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So I found a site that does a subscription box for your period- it sends you basics like hygiene products, pain medication as well as snacks and pampering stuff to make you feel good, 

but the best thing is they have a specialty boxes, like vegan or kosher only snacks but also 

they specifically offer boxes for menstruating guys and nb folks. 

which is pretty darn cool.

it’s called bonjourjolie and I think it’s 1000% awesome tbh 

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Trans Healthkit - EU /GoFundMe

Hello! A few People may know my Project “Trans Healthkit” I launched in February of 2016. Since then I have helped over 160 people with Healthkits, and for August I want to continue this, for people who live in the EU. So If you don’t get support from your Familie and/or don’t have enough money to buy transitems, you can message me and I try to help you, with a Healthkit. So, whats is a “Healthkit”? A Healthkit is an evelope or a package with transitems like binders, packers, silicone breasts etc., so all desired things you need. It’s made for helping you with your mental health and I thought of it as an Aid Kit. Who can get help? Everyone who lives in the EU, who is trans*, inter or nonbinary, who is in urgent needs of transitems. There is no Age Limit. What can I get? - Binder - Packer / Prosthetics (normal or STP) - Harness, Packing Pouch, Packing Boxer - Clothes - Make Up - Silicone Breasts To help all, I need your help! You can donate used or new stuff:  - Binder - Packer (normal and STP’s, 3in1 or 4in1) - Harness and Packingboxer - LGBT+ Stuff (Books, Informations, Buttons, Sticker etc.) - Clothes (Shoes EU 30 - 40 and Size S - XL) (More Informations on the Website).  Or you can donate via GoFundMe. GoFundMe:  https://www.gofundme.com/trans-healthkit-eu Until the first of August, you will find more and more Informations about everything on the Website. Please share this for people who need help and that more people can donate to the Project! :) English Website: https://thprojekt.wixsite.com/project (German Website): https://thprojekt.wixsite.com/thprojekt E-Mail: healthkitprojekt@web.de Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/transhealthkit/ English Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/387633065068354/

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Me then and me now. 👀 @ssunkslowly

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Hey there! I've recently started a discord server for trans and gender nonconforming individuals, a place to make friends, hangout, get advice, and share your experiences. https://discord.gg/ttK4cxz It's a permanent link, so don't worry about timing. Feel free to delete this if it breaks your submission rules :)

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PLEASE SIGNAL BOOST!!!!! they really want feedback so they don’t accidentally offend anyone!!

hey guys!! a good friend of mine is planning on writing and directing their own trans-based musical and have produced a survey to see what people would be interested in!!

the survey literally takes 2 minutes and can be found here ✨

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strict parents survival guide!!

okay, so i know how y'all feel. if you’re always that one friend that has to cancel every plan just cuz you know ya mom is gonna say no, or you can’t go be out past 7, i gotchu😭i have some of the best tips and shit on how to sneak out, lie, etc if your parents are super controlling.

SNEAKING OUT //

doors; • twist the knob and pull up on it as hard as you can to minimize the noise it makes

• if you have a creaky door, FIX THAT SHIT BEFORE YOU SNEAK OUT. nothing is worse than it being 11 pm and you’re opening your door and waking everyone up. fixing it during the day is best. • opening the door fast (but controlled) makes less noise (in some cases. test it out in the morning).

• DO NOT GO THROUGH YOUR MAIN DOOR. it’s really noticeable. if you have a window, take the screen out (you can usually easily pull out the little screws) and go through there. take a back door or go through the yard, whatever it closest to you and not something your parents will wake up to go pee and notice is different.

• leave the door exactly as you found it. if it was cracked, leave it cracked.

pets; • your main goal is to shut them up. you do not want them barking or running around when you’re trying to leave. i have 2 fat ass cats that sleep in my room, and they’re always trying to run out when i open my door, and i live with four dogs. give them treats if you have to keep them quiet.

• avoid them as much as you can. try not to cross their paths, or your cover might be blown.

noise;

• wear socks when you sneak out, they help your feet make less noise. i find that crawling on all fours and spreading your body weight on the ground helps.

• if you have hardwood floors, staying on all fours or walking on your toes really slowly helps. even if it takes you all day to make it across the house, at least you’re not making noise 😂😭

• if you know there is creaky stairs/floorboards/etc, avoid them if you can.

parents; • have an excuse if they catch you up. stay in ya pajamas or whatever you were sleeping in. some good ones are - - getting a drink - peeing/etc - needed to grab an extra blanket - couldn’t sleep

• make sure you have a backup plan in case they force you back to sleep, especially if you don’t usually wake up during the night it might seem suspicious.

