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We all have such different practices to be physically and mentally healthy- part of life is figuring out what works well for you! 🌱💛 I hope this piece helps illustrate how varied and different ways of life can all be healthy!

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40weeks Journey in Ummi’s Tummy

Hello, been a while since the last time I wrote into this blog. Jadi sebenernyaa, emang pengen nulis cerita perjalanan si thole ini dari lamaa tapi kalo malem selalu mager sampe anaknya udah 18bulan aja. Ke-triggered juga sebenernya sama postingan viral Jouska tentang biaya persalinan. Okay so here we go. 

16 April 2018

Bangun jam 4 pagi buat cek dan emang bener 2 strip. Suami pas masih di kantor. Just sent him a photo of two red lines testpack, bukan surprise yang gimana gimana karena sebelumnya emang udah bilang mau cek. 

19 April 2018

Ke obgyn for the first time. Rasanya excited. Banget. Waktu itu ke Mayapada Hospital Tangerang, 15 menit lah dari rumah. Obgyn tentu saja pilih yang wanita yaa kan atas saran suami. Waktu diperiksa sudah ada kantong janinnya. Yeayyy. Dan ternyata sudah 6weeks, padahal 3 minggu yang lalu sempat dari Solo ke Jakarta naik pesawat. Kalau tahu hamil mah ga bakalan kayaknya.

Oiya untuk biaya kontrol kahamilan ini sekitar 450rb/sekali datang (biaya konsul dokter dan USG 2d). Vitamin bisa ditebus di KF di kantor suami dan alhamdulillah gratis :))

Untuk kontrol kehamilan sekali sebulan sampai usia 28weeks. Nanti diatas 32weeks sudah 2minggu sekali. 

Selama hamil trimester pertama, mual sekali setiap hari. Pernah pengen masak akhirnya ke pasar dan sampe sana muntah 2x. Kapok. Yang berakibat selama hampir 3bulan gofood terusss. 

10 Juli 2018

First trimester udah berhasil dilalui, mual sudah hilang, mau apalagi selain liburaaan. Liburannya ga jauh jauh alisan pulang kampung ke Solo. Alesannya ngidam pengen capcay dapur alit sama tengkleng kambing. Maternity photoshoot? Cuma bayar 5rb doang di kebun matahari, dipotoin suami. Super duper hemat :DD

7 September 2018

Mulai disuruh obgyn test darah, urine, sama HIV. Cost nya hampir 1 juta. 

Oiya kami sebenernya ada rencana mau lahiran di Solo. Sudah mulai survey RS, tapi suami gamau LDM ahaha. Jadilah kami memutuskan untuk lahiran di Tangerang. Sempet khawatir juga sih, nanti biaya lahiran gimana yaa.. tahu kalo dicover kantor tapi belum tau apakah sistem langsung asuransi kantor yang bayar atau direimburse. Kan kalo reimburse tapi SC kan mayan jugaaa. Isenglah kami tanya biaya persalinan di Mayapada.

Mayan juga kan biayanya. Aku cuma berharap semoga bisa lahiran normal. Normal aja segitu gilaa ga sih. Di Solo waktu itu lahiran normal di RS Indriati cuma 5juta untuk kelas 2 (sumber : temen yang udah lahiran waktu itu)

1 Desember 2018

Kontrol di 39weeks tapi belum kerasa apa apa. Di USG BB Janin 3,8kg. Dimarahin lah awak sama dokter karena kebanyakan makan pisang sama mangga. Dokter bilang ditunggu sampe seminggu kalo ga ada kontraksi sama sekali langsung tindakan sc.

8 Desember 2018

Akhirnya ke RS udah bawa baju dan siap besoknya di SC. Langsung daftar malem itu juga. Harusnya dapet plafon kelas 1, tapi karena penuh jadi lah ke kelas 2. Ada sih VIP but I dont think its necessary. 

9 Desember 2018

Pagi jam 6 sudah mandi, sudah siap dibawa ke ruang operasi.

