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weird question to ask bc you posted this like two years ago but you said: "I think you'd be hard-pressed to find two people less similar than Mary and Jim (other than they were both more the quiet type and didn't want the spot light much)."

Can you expand on this? :)

Haha, can I expand on a thought I had years ago, anon? Let me try, but keep in mind that I don't even remember having this thought.

Alright, here we go.

Well, for one, I think Mary is somebody (still is, to this day) who is intensely private in her emotional expression. That woman has a wall up ten feet tall and I, at least, always find it incredibly hard to get a sense for what she might actually be feeling about anything. She plays her cards very close her chest at all times. It's just her personality, or so it seems to me.

Jim was authentic and uncomplicated through and through. Every interview I've seen with him, everything I've read about him, he is open and honest, no bullshit, just plainly himself. He has no mask.

I think that's what it is ultimately. Some people simply cannot be around others without a "mask", without some sort of barrier, that ensures that others never know them fully (and so, they cannot be hurt). Others don't mask, or rarely mask, at all.

I am fairy sure that must have been what I meant.

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I greatly enjoyed this. Highly recommend.

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Oh my gosh, baby Joe! He was such a cutie, look at him. ❤️

A little treat for all Joe Fannelli fans! Here are some adorable photos published in the Franklin High School yearbook in 1972 - the year he graduated. It appears he was a member of his high school's drama club, while also participating in math club and belonging to both the newspaper and yearbook staff. We know he went on to become a professional chef so I'm surprised he didn't list cooking as an interest <3

Source is ancestry.com

@fanellifest

@not-the-coffee-machine4

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going through queenlive.ca and was obsessed with this description

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finally defeated my demons (brian's hair) and finished these

my favourite hobby is giving men extreme eyelashes

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Pleaaaasssseeee! I need to know where this is froooom?!?!?! I have always been a sucker for the legend of Roger’s hurt hands!

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sahfhajkfkjfdkkkkhhhh I finISHED THE FIRST DRAFT

*hyperventilates*

This is the year I'm finishing this goddamn passion project of FIVE YEARS. AAAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!!

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Queen ships in GIFs (no, I will not explain)

Maycury

Maylor

Froger

Deacury

Joger

Breaky

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❂ HAPPY BIRTHDAY ROGER TAYLOR ❂

One shaft of light that shows the way

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do you think that the boys had certain views on familial dynamics especially in childhood? they all grew up in the 1950s with super enforced and strict gender roles, but they were also teenagers when counterculture began to become mainstream. what are your thoughts?

Hey anon!

That depends on what exactly you mean by "certain views". You mention gender roles, so I am guessing you probably mean in terms of child-rearing and women being responsible for house and home?

Yes, to some degree all four of them would have had that sort of family dynamic in mind when they were young men. Don't get me wrong, I can't see any of them being the type to insist their girlfriend/wife doesn't work and *has* to stay home, while they don't lift a finger. Not at all. You might be surprised, but looking at a street interview from 1961, for example, most men already agree that they should in fact be helping out with the housework. At least on weekends, haha. But equally, consider that in 1982, 43% of fathers had never (never!) changed a nappy. (This number was down to 3% in 2000, by the way.) Some things, like whether men should so much as be present in the room during the birth of their own child was still somewhat controversial until the 90s. God, I remember, when I was a teen in early 2000 Robbie Williams jokingly compared watching his wife give birth to watching his favourite pub burn down (as in watching her vagina tear, lovely that). What I am saying is that I can't imagine the boys would not have held a fair few beliefs about gender roles that we now consider wildly outdated. Of course they would have.

Take Freddie, for example. I have seen people twist themselves into knots trying to explain why he would have called Mary his "commonlaw wife", saying that he must have said it to make the press believe he was straight, etc. But I think the truth is much simpler. In the time when Freddie was alive, same sex marriage was simply not a reality. It wasn't even a dream. I don't think Freddie could have fathomed, at the time, that there was any other kind of marriage but that between man and woman. He called her his commonlaw wife, thinking "if it were not for the fact that I like men, she would be my wife". And don't come at me about him calling Jim his husband. Of course he did, in the same way some gay guys will jokingly and flirtingly refer to their husbands and boyfriends as their "wife" sometimes nowadays. As in, something that person cannot actually be, but the sentiment is there.

Also, it's hard to say what the boys' position on things like the woman being the bread winner might have been because their girlfriends and wives had no chance to be that. The Queen boys were rock stars, and boy, were they winning the bread. Recording albums, busy schedules, off on tour for months. What could their partners and mothers of their children do but, well, stay home and mind the children?

I hope I answered your question to some extent, haha.

Thanks for the ask!

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Do you think freddie really loved mary or if it was all based on guilt? like when he started the affair with david supposedly according to david he continued living with mary because he didn’t want mary to think his love for her was all fake what’s your opinion on that? do you think it was fake and mostly guilt?

Look, it's complicated. First off, define being in love. How do we know we are in love? We know because we think that we are. We agree with ourselves that we are. And yes, I think in the beginning Freddie believed he was in love with Mary. He was already in the habit of dating women and putting up with whatever that meant for him, lack of actual attraction, etc. Freddie was someone who loved to be in love, so I think that he wanted to be in love with her and I think that he was quite sure he could be, for some time. I do think he was genuinely drawn to her. Clearly there was a lot of fondness and compatibility personality-wise, they seemed to understand each other as people.

