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i understand feeling like calling it rape by deception is a little extreme, but if i knew a woman wouldn't consent if she knew my beliefs, i don't know how it would be considered anything else. and i think if you're going to trust someone enough to have sex, you should be honest about this. and i don't know how anyone could do this and not feel sick afterwards.

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Just read this post on Substack and it's almost comical how perfectly it represents the attitudes of TIMs. This guy is like a caricature

https://open.substack.com/pub/laurenbutcher/p/do-terfs-even-like-being-women?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

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i just sent in an ask on the other blog with a story about shaving, it might not look like a poll but it's more for advice and to ask if anyone else had experienced it, i hope that's allowed!! otherwise you can post it on this one instead but the other one has a bigger audience and i'm really worried about it (ik that sounds stupid but yeah)

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Does anyone know/think they may know the name of the blog who asked for that poll about veganism? The one where they called people who eat animals cannibals?

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I'm so tired of vegans trying to push their agenda by trying to make people feel guilty, they're all so obviously neurotypical, I genuinely don't understand why I'm supposed to feel bad for eating a calf in front of its mother or whatever because my mind doesn't unconsciously operate on moral codes. I don't feel guilty, I feel annoyed. It's like guilting an atheist for going against the bible, an atheist wouldn't feel guilty, an atheist would feel annoyed.

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ngl whenever i see a post by someone who has a trans flag in their username or profile picture, i immediately block them and move on with my life even if what they're saying in the post has nothing to do with being trans. i doubt they have anything good to say anyway is they proudly show off how anti-woman they are.

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I mean, I pretend to be a TRA because being involved in leftist politics is important to me and I want to make a difference. If I denounced the TRM, it's the kiss of death for my ability to effect real change. I try to subtly push people against the TRM, but I have to be careful about it. I honestly think I have a better chance at convincing people that the things the TRM is pushing for are not, actually, okay, if I don't go around telling people my real views about it. I wish I didn't have to pretend, but we can't always get what we wish for.

That being said, if a TRA says some radfem stuff, I feel her out to see whether or not she's hiding her actual views or if she just doesn't realize it yet.

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the emotional cheating poll having 11.4% on "Yes, and this is just as bad as sexual/traditional cheating" and also having 11.4% "No, and this term/concept is an abusive isolation tactic" is so funny to me. man now that i think about it i should ask people's emotional attachment style type and see if there's a divide between them

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For anyone not knowing what solitary confinement does to a person, I suggest listening to this: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=p1FuZVjVQ-4

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Seriously, what the fuck? Women are supposed to be better than men. Why are there ANY radfems that think torture is acceptable? Especially acting as if it's somehow a good solution to prevent sexual violence. Replacing one form of torture with another is fucked up.

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Why the fuck does anyone think that solitary confinement is the answer? Solitary confinement is literally torture, and sorry not sorry, I don't believe we should torture people. I don't care if someone has committed horrendous acts, it shouldn't be something we allow the state to do. Are men terrible? Largely yes. Do I want to live in a society that think it's acceptable to torture people? Absolutely not. And even if you think it's somehow okay to do that, keep in mind that innocent people are locked up all the time. Are you really okay with torturing innocent people just so you also have the chance to torture the guilty? I sure as shit hope not, because I can't think of an attitude that's more male than that.

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idk where else to talk about this, but i feel like maybe someone here will get it. i'm scared that i won't be able to enjoy sex. i thought today about how emotionally connecting an experience sex is, but i don't know if i can perform emotions like that in sex. i'm autistic and i don't emote naturally. even when i feel strong emotions my face doesn't really change. i learned how to mask and mimic other people's emotional expressions, but whenever i drop it people find it unnerving and think i'm mad at them. keeping it up in day to day life is tiring, but i can do it. i've gone on dates and even had a girlfriend before but i never got to the point where i stopped masking at all. we weren't together for very long (we left on good terms we just decided it wasn't the right time for a relationship for her) so i know that's part of it. to risk being tmi, when i touch myself my face doesn't change at all and i don't make any sound, just like most other experiences for me. i learned how to fake emoting by countless examples of people around me every day, and there's just nothing like that for me to base faking emoting during sex. and the idea of faking my emotions during sex sounds intensely uncomfortable not to mention a major turn off. but what's the alternative? being neutral and silent the entire time? it's just hard for me to connect with the emotions of others naturally and i hadn't really thought before about how it would impact sex. it makes me sad to think about something i desire so much not being enjoyable for the woman i'm with. i've looked forward to that being a life experience of mine someday but now i'm wondering if it's going to be harder than i expected. maybe i'm being needlessly pessimistic about it. i used to think i would never be able to touch myself and have it feel good, but then i was able to, i just needed time to figure it out. same with thinking i would never have a girlfriend. it could be something i would just need time for. i dunno, i just felt sad about that today and wanted to tell someone

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Anybody know that blog that would post polls about radfem books? I forgot her url

@radicalpolls

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what's crypto in a radfem context? Crypto like currencies or coins??????

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prev anon, female on female sexual abuse is equally as abhorrent as any other kind, and i’m sorry if anyone has made you feel like it was acceptable in any way. i think where the issue lies is that the overwhelming amount of sexual abuse is committed by males against females, and while pointing this out may feel like a dismissal of your experience, it is very important to establish this fact when it comes to feminist goals such as women’s only shelters, sex segregation in prisons, the right to request female health workers and care givers, and more. all the best to you and anyone else in a similar situation ❤️

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I think there's this kind of toxic desire to believe that women aren't capable of the kind of cruel behavior men are. Which is itself a dehumanizing idea to promote. Just because women are far less likely to be abusive than men, and, even when we are, it almost never reaches the level of violence and cruelty that men are capable of inflicting, it doesn't make us somehow perfect angels incapable of committing harm. Radfems have an understandable desire to protect other women from attacks, especially since men call shit like asking for help with housework abuse. But we really need to stop woobifying women as a whole. There are women out there who are genuinely awful people. The fact that in general we're much better than men doesn't mean we can't also be terrible. By acting like there's no way women can be abusers, we're failing women who are victims of abuse.

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it’s really funny to me when it comes to gender neutral toilets and TRAs say stuff like “kids are fine sharing spaces, they don’t care about gender unless they’re told to” because when i was about 10 our classroom was in an external building that didn’t have separate girls and boys facilities, there was just one larger room that we stored coats in with two toilet cubicles inside. within about a week of being there we had decided that the left was the girls toilet and the right was the boys, and no boys would be in the outer room while a girl was using the toilet and vice versa. the girls would use the room to change for PE while one of us stood guard and if any boy even stood near the door for too long they’d have “OUT” yelled at them. i would love to have seen a teacher try to tell us that it was now gender neutral and we had to let boys in with us, we would have raised absolute hell and probably had the artsy girls make us placards in bubble writing to march around the playground with

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