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The aromantic agenda is a good one.
Go and think about what kinds of relationships you want. Don't think about labels like romantic or platonic or sexual, think purely about what relationships would make you happiest.
When I realized I was aromantic, I was asked things like "Would you still date? Would you have a QPR? Will you ever kiss?"
But the aromantic community didn't ask that. Instead, they focused on "What do you want in a world where anything is possible?"
And I realized I want to be alone, surrounded by friends and family I love who are close enough, I can bring them fresh baked scones when I overbake.
They asked me "What do you want?" and the question was so broad, I could weigh labels in my hand like queerplatonic partner and nonpartnering and significant other. I could look at these and shrug and say, "What I want is to not worry about questions I don't care about." I could shelve these indefinitely. Maybe even forever. And just enjoy being myself.
The aromantic community celebrates exploration. Tells people asking if they are aromantic, "This is a personal decision. Your personal decision. If this label helps you, take it. If this community helps you, stay as long as you need. You don't have to be labelled anything, aromantic or otherwise, unless it would bring you comfort. You don't have to be anything you aren't."
It's a good community with good philosophies born from a unique experience, not rooted in missing out, but in being forced to consider what you want when you don't want what's expected.
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you see there's nuance between the generic valentine's day hater (is single and distressed by this, unaware of what amatonormativity is, resents the holiday for making them confront their perceived lack of worth, spends the day miserable) and the enlightened valentine's day hater (probably arospec, knows what amatonormativity is, sees the holiday as an opportunity to raise awareness and community, spends the day in joyous defiance)
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Do you have plans for valentines day?
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Valentines Day soon:

Aromantic Awareness Week soon:

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arospec themed valentines. I'll take requests
AROSPEC ONLY DON'T TAG ASEXUAL (aroace okay ofc)
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Yo, happy Valentine’s Day to any aromantic’s feeling particularly isolated today. Y’all rock💚🌹
Plz remember that there are other forms of love worth celebrating. And for those of you who are loveless and don’t feel a connection to the idea of love, I hope you have an amazing day as well and are able to celebrate the things that are important to you
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oh ur aro? name every arrow that exists
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amatonormativity day? WRONG, AROMANTIC BEAM
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returning to this blog to make the aro tag trend LET'S GO AROS LET'S GO
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“they’re queerbait this, they’re not canon that” they’re whatever i want them to be on ao3 actually
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thank your local trans girl for being alive right now
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You could not make me immortal because even if I faked my own death and left I would not be able to stop using ao3. Ao3 going back 100 years with 5k fics or something
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You ever watch a couple argue and realize that literally all of their problems would be solved if they just actually talked to each other
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Putting Mabel through that straight to bi to aromantic pipeline
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