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Raising a kid to be a good human one day in today's world is an accomplishment like no other. Our children are the future of humanity

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Digest “Everything is fucked” by Mark Manson

“One day, you and everyone you love will die. And beyond a small group of people for an extremely brief period of time, little of what you say or do will ever matter. This is the Uncomfortable Truth of life.” “You care because, deep down, you need to feel that sense of importance in order to avoid the Uncomfortable Truth, to avoid the incomprehensibility of your existence, to avoid being crushed by the weight of your own material insignificance. And you—like me, like everyone—then project that imagined sense of importance onto the world around you because it gives you hope.” “to successfully argue against nihilism, you must start at nihilism. You must start at the Uncomfortable Truth. From there, you must slowly build a convincing case for hope.” “To build and maintain hope, we need three things: a sense of control, a belief in the value of something, and a community. “Control” means we feel as though we’re in control of our own life, that we can affect our fate. “Values” means we find something important enough to work toward, something better, that’s worth striving for. And “community” means we are part of a group that values the same things we do and is working toward achieving those things. Without a community, we feel isolated, and our values cease to mean” The Classic Assumption = the belief that humans are fundamentally rational actors and we can control our behavior through conscious effort and discipline. The truth is that we are fundamentally irrational creatures and a large amount of our thoughts, feelings and behavior is outside the bounds of our awareness and control. “The Classic Assumption was often the only thing that stood between civilization and total anarchy. Then something happened in the last couple of hundred years. “Economic prosperity outran human impulses. People were no longer worried about not being able to eat or about being killed for insulting the king. Life was more comfortable and easier. People now had a ton of free time to sit and think and worry about all sorts of existential shit that they had never considered before. As a result, several movements arose in the late twentieth century championing the Feeling Brain” “whole problem: speaking to both brains, integrating our brains into a cooperative, coordinated, unified whole. Because if self-control is an illusion of the Thinking Brain’s overblown self-regard, then it’s self-acceptance that will save us—accepting our emotions and working with them rather than against them. But to develop that self-acceptance, we have to do some work, Thinking Brain.” “Instead of bombarding the Feeling Brain with facts and reason, start by asking how it’s feeling. Say something like “Hey, Feeling Brain, how do you feel about going to the gym today? The Feeling Brain won’t respond with words. No, the Feeling Brain is too quick for words. Instead, it will respond with feelings.Thinking Brain (aka, the responsible one in this cranium), need to remain nonjudgmental in the face of whatever feelings arise.” “Then, once you feel you’ve reached a point of understanding with your Feeling Brain, it’s time to appeal to it in a way it understands: through feelings. Maybe think about all the benefits of some desired new behavior. Maybe mention all the sexy, shiny, fun things at the desired destination. Maybe remind the Feeling Brain how good it feels to have exercised etc." “fighting with the Feeling Brain about feeling bad will only cause the Feeling Brain to feel even worse. So, why would you do that? You were supposed to be the smart one, Thinking Brain. This dialogue with your Feeling Brain will continue back and forth like this, on and off, for days, weeks, or maybe even months. Hell, years. This dialogue between the brains takes practice. For some, the practice will be recognizing what emotion the Feeling Brain is putting out there” “Actually, this whole “teach your Thinking Brain to decipher and cooperate with your Feeling Brain instead of judging him and thinking he’s an evil piece of shit” is the basis for CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) and ACT (acceptance and commitment” “There are two ways to heal yourself—that is, to replace old, faulty values with better, healthier values. The first is to reexamine the experiences of your past and rewrite the narratives around them. Wait, did he punch me because I’m an awful person; or is he the awful person?” “The other way to change your values is to begin writing the narratives of your future self, to envision what life would be like if you had certain values or possessed a certain identity. By visualizing the future we want for ourselves, we allow our Feeling Brain to try on those values for size, to see what they feel like before we make the final purchase.” “Fruitful visualization should be a little bit uncomfortable. It should challenge you and be difficult to fathom. If it’s not, then it means that nothing is changing.” “Hope for this. Hope for the infinite opportunity and oppression present in every single moment. Hope for the suffering that comes with freedom. For the pain that comes from happiness. For the wisdom that comes from ignorance. For the power that comes from surrender. And then act despite it. This is our challenge, our calling: To act without hope. To not hope for better. To be better. In this moment and the next. And the next. And the next. Everything is fucked. And hope is both the cause and the effect of that fuckedness.” “We must let the Feeling Brain feel, but deny it the stories of meaning and value that it so desperately craves. We must stretch beyond our conception of good and evil. We must learn to love what is. Amor Fati” “With the prospect of so much growth and change in this life, people no longer relied on spiritual beliefs about the next life to give them hope.” “Nietzsche instead believed that we must look beyond hope. We must look beyond values. We must evolve into something “beyond good and evil.” "transcend the transactional realm of hope, one must act unconditionally. You must love someone without expecting anything in return; otherwise it’s not truly love. You