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Ooo majoring in psychology. I’ve heard many things that most of the psychology literature is a bit bullshit because those guys don’t know how to use stats at all… also that IQ is not real and only distinguished those with very low IQ which you would probably be able to recognise anyway. What are your thoughts esteemed psychology person in training ?

I know more about psychology’s faults than u. 

and i agree it’s fake.

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men who hate women are like "stacy turned me down for the ninth grade formal so now i have to go on a shooting spree and kill as many innocent people as possible" and women who hate men are like "almost every male figure in my life has been violently abusive to me, and all men in power seem to actively oppress women, so i think i'll start my own, female-exclusice community so i live in peace" and that's why i will never take """misandry""" seriously!!

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"you painted a naked woman because you enjoyed looking at her, put a mirror in her hand and called the painting "Vanity", thus morally condemning the woman who's nakedness you depicted for your own pleasure"

-John Berger, Ways of Seeing.

womanhood is reading this quote and that one quote that says "male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies?" (if anyone can find it for me) and being fucked up for the next 3 months

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By Michaela Magaela Ďurišová

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wish my whole life could be a women’s only event

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The thing is with media is that you can’t really defend female characters’ right to wear makeup or look traditionally feminine because they aren’t real. they’re usually written by male writers who want them to look appealing to other men. those female characters don’t have agency. Scream weaponized femininity or for her “right to choose” all you want but she’s literally not real and her character probably isn’t groundbreaking for performing femininity

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One day men are gonna be putting flowers in their hair and theyre gonna speak softly and be comfortable with open displays of affection for one another and they’re still gonna be violently oppressing and dominating women :+)

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If you're not misogynistic, how come you couldn't be comfortable expressing yourself as a woman.

How come you had to use different pronouns and change your name to admit that you like pink. Woman just means you have a vagina. Nothing else. Why are you trying so hard to DIVORCE yourself from that if it doesn’t bother you?

If you don’t have any problem with “woman” or what the word represents, why do you wanna call yourself something else?

Just because you say things doesn't mean they're true. You're not trans. Just because your internalized misogyny makes you want to reject the gender hierarchy by using they/them pronouns and a slightly-edgy boy name doesn't mean you're trans. How can you call yourself a writer and a feminist when you lack any sort of serious self-reflection on how the system has constructed your patchworked identity?

Oh anon, sweetie, you chose the wrong person to send this shit too.

I’m not answering this for your benefit. I don’t owe you an explanation for who I am. I’m answering in case doing so helps make other trans folks who get similar messages or in case it educates someone else.

I’ve spent a lot of time questioning my identity. 20 years of figuring myself out, then 8 months of growing into myself, figuring it out - and yes, writing and talking about my identity in great detail. I guarantee that I’ve done more self-reflection than you EVER have.

I know exactly who I am now. I am a proud nonbinary person. Not because of any stereotypes about what boys and girls should be like but because it’s who I am, right down to my bones. It doesn’t matter how masculine or feminine or androgynous I present, it doesn’t change who I am. Just as you changing your clothes doesn’t change your gender.

I don’t have internalised misogyny. Not anymore - I did growing up. I hated pink, I hated make up, I hated skirts, anything associated with little girls. And I made fun of girls who did like those things. As a teenager, I was “not like other girls” I thought I was cooler and funnier because I was friends with the boys.

But all of that was complete bullshit. Of course it was - there’s nothing wrong with being a girly girl. I clung to that and was so dismissive of feminity because feminity made me uncomfortable, it caused me dysphoria. I didn’t know that then but I do now.

I’m not nonbinary because of internalised misogyny. In fact, I unlearned that misogyny by accepting myself as I am (a nonbinary person). When I figured out my identity I could stop punishing myself and hating myself for the feminity I showed because I learned to accept myself. And that meant I could stop hating the feminity I saw in others too.

I love girls. I love masculine girls and feminine girls and androgynous girls and all kinds of girls. They’re smart and funny and cool and brilliant. My best friends and some of my biggest role models are girls and they can do anything they put their mind to.

I’m just not one 🤷‍♂️ I can’t help that.

My identity as a nonbinary person isn’t patchworked from the patriarchy and it’s not about rejecting womanhood. It’s who I am. It’s home. It’s a part of me right down to my roots (and I promise you the patriarchy does not think of nonbinary people as allies lmao).

Also Theo isn’t a boy’s name. It’s MY name.

And indeed, Theo is a unisex name (yes there are girls named Theo!) It could be short for Theodore or Theodora. But it’s funny how you assume that masculine is default isn’t it?? Almost as if… You have some internalised misogyny of your own?

If you come back in my inbox you will be blocked. Bye bye now!

