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Parents be like that’s my emotional support eldest daughter

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safety planning resources

A safety plan is a personalized, practical plan to improve your safety while experiencing abuse, preparing to leave an abusive situation, or after you leave. This plan includes vital information tailored to your unique situation and will help you prepare for and respond to different scenarios suited to your individual circumstances. Including creating an emergency escape plan if you need to escape a violent situation, making your current circumstances safer, making sure your loved ones are safe, etc.

It can be hard to think clearly or make logical decisions during moments of crisis. Having a safety plan laid out in advance can help you protect yourself and others in high-stress situations. (hotline website). Safety planning is a top priority, whether you choose to remain in the home or leave. Making a safety plan involves identifying actions to increase your safety and that of your children. (Western centre for research and education on violence against women and children)

without further ado, here are a list of resources I’ve found especially useful. most of this is not specific to any particular location, although they do come from location specific resources so some parts of the resources may need to be adapted to your particular geographical/sociopolitical location (e.g., legal stuff like laws around bringing children with you, resources like shelters or hotline numbers). but the overall idea should be somewhat consistent.

resources list:

the toronto police victims services website actually had some great resources on safety planning.

complete victim services booklet (pdf)

how to access your safety (pdf)

planning for your children’s safety (pdf)

plan for safety leaving (pdf)

what to take with you when you leave (pdf)

what to put in your go bag (pdf)

plan your safety inside your home (pdf)

plan your safety outside (pdf)

Our Safety Planning Booklet is available in the following translations: Chinese | English | French | Hungarian | Japanese | Korean | Polish | Portugese | Spanish | Tagalog. To receive a copy of the translated Safety Planning Booklet, please contact our crisis counsellors by telephone 416-808-7066 to receive a copy via email or regular mail.

interactive guide to safety planning from the us’ national domestic violence hotline.

safety planning app (canada only)

how to plan for your safety (Canadian government, widely applicable)

the ones above are the ones i found the most useful personally. however, i’d like to add to this resource by providing more that are more location/language/need specific for folks, so i’ll try to come back to this and keep adding to it. if you have any others to add, please do.

women’s aid (uk resource, widely applicable advice)

australia, northside pdf

safety planning booklet (australia, pdf)

safety planning booklet (South Africa, pdf)

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cutest adorable horangi and kkachi

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listen to me, really. I am holding your two hands tenderly in mine. being part of a privileged group and benefitting from systemic exploitation without meaning to is not the same thing as being an inherently trash person who makes the world worse by living it in. that's not what that means. I'm telling you this for two reasons, 1) so you can chill the fuck out and be at peace with yourself without feeling like you're draining the universe of value, and 2) so you don't go onto oppressed people's posts about systemic privilege and exploitation and react like they've just told you that you, personally, should not exist because you're a man who lives within the vicinity of a supermarket that sells chiquita bananas. you're just gonna have to put some trust into your own brain and hold on to both the ideas that you're on one of the dominant sides of a set of global scales of injustice and that you don't have to shrivel out of existence about it. it can be difficult to reconcile those ideas at first, but it's completely possible and worth doing. if you don't, then you start constructing a worldview where you believe that either you have a civic duty to self destruct or you start vehemently denying that these systems of oppression exist, both of which are Bad and Not Good. peace and love x

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Generations of locking the fuck in.

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Dreamland

Watercolor On Wood Panel

2025, 11"x 14"

White Cherry Blossoms

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Rumi with her hair down 💜

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SPIDER-MAN: ACROSS THE SPIDER-VERSE (2023) dir. Joaquim Dos Santos, Justin K. Thompson, Kemp Powers

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holmes + watson's dynamic is that of a habitual infodumper + his ideal audience

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A hummingbird thought a man’s orange hat was a flower [x]

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PSA that having disabled friends or relatives DOES NOT automatically make you a good ally. you’re not given a pass. do better. do your work.