must respect someone without expecting anything in return; otherwise you don’t truly respect him. You must speak honestly without expecting a pat on the back or a high-five or a gold star next to your name; otherwise you aren’t truly being honest. Kant summed up these unconditional acts with one simple principle: you must treat humanity never merely as a means, but always as an end itself. But what does this look like in day-to-day life? Here’s a simple example: Let’s pretend that I’m hungry and I want a burrito” “Because Kant understood that when you get into the business of deciding and dictating the future, you unleash the destructive potential of hope. You start worrying about converting people rather than honoring them, destroying evil in others rather than rooting it out in yourself. Instead, he decided that the only logical way to improve the world is through improving ourselves—by growing up and becoming more virtuous—by making the simple decision, in each moment, to treat ourselves and others as ends, and never merely as means. Be honest. Don’t distract or harm yourself. Don’t shirk responsibility or succumb to fear. Love openly and fearlessly. Don’t cave to tribal impulses or hopeful deceits. Because there is no heaven or hell in the future. There are only the choices you make in each and every moment. Will you act conditionally or unconditionally? Will you treat others as merely means or as ends? Will you pursue adult virtue or childish narcissism? Hope doesn’t even have to enter into the equation. Don’t hope for a better life. Simply be a better life.” “Extremism, on both the right and the left, has become more politically prominent across the world in the past few decades.42 Many smart people have suggested many complicated and overlapping explanations for this. And there likely are many complicated and overlapping reasons. But allow me to throw out another one: that the maturity of our culture is deteriorating. Throughout the rich and developed world, we are not living through a crisis of wealth or material, but a crisis of character, a crisis of virtue, a crisis of means and ends” “Pain is the universal constant of life. And human perception and expectations warp themselves to fit a predetermined amount of pain. In other words, no matter how sunny our skies get, our mind will always imagine just enough clouds to be slightly disappointed.” “Everything adapts and shapes itself to our slight dissatisfaction. And that is the problem with the pursuit of happiness.” “Antifragility is therefore synonymous with growth and maturity. Life is one never-ending stream of pain, and to grow is not to find a way to avoid that stream but, rather, to dive into it and successfully navigate its depths. The pursuit of happiness is, then, an avoidance of growth, an avoidance of maturity, an avoidance of virtue. It is treating ourselves and our minds as a means to some emotionally giddy end. It is sacrificing our consciousness for feeling good. It’s giving up our dignity for more comfort. The ancient philosophers knew this. Plato and Aristotle and the Stoics” “And as soon as your life “improves,” your expectations shift, and you’re back to being mildly dissatisfied again.” “In the old days, life was hard. It wasn’t until the age of science and technology that happiness became a “thing.” Once humanity invented the means to improve life, the next logical question was “So what should we improve?” Several philosophers at the time decided that the ultimate aim of humanity should be to promote happiness—that is, to reduce pain.” “Trying to eliminate pain only increases your sensitivity to suffering, rather than alleviating your suffering.” “Living well does not mean avoiding suffering; it means suffering for the right reasons. Because if we’re going to be forced to suffer by simply existing, we might as well learn how to suffer well.” “pain is the universal constant. No matter how “good” or “bad” your life gets, the pain will be there. And it will eventually feel manageable. The question then, the only question, is: Will you engage it? Will you engage your pain or avoid your pain? Will you choose fragility or antifragility? Everything you do, everything you are, everything you care about is a reflection of this choice: your relationships, your health, your results at work, your emotional stability, your integrity, your engagement with your community, the breadth of your life experiences, the depth of your self-confidence and courage, your ability to respect and trust and forgive and appreciate and listen and learn and have compassion.” “Meditation is, at its core, a practice of antifragility: training your mind to observe and sustain the never-ending ebb and flow of pain and not to let the “self” get sucked away by its riptide.” “That while pain is inevitable, suffering is always a choice.” “Truly adult values are antifragile:” virtues: honesty courage humility “The internet, in the end, was not designed to give us what we need. Instead, it gives people what they want. This is the problem with exalting freedom over human consciousness. More stuff doesn’t make us freer, it imprisons us with anxiety over whether we chose or did the best thing. More stuff causes us to become more prone to treating ourselves and others as means rather than ends. It makes us more dependent on the endless cycles of hope. If the pursuit of happiness pulls us all back into childishness, then fake freedom conspires to keep” “The only true form of freedom, the only ethical form of freedom, is through self-limitation. It is not the privilege of choosing everything you want in your life, but rather, choosing what you will give up in your life. This is not only real freedom, this is the only freedom. Diversions come and go. Pleasure never lasts. Variety loses its meaning. But you will always be able to choose what you are willing to sacrifice, what you are willing to give up.” “You can become freer right now simply by choosing the limitations you want to impose on yourself. You can choose to wake up earlier each morning, to block your email until midafternoon each day, to delete social media apps from your phone. These limitations will free you because they will liberate your time, attention, and power of choice.” “Don’t hope for better. Just be better. Be something better. Be more compassionate, more resilient, more humble, more disciplined.”

