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I hate hate hate seeing cis ppl commenting on trans issues especially intracommunity issues. I do not care if you're educated, if ur LGBT, if ur detransitioned. Just stop looking at me if ur cis.

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as more and more places move away from the medicalization of trans identities, i want to remind everyone that you should not physically transition if you are not sex dysphoric.

without insurance, physical transition is costly–and even with insurance, the toll it takes on your body and mind can be immense. for many of us, these are simply trials we must face in order to live happier, healthier lives, but you should not follow in our footsteps unless necessary.

additionally, changing your physical traits, specifically your sexed traits, when you are non-dysphoric can cause you to develop dysphoria. even people who have been convinced their entire lives that they’re dysphoric can be wrong, so make sure you know which side of the road you’re on before committing to anything. talking to older trans folk (and the health professionals they recommend) can help you there.

many parts of transition can be reversed, but there are some that can only be reversed with more surgery, more hormones, or through other forms of medical intervention. you should not undergo physical transition on a whim.

as always, examine your relationship not only with gender, but with your body. try to separate other issues, like dysmorphia or internalized self-loathing, from dysphoria. ask yourself why you hate your breasts, or your penis, or any other sexed part of your body. ask yourself if it’s because you are not the gender you were assigned at birth, or if it’s because of entirely unrelated reasons.

this goes especially for AFAB folks, whose bodies are shamed and sexualized from early on in our lives. internalized misogyny can very well cause you to feel as though you ought to have a man’s body.

most importantly, take your time. there’s no rush. if you’re unsure, keep seeking your truth. there’s nothing wrong with being trans, and there’s nothing wrong with not being trans. whoever you are at the end of the day, we will love and support you.

the absolute best, bravest thing you can be is yourself.

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Ppl always call transmeds cis bootlickers but have you ever considered that I actually fucking hate cis ppl and want like one space where they're not talking over me and telling me how to feel abt my own condition

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The way everyone in the comments is agreeing with this like "this is why I'm nb"...... This is literally the definition of cisgender I'm going to lose my mind

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Idk if this is a controversial take bc I don’t interact with the transmed (or trans really) community anymore but I really think if you want to prevent trenders and detransition we should make it easier to transition... so people don’t feel like they have to lie to their doctors to receive transition services?

Like yeah it won’t be perfect but don’t you understand that heavy gatekeeping would be way worse for everyone. Plus most trenders don’t do it on purpose and if you encourage everyone to be completely honest with their professionals without penalty then it will be easier for them to recognize if it’s another issue.

Honestly though I agree with transmedicalism in theory, it’s goals cannot be achieved through attacking other trans people or heavy gatekeeping, but through open and honest conversations about dysphoria and what being trans is like so people fully understand what this is like and won’t transition when it’s wrong for them. And even if they do, it’s their life. Who gives a fuck.

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Honestly the most annoying part abt getting top surgery is the fact that I’m alone most of the day and I’m in too much pain to Jack off :/

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Haha isn’t it cool when u have a solid streak of not hating yourself and then all of the sudden you remember you’ll never have a dick and even if you have lower surgery and you feel complete there’ll be ppl who still refuse to see you as a man and also you probably won’t have the time or money or the support to have bottom surgery until you’re like 40 bc you’re a turbo virgin w no friends and ur mom can’t take care of u for like the whole ass month after surgery and also the one thing u want out of surgery is the part w the most complications anyway and also you don’t have a dick right now and god isn’t it funny how literally every other boy on the fucking planet gets a complimentary dick and your ass has to pay a million dollars and wait 70 years haha I know it’s so relatable

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Ask Reddit post #1 is it weird to send heart emojis to your friends especially if you’re a dude and they’re a girl and shit man I have not talked to anyone in my life how do emojis work god they scare me I want to show her I care for her and am there for her but is that a heart emoji thing or will she take it the wrong way because please man this is the first friend I’ve had that is like irl and also has a lot in common w me and also I don’t feel like she sees me as trans first dude second anyways I really wanna die I can’t communicate but really really want to keep this friend and she’s goin through some shit soooo how do I send a heart emoji and it not be weird? Submit post thank you

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Literally everyone else 9 months on t: looks like a whole ass man

Me 9 months on t: literally nothing has changed, possibly half of my leg hair has gotten darker/longer but I’m probably only telling myself that

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We live in a society where women run talk shows where they ask men to take off their shirts and pants and the full female audience holler and hoot like animals…

Yet a man looking at a woman’s chest is considered sexual harassment.