• know what time they wake up and be back at least 45 minutes before then. for example, my dad leaves for work every weekday at 5 am, so i’d have to leave on a weekend or be back before 4:30-ish.

LYING//

• always act natural. if you’re acting weirdly quiet or upbeat or trying to hard, it’s VERY NOTICEABLE that you’re lying.

• make it believable. if you’re not allowed to spend the night at people’s houses, don’t say “i’m going to stacys house for the night” like girl you’re going to get caught tf. if you work, say you have overtime, or if you’re in a sport, say there’s an extra practice.

• be reasonable. if you’re planning on going to ya bfs house all night, don’t just say you’re gonna go eat with your friends 😂

• know ur limits. there’s just sometimes where your lie is unbelievable or times where you just can’t lie your way out of something. stay in these limits.

• have a WHOLE STORY planned out. maybe even 2 or 3 to help out. nothing’s worse than lying to ya mom and then her asking for proof or extra info and you don’t know. if you say you’re gonna be at a friends house, actually go there first. take hella pics in different outfits for whenever you need them and send them to her. hell, my mom made me send pics of my friends cat for proof before 💀

• if you get caught, i feel you girl. just go with ur gut and weasel ur way out of it. say you weren’t thinking, or you felt it was an easier thing to do. apologize and act like a holy child and it’ll help u out.

RELATIONSHIPS//

if you’re not allowed to date or have a bf, i understand you too 😭🤷🏼‍♀️i have a lot of experience with this.

• never ever let your parents think you’re hanging with a guy or give them a reason to. don’t slip up and say their name or anything. keep everything lowkey. say you’re going with a friend.

• for my 16+ girls, if ur gonna do the dirty with your boy, have hella excuses. have backup plans. have good lies prepared for your parents. use protection.

• to conceal hickeys, use a color correcting concealer for whatever color your love bite is, then a regular concealer with some powder and it should be gone. icing it also helps change the color and fade it.

• let your bf know your parents are hella strict. my ex broke up with me bc i didn’t tell him i wasn’t allowed to hang out with anyone like ever. he should understand.

PHONE//

if your parents check your phone/apps/messages, these are some tips that should help.

• ANY pics in your camera roll you wouldn’t want ya mom or dad seeing, screenshot them and put them in your my eyes only on snapchat. lock those up for just yourself or whatever.

• delete sexual/explicit messages you’ve sent OR received. if someone sent u dick pics, put them in my eyes only to expose later, or just delete em 😂😭

• download google photos and transfer all your pics and stuff to there. you can archive them and then your camera roll is 100% pure.

• social media is tough. if your parents check it, make sure it’s clean and appropriate. make a finsta or extra acc for the more private stuff. for snapchat, change that guys name from “big dick #3 🤤” back to his name bro 💀 change any weird names. if they check ur memories (which is wild), move everything to my eyes only and pretend u forgot ur password.

• clear ya search history, or if that’s too noticeable, clear it and then google random shit to fill it up.

i think that’s it for this post, i might make a part 2. good luck to y'all with strict parents, i’m praying for yall ❤️

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They/Them Pronouns Have Come Between My Child and Me

“My problem is that I rarely see my child because she has so much resentment that she doesn’t visit her parents very often. So there is little opportunity to practice the they/them pronouns as they are never around. And when they does come around if we mess up it’s quite a dramatic thing for them where they starts to cry and feels deeply, deeply offended. So frankly the whole thing is quite ridiculous when there’s this expectation of perfection in changing to a different pronoun, because the fact is that this is happening at the level of procedural memory where it occurs automatically. We can’t just change pronouns without thinking about every single sentence.”

Question Submitted Anonymously Answered by Julie Tarney

Julie Says:

If you want to see your child more often, I want you to know that is possible. It’s also in the realm of possibilities to have a close, trusting relationship with them. Now here’s the thing: it’s going to take real effort on your part. It’s not going to be easy, but it will be worth it. And I know you can do it. You switched to they/them pronouns in your letter above, right?

Let’s start from a place of compassion. First, have compassion for yourself. You’re worried about your current parent-child relationship. Maybe you’re concerned you’ll lose that child from your life permanently. Those stresses may be adding to the pressure you feel to use different pronouns, making it all the more difficult to focus on using they/them/their consistently. Those feelings are real.

