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i really cant figure out if its just my period but in recent days i have reached the lowest ive felt in a long long time

like everything's plummeted back to where i was a year ago and like yeah i get a dip in my mood on my period but never anything like this

atm im just waiting and worrying to see whether itll stop and it actually is my period or whether im back 2 square 1 hhhhhhhh

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“adhd can be a real asset once you find a job that works for you!” yeah true but before that comes the part where you gotta get the appropriate education to qualify yourself for said job and a lot of people with adhd don’t even get that far for various reasons

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one of my friends literally picked up on the fact that i might possibly have adhd, she was like 'sometimes i think you have adhd' and im just fAM YOU HAVE NO IDEA i just wish i knew for sure but am afraid of diagnosis bcos what if im just a lazy hyperactive distracted piece of shit whos just coming up with an excuse for her behaviour gahhhhhhh help

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Idk if I got ADD, I match up with a lot of symptoms, but it feels like I'm faking it. But not really. Like, I know that if you feel that you are faking it, it usually means you aren't? But I know that, and it makes me think 'I think I am faking it just because I have that knowledge that thinking such means it's real so I am doing it for more proof' and I hate it, but I wouldn't put it beyond me to want to find an "excuse" for how terrible I am.

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my friend invited me to go and see a musical for her birthday and shes also having a family birthday party that shes invited a couple of friends to but yesterday she texted me saying do you mind if i invite these people instead cuz im going to her birthday party and i was like yea thats cool but my rsd was just going off like a siren cuz the people shes inviting to the musical have only gotten close to her recently and ive been friends with her for years and then to top it all off my other friend texts me to say that she managed to get musical tickets but she only has 2 and wanted to let me know that she was gonna invite someone else and she felt bad that she didnt invite me but she didnt wanna keep it quiet and not tell me and i was like okay cool cool cool cool cool cool and then today im just on constant edge and theN the guy i kind of like sorta but idk its weird idK opens my snapchat and doesnt reply and im just THATS IT R TO THE S TO THE D and im TIREDDDDD

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Whenever someone says something offhand that’s slightly questioning or negative I can feel the RSD firing up its engines, “like time to feel bad about this all day bitch” and I’m like please no they didn’t mean it in a bad way, and the RSD is like “too bad, suffering awaits”

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a few thoughts about RSD cus i was typing out a huge thing anyway LMAO

OK SO i’ve been hoping someone would mention this bc I personally have been having a WILD TIME with this particular symptom! But knowing what it is is definitely helping me figure out how to cope with it cus it is definitely a roller coaster.

My particular experience idk how frequent it is in the ADHD community but like you, I was never told about this symptom at all. [but for me a lot of adhd symptoms im actually discovering through research and not doctors visits]

BASICALLY ok rejection sensitive dysphoria is for right now as far as we know, ADHD specific, though there have been discussions in a ton of communities over how it is possible some BPD [borderline personality disorder, not bipolar] sufferers experience it as well. But until thats really delved upon, right now, it is ADHD specific. [research changes constantly and alters all we know]

However we know ADHD sufferers are all under the same umbrella when it comes to being more sensitive to rejection, teasing, criticism, or feeling like you’ve failed. So far its believed at least 90%-100% of ADHD people experience this, as after being told what it is instantly identify it within themselves.

Rejection sensitive dysphoria feels like this ok:

Lets imagine everything’s fine in your day, but you say something to someone and you’re not expecting it, but they either make you feel slighted/insulted/rejected/youre not good enough. Even if they don’t mean to! Even if they are not trying to hurt your feelings and didn’t think about it, it just comes across that way.

What this causes you to feel is an immediate overwhelming emotional response and there are 2 ways most ADHD people react to it. The common symptom overall is just an overwhelming sense of discomfort and pain. It is so intense that you feel you may not be able to live with it.

Internalized: You feel extremely distressed and like you’ve hit a low point. From now on, nothing you do ever again will ever matter. You’ve hit the end of the road in your life. Suicide and ending it all seem like a reasonable thing to do, but you know you’re not going to do that. You become noticeably depressed and low energy. Most people who have this response believe they’ve been misdiagnosed and are actually rapid-cycling bipolar, but thats because this is a very commonly missed symptom of ADHD.