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Binder Giveaways #72-#74: A Trio for the Holidays

Solstice-appropriate greetings to you all, shapeshifters! Hanukkah has come and gone, our very first Open Studio Market was a success, and we’re working on all your wonderful arrive-by-Christmas orders. Time for a giveaway.

The three winners of this giveaway will each receive one $50 Shapeshifters crop top binder. (That’s your choice of these.) Note the relatively new options, pictured above: the blue glitter Jellyfish Tears and the black rose Grow In Shadows.

Thank you so much, friends, for getting through this year. A bit more to go. Thank you for staying in touch, for connecting with us on other platforms, for spreading the word the old-fashioned way. Thank you always.

Enter here.

The fine print:

Entries from all countries are welcome.

There are three possible ways to enter. Doing any one of the listed actions will get you one entry. You do not have to do all three.

The winners will be randomly selected on **December 27, 2018**.

One winner each will be selected from Tumblr, Facebook, and Twitter. 

If any winner does not respond to email within three days, a new winner will be selected in their place.

Should any winner wish to purchase the difference, we will happily upgrade to any length and add any add-on. Including one of the above-pictured snazzy hoods!

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You are not obligated to socially and medically transition.

Transition is common because it helps you to be comfortable with yourself and alleviate sex and social dysphoria, but if you are unsure that social and medical transition is right for you, then wait.

It is perfectly normal to be unsure, we are all unsure at some point in our transition.

You are a making a life changing decision to start hormones and undergo surgery and sometimes family and the trans community can pressure you into something you are not comfortable or sure of yet.

Build up your confidence and make sure this is what you need to survive. Your transition is personal and for you only, not anyone else. Do not undergo hormones or surgery if you think it will be unnecessary.

If you can’t transition because of money, health, family, religious or personal reasons, you are still valid.

If you are searching for or coping with different methods other than transition, keep doing that if it is working for you.

This is your body and your life.

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Serious question here, should I make a post about tips to deepen your voice/ways to act more masculine? I’ve been going to voice training and me and my vocal training teacher have been studying how men and women differ when it comes to walking, speaking, etc. And I thought that maybe it might help some of you all of I share idk. Lemme know

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honestly, i feel people who are mad that you “have to go through so many loops to get hormones !!!” know they would be denied hormones because they’re not actually dysphoric and don’t need them.

hormones are just like any other medication meant to treat a disorder. you don’t just walk in and out with anti depressants or anxiety meds just because you want them. hormones are not a fun thing or a cosmetic thing to try out. it’s literally a medication meant to treat a serious disorder. of course there needs to be serious pre-game happenings before you get them. if you’re seriously mad at doctors and therapists for doing their best to help you – you’re just a lost cause.

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one huge argument against transmeds i’ve seen is straight up “most truscum are trans men” like….. ok.. most tucutes are transmascs or afab fem aligned nbs you don’t have to be a trans woman for your opinion to be acceptable trans men experience being trans as well

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tbh, when diagnosing dysphoria for being trans – i think therapists need to dig a little deeper and see where the problem could be stemming from. of course some people are born with it; hence being trans; but dysphoria is confused with many other things and there could be an underlying issue as to why the person thinks they have dysphoria and are trans.

peer influence, societal views, gender roles, being GNC (but once again linked with gender roles), sexuality even, etc etc, could all be an underlying issue for believing you have dysphoria and or thinking you are trans. the therapy needs to be more thorough and in depth than how some places handle it.

i think it could help prevent people from starting hormones but detransitioning after figuring themselves out even more. and definitely prevent people who don’t need it one bit from going on it and hopefully helping them in the long run as well. there’s just too many influences nowadays.

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Is top surgery on sale for black friday???