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to engage with your addition in good faith I would just like to say that I did point out that there's no specific term for the oppression of Black men for this exact reason. As far as I understand it, which I admit may be limited (or biased by my whiteness), the reason there's no term analogous to misogynoir for Black men is precisely because there's no axis of oppression against men. Black men are absolutely oppressed & Black masculinity is absolutely stereotyped negatively but I've always understood that to not be a form of intersectional oppression (despite absolutey being an instance of anti-Blackness) precisely because anti-masculinity doesn't exist as a structural axis of oppression. These terms (like transmisogynoir, etc) exist to describe and interrogate the intersections between axes of systemic oppression so any such term incorporating anti-masculinity either A. fails to understand why these terms exist and misappropriates intersectional language or B. validates & relies on a belief in misandry as a real systemic axis of oppression. I'm not saying all this just to Disagree with you, I'd love to hear your thoughts because this ^ is just my own understanding of it and I've yet to hear it discussed in a way that actually negates any of it. Plus I am often wrong so I'd love to actually know why I'm wrong rather than just being told I am

I mean tbh this is exhausting to have to type out. You're wrong. There is a word equivalent. It's not mainstream as hell tho bc black communities don't talk like this with each other about opression, but it exist and is used. Sinple answer.

Not as simple answer:

We find all idenities, even the non opressed ones, to be part of the intersection. The intersection is not soley opressed idenities! Its about how any of you idebtities mix to shape your unique experience under a white supremacy led patriarcy.

That's what the og theory states pretty openly if you read it through a lense that doesnt start and end with "systemaic is the only ones that matter"

It cannot misuse these if the og theory ask to consider all parts, even the parts who are arguably not opressed, which it does.

For you? It's one post where you could be wrong.

For me it's been months of white users explaining how my opression works, misdefining the black theory around intersectionality, calling me names and slurs, and just gernally proving to me why transandrophobia as a word for me as a nonbinary poc is not only needed, but important.

My blogs brimming with talk about me and many other trans men of colors talks about our intersection and if the word is what stop you from exploring what we are actually saying , then it just really comes across as you never intendingbto listen anyway.

Black men use misandronoir (Spelling may vary based on circles) in irl spaces I attend and the black woman still use misgynoir and both have very good talks about what we can to structurally desmatle thebsystems that perpete that hate.

But that starts with whitenpeople believing what we say for even like, five minutes

Also:

Just because cis people don't have a word for something doesn't mean trans people can't make their own. Cis people aren't the default experience and we need to stop defining our existence around their rules if we ever want out of cishet patrarcy standards

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i was a kid asking questions like "when you say to rate my pain on a scale of 1 to 10 do you mean relative to what i have experienced before or what i could theoretically experience in the future because what if i say 8 and then later i get twenty billion papercuts and i realise relative to that this pain is a 1" and they would reply "just focus on what you know, you literally had your foot ran over by a ford focus" and id say "well exactly but it could have been both feet which i know would surely be worse" and it still took years to diagnose me as autistic

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it’s wild how tech literacy lasted like one generation barely before it fell off

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me: So then we take the liquified wood pulp, and dry it again, into these thin sheets. caveman: [confused, but trying to keep up] uh huh. me: And we take the graphite stick - it doesn't need to be wrapped in wood like this, but we like making them this way so you don't get graphite on your hands. And that's what we draw with. caveman: [eyes lighting up] Oohhh so you use the wood pulp sheets to paint on them, like hides? me: Exactly! And now, you could use this method to draw anything you can visualise with your mind's eye, but for the sake of this demonstration, let's draw a vision of a woman with features of an animal whose powers and traits she represents, and a figure that is stylised and exaggerated beyond what nature really allows. caveman: As wide as she is tall, with tits to match? me: Exactly. caveman: This is the only sensible use of this technology.