Your child’s feelings are real, too, so try to think with compassion about them as well. Personal pronouns are fundamental. They/them pronouns are now inextricably linked to your child’s identity, and using the correct pronouns validates their personhood. It says, “you’re important and we respect you for who you are”. I suspect that their tears and being deeply offended when you mess up are because they feel hurt. Your words and actions matter to them. Whether you realize it or not, not using they/them pronouns is interpreted as a refusal to acknowledge and accept your child. Pain builds up quickly when one feels invalidated time and again.

The correct singular usage, by the way, is “they are.” They/them pronouns are used in the exact same way when you’re talking about a single person as when you’re talking about a group of people. While using they/them pronouns for an individual may seem like a challenge, chances are you already use those pronouns without realizing it. If you found a cell phone, I bet you’d say, “Somebody lost their cell phone,” referring to a single person. Right?

That being said, mistakes do happen. However, think about how you react when you’ve messed up. Do you tell them “the whole thing is quite ridiculous”? That they’re expecting too much of you? That they’re too sensitive? That you can’t just change overnight? Do you roll your eyes and shake your head? Or do you apologize immediately and correct yourself? I couldn’t help but notice how the tone of your letter changed after describing how emotional your child gets when you use the wrong pronouns. How you respond to their reaction is equally as important.

If you’re serious about mending your relationship with your kid, it is absolutely necessary moving forward to use your child’s pronouns. After all, it’s up to you to make your child feel loved, understood, and respected. Here are a few tips to help you.

Practice, practice, practice.

The more you use they/them/their pronouns, the easier they’ll be to remember—and you don’t have to wait for your child to come over. Talk about your child with your spouse using they/them pronouns. Practice how you’d introduce your child. For example: “Meet my child. They are a teacher. Working with children is important to them. Their specialty is music.” Write it out, tape it to the fridge, and practice saying it daily.

Think before you speak.

Yes, you can do this, even if you’re a fast talker. It may feel awkward at first, but you’ll get used to slowing down and being more intentional with your speech. It’s the same technique you’d use if you traveled to Mexico and were learning to say “Hola” instead of “Hi.” You’d have to think about it first, but soon enough you’d just start using it without thinking twice.

Visualize.

New habits can take several weeks to form. Along with practicing aloud, visualize yourself interacting with your child and using the correct pronouns. If you work on changing every day, you can retrain your brain.

Be sincere.

Mistakes are common as you unlearn habits of speech. If you do mess up during this process, keep your cool and make a heartfelt apology. You could say something like, “I’m so sorry I didn’t use the correct pronoun for you. Let me try again.” Then correct yourself and move on in conversation.

As you commit to efforts that will bring you and your child closer, please know that they/them/their pronouns are here to stay. The Washington Post, The New York Times and the Associated Press all use “they,” “them,” and “their” as singular pronouns when referring to people who identify as non-binary. It’s also common practice on college campuses for students to introduce themselves with their name, their hometown, and their pronouns.

So, if you are ready to make the effort to build trust with your child, share the news with them. Tell them you’re committed to respecting them. Say how much you want them to feel loved and validated. And if there’s any crying, it will most likely be tears of relief and happiness.

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I just told my friend I wished I was a cis male and she said “being a trans male doesn’t make you less of a male, it just means you’re more sure of yourself, and it may take you longer to get to where to want to be, but it’s worth it”

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So for TDOV I compiled a list of trans and nonbinary Instagram and tumblr accounts for y’all

This took for fucking EVER so appreciate it lol

Trans Instagrammers

- Laverne Cox (@lavernecox)

- Miles McKenna (@themilesmckenna)

- Miss Benny (@benjpierce)

- Elliot Fletcher (@elliotfgf)

- Jamie Clayton (@msjamieclayton)

- Jamie Raines (@jamie.dodger)

- Casil McArthur (@casil_the_goat_lord)

- Daniel Steven (@danielszagorski)

- Adam McMaster (@adam.mcmaster)

- Leo Sheng (@isupersheng)

- Sage Marshall (@fairykiddie)

- Mary Aguilar (@februarymary)

- Blue (@trueblueeyes92)

- Emerson Palmer (@paler_fivevi)

- Orochi (@orochi.x)

- Blake Jorden (@blakejorden)

- Asher James (the.flower.prince)

- gc2b (@gc2b)

- Jaxx Garcia/Andro Gin (@jaxx_garcia)

- Jake Akita (@jakeakita)

- Abel Rodriguez (@bellatorabel)

- Spencer Adams (@justjewit32)

- Jaqueline River Spear (@adulthorsegirl)

- Brookellyn James (@brookellynjames)

- Taj (@teriyagi)

- Camdyn (@scarlottharlett)

- Jace (@kokiriboy)