Deg deg aaaan. Mana suami ga boleh nemenin di ruang operasi. I have to struggle with my baby. Ruang operasinya super dingin. Setelah suntik anestesi, pasang kateter, dokter datang. Oiya obgyn dan pediatrician nya suami istri. Emang sengaja yaa kan awak pilih. Obgyn bilang : siap yaa, jangan lupa doa. 5 menit setelah dia buka buka perut hamba, terdengarlah suara bayik, lalu ada yang ngomong : Selamat ya bu, anak ibu laki-laki. I am beyond happy ya Allah, alhamdulillah, terimakasih banyak. 

Oiya waktu itu di rumah sakit 5 hari dan alhamdulillah semua langsung dicover asuransi. Sempet lihat, biaya persalinan SC, rawat inap kelas 2 selama 5 hari = 33jutaan. Alhamdulillah banget tercover asuransi kantor.

VAKSIN

Kemarin sempet viral juga Vaksin anak setahun 18juta. Itu mungkin mungkin saja yaa, karena memang vaksin mahal. Anak kami alhamdulillah vaksin wajib pemerintah dicover asuransi, tapi yang vaksin pilihan memang biaya sendiri. 

Nah untuk biaya sendiri ini memang ga murah, asli. Vaksin PCV dan rotari misal, sekali vaksin 1,3juta (sudah termasuk konsul dokter 300rb) dan itu ada 4x ulangan :)). Beda RS juga beda biaya yaa, soalnya ada teman vaksin sama di salah satu RS di Jaksel habisnya 2juta. 

Last but not least, being a mom is not easy. Please be nice. Please do not judge moms who do c-section, compare exclusive feeding or formula feeding, working mom or stay at home mom. 

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Being a wife of a very kind husband is a blessing

So, where should I begin? There's so much stories being a wife and being a daughter in law. Thanks God :). Alhamdulillah. My husband treats be the way I wanna be treated. Even more than I thought. So did my parents in law. I am so much lucky to have them in my life.

But now we are separate in a while. Okay this is my work thing. And now here I am, fly to him as he couldn't take another days off.

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H-6 Heart Beat

Early communication.

Abang : Kamu tinggal di Solo terus ya? Ga pengen pindah ke kota lain gitu?

Aku : Ya nanti seumpama aku dapet jodohnya di Inggris nanti aku ikut dia

After that, we continued to chat each other from hundreds to thousands until now. Sampai akhirnya kami mau menikah. :')

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H-21 His eyes

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H-24 Overloaded Works against Wedding Preparation

Ketika ditanya, wah udah deket, udah berapa persen persiapannya? I smiled. Doain aja ya, belum tau persenannya, tapi udah mulai beres.

H-24 yang seharusnya sudah ga mikirin kerjaan, ini malah sebaliknya. I worked from 8-8 in average from November last year. Baru ngurusin ini itu printilan sampe rumah. Capek iya, tapi seru. tapi kadang-kadang stress juga kalo udah deadline. Dikejar bapak ibu. Thanks God, I have them yang bantuin persiapannya, they are soo fast helping me this and this. :)

Preparing wedding is soo much fun but sometimes feels kayaknya kurang kurang mulu yaa. Tiap minggu kalo ga ke pasar kain atau pusat souvenir atau pasar triwindu. The good part is when you could made your bridemaids card and wedding invitation by your ownself.

But.. overloaded works ini emang ngeselin, since I have proposed to resign two months ago.. but I dont know why my orders have not been handled by others until now. Just hoping all will be fine.

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H-30

08.05 am Me : udah tanggal segini aja sekarang, cepet banget yaa. Him : lamaaa, aku udah ga sabar. 10.00 am Her : *whisper* *begging* please, stay a little longer, i ask you personally. Me : *smiling*

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#Remembrance

I just wanna write. That’s it. 26122016. The day after Christmas. The day that I finally met in person after being ignored for three weeks. The day I finally gave up for all efforts that I’ve built for more than three years.

