#type of thing

[faggotisaacfloofs]

Okay I have been trying to sleep for an hour but can't so I think i have to name this and since tumblr is my public journal I'm doing it here.

Went to hardware store with caregiver today.

Got paint for living room. To get paint need to have person mix the color. Person was clearly queer and noticed me and caregiver as queer as well, had the "i see I'm among family" type interaction, was lovely

But

During the like. 10 minutes. They did not pay attention to a single thing i said (using AAC obviously). They talked a lot to my caregiver. But. They sure weren't talking to me or acknowledging or responding to a single thing I said even when I thanked them at the end.

And. It sucks that queer moments are ruined by ableism. I still am happy to see someone out and about being queer and having that lovely interaction

But I'd honestly rather interact with a cis-straight person who is communicating with me, than an lgbtqia+/queer person who isn't acknowledging my communication. Like. That's not even a question.

So.

I'm sad, I guess. That's what I have to say. I wish the interaction could have just been good, and not have such a sour center.

I am going to try to allow for the possibility that they just did not hear my AAC. It's possible I guess. It wasn't loud enough that I needed earplugs tho and that is usually the measure of if someone within 3 feet can hear my device at loudest volume! But some people are hard of hearing. So. Trying to give benefit of doubt since it had multiple sounds happening.

(But honestly like. If a person can hear what my caregiver is saying they should be able to hear what my device is saying at same range. They were not speaking loudly! We were so close! The store was was quieter than normal! I wasn't wearing earplugs in a public building that's how quiet!!! (I needed them in parking lot and every store ever more of the time!))

And also this kinda thing happens all the time which is why I am more jumping to sad.

It sucks being ignored.

It sucks not being able to speak.

It sucks not being able to partake in normal conversation when I want to!!!!

Everyone learn your local sign language and stop being a dick to people who you view as developmentally or otherwise mentally disabled!! We are still people and have thoughts!! Stop being a dick to people who can't speak. Be patient when someone is using AAC of any sort (speech device, letterboard, communication cards, gestures, etc). Make the effort to communicate with us.

[funkbun]

bugsnax fans should go play great god grove and ggg fans should go play bugsnax ❤️ okay.

[marzipanandminutiae]

I see what you're getting at in regards to the importance of breast support in fantasy fashion, but aren't there many non-western cultures that did not necessarily use clothes as breast support? Ranging from those that just let it swing to those which might just use a light, non-rigid undergarment? People with (larger) breasts continued to do labor and physical activities in those societies, so I don't think it's impossible to imagine a fashion that doesn't include this type of feature. By the same logic of "women aren't dumb and wouldn't have worn corsets and stays if they were torture devices" I think we have to accept that women wouldn't have skipped breast support if it was highly uncomfortable for them

there are some cultures in various places that currently or previously have forgone breast support garments, yes!

it's not a strict Western/Non-Western divide, I will say- for example, traditional Japanese clothing includes a bandage-like arrangement called sarashi (sarashi is the name of the cloth, but came to be synonymous with the breast-covering application in some cases) that supports and somewhat minimizes the bust without binding completely flat the way we think of it for gender-related purposes. or the angia in India, a garment that dates back at least to the 19th century and not further than the 13th and was sort of a cross between a blouse and a bra as I understand it. it's believed to have been brought to India by Muslim conquests, by some historians

there have also been moments in western history when breast support was either absent or is not currently well-understood by historians. in many parts of medieval Europe, for example, it wasn't addressed in contemporary sources. the Lengberg Castle "bra," dated c. 1440-1485, is one rare example of what equally rare primary sources sometimes call a "breastbag," but the evidence is pretty thin on the ground

and I do wonder about that! how is it not uncomfortable, speaking as someone of medium bust size who's experienced pain when wearing a bra with perished elastic for too long? I've tried looking into this online, and nobody seems to have asked women in modern societies where total toplessness is the norm

you see a lot of braless advocates from cultures where bras are the norm claiming that bras are the cause of the discomfort: they weaken the muscles and make it painful to go without. but photos of women from opless cultures show just as much sagging as any woman who's worn a bra may experience, so the muscles can't be THAT affected

so what's the deal? how are or were these women comfortable where many other women the world over would not be? no idea and nobody's researching it. argh

however, I should have been clearer that I was talking about fantasy/historical books in a western-inspired setting. I thought context and the prior posts about similar topics on this blog would do thatt for me, which was my mistake. this particular book was set in a world heavily inspired by early-mid 19th century Germany

books written by authors from Bra Cultures, about time periods and places where breast support was a commonplace thing. where it's just...not addressed. that's what annoys me

[hawnks]

Ok here's the fantasy been on my mind for weeks.

