Hi, so after seeing my mum who tries to never miss a prayer, reads 5 times a day, reads the Quraan shareef, suffer throughout her life amd is still suffering..I have a hard time in believing sometimes. And I know this is the biggest sin. But how can I pray and love Allah when he sees the pain my mum is constantly in and there is no light at the end of a tunnel for her? There is no way out for her, she feels stuck. And thats what hurts me the most to see, because she is the only one I care for.
Asalamualaikum,
I understand how it can feel really difficult, but know that Allah has something beautiful ready your mother. Her perseverance to stay firm in her acts of worship is a testament to her faith.
Narrated Abu Huraira رضي الله عنه: Allah’s Messenger ﷺ said,“If Allah wants to do good to somebody, He afflicts him with trials.”[Sahih al-Bukhari 5645]
Abu Sa'id and Abu Huraira رضي الله عنهم reported that they heard Allah’s Messenger ﷺ as saying:Never a believer is stricken with discomfort, hardship or illness, grief or even with mental worry that his sins are not expiated for him.[Sahih Muslim 2822]I want you to study the stories of the Prophets of Allah, and look at how they all faced hardships and adversities, like when Ibrahim عليه السلام was tested with fire, like when Musa عليه السلام was tested by the tyranny of Firaun, when Yusuf عليه السلام faced slander against him, like when Asiyah رضي الله عنها was tested with an oppressive husband and how Maryam رضي الله عنها dealt with ridicule against her chastity. Study at how they faced their hardships, only to become some of the greatest of humans under the eyes of Allah.
Don’t think that the tests you see your mother is facing is weakening her, when in fact it is her strength. Remember, imaan (faith) is a test, the life of world was never meant to be easy, because if it was, would we have any imaan at all?
Do you suppose that you will enter the Garden without first having suffered like those before you? They were afflicted by misfortune and hardship, and they were so shaken that even [their] messenger and the believers with him cried, ‘When will God’s help arrive?’ Truly, God’s help is near.[Surah al-Baqarah, Verse 214]Did you know the Prophet ﷺ had 7 children, and 6 of them passed away while he was still alive? Think of what he was going through when he came back from the victory of Badr, the feeling of jubilation, only to find out his daughter Ruqayyah رضي الله عنها had passed away. The emotions and hardships he must have been going through when his beloved wife Khadijah رضي الله عنها and his uncle Abu Talib both pass away in the same year.Learn from the Seerah of our beloved Prophet ﷺ. His father passes away six months before his birth, at six years old while he is on the way back home from visiting his fathers grave, his mother falls ill and passes away. He is then under the guardianship of his grandfather, who then passes away two years later. Think about how much he was suffering all within the first 8 years of his life, this little boy who would become the most influential human in the history of mankind. He went through many hardships, and his character, his behaviour, how he treated others, while going through it all, should be lessons for us to take heed from. When the Prophet ﷺ did not receive any revelation for over 6 months, he became anxious and thought that Allah must hate him, and that Allah does not want him as a Prophet anymore. But what happened then? Allah gives assurances to him and reveals:your Lord is sure to give you so much that you will be well satisfied.Did He not find you an orphan and shelter you?And He found you lost and guided [you],Did He not find you in need and make you self-sufficient?[Surah ad-Duha, Verse 5-8]
So whatever you and your mother are going through, have faith in Allah, and just as Allah rescued the orphan in the desert and raised his stature to the best of mankind, Allah will rescue you.May Allah grant your mother peace and serenity in her heart, and may the hardships she is facing be the bricks that build her mansion in Jannah. Ameen.