#neurodiversity

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Social Battery

Kingfisher Psychology

[becausegoodheroesdeservekidneys]

My favourite neurodivergence-stacking story is that all my friends clocked my adhd symptoms immediately but what none of us realised is that they were obscuring the FUCKING NARCOLEPSY. brains sure are wild.

... I'm sorry WHAT

[sophies-library]

I don't wanna be the "Manic Pixie Dream Girl" that helped you find yourself again.

I wanna be the Autistic Trans Girl you asked to be your girlfriend and is always there for you, Iwanna be the Puppy Girl that you give headpats to.

I don't wanna be A Wonderful Experience, I wanna be Everything for you.

#ICantSleepAndAlliWantIsYourArmsAroundMe

[angstitty]

Spider-Man has forever been my all time favourite hero, I’m not really into comics or super-hero movies and despite my love for the character I’ve never done much digging into the fandom. It was mostly just a passive feeling of “THATS MY GUY” regarding the character.

But NOW

I’ve somehow been reminded of the spideypool ship because of the craze about Poolverine (for which I have little interest) and I’ve just become even more obsessed with both spider man and Deadpool thanks to the fanfics I’m reading.

Peter having a breakdown because of his spidey sense? That’s just like me having meltdowns because of sensory overload!

Wade fighting with his boxes? Yass baby love an overwhelmingly harsh internal monologue!

Spider-Man struggling with his hidden identity? Omg talk about a metaphor for trans identity!

Deadpool being a raging pansexual? Yeah I mean keep it in your pants but otherwise SLAY QUEEN IM JUST LIKE THEM

[xt0t4llys4n300x]

Deep down inside I'm just a sad little Victorian boy who has a pet rat as his best friend and a hyperfixation on vampires

[catsaystrickortreat]

Hiii do you think you could do like a sleepy white sheets bed type stim board it you can?? Thanks💕

Sleepy white bedsheets stimboard

Hey there, I didn’t know quite what you meant but I hope this is ok! :3

Any issues with this, preferences, or stuff you want me to change, please ask and I will happily redo it or edit it !

[hyperlexichypatia]

What some of y'all call "recovery" and "healing" is just... growing up.

The theme I keep coming back to, the theme I keep writing about over and over, is the inextricability of ableism (specifically neurobigotry) and ageism.

The pathologizing of youth. The infantilizing of disabled adults. The structuring and micromanaging of childhood leading to ever more opportunities for "deviancy" to be classified as "disordered." The "neurological" push to raise the age of majority. The constant framing of disabled parents and caregivers as "unfit" or "bad influences" on children. And on and on.

Ageism and neurobigotry are such an interconnected tangle loop mobius strip that people are using the "healing"/"recovery" framework for basic human maturation.

When you were little, you uncritically accepted the worldview of your parents and other adults in your life, but now that you're older and "recovered," you see it differently?

That's called growing up. You grew up.

When you had less information and experience informing your worldview, you saw things one way, and now that you've "healed," you see things differently?

That's called learning. You learned new information and changed your perspective accordingly.

Look, learning and change and growth and maturation are (or should be) lifelong processes with no endpoint, and one of the cultural factors making people so weird about "maturity" and age of majority issues is the assumption that a "Real Adult" is in their fixed final form. So people think "If I've changed and grown in the past 5 years, that means that 5-years-ago Me was Still A Child and should not have been allowed to make major life-altering decisions," and also think that once they reach An Endpoint, they can or should stop changing. And that's a problem.

But. But. Changes in one's relationship to oneself and one's family of origin are especially common during times of major transition. That's not pathological. That's not even abnormal. If you see the world differently than you did before a major life transition, that does not mean that you went from a diseased state to a nondiseased state ("recovery"), or from an injured state to an uninjured state ("healing"). Time passed. You got older. Everyone else got older. You changed. Other people changed. Your family changed. The social context in which you live changed. The pathology paradigm has no place in this phenomenon.

People are out here saying that "People should heal themselves before they have their own children," and then when asked, what they mean by "heal themselves" is "learn how to effectively communicate with children." That. That is a skill. Learning a skill is not "healing." Lack of a particular skill set is not a disorder you have to "recover" from. You just have to learn the skill.

But that's also why when we say "You don't have to recover from your disabilities, recovery isn't a moral obligation," people say things like "You want to use your disability as an excuse not to change and grow."

My good bitch, what does change and growth have to do with recovery?

And this isn't even a new observation, because people have talked about how parents of developmentally disabled children will credit "therapy" and "recovery" for their children's natural developmental trajectory (if your child gained a skill after a year of intensive therapy, that doesn't mean "the therapy worked," that means they got older and developed the maturation to acquire that skill). A lot of the rhetoric around early childhood education does the same thing (the reason your 6 year old can hold a pencil now and he couldn't last year is because his bones got stronger and his fine motor skills improved, not because his high-quality preschool made him ready to compete).

But this. This is adults doing it to themselves! And it's so very original-sin-coded. You are born Unhealthy, but through continual effort and right practice, you can Recover and Heal.

No! You just grew up!

[davessnowglobe]

Maximes Day out💪💪

(I literally got him today)

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

ADHD vs BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)

Neurodivergent Insights

[becausegoodheroesdeservekidneys]

Hi there, my wife and I are both fans of your blog, and she's very intrigued by your dry playlist. She listened to it and thinks she *might* have an idea of what you're describing, but in her words, she "needs a contrast class." Is there a wet playlist she could try? Or even a couple of wet songs as examples? (She asked me to clarify that she is in no way taking the piss, she really is curious.)

Someone asked me for wet songs before, but the very thought of what that might sound like creeped me out so much that I steadfastly refuse to make a playlist lol. Unsettling. Weird. Bad.

However, others in the past (always other synaesthetes, even if their sensory reads are different from mine and they don't get 'dry' from it) have managed to successfully work it out by suggesting other songs to me that could go on the dry playlist, and getting it right. So that may be an option, if she has any suggestions! Apologies I cannot be more helpful

[gabrielora]

When I was younger and researching the autism diagnosis criteria and symptoms, I thought “oh I couldn’t POSSIBLY be autistic.” Because when I read “takes everything literally” I thought it literally meant EVERYTHING and I was like “I don’t take EVERYTHING literally, just most things!” And I just realized the other day that it didn’t actually mean EVERYTHING and that was an overstatement.

[magentasnail]

served my duty as an autistic artist and made a bunch of autism creature reaction images

[bisexualseraphim]

ADHD at night: I could write a book. I could get my Master’s Degree. I could go to the club and come home with 12 new friends. I could get a job at that club and meet the mother of my children. I could cure every disease and use my wealth to bring world peace.

ADHD during the day: Fold laundry too hard :( Come back next week

[deiim]

rejection sensitivity is so fucking lame. like boo hoo look at me i felt mildly ignored for 30 seconds and already started planning my own funeral liKE BITCH CHILL it was never that serious

[dikdikpronouncedxylophone]

The most terrifying part of having memory issues is when you can feel something from 5 seconds ago be thrown out the window and there's an empty hole where it once was. You remember that you forgot something.

[dailydivergent]

There’s no such thing as work-life balance for neurodivergent & chronically ill people.

This is because everything in my life requires work:

maintaining friendships

keeping up with my hygiene

managing bills

making money

remembering my basic needs

sleeping regularly

outputting creatively

All requires some aspect of work for me.

And when everything in your life requires work, your balance goes out the window.

If you're neurodivergent and overwhelmed — I see you.

If you're chronically ill and overwhelmed — I see you.

You're not dysfunctional.

You're not incapable.

You're doing your best.