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Digest “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.” by Mark Manson

Manson, Mark. “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.” “Our crisis is no longer material; it’s existential, it’s spiritual. We have so much fucking stuff and so many opportunities that we don’t even know what to give a fuck about anymore.” “we lose the benefits of experiencing healthy doses of pain, a loss that disconnects us from the reality of the world around us.” “To not give a fuck is to stare down life’s most terrifying and difficult challenges and still take action.” “Subtlety #1: Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.” “Subtlety #2: To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity.” “Subtlety #3: Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about.” “If I ask you, “What do you want out of life?” and you say something like, “I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like,” your response is so common and expected that it doesn’t really mean anything. Everybody enjoys what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy, and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well-respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when they walk into the room. Everybody wants that. It’s easy to want that. A more interesting question, a question that most people never consider, is, “What pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?” Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.” “The true measurement of self-worth is not how a person feels about her positive experiences, but rather how she feels about her negative experiences.(...) A person who actually has a high self-worth is able to look at the negative parts of his character frankly—“Yes, sometimes I’m irresponsible with money,” “Yes, sometimes I exaggerate my own successes,” “Yes, I rely too much on others to support me and should be more self-reliant”—and then acts to improve upon them.” “our values determine the nature of our problems, and the nature of our problems determines the quality of our lives.” “The third level is our personal values: Why do I consider this to be success/failure? How am I choosing to measure myself? By what standard am I judging myself and everyone around me? This level, which takes constant questioning and effort, is incredibly difficult to reach.” “You’ll notice that good, healthy values are achieved internally. Something like creativity or humility can be experienced right now. You simply “have to orient your mind in a certain way to experience it. These values are immediate and controllable and engage you with the world as it is rather than how you wish it were. Bad values are generally reliant on external events—flying in a private jet, being told you’re right all the time, owning a house in the Bahamas, eating a cannoli while getting blown by three strippers. Bad values, while sometimes fun or pleasurable, lie outside of your control” Values are about prioritization. Everybody would love a good cannoli or a house in the Bahamas. The question is your priorities. What are the values that you prioritize above everything else, and that therefore influence your decision-making more than anything else?” “When we have poor values—that is, poor standards we set for ourselves and others—we are essentially giving fucks about the things that don’t matter, things that in fact make our life worse. But when we choose better values, we are able to divert our fucks to something better—toward things that matter, things that improve the state of our well-being and that generate” “This, in a nutshell, is what “self-improvement” is really about: prioritizing better values, choosing better things to give a fuck about. Because when you give better fucks, you get better problems. And when you get better problems, you get a better life.” “uncertainty: the acknowledgement of your own ignorance and the cultivation of constant doubt in your own beliefs.” “Accepting responsibility for our problems is thus the first step to solving them.” “Many people may be to blame for your unhappiness, but nobody is ever responsible for your unhappiness but you. This is because you always get to choose how you see things, how you react to things, how you” For example Malala: “It would have been easy for her to lie down and say, “I can’t do anything,” or “I have no choice.” That, ironically, would still have been her choice. But she chose the opposite.” Or a father who lost his son: “How he reacted to his son’s death was his own choice. Pain of one sort or another is inevitable for all of us, but we get to choose what it means to and for us. Even in claiming that he had no choice in the matter and simply wanted his son back, he was making a choice—one of many ways he could have chosen to use that pain.” “You are already choosing, in every moment of every day, what to give a fuck about, so change is as simple as choosing to give a fuck about something else. It really is that simple. It’s just not easy.” “Growth is an endlessly iterative process.” “personal growth can actually be quite scientific. Our values are our hypotheses: this behavior is good and important; “that other behavior is not. Our actions are the experiments; the resulting emotions and thought patterns are our data. There is no correct dogma” “Instead of striving for