got a few new items and OFMD-But-Not-Really Items too!

[thedevilsfamiliar]

“Put your tits away!” No!!! You can’t make me!!! What else am I supposed to do with them? How dare you tell me to prevent women from seeing them 😤 ladies should be allowed to ogle!

[steps-untraced]

Shoutout to WotC for making an errata for this silver-border card from 1998

“Opposite sex” became “different gender”

Unfortunately, the effect is still profoundly mediocre even for enbies that destroy the gender binary and consistently get the bonus

[leeoh-art]

I really like this painting, i made it last month and showed it around at a market on National Women's Day. Here in my city there's this feminist collective that's trans inclusive, they organise cool self defense classes and markets and art shows prior march 8th

They're really nice and truly help people around here

[myrskyscum]

Tme/Tma is subjective.

It's is a personal subjective title, which is fluid, and may change at times. Sometime people may feel like they have faced misogyny or other times misandry. Sometimes what could be taken as either isn't, or sometimes these labels can interchange based on someone's personal identity.

Gender is vast, and it is unlimited. I don't not believe in fixed misandry nor misogyny, as we, the people, have built this system up, changed it, and can change it. Power dynamics are constantly changing, and personal wealth is harder to pin-point in the general public. There is women who have power over men, men who have power over women, nonbinary people who have power or don't.

It's all so ever changing and not fixed. You cannot always pinpoint what kind of hate someone has, like hate towards someone is nonbinary is enby-phobia but where does that fall? See, it's subjective and based on someone's own interpretation.

Sexism is a genderless term, transphobia can be considered sexism but not all sexism is considered transphobia.

[my-gf-is-kazuichi-soda]

need a phrase for girls/genderneutrals who take testosterone/are gonna take testosterone (mee)

for some reason all I could think of was "trans testes", "testosterone lesbian", and "testosterone bitch"

[transitional-diaries]

Going to my first ever pride parade/march/mardi gras tomorrow. Don't really know what to expect from it but hey at least it'll be something I can say I've done

[dhddmods]

Why are people so against shifting language to be more inclusive?

"Ladies and gentlemen" should be distinguished guests/folks (or something else along those lines.)

"Men, women, and children" should be adults and children.

"Girls and boys/men and women" should be people. Or, if you must, girls, boys, & enbies or men, women, & enben.

"Brothers and sisters" should be siblings.

"Aunts and uncles" should be piblings.

"Nieces and nephews" should be niblings.

"Mothers and fathers" should be parents.

"Sons and daughters" should be children.

"Husbands and wives/boyfriends and girlfriends" should be partners.

"Masculinizing or feminizing HRT" should be T or E, or - if you want to be more specific - androgenizing, micro-androgenizing, estrogenizing, micro-estrogenizing, androestrogenizing, or micro-androestrogenizing.

"Transmascs & transfems" should be trans people (as transandrogynous, transneutral, transnull, transgenderless, transxenine, transoutherine, transaporine, multigender, and mixed gender people also exist.)

"AFAB and AMAB" should be raised/perceived as female or raised/perceived as male (as intersex people can be given reassigned genders after birth and/or socially imposed genders, meaning that they could be raised/treated in contradiction to what they were assigned at birth)

Why is it that, even in the queer community, binary concepts of gender and sex are still pushed?

(This isn't referring to your own personal connections. For example, if you have only aunts & uncles, saying "aunts and uncles" isn't wrong when referring to your own personal family. Its when you apply this as a generalized statement about other people that it becomes an issue.)