Externalized: You lash out at the person causing you pain. It seems only right, as they were the one causing you this INTENSE discomfort. It really appears like you’re having an anger meltdown of sorts. Lashing out you expect to feel some relief but may soon realize you’ve overreacted, and embarrassed yourself, which unfortunately causes more pain and embarrassment.

Anyhow, what this causes I’ve learned in a lot of ADHD sufferers is it alters their behavior so much bc they want to avoid this feeling SO MUCH that they will do one of several [or all] of these with their life:

Become people pleasers. Forgetting their personal goals, they look into what others around them are really really into and chameleon those things, seeking praise and admiration. This is seen as a way to avoid the intense pain of RSD.

Stop trying. If you don’t try something new, you can’t fail at it. It’s really not worth the risk of subjecting yourself repeatedly to this dysphoria. The idea of putting yourself out there provokes such an intensely deep anxiety that it stops you dead in your tracks.

Become perfectionists. Using the sensation of RSD to overachieve, they strive to be the absolute best at what they do. They seek to be above criticism, you cannot criticize this perfection. The problem this causes, as it does seem glamorous, is that perfection is never attainable so they are constantly driven to achieve more. Overworked, stressed, never satisfied with the outcome.

Coping:

Ok so there’s not a lot about coping with RSD that doesn’t deal with medication, but I’m not medicated and so I’m here to tell you what you might can do to help yourself.

First off, just knowing this thing has a name has really helped and let me step back and analyze whenever I start to feel these come on, and I know I’m not alone there. The intense pain of RSD is actually stated to as an episode, so treating these as you would a mood swing or mood episode could be a good start.

When you feel yourself being slighted over something someone has said, do not react to them right away. Give yourself a bit of space. Analyze it. Do you have the right to feel the way you’re starting to feel? You have to be honest with yourself.

If you see that no harm was intended, but feel slighted and start to feel this emotional reaction, you have to distance yourself. If internalized, maybe ask for attention but do not demand it or rely on it, maybe talk about something else and come back to this later.

If you feel like you’re about to lash out at others, definitely remove yourself from the situation until you’ve calmed down. You’ll feel a lot better about not reacting to the first thing that comes to mind later, thus saving yourself further embarrassment dysphoria.

Overall, I know its hard to be easy on yourself when the stakes are so high emotionally. But you have to try. I’m not a professional and I’m still trying to see whats beneficial to coping with this. Trying not to ignore your own emotions, but also seeing where the line should be drawn between acknowledgement and letting yourself get lost in it.

Do any followers or mods have any coping ideas?

-Mod Speedo

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friend: *acts more distant than usual, doesn’t engage in the conversation like they usually do* rational me: they’re probably just having a bad day, it’s got nothing to do with you! irrational me, beset by the rejection dysphoria demons: they hate you. you annoy them and they want you out of their life but are just too polite to say so. you should stop bothering them and isolate yourself :)

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Constantly scratching your head, picking dandruff out, and such on

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Wanting to run and scream because you can't sit still but not actually having the energy to do that so you keep sitting still

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Jake Peralta (Brooklyn Nine-Nine) is bisexual and has ADHD.

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could i add this to the evidence locker filled with proof that jake peralta has adhd

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something i realised thats confused me ive just remembered a time when i was about 9 or 10 when i was talking to my mum and saying how i like idk discovered leg bouncing?? idk i was 9 but anyways i was saying to my mum how cool it was and i remember feeling quite relaxed by it? or something? idk and i vividly remember my mum saying to me to never bounce my leg, that i shouldnt bounce my leg, something along the lines of 'men bounce their legs' (?? honestly idek) or something so i was like oh, right, okay so for the next 5 or 6 years of my life i would really feel the need to bounce my leg for whatever reason (i didnt know about adhd) but i would put all my energy into not bouncing my leg and itd be so draining and annoying but i refused to bounce my leg bcos of what my mum said that one time bcos i thought it might be perceived as rude or whatever and i was so confused as to why my leg just screamed at me to let them bounce and now after a year of learning about adhd and looking into it am i finally letting my leg bounce idk its just so WEIRD im just thinking about what my mum said and im fully so confused lmaO