certainty, we should be in constant search of doubt: doubt about our own beliefs, doubt about our own feelings, doubt about what the future may hold for us unless we get out there and create it for ourselves. Instead of looking to be right all the time, we should be looking for how we’re wrong all the time. Because we are.” “Being wrong brings the opportunity for growth”   “the more you embrace being uncertain and not knowing, the more comfortable you will feel in knowing what you don’t know.” “Uncertainty removes our judgments of others; it preempts the unnecessary stereotyping and biases that we otherwise feel when we see somebody on TV, in the office, or on the street. Uncertainty also relieves us of our judgment of ourselves.” “we don’t know how attractive we are; we don’t know how successful we could potentially become. The only way to achieve these things is to remain uncertain of them and be open to finding them out through experience.”   “This openness to being wrong must exist for any real change or growth to take place.” “Here are some questions that will help you breed a little more uncertainty in your life.” “Questions like these need to become a mental habit” “Question #1: What if I’m wrong?” “Question #2: What would it mean if I were wrong?” “Question #3: Would being wrong create a better or a worse problem than my current problem, for both myself and others?” “We can be truly successful only at something we’re willing to fail at. If we’re unwilling to fail, then we’re unwilling to succeed.”   “If your metric for the value “success by worldly standards” is “Buy a house and a nice car,” and you spend twenty years working your ass off to achieve it, once it’s achieved the metric has nothing left to give you. Then say hello to your midlife crisis, because the problem that drove you your entire adult life was just taken away from you. There are no other opportunities” “to keep growing and improving, and yet it’s growth that generates happiness, not a long list of arbitrary achievements. In this sense, goals, as they are conventionally defined—graduate from college, buy a lake house, lose fifteen pounds—are limited in the amount of happiness they can produce in our lives. They may be helpful when pursuing quick, short-term benefits, but as guides for the overall trajectory of our life, they suck.” “We need some sort of existential crisis to take an objective look at how we’ve been deriving meaning in our life, and then consider changing course.” “The problem was that my emotions defined my reality.”   “Learn to sustain the pain you’ve chosen. When you choose a new value, you are choosing to introduce a new form of pain into your life. Relish it. Savor it. Welcome it with open arms. Then act despite it. I won’t lie: this is going to feel impossibly hard at first. But you can start simple. You’re going to feel as though you don’t know what to do. But we’ve discussed this: you don’t know anything. Even when you think you do, you really don’t” “Don’t just sit there. Do something. The answers will follow.”   “The “do something” principle not only helps us overcome procrastination, but it’s also the process by which we adopt new values.” “We feel free to fail, and that failure moves us forward.” “Ultimately, the only way to achieve meaning and a sense of importance in one’s life is through a rejection of alternatives, a narrowing of freedom, a choice of commitment to one place, one belief, or (gulp) one person.”   “If you make a sacrifice for someone you care about, it needs to be because you want to, not because you feel obligated or because you fear the consequences of not doing so. If your partner is going to make a sacrifice for you, it needs to because he or she genuinely wants to, not because you’ve manipulated” “ask yourself, “If I refused, how would the relationship change?” Similarly, ask, “If my partner refused something I wanted, how would the relationship change?” If the answer is that a refusal would cause a blowout of drama and broken china plates, then that’s a bad sign for your rela”   “For a relationship to be healthy, both people must be willing and able to both say no and hear no. Without that negation, without that occasional rejection, boundaries break down and one person’s problems and values come to dominate the other’s. Conflict is not only normal, then; it’s absolutely necessary for the maintenance of a healthy relationship. If two people who are close are not able to hash out their differences openly and vocally, then the relationship is based on manipulation and misrepresentation, and it will slowly become toxic” “When you’ve never left your home country, the first country you visit inspires a massive perspective shift, because you have such a narrow experience base to draw on. But when you’ve been to twenty countries, the twenty-first adds little. And when you’ve been to fifty, the fifty-first adds even less. The same goes for material possessions, money, hobbies, jobs, friends, and romantic/sexual partners—all the lame superficial values people choose for themselves.” “And to truly not give a single fuck is to achieve a quasi-spiritual state of embracing the impermanence of one’s own existence.”   “The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.” “seize the day, to take responsibility for my choices, and to pursue my dreams with less shame and inhibition.”

