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[anon-discourse]

Some tips for exclusionists

Our side isn’t perfect either so here’s some advice.

1) Unless an ace headcanon is heavily rooted in homophobia, ableism, or racism, don’t be a dick about it and leave it alone. You don’t have to agree with it but still…please guys.

2) Speaking of ace headcanons, reblogging them with a lot of NSFW comments is kind of gross especially if the OP is a minor. You can say that Tracer is a lesbian without saying shit like “Tracer fucks her girlfriend in her bed”.

3) That reminds me. Don’t talk about sexual shit with minors. PLEASE?!

4) Don’t post discourse or NSFW shit in the ace positivity tag holy shit.

5) You don’t have to accept cishet aces and aros into the LGBT community but please refrain from saying that asexual and aromantic are “special snowflake identitiea” that don’t exist.

6) If someone tells you that you reblogged from a radfem, listen to them and delete the post. Same if you reblog from a truscum.

7) Don’t say shit like “go have sex you freaks”. Why the fuck would you do that???

[anon-discourse]

tbh ace discourse is so distressing to me bc like. i highly doubt inclusionists even understand what the lgbt community is all about? 

like ive seen inclusionists legit ask what resources cishet aro/ace people and cis aroace people could ~~supposedly~~ steal and like. do you know why there are lgbt homeless shelters? like has it even crossed your mind why lgbt people cant go to standard shelters? its bc wed get kicked out in the best case scenario and get assaulted or murdered in the worst case. who is gonna kick someone out of an homeless shelter bc they dont feel sexual attraction?

the same goes for lgbt scholarships, hotlines and so on. we need these resources bc cishets either dont give a shit about us or they want us dead.

and the lgbt community and the ace community also have extremely different goals. i support the ace community. i think we should make people aware of informed consent, we should talk about the sexualization found in our society, about how sex and romance arent the only things that make us human and people can live a happy life without them. but the lgbt community isnt the place where to do it.

listen. for lgbt people sex is often a demonized aspect of their lifes. homophobic sexual jokes; ‘predatory gay man/lesbian/trans person’ stereotypes;  equating gay relationships with sexual intercourse;  sexual harassment suffered especially by wlw’ the slut shaming suffered by bi, pan and poly people; corrective rape; ‘love the sinner hate the sin’ mentality, are all things the lgbt community is supposed to be free of. now i hope you understand why, for someone struggling to see their sexual attraction as something good and normal, in the only safe haven they have, having somebody preach that ‘not feeling sexual attraction is ok!’, is downright disrespectful and hurtful, even tho its a valid statement.

the lgbt community and the ace community can be allied, but we cannot be united, and thats not hate speech, thats just me caring for my own.

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i dont think ppl realize how terrifyingly good the lifter community is at grooming. its really scary. ive seen them manipulate little kids into lifting and ive experienced it firsthand. they use eachother and make cutesy little rules and act all close knit despite barely knowing eachother to normalize a literal crime and when thats brought up theyre like "oh yeah its kinda illegal but thats not that big of a deal lol :P". they prey on people that are weak to mnipulation. its super fucked up guys