- Matt (@okami_shounen)

- Cole (@oh.cole)

- W. Ezra Chi (@mauvvocado.jpg)

- Solomon (@soloprince)

- Dylan Snow (@dylan.snow_)

- Bill Le (@billy.le0531)

- Noah (@noahstronaut)

- Jordan B. (@luckypandaclub)

- Jace (@heyitsjace)

- Eli Rosenberg (@king_femme)

- Ducky (@duck.tales)

- Tyler Dylan (@tylerrdylan)

- Spencer (@specerofspace)

- Qwear (@qwear)

- Jonah Oliver (@caveprince & @youngblossom_)

- Duston Mars (@dustonmars)

- Alex Vance (@alextransition & @alexbellavance)

- Matt (@grimdarkmatt)

- Elliot Orion (@k_elliot_c)

- TK Morton (@queerkid)

- David Acevedo (@doobs321)

- Macy Marcs (@macymarcs)

- Gia Gunn (@gia_gunn)

- Sade Stacey (@sadestacey)

- Max Levine (@mlevine10)

- Jordyn Huger (@theriiver)

Trans Tumblrs

@transqueersxxx (nsfw)

@gender-moodboards

@lgbtqia-identities

@transmascsupport

@forclosetedtransboys

@realtransadvice

@trans-specific-help

@gayisastateofmind

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@pfox-pfashion

@qpoc-connect

@beautifully-fluid

@genderqueerfashion

@transboys

@trans-advice

@transstuffandmore

@nonpassingmlm

@adventuresingenderland

@closetedtransmanopinions

@trans-guy-positive

@trans-guys-positivity

@transjemder

@trans-selfies

@queer-positive

@lovefortransboys

@selfmademen

@dysphoria-tips

@trans-united

@pinkwhiteandblue

@lgbt-mood

@enbielove

@bi-binary

@non-aligned-nblw

@transmenofcolor

@lgbtqiapositivity

@positrans

@brownandtrans

@nonbinary-nightmare

@nonbinarybisexuals

@non-aligned-sapphic

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Today is the Trans Day of Visibility! Transgender, genderqueer, and nonbinary people are and have always been a beautiful, irreplaceable part of our movement, community, and history. I see you, I honor you, I love you. 

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I want to thank everyone so much for the support coming from this blog, and I want to make it known that every pride patch/bracelet comes in every different variation of the aromantic flag, just let me know which one you are interested in!

Plus, right now all these items below are 20% off until march 29th!

Pictured: a collage of various sexual and gender identity bracelets; bisexual, pansexual, asexual, aromantic, transgender, nonbinary and genderqueer. There are options for others beyond the picture

(Sexual Identity Bracelets / Gender Identity Bracelets)

pictured: Pride colours done into a heart shape where the lines that divide the pride colours are bent to make it look like it’s melting. The flags include, asexual, aromantic, gay, pansexual, bisexual, nonbinary, genderqueer, transgender. There is an option for others not pictured.

(Sexual Identity Goopy Heart Patch / Gender Identity Goopy Heart Patch)

pictured: various pride flags done in the style of underwear all hung up on a clothes line. The flags include gay, bisexual, pansexual, aromantic, asexual, demisexual, genderqueer, genderfluid, transgender and nonbinary

(Sexual Identity Underwear /Gender Identity Underwear)

There are a ton more items in my store and more to come within the next month! Every little big helps and everything is done by hand and with care. If you’re able to support that would be great and thank you!

And until March 29th, save 20% on all these items!!

- Thready To Go -

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Dysphoria 

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You Are Trans Enough:

Even if…

• You tend to present toward your assigned gender just because it’s easier that way

• You don’t always feel like or think it’s worth it to correct people who misgender you

• You aren’t out to your closest family, friends, and/or S.O(s)

• Sometimes you are perfectly comfortable presenting in line with your assigned gender

• You don’t feel dysphoria everyday

• You didn’t start to notice/acknowledge your trans identity until later in life

• You aren’t ready to use the bathroom where YOU feel most comfortable

• You pass as cis and you’re okay with that

• You aren’t binary trans

• You are still working to discover who you truly are

YOU. ARE. TRANS. ENOUGH.

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Hi. I've changed my name at my bank, doctors, and am about to do it for my driving licence and passport, but i was wondering what other places do i need to change my name?

This website has quite a good list of people you might need to inform - obviously not all of them will be applicable to you, but it’s a good starting point to see if you’ve forgotten anywhere.

~ James

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I love this thank you 

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a worthy inclusion thank you for your contribution