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Feuchtsatt

Alternative für “sitt” (nicht mehr durstig)

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Entwicklung als Anleger

Einarbeitungsphase: Oh Gott, ich versteh nichts. Aber ich nehme die Herausforderung an.

Auswahlphase: Auf der Jagd nach dem alleroptimalsten Depot. Ich habe nun alles gelesen und in Excel berechnet. Das ist meine Traumkombi. Die kaufe ich, der bleibe ich treu.

Phase des Zweifels: Andere Leute haben auch schöne Depots. Habe ich wirklich mein möglichstes getan? Sollte ich nicht meine Zweifel hinwegoptimieren?

Phase der buddhistischen Gelassenheit: Liebe Zweifel, haut ab und verschwindet im Nirwana. Ich hab’ besseres zu tun, als am Depot rumzubasteln! Quelle: https://www.finanzwesir.com/blog/etf-sparplan-optimieren

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Lebensziele formulieren

Nach einer Anleitung von: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iOMA_4be0Qs&list=PLLUec-oMPv8glD6nUHoDBURViQaK982RW&index=4 Gut: Glücksspirale - ein Ziel finden, das man überprüfbar erreichen kann, dann ist man glücklich und kann sich tragen lassen zum nächsten - und wenn es nicht klappt, dann war man wenigstens auf dem weg dahin (!) schon glücklich Problem: gute Ziele dafür finden

Wichtig: Ziele müssen erreichbar sein (zB Weltfrieden ist nicht so für einen alleine zu schaffen, man kann höchstens bspw. sagen man möchte eine leitende Position in einem Friedensverein haben oder so - das kann man erreichen)

Die Ziele sollten also inkrementell sein, einfach kleiner, dann stellen sich häufiger Glücksmomente ein - dennoch auch GROßE Ziele haben.

Schrittfolge: 1. alles was einen an Zielen (kurzfristig, mittel-,langfristig) aufschreiben 2. bewerten nach Wichtigkeit (einige Dinge sind unwichtig, weil man sie "im Vorbeigehen" mitnimmt) 3. Liste nach dem Streichen neu schreiben 4. reduzieren auf 7-10 Ziele 5. die Leichtesten nach oben, das wird man am nächsten erreichen

Meine Modifikation:

1. Übergeordnete, nicht wirklich überprüfbare Masterziele formulieren

2. Diese dann in kleinere Schritte bzw. Ziele unterteilen --> diese helfen das Masterziel iwann zu erreichen bzw. ihm zumindest näher zu kommen

3. Die erreichten Ziele archivieren (man kann noch mal darauf blicken und stolz sein bzw. sich dadurch selbst motivieren)

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Survival

Theory about survival of the fittest on the biggest scale: making life create new universes https://youtu.be/uD4izuDMUQA?t=1470

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Does Art Matter? (Banksy question) - my answer:

Art does matter, as it is the pinnacle of human consciousness and a way for self-reflection, thus door-opener for self-improvement. This means: accessing even higher levels of consciousness. This is great because it works on the individual level as well as our collective human endeavour.  

