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Weird idea : Dating Apps, but for aroace people?

Dating apps are weird, but are there options for platonic partners? It's not longer "Hot singles in your area want to send you photos," but "People want to genuinely just vibe."

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I want more stories that explore the angst potential of unrequited platonic love.

Like:

‘You’ve always been like a brother to me but I’ve realised you only come to me when you want something’

‘My surrogate parental figure just sees me as another student/employee/lackey’

‘I raised you like my own child but you don’t even remember who I am’

And of course, the classic ‘You’re my best (and only) friend but I know I’m only one of yours’.

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for the funny aspec people in my machines

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wdym an average platonic bond cant be deep and meaningful do none of you remember the power of friendship

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Is this an aro thing of feeling sad or ignored when your best friend falls into the mighty traps of romance and crushes lol?

This has happened to me like too many times now so I'm wondering whether it's a me problem and I need to improve myself or do all aro individuals feel like a sadness brush over them as ur closest friends get into romantic relationships etc. for me I think is I got ignored multiple times by a good friend when their significant other (they are my enemy now xD) is in proximity with us.

Like it feels like , I was here first but this dude that my friend is romantically interested in is taking all the spotlight and attention

Honestly I think it's part of the human experience, I'm pretty sure everyone at some point will feel left out and forgotten when their close friend develops a crush or starts dating someone, as a lot of people tend to neglect their friendships in favor of their romantic relationship. So you're not the only one who feels like this cause it can happen to anyone, aromantic or not. I think us aros are just more vocal about it since most of us won't date anyone and so we don't really get to just ditch our friends like that. And yeah, it is bothersome. Someone could be your best friend for ten years and suddenly someone they've known for a week can just take your spot. It's tough and the only real solution is for people to realize that friends you've had for a long time are more important than someone you barely know

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realized i feel the same way about attraction as I do about alcohol. people will go on about how this thing is better than that thing and they like A but not B. whereas to me it's all like drinking nail polish remover.

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doctor who is an asexual icon , david tennant said it I don't make the rules

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wait do people actually feel sexual attraction? i thought it was fake

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People not shipping The Doctor with Donna because of their relationship being simply platonic forgetting that they actually made vows to each other and he gave her a ring 🤭💍

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I WANT TO GET TO KNOW PEOPLE WITHOUT THEM THINKING IM INTO THEM. I LIKE LOOKING AT YOUR FACE AND TALKING TO YOU PELEASE DO NOT THINK I AM ROMANTICALLY AND/OR SEXUALLY INTERESRED IN YOU

very true, i find that being upfront about being aroace can help in that kind of situation, if you’re comfortable sharing that. or at least saying you’re not interested in a relationship

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Probably what bothers me the most in media is how being 'just friends' is seen as something bad, something nobody wants. The classic downtrodden expression of 'we're just friends,' like it's a failure. Why is friendship seen as a step, not a final goal? Why can't we see deep friendships between people on TV and not have it portrayed as 'not enough'? There are so many types of love, man, and every single one of those is enough.

Edit: Since this is getting a lot of attention, I just want to clarify I'm annoyed at how, traditionally, romantic relationships are seen as the 'final step' and friendships/platonic relationships are seen as the lesser option. Friendship is never the lesser option.

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aro culture is having a complicated relationship with your best friend that everyone else thinks is romantic

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I think aroace people experiencing stronger bonds with people than most people consider their romantic feelings to be is part of what confuses aces so much

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Frank Bidart, “To the Dead”, Half-Light: Collected Poems, 1965-2016

[Text ID: “The love I’ve known is the love of two people staring

not at each other, but in the same direction.”]