Now, once you become domestic with someone, love becomes even more difficult to define. Is it love when someone makes you breakfasts every morning? Is it love when someone knows how to make your tea just right? Is it love when someone knows all your quirks and you know theirs, when you can be at ease together, when you feel safe in the knowledge that the other person is there for you? Or is that just being used to each other? Is it just routine? Is it comfort?

Answering the question of whether you love someone as you should is not easy, because love is a complicated emotion. The lines between platonic and romantic love can be hard to draw, too. Often all that stands between one and the other is the conscious decision to be romantic, or not.

Lastly, you don't know proper, all-consuming love until you feel it. You simply can't imagine what it's like. Please, listen to You Take My Breath Away and tell me that is not a man who has fallen in love really, properly, fully, for the first time. Because that is the impression I get. I think the love Freddie felt for Mary naturally paled in comparison to the passionate love he felt for David.

I think once he "gave in", so to say, and started sleeping with men while he was still with Mary, that was when the guilt also kicked in. The realisation that he had tried, really tried, and failed to make this work for himself. That he couldn't be what he ought to be for her, that surely she deserved better, and with that, fear. He didn't want to lose the safety of his relationship with her. Leaving her meant giving up any chance there ever was of having a "normal" life. It meant his parents were right to worry about him, it meant complete uncertainty for his future, it meant possibly ruining his reputation and tanking Queen. There was so much riding on leaving Mary, it must have been one of the most difficult decisions of his life.

So no. It wasn't all just guilt. It must have been a myriad of emotions and such a confusing, terrifying time, intermingled with the absolute joy of experiencing a romantic relationship with a man, something that felt so right. I honestly don't know how he held it all together in that time period!

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What's your opinion on Joe/Freddie relationship? It seems to me (i may be wrong of course) Joe was maybe the only one of Freddie's boyrfriends who was mostly submissive. Not in bed, but in general. It was unusual for Freddie who liked bigger, stronger and more confident men.

Hmm, I kind of see where you're coming from but my first thought here is that David was also not exactly, er, "big and strong". In fact, he was a small bean, just look at him. Freddie called him "my dearest & precious cherub" in a post card. 🤭

And I would argue that David wasn't exactly "dominant" personality-wise, either. Not more so than Freddie. In fact, I think in many of his relationships Freddie was the one with the domineering personality. When he wanted someone, he wouldn't give up until he got them. He also had tactics to provoke jealousy and demand attention. Much as he needed reassurance and affection, he was also someone who set the rules (as in: I'm not talking to you now, I'm walking out, I'm playing this game). I think in many ways Freddie was quite controlling in his relationships. And he equally attracted a couple of partners throughout his life who were controlling with him. Anyway, let's not get into all of his relationships, since you did ask about Joe specifically.

So, yes, I think Freddie's type is somewhat overstated at times, actually. First off, people do fall in love with people, not just A Type. Sure, we all have preferences, but there's a lot of variety within that preference and I think both Joe and David to fit some criteria Freddie clearly liked. (By the way, Jim wasn't taller than Freddie either, just bigger/broader.) Joe also had a bit of meat on his bones when they met and later became quite muscular, but that was really only after they'd stopped dating.

So, Joe and Freddie. I actually feel for Joe a lot, because it must have been a bit of an insane situation for him. Basically, Freddie met him, swept him up in this whirlwind romance and just immediately took him with him on the rest of tour and then to London (that was more or less the progression of events, as far as I understand). And there, Freddie had a boyfriend who he was living with. Only he'd decided that, oh, it's totally fine! He's got enough love for both of them!

Which obviously David was less than happy with. Meanwhile, Joe was just a really young guy who had been wooed by a rock star. I mean, not only was he in a very awkward situation there, he was also on really unsteady ground and had very little control over anything in that situation, I feel like. I think due to his age at the time, Joe definitely didn't handle Freddie's fame and all the things which came with it too well and he had issues with alcohol abuse. Just as with David, he and Freddie had some bad fights and things ended ugly. But I don't think it was a terrible relationship overall, nor am I someone who's quick to say David or Joe abused Freddie. I think both of those relationships, from all I've read, seem to me like situations where it takes two to tango and where two people just do not bring out the best in each other. Yes, both partners can be abusive/manipulative with each other. In fact, that isn't rare in relationships.

Given the friendship they had later, I think Freddie and Joe were a good fit, just not romantically and maybe not at that exact time.

Also, and I've said this before, but I get top!Freddie vibes from Freddie/Joe in particular. And I mean that in the sense that I feel like there's some partners Freddie would have been more of a vers with than others. Which I think is a natural thing that happens, we all adapt to our partners in a relationship. And yes, yes, we all know Freddie preferred to be on the receiving end. But you know what's interesting about preferences? You don't immediately know what you prefer until you have some experience. Years of experience oftentimes, when it comes to sex.

So sexually and emotionally, I see a lot of experimentation in those two first proper relationships Freddie had with men - David and Joe. And they were both younger than him, both of them not necessarily any more experienced in the matter of serious relationships with other men. It can't have been easy for any of them.

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👑❤️‍🔥

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One more Roger for the collection

I was decorating a small sketch of Rog and in the end I liked it a lot

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what the hell guys

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Hey, how's the Queen fandom doing these days? Still full of raving lunatics making it awful for everyone who's vaguely sane or, you know, any better? Or just dead?

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pretty naughty boys❤️🤏🤏🤏

recent sketches of the boys 👇👇👇

(i love them sooo much!!!!!)