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question your constraints

Elon Musk in: https://youtu.be/cIQ36Kt7UVg

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Mein Baby

ich habe mit meinem baby eine sehr innige verbindung ich habe sie heute abend gespührt, wie es aus ihrer perspektive ist, klein zu sein und ein baby

ich konnte mich nämlich an mich selbst erinern in so kleinem alter, bzw etwas älter schon war ich als 2 (ca. 5-6 oder so) , aber wie schön es ist die warme schulter von papa zu haben, umarmt und sanft gestreichelt wird. so schön und beruhigend. und auch mit ihr sprechen können, einfach ihr dinge erklären. "ich hole die matratze", "sie ist schwer" und so weiter und dann wird sie ganz ruhig, weil sie weiß was abgeht. Und dann kann ich mit dem gleichen gefühl sie umarmen... <3

- 2019

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The most  civil argument ever on the web.

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To laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.

Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 - 1882) American Essayist & Poet

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Ich bin ein “Freischwenker”

beim Kochen, da ich anstelle eines Löffels Essen in der Pfanne frei schwenke

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Saufzitat

Je heller die Mische, desto dunkler die Nacht.

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Pantheismus

Der Ausdruck Pantheismus oder Pantheïsmus (von altgriechisch πᾶν pān „alles“ sowie θεός theós „Gott“)[1] bezeichnet die Auffassung, dass „Gott“ eins mit dem Kosmos und der Natur ist. Das Göttliche wird im Aufbau und in der Struktur des Universums gesehen, es existiert in allen Dingen und beseelt von daher auch alle Dinge der Welt bzw. ist mit der Welt identisch.

Schwierig zu unterscheiden vom Pantheismus ist der Kosmotheismus: Während sich das Göttliche für den Pantheisten in der Vielfalt der Welt einmalig und einzigartig ausdrückt, ist die Welt für den Kosmotheisten nur eine Erscheinungsform des göttlichen Seins, neben der es noch andere geben könnte.

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Marc Aurel - Weltanschaulich-philosophische Grundzüge

Auch wenn das Tagesgeschäft den Herrscher beständig forderte und ihm vorwiegend Anlass gab, sein Handeln ethisch zu reflektieren und auszurichten, stand dahinter bzw. darüber in letzter Instanz die (All-)Natur, der man sich nach Mark Aurel in vorbestimmter Weise einzufügen hat. Das gebieten Vernunft und Logik, die das eigene Handeln steuern sollen. Sie fordern und bewirken eine konsequente Gemeinwohlorientierung. Anhaltendes persönliches Vorankommen auf diesem Wege setzt regelmäßige Prüfung im Selbstdialog voraus.

Die (All-)Natur als Wegweiser

Indem die Individuen Teil der universalen Natur sind, unterliegen sie auch deren Prinzipien bzw. Gesetz und tun gut daran, dies zur Grundlage ihres Handelns und Strebens zu machen:[24] „geh ohne Umwege auf dein Ziel zu, indem du deiner individuellen und der allgemeinen Natur folgst. Aber beide haben nur einen Weg.“[25] Kosmologisches Wissen erscheint bei Mark Aurel als Voraussetzung für gelingendes Handeln. Seine Ethik fußt auf der Kosmologie, steht zu ihr in einem reziproken Verhältnis:

„Wer nicht weiß, was der Kosmos ist, weiß nicht, wo er ist. Wer nicht weiß, wozu er geschaffen worden ist, weiß nicht, wer er ist, und auch nicht, was der Kosmos ist. Wer aber eins davon nicht erfasst, könnte auch nicht sagen, wozu er da ist.“

Mark Aurel teilt die stoische Auffassung vom zyklischen Werden und Vergehen des Kosmos. Dem Menschen wiederum steht mit dem Tod im Sinne fortlaufenden Wandels und Vergehens nichts anderes bevor als dem Kosmos im Ganzen. Was aber dem Ganzen geschieht, so die tröstliche Perspektive, kann für einzelne Teile nicht schlecht sein:

„Immer also an diese beiden Dinge denken: erstens, dass alles seit Ewigkeiten gleichartig ist und sich in ständigem Kreislauf wiederholt und dass es ohne Bedeutung ist, ob jemand in hundert oder zweihundert Jahren oder in unendlicher Zeit dasselbe sehen wird; zweitens, dass der am längsten Lebende dasselbe verliert wie der andere, der sehr früh sterben muss.“[27]