Oh i still remember i couldn’t finish my breakfast. Still remember how bitter my McD coffee was, even when i’ve already added two packs of sugar in it. Still remember the long silence until i broke it. I was in a doubt between to hold on or to let go. When let go was the word which I chose.

It hurts, i remember how painful it was. I thought he’s the one. I thought he would be the one I spend my whole life with. I thought I would be that tough. But then I was totally wrong.

I remember how tight I held his arm, and whispered if I still wanna be with him. I was out of my mind. Thought I was crazy.

It was in front of the office gate. It was the last time I saw him, his angry eyes. I turned left, instead of entering the gate. I went around until a woman asked me : mba, daleme pundi?. I did not know what my face be like till she asked me like that.

I went home. I cried. But it was a year ago. This is just a remembrance. And its over now. This is just a note as a reminder that you should not love someone over yourself and over God.

Tresnone sak madyane wae.

Now I am better. Much better. :)

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Okay, I am flattered.

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#Current Best Feeling

Do you know that all things like being grateful and less expectations leads to unexpected stories? I believe, because i am going through it. I never knew before that it will be so fast. I never expected before that there's man that asked me to be his no matter what. So there we go.

It was a bright Sunday. My family and relatives came into my house. Waiting his family and his relatives to come. Then they came, he brought so many relatives. His father appeared, then his mother, then his relatives.. My heart beat so fast, still looking for him. Then there he is, with the marinir-haircut, carrying camera, wearing shirt. The batik shirt which has the same design as my batik skirt. And he smiled to me.

:)

Trying not to post our pics to social media :p

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So much excited ❤️❤️❤️

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#Self Healing

I knew its kinda flashback for a while when I am writing this. Yes I am talking about the after phases of breakup. I used to think that I couldn't heal by myself but maybe need someone else. I lost at that time, entirely.

Just a few hours after breakup, a friend of mine asked me to went out with him. I refused. How could I go out after that afternoon. But he suddenly showed up to my house. He told me that he had a big problem with his gf. Oh pardon me, how could I advise him when me myself just broke a few hours before. But he didn't know that. I just said : yang masih ada dipertahanin lah, dibicarain baik baik. *ngelek idu*

Time goes by.. a friend of mine eventually breakup with his gf. Then he came to me from west to my house and asked me to went out. He clearly stated that he want to be with me and serious with me. I was actually still in pain but my friend suggested me to go out with him to have another distraction. Then i went out with him. 3 times. I just thought that maybe he could help me to heal. But, the more I talked and walked with him, the more I missed and thought... ex. I knew, apparently someone else couldn't heal me. Then I said I can't be with him. I have to heal by myself.

It was June 2017 and I still lost. My work performances decreased in 6 months. I didn't reach my targets. I didn't do my tasks. Until few days before Lebaran, I knew something that leads me to stop all these shits. Step by step I woke up. I put all the pieces together into whole again. I fixed my work, I fixed myself. I love being single at that time, doing everything by myself. And I enjoyed that so much.

Time doesn't heal you. Someone else doesn't heal you. You heal you.

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#Grateful

How grateful I am to meet a man that treat me as his woman very well. Even with my flaw, with my past. He doesn't care about all those shits.

He said to me : "You don't live in your past, do you? The important thing is to be better from now on. I am so sure with you"

Oh my Godness, I cried.

He and his family are the answer of all my prayers along this time. My relationship with God is also closer. Matur sembah nuwun Gusti, sampun maringi dalan padhang ☺️

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Jakarta - Semarang - Solo - Semarang - Surabaya - Sidoarjo - Malang - Jakarta

Take care of yourself by yourself first yaa

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👦🏻 Aku dulu diumpetin sama kamu, pas bapak ibu tiba tiba ke jogja kamu bingung sendiri kan, dalam hati aku bilang nah rasain tuh. Kamu panik banget waktu itu, aku nya mah tenang..

👩🏻 Hahahaa ampuun, hehe maaf yaa ga bermaksud ngumpetin, tapi aku seleksi dulu sebelum ketemu beliau beliau 😂

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Don't want to compare but its comparable