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U know those guys who just run....they run everywhere.......not cus they’re athletic or working out or anything....they just run everywhere.......to class....to the bathroom....to the car.......always trying to get to their destination ASAP.......yeah........those guys all end up being murderers

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this is incredibly tmi and trigger warning for child porn but i don’t know how to begin to talk to anyone about what happened to me. i got into porn at a really young age (like 10) and like a year later it escalated to me selling nudes on omegle. it was only ever my breasts but it doesn’t matter. i remember being surprised with how okay the men were with the fact that i was 11. one time a guy paid me to call him on the phone and pretend I was touching myself. I never realized how fuckd up it was

That is a very intense story. I’m sorry that you went through that. You should know that you are not alone. Your story is unique. It is your own, and mine can’t even begin to compare in its intensity. But when I was the same age, I too started watching porn regularly. I would sometimes go on omegle to talk to people too, and while I did not reach the same point as you, I personally know what you mean when you say you were surprised that the men were okay with you being 11. When I was on omegle as a middle school child, nearly ever man I spoke to would ask for some sort of sexual favor. Granted, it’s omegle and that’s what adults go on that site for. It really isn’t a place for children. But the fact that the men using that site will willingly take advantage of underage girls is disgusting. They find a girl who is young, vulnerable, and sexually curious and twist it for their own gain. It’s pedophilia. It’s sexual coercion. And you’re right: it’s seriously fucked up. 

You are not to blame. It is difficult for children growing up in this modern era who end up exploring their sexuality on the internet, which is always filled with predatory men and inappropriate, brain-washing content. If you haven’t already, I encourage you to step away from porn. I hadn’t realized how damaging it was to me until I stopped. If you are continuing to struggle with this sexual trauma, I suggest you perhaps talk to a counselor about it. It’s important that you face this developmental hiccup so that you can proceed onto a healthy sexual pathway. Good luck to you and please feel free to message me at any time. I will do what I can to help you.

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I have met 3 different ftm named “Jasper”. 

@pronounrespecter

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Children who claim to be transgender are usually actually homosexuals. Between 80% and 97.5% of transgender children later detransition.  - Source

“Multiple longitudinal studies provide evidence that gender-atypical behavior in childhood often leads to a homosexual orientation in adulthood, but only in 2.5% to 20% of cases to a persistent gender identity disorder (3, 6, 22).” 

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Man, I think part of the reason it took me so long to realize I’m a lesbian is because romance stories SO OFTEN look EXACTLY like my past relationships with men. Like, literally indistinguishable, to the point where I can watch those straight romcoms now and very easily interpret the main characters as lesbians dealing with the overwhelming pressures of compulsory heterosexuality.

Like, first she is annoyed by the guy, okay? She has zero interest, she finds him tedious and sees no reason she should be interested in him, or she sees him purely as a friend and does not expect any kind of romance. Holy hell could I relate to that!

And then they’re forced together by some circumstance – his persistent interest or their jobs or being literally stranded or whatever – and it’s incredibly awkward but they eventually find a way to coexist together and she even discovers positive aspects of his personality. He’s not such a bad guy, he’s alright. And that happened in a lot of my relationships with men, too. I learnt to tolerate them and even appreciate their good qualities.

And then often without any kind of active choice on her part suddenly they’re in a context where he wants more from her.

And here’s where my interpretations of those scenes differed from what the writers intend. See, I thought the hesitations of those in-love heterosexual women were the same as my own total lack of interest and how I had to work myself up to perform romantic love – or sexual interest – for someone I wasn’t actually, it turns out, attracted to.

Because it looks, from the outside, exactly like the chain of events in my own relationships with men. When it seemed like I’d gone too far to gracefully extricate myself the right thing was to just… try my very hardest to be in love, to try to love the guy as wholeheartedly as all people need to be loved, or do my best to at least play the part.

And I thought that was what real romance was, I thought those were the usual internal workings of a woman deeply in love, to decide to try to love someone purely because she’d reached a point where he wanted more and she’d gone this far and how could she not? Especially if he’d made some big romantic gesture, or needed saving, or was less annoying than initially presumed.

“Love as a choice” made sense to me then in a way it was never intended to mean. I thought I was choosing to be in love with these guys. When straight women chose to stay, I saw them choosing to be in love. In the back of my mind I always knew I could flip my “feelings” off like a switch, but I chose to stay and perform love, and really I think I thought that was normal.

It looks so similar from the outside.

It took falling in love with women and realizing how different my feelings are for women to notice that, wait a second, was that love? Or did I just feel like I’d reached some kind of point of no return and had to see the relationship through because that’s what you’re supposed to do?

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Yellow Themed Lesbian Buttons - The Lesbian Herstory Archives Button Collection

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hey lesbians remember thinking about getting married when u were little and heteronormativity made u think it had to be a guy and it didn’t look all that appealing but now the thought of having a wife makes u cry tears of joy SMASH that mf reblog button if u can’t wait to get a wife

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