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¿Can we please go back to putting normal boundaries as a society?

I feel like we went from the sublime to the ridiculous very quickly. cause here’s the thing about boundaries recently: it feels like nobody actually knows how to do them right anymore. and it’s one of the most quietly devastating problems in society rn because people are either living in boundaries? never heard of her mode or my boundaries are written in stone and any attempt to discuss them is a war crime mode.

And honestly i’ve been noticing a pattern in neurodivergent spaces that is… concerning. and i get it, i truly get it, because growing up neurodivergent in a world that refuses to accommodate you is exhausting. you learn to survive, you learn to mask, you learn to bend until you might as well join the Cirque du Soleil. so when you finally discover you can say no, it’s intoxicating. and sometimes it’s just… too intoxicating.

And i’m sorry if i sound rude, i really don’t mean to, but i’ve seen the fortress thing the most lately and I feel like I have to call it out.

No, jessica, your autism does not automatically give you the right to cut out everyone who makes you uncomfortable or overstimulated. you are still a human being living in a society, and yes, compromise is part of that. it goes both ways. yes, your needs matter, yes, people should meet you halfway, but the world does not bend to you alone.

Like, stopping all social interaction because someone laughed too loudly? no, that’s not a boundary, that’s isolation.

Refusing to participate in any group activity ever because it might be “too much” for you? you are allowed to protect your energy, but you are also supposed to… exist with other humans. there’s a difference between protecting yourself and cutting yourself off from life entirely.

And it’s not just isolated situations. i’ve seen it creep into communities, into friendships, into family dynamics. neurodivergent people, but also people in general, are learning their limits and suddenly treating every discomfort as an immediate dealbreaker, and i promise you, I swear on my life: that doesn’t make you enlightened, it makes you lonely. survival mode doesn’t have to be forever, but sometimes it becomes a habit. and habits like this? they isolate you, they hurt you, and yes, they hurt others too and you are responsible for that.

So yeah, protect your energy. protect your peace. say no when you need to say no. scream if you have to. but remember: being human means compromise exists. relationships, friendships, life itself requires it. And if you refuse to meet the world even halfway, you'll end up alone cause you become intolerant without even noticing.

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Society is fucking up the new generation of neurodivergents and I'm done with it.

Kinda long post.

We need to talk about how society has completely fucked over the new generation of neurodivergent people, and i mean this in a very specific, systemic way. the problem is twofold: the mundanization of neurodiversity and the infantilization of neurodivergent people disguised as “being accommodating.”

First, let me clarify: I am not throwing shade at people who genuinely need accommodations or support. If you need help, if you need adjustments to live your life safely and fairly, that is valid. What i am criticizing is the culture that treats autism, tourette’s, ocd, or other neurodivergent experiences as quirky, fun, or “just a personality thing.” It’s the trend of self-diagnosing online, calling it a lifestyle, and acting like being neurodivergent is cute or aesthetic, and that mindset is harmful.

The mundanization is insane. Now everyone and their cousin is self-diagnosing based on a 10-minute internet test and calling it a life label, with no follow-up, no professional guidance, no nuance. Neurodivergence has been turned into a trend, a set of quirks and aesthetics you can pick up online, instead of the complex, real, lived experiences it actually is. Society has convinced this generation that you can just slap a label on yourself and call it a day; and as a result, actual needs are ignored, struggles are trivialized, and people grow up thinking “i’m quirky, i’m different, it’s fine” instead of “these are real challenges that deserve real support.”

And of course that self diagnosing can be useful for people trying to figure out what's wrong with them. But you CANNOT claim you have some type of neurodivergency just because you took a buzzfeed test. Even for a self diagnosis that might be right, you need to do a lot of research.

Then there’s the infantilization, which is just as toxic. Neurodivergent people are constantly treated like fragile children under the guise of accommodation: “oh, we’ll handle it for you,” “don’t worry, you can’t manage that yourself,” “we’ll make it easy so you don’t get upset.” And guess what? doing this over and over trains people to believe that they are incapable of regulating themselves. It also creates a generation that is unreasonably intolerant, because heaven forbid someone treat them like a competent adult. If you ever assume a neurodivergent person can handle conflict, disappointment, or minor discomfort, suddenly you’re “invalidating” them, “being cruel,” or “unsafe.” This overprotection doesn’t protect; it infantilizes, isolates, and makes people hyper-defensive and reactive over matters that are often trivial. It's not only humiliating, but it's just awful in the long term.

