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Hi Jenna, I have watched your Live stream like 3 times now, I relate to it very much, I been getting hurt by girls a lot more recently. I guess I'm "too real" for girls, I know I want in relationship and I'm brutal honest. I have been following you since the beginning and it truly saddens me that you are getting hurt. You are one amazing person. You are purely beautiful inside and out. I know you probably won't reply but I just want to tell you that. Sara

That means the world. I think the pain is necessary. It’s humbled me and showed me what I’m really looking for. While each heartbreak at the time was devastating, I now know that there’s a reason for everything. You just have to find the positivity and silver lining in everything. Much love to you Sara.

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I felt like Tasha was your 'one.' Do you ever regret losing her? What did you learn from the relationship?

I don’t regret much in my life, the things I’ve been through and mistakes I’ve made have shaped me into the person I am today. But I will say I regret is the way things ended. I was young and stupid and going through a lot and while that’s not an excuse, I could have handled it A LOT better. But I know Tasha was definitely meant to play the role in my life she plays now. She’s an incredible human being and I feel honored to know her. Also, think about how it would feel if someone that has only seen snapshots of one of your relationships told you that they had an opinion on who your “one” was. While I share my life online, what is seen is so small in comparison to the entirety of the relationship and even then the only people that truly can speak on it are the two involved. While it seemed like our relationship was very “picturesk”, it was by no means perfect. But i’m glad we shared the time together that we did. Again, she’s an absolutely amazing human being who has shown me forgiveness, kindness, and love and I’m honored to call her my friend.

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It seems like lately every time you get out of a relationship you get a lot of shade. How do you deal with all that lashing out? Every time one of my exes has treated me like that I've lost it on them.

Over the years I've learned anytime anyone makes it a point to try and make me feel small or worthless it has a lot less to do with me and everything to do with them. I remind myself that it's really easy to attack my character because I openly wear my imperfections on my sleeve and share my entire life online. It helps maintain a healthy perspective and helps me find the reason behind behavior that has vicious intent.I know the feeling when someone attacks you and all you want is to defend yourself - but I can assure you, that will get you no where. You have to remember, if someone is coming at you - nothing you can say is going to get through to them. They're not there to listen, they're there to make jabs at you and "make a point". Don't ever waste energy on someone that is trying to tear you down in ANY way. Put your energy into those that are there to lift you up.And for the record, not all my exes have treated me in a negative way. There are some incredible people in my life that I've dated that treat me with kindness, love, and understanding and I feel incredibly fortunate to have them in my life. I always hope for that outcome after a relationship ends. Just because you aren't with someone anymore doesn't mean it needs to be negative and hateful. Give yourself time to heal and if the two of you are ready to build a positive friendship, go for it. :)

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Teach me how to gracefully let go of things not meant for me.

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Friendly reminder to check you’re not holding tension in your body. Let your shoulders drop, unclench your hands and jaw. Take a deep breath. Much better.

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Where Are You Now? (Acoustic Version) - Jenna Anne I was always scared that I had wronged you in some way. Looking back I know that isn’t true. Cause when you were mine I gave you everything I had and I didn’t stop to hesitate on loving you. I always knew you’d make it and I tried to leave you be I never knew you’d join the ones who say that it’s on me. I’m sorry that this happened I’m sorry that we’re done but at least I know you’re happy and you’ve finally met the one. You say you can’t trust me you don’t know me but you’re wrong. I’ve always been honest and I’m happy you’ve moved on. But you let me believe that you would be here and now you’re gone. So where are you now? Where are you now?  I have learned the meaning of a promise from the heart I meant the words I said but they’ve been judged and torn apart. Just because I realized there’s more room inside my soul doesn’t mean I lied or that you didn’t make me whole. Cause no one can replace you and no one ever will and though you’ve tossed me to the curb I will love you still. Since you treat me like a stranger I will move on But I can’t believe after all this you’re now gone.

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Do you ever want to get married? If so how would you incorporate your poly identification and would you ever see yourself in a marriage with multiple partners/wives? Just curious...

I don’t see myself getting married inherently no, I never have. When I was little I never dreamed of meeting “the one” and having a wedding. Instead I imagined myself in a big house with a dalmatian and a pool haha.I identify as solo-poly, and one of the things about that relationship identity is that I see a possible future with a platonic partner. Meaning I would share things like finances, a house, even kids with someone that I didn’t have a romantic relationship with. THAT is appealing to me. 

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Have you ever thought of releasing an album? I bet a lot of your followers and eventually other people woul dbuy it!

For the first time ever I’m going to record an EP and release it on iTunes sometime next year! :)

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how do you stay on good terms with your exes?

It takes work on both ends. You put in work to gain mutual respect for one another and the relationship you shared together. Then you begin to learn what it’s like to have them in your life as a friend. But, that’s only possible if you’re in a good place with them. Some exes for example will take advantage of the friendship and string you along for attention. Others may still be resentful and find ways to place blame. So it doesn’t work for every person that you’ve previously had a relationship with. 

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Is it also polyamory when there's one relationship with three people together?

Yes! Think of polyamory like the term queer. It's a large term to describe everything involving romance with more than one person. - Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender = Queer- Solo-poly, open relationships, triads (relationship with 3 people) = Queer

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Are you ever the jealous type in relationships?

I’m not the jealous type no. I experience compersion a lot. Compersion is when you feel love seeing someone you love experience happiness, (usually at the result of caring for and being cared for by someone else). Think of it like the opposite of jealousy. That being said, jealousy is a natural human emotion so I am prone to experiencing it. For me it’s usually a “flash” of jealousy. I just remind myself that it’s coming from insecurities inside of ME. I take a deep breath and look at the situation logically: The person I am experiencing jealousy over doesn’t love me any less, and their love and bond for/with someone else is completely separate from our relationship. I’m grateful for those few moments of jealousy because they are opportunities for me to learn and grow.

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Even though you don't like using the term girlfriend now, is it something that you used to appreciate or value?

I appreciate anything that places value on being loving and honest. I think like anything the term on it’s own is just a term but when monogamous or polyamorous people use the word girlfriend to represent love and honesty it’s absolutely beautiful.

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Hi Jenna. Have you ever seen a film called Tremors released in 1990 starring Kevin Bacon? I think you should see it. Don't look it up on IMDB. Don't see any trailers. Just watch the movie.

THANK YOU for telling me not to see the trailer. I have in fact seen that movie, it’s a classic. Love it.

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would you ever date a transguy?

Initially no. I identify as lesbian. Although I can’t see it happening, I don’t rule it out completely.

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'where are you now?' makes me feel sad, but it's also so beautiful. incredible job, jenna.

Thank you so much. <3

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Because you recommended it, I watched The Voices and now I wish I hadn't. Way too morbid for me. Not what I would consider enjoyable in the least.

Dark comedies are almost always very morbid! I also recommended several horror films! I’m sorry to hear you didn’t enjoy it. Everyone has different tastes!