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Don’t bargain your Heart away if all you Get from them is halfs And maybes. You can love people & Show them God in your Ways but indecision is a Decision when it comes to Love. When in doubt, Hurt is sure to be the Riddle in your calm.

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ok universe, i’m ready to feel good things. make me feel good things.

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#MyTruthSeries - Part 1 

Documentary series detailing black women’s lived experiences in a beautiful and striking manner in efforts to inspire our peers. 

The series comes as a spinoff to Hakeem Anderson-Lesolang’s poetry and essays anthology that inspires great change in young men and women for the sake of black love and the black family. 

Follow & like: @HakeemAndrsn, @200TruthsAboutLove & @BecauseBlackCo on twitter for more parts to follow on the series. 

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ok universe, i’m ready to feel good things. make me feel good things.

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IT'S LAW NOW: "You're the one who got fucked if you orgasm before she does. She fucked YOU. Not the other way around..." — h.a-l

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Why Men Keep Lying About Being Monogamous Is Dumb & Regressive.

I’ve gathered that a lot of men are scared to talk about what they really want, sexually and romantically with the women they like, want or already have.

I keep telling men to open up and be vocal about who they are. Monogamous or not and the prevalent knee-jerk reaction is the coy, “nah dog, are you crazy...?” Fear fucks with their decision making & it’s out of control.

So, men lie about who they are or tell half-truths about what they want because when a guy meets a girl it’s one or two things.

1. Damn, I really just wanna fuck this girl because she turns me on and we got a vibe going on. That’s that.

Or;

2. Damn, I really like this girl and I see myself growing with her and building something worthwhile so I’ll do and say anything to gain her trust and work it out with her as we grow.

Two of these guys are right to want this and to pursue it because that’s how they’re wired.

These two guys also fuck up a lot because they lie at the beginning of everything and sell you the sob stories, promise you the world and even go as far as introducing you to their Mama to gain your trust just so you to drop your guard so they can fuck.

Then the paint of their lies wears off because both these guys, honest as they’ve been about their intent to be with you and how they intend to, grow dissatisfied with the fact that they’re “stuck” in a monogamous relationship they didn’t plan for but, for a nut, they stuck around and lied about their lust drives.

A lot of young guys trap themselves in this and it’s not in them to stay monogamous. IT’S NOT IN A LOT OF GUYS TO WANT MONOGAMY BUT THEY DON’T TALK ABOUT IT.

Blame it on indecisiveness or nature vs nurture but I can genuinely tell you that it’s that initial failure to have a convo with you that says “I am not monogamous, nor do I want to be and a relationship won’t change that”.

The failure to say, “I just wanna fuck with you and enjoy ourselves”. Or “let’s build but I want to enjoy the freedom of other relationships...”. Or “we’ve grown in different ways and I’d like to be with other people but not sacrifice what we have or make you feel like I’m jeopardizing us. How can we make it work...?”

This fear, rears men to cheat. To stop talking to you. To detach. To act out because it makes them feel as though they are something other than what they really want to become.

And that’s what’s fucky. That’s what’s cruel. That’s our cowardice.

That’s what should change with us. To trust that a woman can handle such a conversation and have the ability and power to choose whether she wants to be with a man like that or not.

But it’s a power play to guys too. They rarely want to give a woman that power because they wanna fuck and duck when they feel stuck.

Well sirs. Prevention is better than having to be pusillanimous and cagey.

Make it known from the get-go who you are bruh.

TALK YOUR TRUTH. Cause bro, more often than not, in 2017/2018, there are more women who want EXACTLY what you want fam.

Lay it out. Don’t lie. She will give you that with added respect and still suck you dry after doing cartwheels on your dick. All you gotta do is be honourable.

Get yours. Just get it right.

— h.a-l

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“But if you forget to reblog Madame Zeroni, you and your family will be cursed for always and eternity.”

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#MelaninMusings Of the love we still have, Perhaps we must save us. Perhaps focus on being with Our own and build what heals Our souls. I'd suggest, perhaps... Let's become light Till we catch fire. Let's ignite our lives & Burn so when we meet Our loves, we fan the Flames till the world Sees God. Till the world sees God, Let us all live God, see God and feel our feels For our kind to please God. Perhaps we must, so our Kind last. - h.a-l #BecauseBlack - @bksblk *inspired.

