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'alexander mcqueen's gold-painted fox-skeleton wrap, seen at london fashion week, february 2001' in 100 ideas that changed fashion - harriet worsley (2011)

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Blood Ties 1x02 Blood price pt. 2

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When writing toxic family dynamics

Toxic family stuff isn’t always screaming matches or broken plates. Sometimes it’s quiet control. The expectation to shrink, the pressure to be perfect, the guilt that rides shotgun. It’s complicated. And it’s deeply, deeply personal.

✧ Make the love real, but conditional.  One of the most damaging things about toxic family is the illusion of love. It’s not “I love you no matter what.” It’s “I love you when you obey.” Let your character notice that.

✧ Control shows up in micro ways... Who’s allowed to speak. Who’s allowed to feel. Who apologizes first, even when they’re not wrong. Control doesn’t need to be loud. Sometimes it’s a raised eyebrow or a guilt trip.

✧  Let them question reality. Toxic families are great at gaslighting. Your character might constantly wonder, Was it really that bad? Am I being dramatic? Let them doubt their own memories. That internal confusion is real.

✧ The guilt will be crushing. Leaving a toxic family doesn’t feel empowering at first. It feels selfish. It feels wrong. It feels like betrayal, even when it's survival. Show your character grieving the fantasy of the family they wish they had.

✧ Let them try to earn love. Your character might work their ass off trying to “be good,” hoping maybe this time they’ll be enough. Toxic families move the goalposts. Let that break them a little.

✧ Show emotional whiplash... One moment everything is warm and nostalgic. The next, it’s tense and full of landmines. That unpredictability is the dynamic. Use it.

✧ Don’t make the villain cartoonish. Even the abuser might think they’re doing what’s best. They might bake cookies and say “I’m just worried about you.” That’s what makes it so damaging. Write them like people, flawed, manipulative, real.

✧ Let your character unlearn in layers. Even after they leave, they still flinch. Still fold under pressure. Still crave approval. Recovery isn’t clean. But it’s worth it. And when they finally say no, even just once, let it be electric.

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"If you're going to bite, sink your teeth in down to the gums. If you're going to stab, sink your blade in down to the hilt. Killing is no fun when it's done half-heartedly." - Roy, the antagonist of my wip "Away from the Sun"

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We’ve gotten so repressed as a culture, at this rate nothing less than a whole new 1960s style “free your head” sexual revolution is going to help us.

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Helena Bonham Carter as Lady Jane Grey

Lady Jane (1986)

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Natalie Portman as Anne Boleyn

The Other Boleyn Girl (2008)

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PERIOD DRAMAS I'VE WATCHED - Wolf Hall: The Mirror and the Light (2024)

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the “Henry FitzRoy from Blood Ties to Lestat de Lioncourt” pipeline is so real except I did it backwards. started in Lestat land and somehow woke up in Henry town.

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The Connection Ch. 19

https://archiveofourown.org/works/54252985/chapters/169021957

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Strokes of the brush and pen...

@songs-of-venus

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This was riveting

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me when my disabilities disable me:

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born to marry him, forced to read fanfics about him

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King Edward's disappeared sons, if they had lived, would have looked like this, the gleam in the eye like light on the blade of a sword; the fine skin, where the colour comes and goes, betraying every passion.

the mirror and the light (2020), hilary mantel 

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Stiles Stilinski: Season 3B Era

This season was all the things.

Stiles was fighting for his life in this season. Not only him, but EVERYONE was fighting for his life.

Ok so remember in the last post when Stiles saved his dad from under the tree? Well there turned out to be a malevolent spirit that was trapped in the tree and was set free with the disturbance of the tree and latched on to Stiles due to the ritual he was a part of to help find his father.

It's called the Nogitsune, a dark fox spirit, and was summoned to this world as a curse and did not leave, so it had to be trapped in the Nematon (which wasn't cut down yet).

To say that it was a menace is an understatement.

First victims were the Stilinski's. It was making Stiles seem like he was zoned out, giving him nightmares, panic attacks, and it got so bad that he ended up staying in the local mental hospital. It was there that would meet his first girlfriend Malia Tate.

They got intimate and it was super controversial for reasons that will come up when I do her post after she enters the story narrative. Yes she is a supernatural creature and likes to be the big spoon. (I love her)

Remember me telling you about Stiles's mother's illness? Well the Nogitsune even made it seem like Stiles may have had it just so that it could push past Stiles last mental defenses and take over.

**To everyone who has seen the show...I know...I know, but i am doing a crash course for people who have not seen the show so they are aware of things that will be relevant for the story. I will end up touching on more things when I do other character and Sterek posts. So bear with me. I thought I would find a whole host of gif posts and such, but they seem to be buried over time. I had to resort to YouTube vids and even then I had to sift through scene packs to get what I wanted. (Le sigh)**

Void!Stiles, as the fandom called him proceeded to go on a rampage of death, destruction (this scene is super powerful, but more on that in Derek's post), personal conflict, and division (here is a fascinating head canon/meta that I can get behind).

They captured Void!Stiles but he got away with Lydia as a hostage. There was a show down, significant death, and a move that saved the day.

Woooo boy. See why I had to give Season 3B its own post? Next will be Stiles's Post Season 3B era.