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Your relationships will be richer if you also allow people to love you the way that they love, and not only in the way that you're used to perceiving love. You'll miss out on a lot if you're only looking for it in the same places you're used to giving it.

I love by problem solving, remembering small things that people like and make them happy--like little notes in the margins of our relationships, a silent squeeze on the arm to reach out and connect.

I have a friend who loves by asking if she can send me a recipe for Japanese egg and rice when she knows I'm having a bad time. I have a (cishet) friend who loves by messaging to tell me he's just finished reading He/She/They by Schuyler Bailar. I have a friend who loves by telling me "I love you" openly and as often as possible. Some love by telling you things they won't tell to another living person, some love by going six months without talking but answer in five minutes when you message them at work, and some love by not knowing how to show their love, but never leave you out in the cold when you ask for somewhere to go and a warm fire.

"Love languages" are largely bunk and were made up by a misogynist, but I can tell you that people do love differently and that it matters to learn how.

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hey do you mind if I have a crush on you...as a friend....

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y o u a r e n o t a l o n e .

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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bhekuli_Biya

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Tea Time

my art book and prints are available here

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ideal ways for me to die

1. old age, peacefully in my sleep

2. after a long and illustrious career i am at a rooftop gala hosted in my honor. i am wearing a beautiful gown, holding a glass of red wine, standing by the railing. a scorned lover approaches and, after a passionate spat, they push me over the edge of the building. the wine glass goes flying, splattering their outfit in red as a visual metaphor for the blood on their hands. as i descend my gown flies around me like two beautiful wings, a bird in flight. a photographer on the street manages to take a photo before i hit the ground and that photo wins the pulitzer. a new york times think piece is released regarding whether or not it's moral to profit off a photo of someone's death. the think piece also wins a pulitzer.

3. sex accident.

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Everything will fall into place

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A Moon Mage and her Cat-prentice! 🐱 I wanted to paint something magical and cute. 🙂

Print available here

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nebula

9.28.24

Ko-Fi

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Wife is curled up on the couch mourning her spillage of freshly purchased peppercorns + my mild unhappiness at this event. I am chillin' on my phone, with my tarot deck sitting on the coffee table.

Her, conspiratorially, to no one: "He's doing a draw to find out if he should divorce his wife."

Nodding gravely, I cut the deck just to see what it says to this. No way! I grin and show her The Lovers. "There you go. Not today."

Spell of spiraling broken. The cards are magic.

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Also posting this individually because I'm just proud of it.

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I will never understand the hate for grey hairs. Your hair has sliver in it now. You have the color of stars on your hair. You have proof you survived and grew up. You have proof you are living. How is any of this bad?

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Pigeon witch on the bus