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“Someone asked me what home was and all I could think of were the stars on the tip of your tongue, the flowers sprouting from your mouth, the roots entwined in the gaps between your fingers & the ocean echoing inside of your ribcage.” — h.a-l

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Do roses bleed, she asked as we cut down the flowers? I answered no and she quickly said, you're wrong my heart. Look what the world has done to your sisters. Look how idle promises pruned their thorns and broke their walls, plucked them from their growth and after a few displays of their beauty and scoring of their aroma they got tossed out with the rest of the dump. Take a look son, and when you're done, find your rose but don't pluck her. Nurture her, care for her, share good with and feed her, and if by any chance you get pricked by her thorns, don't trample her with words and anger untoward, understand that a woman's temperament is good for a man's firmaments. Find the lessons in that. Learn how best to treat and handle her. With care. Tend to your roses and theyll give you a lush garden and a world of romance and love un challenged. - h.a-l

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Live for the little things because they make you realize a lot of what's important and what should matter in life. Pursue happiness and live in the moment. Happiness is in the now. Be it. - h.a-l

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My lust is not to want. My want is not to need. My need is to just be and find happiness in that simplicity. I just want this, pleasure of solitude with you. No talking yet having the most beautiful conversations. Life. - h.a-l

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The best relationships consist of two imperfect people who refuse to give up and let go. No matter how hard it gets. No matter what happens. No matter who/where because they know how and know why. - h.a-l

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A broken hearted man will either seek to be better by becoming the best through his losses and heartbreak or choose to be dark and fill the void by laying waste to women's hearts where he can. Which are you sirs? - h.a-l

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Choose a woman to love and lust her more than sharks love blood. Ravish her till the very skin on her raises hairs at the thought of you. Have her quiver at the heart when she misses you. Miss her and break your concentration whilst at it. Wish to break from your routine just to get home and have her on sight. Call her. Text her. Stalk her light and make light of everything she thinks is flawed about her. Take that and love it. Count her beauty spots and trace your finger on her skin to make shapes and have her guess. Memorize dates. Times. Places. Smells. Make her your fetish and live out your fantasies with her. Make it literally impossible for her to break up with you and treat her like everything other men would never dare reach, relive, remake. Give her the world with the simple things and astonish her with good gestures. Mean what you say and say what you mean all the time. Tell her the truth even if it hurts her and momentarily drives her to hate you. Love her even more when she does. Hug her. Kiss her forehead. Take her out. Go out of your way to make her see the best of the world. Respect her parents. Meet her father and make your intentions clear. Meet her mother and thank her for raising your rib. Adorn her with your sense and sensibility. Build of/for/with/in her. Gain her trust and never break it. Give your love and never forsake it. Change her to the best version of her greatest self becoming. - h.a-l

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Did he tell you he loves you today/Did you tell him you love him today? Did he kiss you and grab your ass with the vigor of a thousand slaves and made you woozy from the affection? Did he mention how good the food you cooked is, or swat your ass when you walked past him? Did he smile at you like the first time he woke next to you? Did he even wake next to you? Did he show you his weaknesses and pains from when he was young, things that have plagued his growth and beg you for direction when he's open to receive your well thought out wisdoms? Is he playful when time allows him to play with you? Is he for that conversation, That intellectual foreplay or does he just wanna get to your draws and show them where the floors lay? Does he stare at you bemused, amused, confused, starstruck and dazed almost? Does he find you annoyingly intriguing? is he still as magical? or is he just a myth? a scam? was it all a ploy? is he still clung to the remnants of his boyish games? is he a man? I was just wondering about today. - h.a-l

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Good fortune to you and the heart you choose to love. Good will to your union and future. Good luck for the hard days and decisions but, prayer that you sit and both decide. Truthfully speaking, we decide way too much over anger and pain and because we are hurt we forget to be respectful and won't consult. We hurt so much we run. We break so much that we lose heart in the people we swore fealty and love to easily. So, prayer, that you find calm amidst anger and use reason before speaking, that we all seek understanding to reach a healing understanding and undertake growing for the better what we've given our hearts to. Reward is only for the patient. Don't sacrifice your resource for temporary comforts. Likewise the hearts, suffer them not the kind of losses that can be avoided. - h.a-l