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Gotta believe it. im already divorced for i can't remember how many months. but it is a fact.n im still picking myself up from this extremely terrible fall.

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Grieving at my stupidity

#grief

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Woke up remembering how I enjoyed reading all sorts of books in my school library after my PSLE exams during our free periods. Can't remember what the others did or went, but I remembered how my teachers filled the library with a variety of books, which made me wonder how much more I didn't know. Then I recalled bits of how we prepared for a graduation dance performance for our last day. Somehow I was roped into the group. Not everyone had a computer then, the whole group of us like 9-15 people? excitedly gathered around one of the 2 fastest pentium something computers in the library, and navigated the world wide web on Internet Explorer through the expert hands of the "IT-savvy" aka richer-kids-who-had-own-computers-at-home. We were fascinated. They knew which websites to go, to find the latest trending songs and music video. What was Google, we only knew MSN, YouTube didn't exist and we all had the patience for the websites to load. Eventually we settled on Reach by S Club 7. Maybe there was also a singalong cause I recall also singing Graduation (Friends forever) by Vitamin C. Perhaps I was roped in, cause I always went to the library with them for a different reason, but my classmates were warm, inclusive and encouraging. Hence I went out of my comfort zone. A memory worth keeping. Hope everyone is doing well. Now back to books... #tiftots #librarybooks #books #mystory #history #memories #adhdbrain #thosewerethedays #nostalgia https://www.instagram.com/p/CjuQZjpOewd/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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#Cat Sleep Eat Nap Who are you not important I am This is my land I king I queen No Not the right time I play When i feel fine people Love me Hate me I am me..ow https://www.instagram.com/p/Cig1sJ7rrZ_/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Advise on Post breakup

now i know...

A good relationship is about working in collaboration, communicating our needs to each other, showing them what we need and don’t over expect.

Breakup is not that scary, scary thing is treating that relationship as everything. The more you are dependent on the other person reflects how much you need that person, you could be too weak or relying too much on the other person so this relationship is your everything, which could make the other person also very tired so want to leave.   

Recognise that you could have chosen the wrong arena, overestimated your capabiliities, hence the breakup is a result, it is a time stop and think to learn from the experience what skills you lack. Review areas that you need to work on and walk out of this misery.

Recognise that could be that the other person just doesn’t sees you as lifelong partner or is not ready to settle down so you will never be the right person anyway. Do not deny your own value and worthiness.

Break up is a process for self growth, not the end of your happiness. Do not blindly accept the person if they return, must evaluate if you really love that person or you are just too weak and need them. If you love them you would not insist on patching back. Because loved therefore there’s heartache, so we should respect their decision and let them go.

An artiste once said: 如果你看不到我的优秀那即便我是一团火，你也是只能看到这团火里冒的青烟。

“If you are not able to see my worth, even if I am a ball of flames, you will only see the smoke from this ball of flames”

Therefore in the eyes of someone who doesn’t value you, all your compromising and accommodating 妥协和迎合 would only magnify your worthlessness. When you don’t feel you are worthy, it is not that they gave up on you, but you had given up on yourself, hence they disregarded you as well. 

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1 week of squeezing but only blood came out. Today I finally Sanitised everything, but i only needed the skin clipper & 1 squeeze. LIKE IT WAS JUST WAITING FOR THAT MOMENT 🤣 all is well now #thornremoval #tifalternatives #lifegetsbetter #healingjourney https://www.instagram.com/p/CfQ2O2aAPGC/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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@joycekoo @jlhw77 Lovely catch up today, thanks for accommodating🙏... Look forward to your travel photos/stories in coming months 😅🤣hope to get my passport soon https://www.instagram.com/p/CeRCgtavXZ0/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Don't we all love the talk only no action? #tiftots #opinions #perceptionsareindividual #keeplearningkeepgrowing #ttrulyliving #tifalternatives https://www.instagram.com/p/CbYwNdQgIX5/?utm_medium=tumblr

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To a better year ahead 🥂 #Happynewyear https://www.instagram.com/p/CYLu_Y4vhdB/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Prepacks available but just love that I can #customise for myself #tifalternatives #asmr #dailyessentials #wellness #isotonic #selfcare #myfavourites #linkinbio https://www.instagram.com/p/CXJaWJ_gUIw/?utm_medium=tumblr

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刚才还没吃人家就很认真的问我几次 你的马铃薯有熟吗？🤔 明明马铃薯还在厨房啊 😂🤣 看来他碗里的＃苹果 处理的比较漂亮 #tifalternatives #tiftots #justanyhowtry #icookieat #eatingibvs #colourfulvegetables #salad #萨拉 https://www.instagram.com/p/CVF_QlWhjgm/?utm_medium=tumblr

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#snacktime https://www.instagram.com/p/CVFb0VmBkFt/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Spotted this harmless lady from afar... 1 leg missing #daddylonglegsmosquito #cranefly https://www.instagram.com/p/CVAnrj6h9Xh/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Power of sharing #月饼 #中秋节 #sharingiscaring https://www.instagram.com/p/CUGouG0BBOQ/?utm_medium=tumblr

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My attempts to take a decent photo before the clouds hid the moon again ☁️🌕🐇☁️ 😅😅 somehow forgot how to adjust the camera settings.. Rusty rusty... #justanyhowtry 🤣🤣 #乱拍 如果电话会说话，应该会叫我不要告诉人家这是p30拍的 #赏月 #乱了手脚 #tiftots #中秋节快乐 #fullmoon #midautumnfestival https://www.instagram.com/p/CUFkZYHPMVi/?utm_medium=tumblr

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🤣🤣 have been looking for it everywhere..then saw Green pulsing lights when i was pulling out laundry. It survived a second wash, apparently #workout was 213 steps today with average of 114 BPM 🤣🤣 Thankful its not dead #survivedtotellthetale #notsomecheapoproduct #tiftots #triedandtested https://www.instagram.com/p/CUDF9WePbIJ/?utm_medium=tumblr