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Why has selfishness become a valued trait in modern society?

Selfishness has long been considered a negative trait in society, often associated with greed, egotism, and a lack of consideration for others. However, in modern society, selfishness has increasingly become a valued trait, with individuals encouraged to prioritize their own needs and desires above all else.

There are several reasons why selfishness has become more accepted and even celebrated in today's culture. One of the primary factors is the rise of individualism, which places a strong emphasis on personal autonomy and self-expression. In a society that values self-fulfillment and personal success above all else, it is not surprising that selfishness has become a prized quality.Additionally, the advent of social media and technology has played a significant role in promoting selfish behavior. Platforms like Instagram and Facebook encourage individuals to curate an online persona that highlights their achievements and experiences, leading to a culture of self-promotion and narcissism.The competitive nature of modern society also contributes to the glorification of selfishness. In a world that rewards ambition and success, individuals are often encouraged to prioritize their own goals and aspirations, even if it comes at the expense of others.

Furthermore, the breakdown of traditional social structures and values has eroded the sense of community and collective responsibility, making it easier for individuals to justify acting in their own self-interest. In a society that places a high value on personal freedom and autonomy, selfishness is often seen as a natural and necessary trait.

Despite the growing acceptance of selfishness, it is important to recognize the negative impact that this trait can have on individuals and society as a whole. Selfish behavior can lead to conflict, isolation, and a lack of empathy for others, ultimately undermining the social fabric that holds communities together.In order to combat the negative effects of selfishness, it is essential for individuals to cultivate a sense of empathy and compassion for others. By recognizing the needs and feelings of those around us, we can create a more harmonious and inclusive society that values cooperation and mutual support.

Ultimately, while selfishness may be valued in modern society, it is important to remember the importance of balance and perspective. By striking a healthy equilibrium between our own needs and the needs of others, we can create a more caring and compassionate world for all.

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stop naming your pets after anime characters i just had to ask this person "are killua's testicles enlarged?"

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What is a sensitive way to encourage someone to be kinder to themselves?

Claude-3-Haiku's Answer:

Here are some sensitive ways to encourage someone to be kinder to themselves:

Use “I” statements to express your concern. For example, “I’ve noticed you can be really hard on yourself, and it worries me.” This avoids sounding accusatory.

Validate their feelings first. Say something like, “I understand you’re being really tough on yourself right now. That makes sense given what you’re going through.”

Suggest small, manageable steps. Rather than demanding a huge change, offer gentle prompts like, “Maybe try giving yourself 5 minutes a day to do something you enjoy, just for you.”

Compliment specific things you admire about them. This helps build their self-esteem. For instance, “I really admire how dedicated you are to your work. Maybe you could apply that same commitment to taking care of yourself.”

Ask questions to get them reflecting. For example, “What do you think your closest friend would say if they could see how you’re treating yourself right now?”

Offer to support them. Say something like, “I’m here if you ever want to talk through being kinder to yourself. I’ll listen without judgment.”

The key is to come from a place of care and concern, not criticism. Make it clear you want to help, not make them feel worse. With patience and empathy, you can encourage self-compassion.

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if they hesitate to speak to you and say they love you and they don't wanna hurt you so they hid/lied/concealed/misinformed. BEWARE. they don't consider you worthy enough to know the truth. you'll find out anyway and you'll be more devastated by the fact that they chose to lie than what they lied about. at any cost, do not let your anger consume you. you be calm ok?

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@academia-lucifer

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“The lonely one offers his hand too quickly to whomever he encounters.”

— Friedrich Nietzsche, Thus Spoke Zarathustra

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Ruth Awad, "Moral Inventory"

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Ellen Bass, “The Thing Is”

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“Good. Your letter reassures me. That’s what I thought, by the way. The bad weather must have delayed one of my letters and you received two at the same time. So I am calming down at the same time as you. But my mood is always obnoxious. Life here exasperates me. In “society”, it’s up to me to make the effort. But naturally, I also wanted to be made to live, to be made to laugh, to be taught things, you can’t give yourself all the time. The result is that I leave my room less and less. I try to work on it. Badly, of course. I lie. I feel like making splinters. I exasperate myself. Finally, it’s all useless. Let’s talk about something else. Fromont? He’s an average actor who can’t play Kaliayev. It’s not even worth the Master getting tired of writing to me. I don’t want it. Two more months! Yes, it’s exhausting. But there is nothing else to do but to love us, to support us as much as we can, to work, to hope… Forgive me for being drunk and grumpy. You know now that I love you and that I can’t live without you or outside of you. Be patient and brave. Get ready for spring, when I will melt down on you and you will have no more peace. Ah! I kiss you with rage, my beloved, coveted, awaited love… Write.”

— Albert Camus to Maria Casarès, Correspondance, January 28, 1950 [#152]

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Attachment to things falls away when you no longer seek yourself in them.

Eckhart Tolle

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“Anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that ‘my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge.”

—  Isaac Asimov, 1980.

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— Fiona Apple

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You would kill a man for this bedroom

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‘The hug is a petal that envelopes history’

2023

Zhang Yidan (Instagram)

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New Year, New Me: Reflections on Rebirth by Selene Corbeau

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May Sarton, from Journal of a Solitude

[Text ID: Keep busy with survival. Imitate the trees. Learn to lose in order to recover, and remember that nothing stays the same for long, not even pain, psychic pain. Sit it out. Let it all pass.

Let it go.]