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it's crazy how normalized misogyny is like you find out a man doesn't believe women are people capable of equitable rational thought and logic reasoning as men and you're considered weird if you express discomfort associating with him

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If the US military wants so bad to liberate a desert region from a repressive religious organization, Utah is right there.

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𝔐𝔯 𝔰𝔞𝔫𝔡𝔪𝔞𝔫 𝔟𝔯𝔦𝔫𝔤 𝔪𝔢 𝔞 𝔡𝔯𝔢𝔞𝔪 ✨

(contains spoilers for season 2)

Season 2 of Sandman is finally out and it still feels like a fever dream 😭

On youtube:

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Nuala's "transformation" was like those films where the "tomboy" girl takes off her glasses and puts her hair down and all of a sudden is a different person lol

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honestly all showers should just come with a built in chair

the fact that they dont already is just...

am i allowed to call it anti-disabled architecture

cuz thats what it feels like

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God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers and I'm dodging the draft

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I think Death's advice to Dream is a good depiction of a well meaning family member who has no idea what to do when they have a younger family member who is different to them. Like Destiny and Death are inevitabilities, Dream is different, but he's still often grouped with his two older siblings. Dream is about seeing beyond inevitabilities, seeing the impossible. Where Death and Destiny take after their father, Time, Dream takes more after his mother, Night, the unknown, the space between. It's like a well meaning allistic older sibling giving advice to a younger autistic sibling. The younger sibling practically hero worships their older sibling, so when the well meant advice doesn't work because the younger sibling is not allistic, the younger sibling believes they are the problem.

I think some of Dream's problems come from him trying to be like his older sister. But that was never going to work for him. Thus on a subconscious level, or even consciously, Dream has spent most of his existence believing he's broken. But he's not, he's just different and needs to honor that which makes him different from his older siblings instead of trying to emulate them. Dream would greatly benefit from someone telling him this. His time in Delirium's company isn't exactly someone telling him this, but it was beneficial to him for because Delirium is so different from Destiny and Death and much more similar to Dream than Dream is to his older siblings.

If I told my elder sister that after being hurt I was feeling sad, lost, and angry… And her response was “you shouldn’t be”…. I would immediately become sad, lost, angry, and ashamed. Not… better.

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HATE when a character seems intentionally designed for me to be obsessed with and it succeeds

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Dream with his two favourite siblings

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hello everynyan :3

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Do you remember what you spent 2020 doing?

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Dream trying to pass the key to hell off to Death is so funny. It's such a younger sibling thing to do.

First trying to subtly flatter her and saying that she's perfect for the job

And Death is like "lol that's your problem to deal with"

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Something I've noticed about Dream from the show as opposed to Dream from the comics, is that while Dream from the comics very much has a strong sense of personal justice and has this drive to always do "the right thing", the intensity of this drive is a lot stronger in Dream from the show. In the show you can feel Dream's need to make things right when he's fucked up, which he has done a lot. Whereas in the comic, he still has that need, it's just a bit more watered down.

I think there's something to be said about Dream using cognitive empathy as opposed to emotional empathy here. I think by his nature, he's so overwhelmed with empathy for every single creature because he knows their thoughts and dreams that he has to sort of shut that off in order to be functional. Thus he has to use cognitive empathy.

One of the things that leads me to believe that he relies on cognitive empathy is how he genuinely didn't seem to realize that condemning Nada to hell for 10000 years was not a just thing for him to do until Death informed him, but the moment he realized that, his moral compass did not allow him to just let it go, even as Death was begging him to. Which, he probably would have realized was wrong earlier if he could utilize emotional empathy.

It's the way he reacts to realizing he was wrong about something with almost surprise but complete willingness to make things right if he can. If given assistance, like Death encouraging him to speak with Delirium, he's able to rationalize someone else's point of view. It's the way he goes from being sure that he's in the right to being equally sure that he was in the wrong and eager to make things right that is one thing I find very interesting about him. This was true of him in the comics, but especially true in the show