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I think one aspect of social media’s impact that we don’t talk about enough is how fatiguing it can be just to use it daily. And I’m not just referring to harmful or negative content, sometimes even harmless things like memes or lifestyle posts can start to feel repetitive, overwhelming, or mentally draining. It’s easy to assume that mindlessly scrolling for entertainment has no real consequences, but I’ve noticed that even passive use subtly affects our brain chemistry.

We become more compliant with the culture of online personas. We absorb too much information too quickly, without time to process it. Our brains get overstimulated, and over time, it makes us feel tired without realizing why. There’s also an unspoken pressure to perform, to curate, to present, to keep up.

I’m not someone who villainizes social media (I use it as a creative outlet), but as I grow older, I’ve realized how important it is to build stronger boundaries and use it with intention. That means opening apps with purpose, setting time limits, and being mindful of how often I check them. It also means releasing myself from the pressure to perform or chase milestones online, especially when people’s attention spans are short and online praise is fleeting. It rarely holds lasting meaning.

I want to live fully in the present. I want to enjoy the world around me without needing to filter it through a camera lens or constantly compare my life to others. I want to reclaim my attention span and heal from the subconscious programming I may have picked up from hateful comments, toxic content pushed by the algorithm, or distorted views of reality I internalized without realizing it.

Doom scrolling is poison for the mind and soul, yes, but even mindless scrolling can be a slow, silent drain on our time, energy, and self-awareness.

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Heavy on this!

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My approach to relationships? It's simple: I go where I'm cherished and celebrated, never where I'm merely tolerated. I'm never too much or not enough for the right people. I can be me in my fullest self with those that are aligned and for me. I don't feel the need to perform or make myself smaller to be liked or accepted by the wrong crowd.

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Of all the videos about this entire saga, this one nailed it the best for me. “He was the right one for her until he wasn’t” removes all the blame from the victim and all the rumination that usually follows: “how could she not have seen this comment” “she was fooled” etc. and instead puts the onus back on the situation for what it is—understanding that when a door closes, a bigger and better one opens up.

I’m so proud of her for taking control of the narrative and situation and immediately stating on social media what happened and that she was cutting him off. She’s a sniper, just like me. She didn’t wallow in self-pity, instead, she immediately cut him off and lifted her head up high. That’s how a woman who is secure in herself operates.

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That part!! Not the hypergamy girlies weaponizing this situation to spread harmful sprinkle sprinkle lore! First of all, Liz has NOTHING to feel embarrassed about. It’s her ex who should be embarrassed because it was the one cheated, not her! Her choice to stand on business and kick it to the curb shows strength and power. It shows that she values and respect herself way more than the women who choose to stay with men that degrade them because they need a roof over their head and are unable to see life independently and dissociated from males.

The same way we need to learn to let go of our hopeless romantic tendencies is the same way we need to let go of the harmful teachings that put women in dangerous and dehumanizing situations with men out of vanity and insecurity. Both of those world views have one thing in common: they are rooted in centering men instead of empowering women. You will never hear me push ideas that lower women to nothing short of an afterthought in a man’s life. My content is about empowering YOU and for YOU.

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guest etiquette

don’t ask “can i bring anything?” say, “i’ll bring a side or something sweet, any preferences?”

never show up empty-handed. some ideas: flowers, wine, a jar of local honey, chocolate, homemade jam. literally anything, doesn’t have to be expensive.

if you bring flowers, make sure they’re already in a vase.

if you bring wine, it stays, opened or not.

hosts are usually underfed. bring a little something just for her. a croissant, a coffee, anything.

don’t show up early unless you’re being useful. lighting candles = useful. waiting around the house = not

stay off your phone entirely. if you must check it, excuse yourself quietly.

shoes off.

tend to the room energetically. if someone’s being left out, invite them in. make outsiders feel welcome.

compliment the invisible effort. the way the napkins were folded, the playlist, the glassware.

if you loved one of the host’s dishes, ask for the recipe. highest form of flattery.

always make conversation with the children. “how old are you?” is boring. ask their favorite dinosaur or snack combo.

don’t be the one to gossip. bring good energy.

say a proper goodbye to everyone in the room.

text a thank-you the next morning.

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No one tells you that one day you will get older and look around and notice that 95% of ppl who own a dog should not own a dog

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btw I am doing it afraid

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I don’t entertain nonchalant men. I don’t care how much stoicism or “alpha male” manosphere content this new batch of men has consumed. The only reason they think it’s cool to act detached with women is because their egos are hurt and they’re deeply insecure. And unfortunately for them, many of us aren’t playing that game anymore.

If you show little to no interest in me, guess what I’m going to do? I’m moving on to the next man who does—someone who shows he cares through his actions and the way he pursues me. There’s already a massive shortage of men with genuine manners and chivalry, so when someone shows up with that and adds qualities like empathy and emotional intelligence, he becomes infinitely more attractive than the superficial, “trying-to-act-cool” gym bro who wants to get rich doing drop shipping. That’s exactly why so many of us fantasize about the hot, empathetic nerd.

There’s a male loneliness epidemic not because women have impossible standards, but because too many men are taking advice from the worst kinds of online personalities instead of listening to what women actually want.

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girl, start taking more pictures of yourself. do you know how beautiful and blessed you are to have such a nice, youthful face?

your face now might not fit your expectations, but you won’t look this way forever. you deserve to be seen. you deserve to be visible. you have so little time on this world, why not capture the proof of your own existence?

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I'm going to hold your hand when I say this: get that degree. Teenage me only decided to go to college as an excuse to escape my city and start over. I didn’t fully appreciate the opportunity at the time because I was immature, naive, and convinced I could “make it” in life through other means like starting a business, chasing fame, becoming a content creator. I thought I was somehow special. But that kind of thinking didn’t come from nowhere; it was the result of being influenced by online voices selling the dream of “escaping the rat race” through showing only the highlights while glossing over the risks, instability, and long-term consequences and looking down on those who chose more traditional career paths.

Even if you know deep down that you don’t want to work a 9–5 or stay in the corporate world forever, at the very least, get your degree. Higher education broadens your mind. It exposes you to new ideas, people, and environments you wouldn’t have encountered otherwise. It challenges your thinking, refines your perspective, and makes you more intellectually equipped for life. And if you manage to get practical experience in the field while you’re studying or after graduating, you may even discover that you enjoy the field, or that the skills and credentials can be used later to build a business or pursue something more creative with a solid foundation behind you.

Most importantly, it gives you a cushion, a safety net, in case your alternative paths don’t pan out the way you imagined. Don’t let internet personalities convince you that college is a scam or that there’s no value in higher education. Don’t waste your precious youth chasing illusions when you could be laying down the pillars that will support you for a lifetime. Be strategic. Give yourself options. And don’t mistake noise for wisdom.

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You are so used to your features, you don’t know how beautiful you look to a stranger.

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