A man is dutifully in charge of you. Knight/princess, butler/heir, manager/hero, esper/guide, ect. He's stoic, damn near impossible to get a read on. Other people think he's cold, the furthest thing from nurturing, but you know he goes out of his way to take care of you, well beyond what decorum mandates. He cares for you, makes sure your fed, looks after you when you're sick, ties your laces for you when they come undone.

But he's so very impenetrable that you're not sure if he's so protective over you because he likes you, or because he's responsible for you.

Until one day he snaps. Maybe you've been teasing him, testing boundaries. Maybe you've been flirting around to gauge his reaction. Maybe you tried to run away from whatever your obligations are, abandoning it, and him along with it.

Whatever it is, he finally loses the reins on his very well kept temper. And he shows you just how much passion is hiding behind the facade of duty.

[overstimulated-autism-creature]

[sweetestflow3rs]

i know that every writer’s advice is the “Just write!!” and like. yes!!!!! but also, first let me craft a 15+ outline that tracks the characters & their characterizations alongside me writing EVERY single detail that MUST happen in this chapter or else i’ll DIE

[mssmooll]

God, I don't even like man, but The Bois™ conquered my heart omfg

I would kill for an Eddie Brock x Venom typa schtick

I would murder for a Charles x Edwin typa love

And I can only WISH I could have a Deadpool x Wolvering typa desire.

I have been so in love with them and their romances, and got would I kill for someone that brought me as much joy as they bring me.

[blankieisablankie]

ART COLLAB W @dragongold-exe @akheku AND @pineconeius IN ORDER FROM LEFT TO RIGHT :]!!!

Mine on its own

BASE UNDER FHE CUT

[ravenloftbythelamplight]

Memory/loss of memory/the altering of memories is a repeat element of Azalin Rex's presence in the setting (him being literally-metaphorically split in twain and both halves lacking most of his memories in KotD, Darkon itself slowly sapping away at outsiders' memories of their homes until they believe that they must've always lived there, him being able to modify and effect the memories of anyone in Darkon at will after coming back from the Requiem). Obviously I don't know what the authorial intent coming from multiple different writers at different points in time was, but I do think it's a very interesting concept motif to have keep showing up and if I were to give it some kind of Deeper Meaning Maybe I guess I'd say, well, what does Azalin have of his home, of Knurl and everything he was ripped away from, except his memories? Well, that and his son of course, but still.

[nekomamiiz]

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which blorbo is currently floating around in your brain?

how did you two meet?

any fun date plans tonight?

a movie you two watch together religiously?

favorite meal to cook together?

if you play video games, what is your favorite to play together?

lastly, who said “i love you” first?

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[mishkakagehishka]

I always interpreted the "if you marry me / would you bury me" line as a "would you be with me until the very end" sort of thing,,,,,

[cookies-over-yonder]

going through a bad breakup dhmu unless you're going to be super nicies to meeee

[sh1-n0bu]

Honestly, I got to admit I kinda of ship TopJade for while, but after reading it how problematic it is, I decided to stop shipping them. Is that's normal that I shipped them first, but then I decided to stop it. Also, what's your thought of AvenPaz? I honestly like this ship, but I'm also not a huge fan of it.

eh, when it comes to shipping i generally try to stay away from it because ive been attacked before when i was in the genshin community. i wanna say that i would count as a multishipper but at the same time maybe rarepair enjoyer too? idk shipping is kinda weird sometimes and ive gotten enough attacks to just be repulsed by it lmao. as long as the ship isnt problematic (for example: adult x child, incest, step-cest, any form of cest, abused x abuser etc etc) than i have no problem. same with avenpaz, idc if theyre a ship or not, theyre just very cute together. topaz seems to care deeply for aventurine and for someone like aventurine who never really had tenderness in his life, is a good thing but it may also throw him off

[witchazard]

Im sorry people are being shitty, your drawings and designs are amazing and those dumbasses dont know what they're talking about <3

its okay, and thank u. it wasnt anything as bad as what i got over on twitter like theyre a pussy abt it too by being anonymous🤭

[sparklyoats]

Lil man has been a bit extra clingy today🥹 its also warm so thats not helping..