Quelle: https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Selbstbetrachtungen

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Demian II

Plötzlich schlug er mir auf die Schulter, daß ich zusammenzuckte. »Junge,« sagte er eindringlich, »auch Sie haben Mysterien. Ich weiß, daß Sie Träume haben müssen, die Sie mir nicht sagen. Ich will sie nicht wissen. Aber ich sage Ihnen: Leben Sie sie, diese Träume, spielen Sie sie, bauen Sie ihnen Altäre! Es ist noch nicht das Vollkommene, aber es ist ein Weg. Ob wir einmal, Sie und ich und ein paar andere, die Welt erneuern werden, das wird sich zeigen. In uns drinnen aber müssen wir sie jeden Tag erneuern, sonst ist es nichts mit uns. Denken Sie dran! Sie sind achtzehn Jahr alt, Sinclair, Sie laufen nicht zu den Straßendirnen, Sie müssen Liebesträume, Liebeswünsche haben. Vielleicht sind sie so, daß Sie sich vor ihnen fürchten. Fürchten Sie sich nicht! Sie sind das Beste, was Sie haben! Sie können mir glauben. Ich habe damit viel verloren, daß ich in Ihren Jahren meine Liebesträume vergewaltigt habe. Man muß das nicht tun. Wenn man von Abraxas weiß, darf man es nicht mehr tun. Man darf nichts fürchten und nichts für verboten halten, was die Seele in uns wünscht.«

Erschreckt wandte ich ein: »Aber man kann doch nicht alles tun, was einem einfällt! Man darf doch auch nicht einen Menschen umbringen, weil er einem zuwider ist.«

Er rückte näher zu mir.

»Unter Umständen darf man auch das. Es ist nur meistens ein Irrtum. Ich meine auch nicht, Sie sollen einfach alles das tun, was Ihnen durch den Sinn geht. Nein, aber Sie sollen diese Einfälle, die ihren guten Sinn haben, nicht dadurch schädlich machen, daß Sie sie vertreiben und an ihnen  herummoralisieren. Statt sich oder einen andern ans Kreuz zu schlagen, kann man aus einem Kelch mit feierlichen Gedanken Wein trinken und dabei das Mysterium des Opfers denken. Man kann, auch ohne solche Handlungen, seine Triebe und sogenannten Anfechtungen mit Achtung und Liebe behandeln. Dann zeigen sie ihren Sinn, und sie haben alle Sinn. -- Wenn Ihnen wieder einmal etwas recht Tolles oder Sündhaftes einfällt, Sinclair, wenn Sie jemand umbringen oder irgendeine gigantische Unflätigkeit begehen möchten, dann denken Sie einen Augenblick daran, daß es Abraxas ist, der so in Ihnen phantasiert! Der Mensch, den Sie töten möchten, ist ja nie der Herr Soundso, er ist sicher nur eine Verkleidung. Wenn wir einen Menschen hassen, so  hassen wir in seinem Bild etwas, was in uns selber sitzt. Was nicht in uns selber ist, das regt uns nicht auf.«

Nie hatte mir Pistorius etwas gesagt, das mich so tief im Heimlichsten getroffen hatte. Ich konnte nicht antworten. Was mich aber am stärksten und sonderbarsten berührt hatte, das war der Gleichklang dieses Zuspruches mit Worten Demians, die ich seit Jahren und Jahren in mir trug. Sie wußten nichts voneinander, und beide sagten mir dasselbe.

Die Dinge, die wir sehen,« sagte Pistorius leise, »sind dieselben Dinge, die in uns sind. Es gibt keine Wirklichkeit als die, die wir in uns haben. Darum leben die meisten Menschen so unwirklich, weil sie die Bilder außerhalb für das Wirkliche halten und ihre eigene Welt in sich gar nicht zu Worte kommen lassen. Man kann glücklich dabei sein. Aber wenn man einmal das andere weiß, dann hat man die Wahl nicht mehr, den Weg der meisten zu gehen. Sinclair, der Weg der meisten ist leicht, unsrer ist schwer.