I feel like we need to take ‘tone policing’ away from tumblr until they can handle being called out for accidentally using bigoted wording/terminology.
someone saying to not calling full grown trans men ‘boys’ because of the history of calling trans men that as a way to infantilize them isn’t ’tone policing’.
someone telling you not to use the words schizo in your posts isn’t ’tone policing’.
Someone saying not to use the words whiney/hysterical when describing women isn’t ’tone policing’.
Y’all need to realize you are capable of saying the wrongs words and unintentionally enforce bigoted ideas and it doesn’t invalidate the other things you say in your posts.
Hey quick question, how the fuck am I supposed to rely on the french justice system, let alone take it seriously, when a husband condemmed today for domestic violence in my town only got 15 months of prison even though he:
1. Has already been violent before
2. Has already been condamned for domestic violence before and only got 15 months then
3. Has been violent again despite a legal interdiction to approach his wife
4. Resisted arrest
Isnt 15 months ridiculously short for domestic violence? And who the fuck apply the same sentence to a recidivist, specially a violent one?
You know what usually happens to women when their violent husband is freed from jail after a short sentence?? He fucking kills her, that's what!
quick reminder that "misandry" doesn't exist. it's a delusion made up by men plagued with a victim complex because women are mean to them on the internet. so yeah, it's fantasy, it's a myth, a perjury, a subterfuge, a mirage, a fallacy, an ignis fatuus if you will.
oppressed men, like gbtqia+ men, men of color, disabled men, etc, are oppressed because they are also a minority, not because they're men. so they suffer from homophobia, racism, transphobia, ableism, etc. but. never. misandry. repeat it with me until you really internalize it: misandry. is. not. real.
The idea that female characters (particularly in a fanfic setting) who are subjected to heavy situations (kidnapping, SA, etc) are "weak" is grossly misogynistic actually. Your "BAMF" rendition of this character would not be any less of a BAMF if they were kidnapped and/or sexually assaulted, and any tears they shed in the process would not make them "weak"
Ok but there are trans women (at least know how to order groceries online by themselves) and there are trans girls (expect their friends to coach them through their emotions for three hours every time they stub their toe).
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Are we just repeating textbook misogyny . In my inbox
It’s incredibly concerning to me that so many people have just accepted that teenage boys go through an ‘edgy phase’ that often entails harassing minorities online and saying/commenting inflammatory things online for attention (including threats of rape and ‘jokes’ about being attracted to children/animals).
The ability to ‘crack a joke’ or start unnecessary discourse about ‘misandry’/‘the bear’ when faced with the image of a woman and/or girl who has experienced abuse or lost her life to femicide isn’t just ‘dark humour’.
It’s a display of a concerning lack of empathy for female victims of male crime: a growing trend amongst men and boys. It doesn’t matter if they don’t genuinely believe or agree with everything that they’re saying. They’re still capable of making light of violence against women and girls and that’s not a phenomenon that we should be expected look past/ignore because it’s ’just rage baiting’.
It's really simple. If you're born with a vagina and you naturally have elevated testosterone levels, you're a man. If you have a vagina and you take testosterone, you're a woman. But also if you have a vagina, you'll never be a man. But also if you have higher testosterone then you were never a woman. Woman never yes man a vagina testosterone no was an elevated. Vagina man.
My mom decided to weigh in on this, on the side of the Italian boxer, thinking I'd allow her to repeat bullshit talking points for some reason (never have allowed that shit, especially not from someone who raised me not to tolerate racism or anything that ends with someone being put down)...I made her stay on the line until she admitted she was wrong.
The world exists in such a baffling state of simultaneous sex-aversion and sex-hegemony. Every social platform on the internet is trying to banish sex workers to the shadow realm but I can't post a tweet without at least two bots replying P U S S Y I N B I O. People are self-censoring sex to seggs and $3× but every other ad you see is still filled with half-naked women. Rightwingers want queer people arrested for so much as existing in the same postal code as a child and are also drumming up a moral panic about how teenage boys aren't getting laid enough. I feel like I'm losing my mind.