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so many people do not understand that 1) animals are not people, and 2) they aren't teaching their animals what they THINK they are teaching them.

dog group on the book of faces, someone is asking for advice on how to get their dog to come to them after the dog is done relieving itself outside. The dog doesn't like coming to them an they spend ten or twenty minutes or more catching the dog each time to bring it in. Which reminded me of one of many attempts to talk a person through trying to fix exactly this same behavior in *many* other dogs over the years...

Me: So, a quick question for you... does the dog not coming to you and you having to chase them down frustrate you?

Them: Of course!

Me: So what do you do when you finally either catch the dog or get them to come to you?

Them: I give the dog a correction!

Me: So. You get hands on your dog and then you immediately punish them for allowing you to get hands on them. And you wonder why your dog has developed the habit of not coming to you?

Them: No, that's not... I'm punishing them for not coming when I call!

Me: Which was.... fifteen minutes ago, or so, you said?

Them: Yes, when I first called them!

Me: Dogs brains literally cannot link an abstract thought like that. A thought and a consequence MUST happen within 2.4 seconds of one another, or the consequence becomes linked to the most recent behavior, thought, or activity. So, tell me... how is your dog supposed to understand that you punishing them is for the event fifteen minutes ago when you have made such a concerted, if unintentional, effort to teach them that them getting close enough for you to lay hands on them in the yard means an immediate punishment?

Them: But that's not what I *meant*!

Me: Doesn't matter what YOU meant... what THEY learned is that they come to you, and they get punished. Stop punishing your dog for the behavior that you want to see more of.

Stop anthropomorphizing your animals, folks. They don't think like us. Stop setting them - and yourself - up for failure.

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Wizard worm just emerged from a wizarding hole! Lucky you!!!✨🪱🪄🍀

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thinking about how when you experience a lot of shame in your formative years (indirectly, directly, as abuse or just as an extant part of your environment) it becomes really difficult to be perceived by other people in general. the mere concept of someone watching me do anything, whether it's a totally normal activity or something unfamiliar of embarrassing, whether I'm working in an excel spreadsheet or being horny on main, it just makes my skin crawl and my brain turn to static because I cannot convince myself that it's okay to be seen and experienced. because to exist is to be ashamed and embarrassed of myself, whether I'm failing at something or not, because my instinctive reaction to anyone commenting on ANYTHING I'm doing is to crawl into a hole and die. it's such a bizarre and dehumanizing feeling to just not be able to exist without constantly thinking about how you are being Perceived. ceaseless watcher give me a god damn break.

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Day after dental cleaning and gums look exactly as inflamed and infected as yesterday 👍

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all goofing aside I genuinely don't understand the urge to reimagine Taylor Allison Swift as a secretly queer icon when the pop music scene(TM) is like. literally overflowing with women who actually like women. Gaga and Kesha and Miley and Halsey are right there. Rina Sawayama and Hayley Kiyoko and Rebecca Black and Kehlani and Victoria Monét and Miya Folick if you're willing to get slightly less top 100. Janelle and Demi for them nonbinary takes on liking girls. like what are we doing here. like I'm not even saying you can't enjoy Taylor but why would you hang all your little gay hopes on her.

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After all this mayhem, the possibility of getting that wedding cake perfectly half down to the very ounce, let alone with a bride missing, was like one in a hundred and I am perhaps being too generous.

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let's be clear about this.

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I loved this moment because Rhett clearly meant it to be intentional. But it came out SO intentional that it ended up feeling unintentional to Link, so you can literally see his brain going "why is he being so loud, we are not in our secret honeymoon, we're in our secret 10 year anniversary".

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“lemme spot ya”

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In his early youth he looked so timid, even in the photoshoots. He would often stand on the side or in the back despite being the singer. He basically transformed after Brian passed away and Keith fell too deep into drug use.

Alexis Korner: I always felt that Mick had the ultimate strength and that little streak of cruelty and ruthlessness. It may very easily have been Mick's defence mechanism operating, making himself seem more cruel than he was and thus less likely to suffer attack. But the feeling of cruelty and ruthlessness was definitely there. And also his sullenness, which is what I thought his meanness was at the time. But he wasn't so much sullen as shy. He was just shy and didn't talk very much. Yet it came across as sullen. And that was a part of the attraction of Mick.

Mick Jagger biography by Anthony Scaduto (1974)

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Spring in Holland

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I am embarrassed to say that I never really thought about the possibility of falling through a cloud, let alone a storm one .

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is there any benefit in downloading the desktop app for tumblr? Apart from having a shortcut on desktop, I don't see it being any easier or better, maybe the contrary...?