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Letter from Amanda

Dear Dr. Feeder,          My name is Amanda. Last year I began university, and because of this had to move away from home onto campus. One thing I had promised myself to do when I moved out of home was to gain weight. Since moving onto Campus I have just let myself go completely, and as a result gained 50lbs. However, this summer I will be visiting my mother back home whom is very into healthy eating, and so forth. Let me say right now that I am not loosing any weight whatsoever for her, nor do I intend to stop. But, I do not know what to say to her to avoid her from being too upset.          What can I say to prevent her from being too angry?--Amanda, April 2, 2009

Dear Amanda,          You may not be able to keep her from being angry. Settle for keeping her from nagging you to death. Try:                    1. If she gets angry, DON'T get angry yourself.          2. If she asks why you gained, say it's because you like to eat and don't mind the extra weight.          3. If she asks you why you don't diet, say you've tried diets and have found you're happier eating what you want.          4. If she makes a comment about your weight that is not in the form of a question, don't respond.          5. If she says something mean, say "Now you're just being mean."                    And remember the three NEVERs:                    NEVER apologize for your gain;          NEVER apologize for your size;          NEVER apologize for your appetite.                    If she tries to get you to eat healthy food (fruit & vegetables, etc.) go ahead and eat it. It will make her feel better. You can still eat your favorite goodies as well.          If she won't shut up about it, say 'look, I know you're just saying all this because you love me and you want what's best for me, and I appreciate that, but it's my decision and you need to respect that.'          Let me know how it goes!--Dr. Feeder

Dear Dr. Feeder,          Sorry for the long reply period, I only flew in a couple of days ago. As you can imagine, it wasn't great at all. But surprisingly I didn't feel down about it whatsoever! When I first gave my mother a hug, she put her hand on my stomach and patted and squeezed it, constantly glancing down at it. It was horribly awkward. For some reason I expected that would be it. Later that night she gave me a brief "discussion" about my weight and asked me if anything was wrong and so forth. I explained to her exactly what you suggested, that I was happy the way I was and didn't feel the need to diet. Amazingly though, that was it!          Thankfully, she hasn't said anything else yet about my weight which I'm very pleased with. Thank-you so much for your help - the food here is quite healthy, so for that reason I'm looking forward to returning home where I can eat what I like. :)          Again, thank-you so much for the wonderful advice,--Amanda, May 4, 2009

Dear Amanda,          You're welcome, I'm glad it worked out.--Dr. Feeder

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All well and good, but the thing that is left out here (and in other such fat-related rights screeds) is:

gluttony

I understand that many fat people don’t practice gluttony, and no doubt want to separate themselves from it. There is social stigma against gluttony. So gluttony tends to get swept under the rug in most of these fat-rights/body-positive discussions. I’m not sure where it even fits in. Certainly I wouldn’t require individual fat people to discuss whether they’re gluttons or not. It’s nobody’s business, after all.

By the way, I don’t conflate gluttony with feedism. Some feedees may eat a lot just because they want to get fat. They are not true gluttons, since they don’t really enjoy eating like that.

Similarly, gluttons, unlike feedees, may not like being fat. They just accept it as a consequence of their passion for food. Or maybe it’s a trade off--after all, having a fat-person appetite may allow them to enjoy gluttony more than a thin person ever could.

In short, feedism, gluttony, getting fat and being fat all intersect in every way possible. And like I say, I don’t know where gluttony fits in to any of these movements. I just want to put in a plug for those who love gluttony and are brave enough and strong to do what they love in spite of social taboos. I admire them!

idk maybe it’s because i’m getting chunkier and just feel happy with my body but

is there something about how an intersection of feedism and body positivity can exist? like we as feeders shouldn’t look at body pos models/activists like we do models. but ignoring the entire feedism community is not great on the body pos side, i think

idk it’s like obviously we, as a society, need to not be fatphobic. but it feels like the movement focuses on people who are naturally plus sized or gained because of illness. what is there to say about those who CHOOSE to be fat? not even choose to stay fat but whose ideal bodies ARE plus sized.

this is kind of just rambling and i’m not even that chunky lol but just a thought i’ve been having. what do you guys think!

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Note also that Jesus was alleged to have been a glutton.  ( Luke 22:65) 

Hey, I just found out something about God and his opinion on fat people. In Leviticus 3:16, it says “All the fat is the Lord’s”. In Proverbs 11:25, “The liberal soul shall be made fat.” And in Proverbs 13:4, “The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing: but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat.” Meaning if you work hard, you will become fat. I thought that was pretty interesting. God wants us to be fat. @bk2015stuff

(Btw, I’m atheist)

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Why I want to be fat

I received an ask asking why I want to gain, it was from someone who has been struggling with an eating disorder and didn't understand why one would want to gain weight like this and I accidentally deleted it! It was such a good and respectful ask so I'm going to respond here.

No this isn't offensive I'm glad you asked! It's totally ok to be curious and I get why some people wouldn't understand it. I used to struggle with an eating disorder as well and a bit after I became more comfortable with my body and recovered I found that by gaining I felt so much better about myself and it was a good way to take control of my body. I used to always be ashamed of my weight, even when I was super skinny, and when I found this kink I learned I don't need to be and I can be big if I want and I don't have to be ashamed, in fact I could be proud of it! I also love the nurturing aspect of it, I love doting on someone and showing your love through feeding them, and returning the love by being big and soft and cuddly for someone who wants that. It's very wholesome and loving and makes me feel a lot more confident in my skin :) I hope this answers your question!

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The Wall Test

Hey Everyone!

What kind of photosets would you like to see? I would love some ideas! You can offer up suggestions on:

What types of clothes

Angles

Certain parts of the body (no full nudity or face)

Themes?

Something else I can't think of?

I'm open to suggestions! I can't promise I'll get to all of them right away, but I'd love to hear what my current active followers would love to see!

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Given your expressed love of stuffing and gaining, yes, it’s not hard to believe. Still impressive though. Thanks for making the world a more beautiful place.

Can you believe how big I’ve gotten?

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http://askdrfeeder.dyndns.org/letters.html#Amanda

So, how do ya’ll go about explaining your fetish to partners outside of the feedism community? I need to with someone, but I’m nervous. Help!

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