And you see this with gen alpha especially. The kids coming up now are extremely intolerant to anything that challenges them, even slightly, under the excuse of neurodivergency. A meme that isn’t “neurodivergent-approved”? problem. A classroom disagreement? unsafe. Someone’s tone is “wrong”? harassment. Every small conflict or discomfort is treated as a crisis that must be handled for their sake, and as a result, they grow up expecting the world to bend around them entirely, with zero room for nuance or resilience. it’s a perfect storm of trivialization, overprotection, and entitlement, and it’s only getting worse because society keeps reinforcing it.

So what do we end up with? A generation that is both trivialized and overprotected. One that is told their quirks are cute and minor, but that also cannot handle even the smallest challenge without being “supported.” The result is people who are unprepared for the real world, incapable of regulating themselves in normal situations, and often defensive or hostile simply for being treated like a human being.

We need to start treating neurodivergent people like the capable people they can be. Overprotection is harmful, humiliating and ableist.

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Performative Conservatism Is Just Cosplay for Capitalism’s Decay

First post in this blog, and I'd hate to be that person not really that gets political, BUT:

Can we talk about this weird lil wave of Gen Z conservatives that popped up on TikTok and Twitter and now they’re getting podcast deals and think tanks are treating them like prophets??

Because. y’all. This is not some intellectual renaissance. It’s a ✨ coping mechanism ✨

My favorite way to explain it is that performative conservatism is not real conservatism. It’s cosplay.

You know the type I'm talking about. Tradwives with ring lights. Dudes who say “alpha male” with a straight face. The "men go to work, women bake bread" aesthetic except it’s sponsored by SHEIN and Red Scare reposts.

This stuff isn’t new (hi, Reagan Youth), but the ✨ vibe shift ✨ is def recent. It’s not about actual conservative policy, like taxes or values or infrastructure, it’s about a vibe. It's nostalgia, but curated. Cottagecore meets capitalism, and it’s spreading because it’s easier to pretend you’d thrive in 1952 than admit that you’re scared and broke in 2025.

Gen z is also getting crushed by the economy. Surprise! 👍🏻

Like let’s look at the math real quick:

• We’ve entered the workforce in the middle of a recession and inflation spiral.

• Rent is unhinged (avg. monthly rent in the US is now over \$2k. Ouch.)

• Most are doing side hustles on top of 40+ hr jobs

• College degrees? more expensive than ever, but worth less in the job market

• Home ownership? for us? that’s fantasy novel territory. Over 60% of Gen Z feel like they’ll never afford a home. That’s not an attitude problem. That’s math.

Also boomers won’t retire so there’s no room at the top lmao. That's the the thing nobody wants to say out loud: there aren’t enough “real jobs” because Boomers won’t leave.

Some sources reported that almost 20% of people over 65 are still working (Some are even presidents) and it's increasing. They’re staying in positions of power, they’ve got the pensions, the homes, the stable jobs… while we get unpaid internships and layoffs via email.

It’s like musical chairs, but the music stopped in 2008 and no one told us./cry

So naturally gen z is doing what every generation does when shit hits the fan: panic & pick a costume.

Some kids go full doomer. some become anarchists. and some go: “what if women stayed in the kitchen and I had a husband with a Roth IRA?” because that feels stable. It’s fake stability, but it's ✨aesthetic stability✨. And that counts for something on TikTok.

This isn’t about deep political beliefs, it’s about a generation raised in chaos who were told “just work hard and be smart” and now realize the game is rigged. So some of them pick up a Bible, buy a corset, and LARP as their grandparents.

Performative conservatism isn’t a moral failure. it’s a symptom of a sick system.

No, not all conservatives are grifters. but a lot of these young ones? yeah, they’re reacting to trauma; economic, social, existential. Don’t hate them. Don’t idolize them. Just understand where it’s coming from.

Also maybe let your grandma retire lmao✌️

Also, if anyone wants sources please let me know, I love to share.