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as important as pride month is, if it's just not your thing, or you can't be out or celebrate, that's perfectly okay. some queer people don't like all of the commotion and drawing attention to themselves, and that's okay. you can be proud in your own way, it can be a quiet thing, it doesn't have to be a raucous celebration. treat yourself well this month, but you're not obligated to be out and loud if you don't want to, or can't be. it's your choice. happy pride to you if you choose to celebrate quietly, or even not at all, or if you just can't for safety or personal reasons.

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listen, sometimes it's more powerful for a fictional relationship to be a friendship precisely because friendship is devalued in comparison to romance. anyone can sacrifice themself for the love of their life. but for a friend? if anything, that kind of devotion can be even more moving than if the relationship is romantic. there's a real dramatic power to prioritising friendship in your narratives sometimes.

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You get one (1) picture as a present, more if we get to 4.9k

Noah - Green

Jamie - black and white

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You get one (1) picture as a present, more if we get to 4.9k

Noah - Green

Jamie - black and white

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@tobytoon

i love putting the character in situations that leave them in low places, strip them to their cores, and make them re-examine everything. very enriching for me and them

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Lately, I've been getting the sense that allo people simply... don't get what "spectrum" means in "asexual/aromantic spectrum."

The way they regurgitate the same argument of "ace people can still have sex/aro people can still date!" is starting to make me believe they don't view the spectrum as a community of sex-positive, sex-neutral and sex-averse people, but more as a general state of being. It's like they think every aroace person has the equal potential to be sex-positive as they have to be sex-averse and it's only a matter of choice or circumstance.

And that's just... NOT what's happening AT ALL. The spectrum isn't something innately assigned to a singular person, it doesn't define an aro/ace person as a gray canvas who can switch labels at will, but it represents the variety of many people who are either sex/romance positive, neutral, averse, favourable, negative etc. etc.

I feel like allo people simply don't understand that and it's especially obvious in how Alastor is treated. "Ace people can still have sex!" - said about the most obviously sex-averse asexual to ever exist.

(Not saying sex and romance favourable aspecs are invalid! Far from it. I'm just pointing out how allos believe someone repulsed can become favourable under the right circumstances. Which is just untrue.)

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couldnt resist drawing him, he's so cool!!!!! quick little thing since pnf has been rotating in my mind recently lolz

extras! drawing him for the first time ever :)

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blorbo art should take zero effort and time to make. It should just manifest straight out of your mind whenever you want it to

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Yknow what I'm bringing this up again, I've talked about how people only bring up sex/romance favorability as an excuse to ship fictional characters but thinking about it now, the aspec community is just as guilty of this because whenever it comes up it's ALWAYS on the topic of "is it okay to ship blorbo if they're canonically aroace" and not "hey maybe we should listen to sex/romance favorable people and try to understand their experiences better"

This community has an issue of only viewing certain parts of itself through the lense of fandom

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ok this is so fucking funny to me but one of my best friends thinks im straight and one of them thinks im lesbian?? i have six people that i would call my best friends and one of them im out to bc shes my twin sister but as for the other ones.... i just never came out bc i thought i didnt need to and we never really talk about that kind of stuff?? and then my friend gives me a birthday card and makes a comment about us finding boyfriends this summer?? (she really wants one and assumes i do too ???) and then my other friend is texting me and i mention the book im writing and she goes "so you have to write straight romance?" and im like "yeah its not that hard..." like personally i prefer writing mlm but its not really any different to me but now im very certain she thinks im a lesbian??

anyways. v fuckin funny to me that my gay friends think im one of them and my straight friends think im one of them. and im not gonna bother to correct any of them bc i Do Not care and theyre both... partially right ig?

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I have been made aware of yet another aphobe. Please do not harass this person, reply to their posts or interact with them in anyway. Please block them and move on and if you must do something report them. @mewteq I will be blocking them after this post, do not interact with this person.

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Happy Pride Month to people who regret coming out for any reason.

Happy Pride Month to all who misjudged what the people around them supported and came out, only to find out what their family or friends truly thought.

Happy Pride Month to people who never plan to come out to their family or friends.

Happy Pride Month to Transgender and Non-binary people who can't transition for their own safety.

Happy Pride Month to the Transgender and Non-binary people who detransitioned for their own safety.

Happy Pride Month to queer children and teens who are trying their hardest to survive, bigoted family knowing of their queerness or not.

Happy Pride Month to people who's queerness was denied in every possible way when they came out.

Happy Pride Month to people who's queerness is treated as a joke, not real, or "invalid."

Happy Pride Month to everyone with misfortune.

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Reminder to myself, and for anyone who might need a reminder as well:

Joy is not a limited resource. I am allowed to enjoy life. Forcing myself to be miserable (with no farther goal) will not be helpful to others. My joy does not negate my own suffering, nor others' suffering. What am I fighting for if not more of that joy for everyone? Must I disqualify myself from that 'everyone' in order to achieve that goal?

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@tobytoon You!

it/its pronouns are the coolest thing ever btw and you should give anybody who uses them $1,700 immediately

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being queer is actually so cool

looking at the cis/het/allo/amato/normativity and just going:

"no thanks."

trans folks - your gender is yours, created by you, for you, never thrust upon you

non-binary folks - society said "boy or girl", you said "yeah no."

pan/bi folks - you see that someones attractiveness is not based on their gender, but who they are

aro/ace folks - you look into one of societies greatest developments: romantic/sexual relationships and simply turn away, doing your own thing and expanding what relationships, platonic or not, can be

gender-fluid/bigender folks - your gender is different sometimes? do you see how cool that is?

gay/lesbian folks - the biggest lie we were taught as kids is that love is between a man and a woman. you disprove this, showing just how wide love can be

non-labelled folks - you are YOU. and that is amazing and worth celebrating

micro-labelling - that super specific thing? there's a word for it