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The World and Nine of Cups

We have every flavor you've ever heard of, and lots you haven't.

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Don’t give up guys. The birds will sing tomorrow morning too

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“is this really a hill you’re willing to die on?” wouldn’t have carried my happy ass up the hill otherwise brother

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oh boy i saw a Post that i know was at least partially a joke about how we should get to appeal people who've blocked us... i made the mistake of checking the comments. oops. lots of people who don't understand how people can be such meanies and block people over almost Nothing at all, or that blocks should expire after a year... and, well.

i have several people blocked for safety reasons/peace of mind, people i want to have the least amount of access to me as possible (harassment campaign, terfs, etc). i figure most people agree that these are good and noble reasons to Block. but i also have lots and lots and lots of people blocked for seemingly petty reasons (bad opinion, annoying to me). i have also found myself blocked by several people - some i know exactly why, some complete strangers i have never interacted with and cannot figure out the motivations of. so let's explore some angles here:

- Receiving An Appeal: i did actually have someone email me to ask if they were really blocked or if it was a mistake. i was put in the very fun position of having to find a nice way to explain that yeah, sorry, i soft blocked you several times because the commentary you kept adding to my posts was driving me nuts but it didn't stick so i had to hard block you. no hard feelings, you're fine, i just personally find you annoying but please don't take it personally. i mean i didn't HAVE to reply to that email, and maybe i could have found a way to tell that person to give me some space, but. the internet is so loud and so full of people and i have a threshold for how much i can handle, i do not have the capacity or patience to sit down with every person i find annoying and tell them to please repress their entire personalities for my sake. i don't WANT to do that! i want people to be their loud and vibrant self but sometimes i need to slam my door shut before i snap at someone. or everyone. taking care of myself is to everyone's benefit okay!!!

- Wanting To Know Why: look, i get it, it's frustrating to not know exactly WHY someone blocked you, but my honest advice is that... you probably don't actually want to know. maybe if it was someone you have a personal relationship to outside of tumblr, sure! that's a whole other can of worms to deal with. but you probably don't actually need to hear a stranger tell you you're annoying or that your headcanon sucks or whatever. there's a parallel here to wanting to hear the Exact reasons for why someone broke up with you and it's just gonna make you feel like shit regardless of what it is - except it's an online random who doesn't even know you probably. you literally do not need a stranger's approval to exist in a space and do your thing, and the stranger did the right thing by curating their space. i'm sure there's lots of examples where people get blocked for a "small" reason and the blocker forgot Why and could probably easily unblock them and carry on. But. do you really really really need access to This particular stranger online? maybe they have a really cool blog you enjoyed! but there's so many other cool blogs. you'll live!!!!!! i promise.

- Is Blocking A Declaration Of War And Ill Intent? no. it's just not. it's a tool for curating your internet space. nobody gets along with literally everyone else on earth and we were not made with extreme exposure to millions of other people worldwide in mind. maybe it seems extreme to yeet people out of your blog just for being a little bit annoying, but it's not so extreme if you have a larger following and lots of people making noise in your notifs. it doesn't have to be deeper than that!!

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we’re all just trying to live a good life

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Growing up is actually all about realizing people don’t inherently dislike you and it’s a bit odd to assume they do

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Solace, Ink and graphite by Juliet Schreckinger

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It feels like this needs to be said, so I'm saying it. Please do not attempt herbal abortions without doing actual research first. I don't mean looking up what herbs are abortives. I mean actually looking up the potential risks and what can go wrong. Herbal abortions should not be treated as the alternative due to roe v wade being overturned. Y'all spreading the most minimal information about what herbs are abortives without any further research or context can seriously fuck up a person's health and lead to more problems.

Spread information about how to get abortions pills. Spread information about remote services. Spread information about doctors who are willing to sterilize AFAB people. Don't spread information you aren't even willing to do further research into yourself.

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I wanted to say thanks for having a partial focus specifically on advertisements/marketing in witchery. At long story short, I'm an independent artist and coven-less witch on the chaotic/folk-y spectrum and could count on like half my income each month from a witch-run group...until they decided they didn't like me pointing out a lot of contradictions and questioning "such nice (people)."

I've also experienced some have pagan weirdness firsthand. Thanks for the work, and I will definitely be reading.

Hey, thank you for the kind words! This is unfortunately not an uncommon thing in some witchcraft/pagan circles. The "In Group" hates to be questioned, because if they question one Potentially Negative Thing, they might start questioning other things, and then disagreements happen, and then The Sacred Dynamic falls apart. My response is, if poking at a grift Threatens The Group, they're probably hiding some shady shit themselves.

God forbid we make mistakes or seem as human as non-witches. It'd be almost like we're Not Better Than Them or something! [/sarcasm]

It sucks you've lost that bit of income, but I'm also pretty proud of you, internet stranger, for sticking to your morals instead of folding into contradictory, scammy behavior. Good on you. It's incredibly easy to do the opposite, and I've been there personally, which is a big reason why I'm talking about it now!

Also. I cannot help myself and perused your shop website (which is linked here, for the curious) and I am obsessed with this little sprout poppet guy???

I love him. What a cutie.

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I love it when people use "chemicals" to denote man-made, as though everything wasn't just chemicals. Water is a chemical.

What the fuck do you think plant medicines are? How are you working as a herbalist if you don't know this??

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YEAHHHHHHH CREEK FREAK LETS GO

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they used to make smackable technology. you used to be able to hit your tv when it didn't work good.

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Joanne's witch wounds were the hatmans escaping after her stores closed

The real witch wound is the tired sadness I feel every time I drive past the empty Joannes.

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Hi. Please do not trust witches on the internet to give you medical advice.

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told my mom my cat had a cold and she asked the most important question

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everyone who ever tried to kill you failed btw