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The office + enneagram!!!

Type 1

Type 2

Type 3

Type 4

Type 5

Type 6

Type 7

Type 8

Type 9

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How do you know if someone has Ti?

My foolproof method:

- if someone has High Ti they’ll say “that doesn’t even make sense” like 5 times a day

- if someone has low Ti they’ll get easily confused and shamelessly ask questions until they understand it

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listen to me: you DO NOT always need to give it your 100%. you really do not. because let’s be honest, you’re human and you’re simply not always going to be able to. there are days when you can only give it your 80%. or your 50%, or heck, even your 10%. and THAT IS OKAY. only skimming one paragraph, only solving one equation, only memorizing 5 words is better than not doing anything because you have this idea in your head that things are only worth doing when you can give what you consider to be your 100%. 10% is better than 0% and some days that is all you can give. it will still add up, and you will still succeed, i promise.

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The office + enneagram!!!

Type 1

Type 2

Type 3

Type 4

Type 5

Type 6

Type 7

Type 8

Type 9

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Sleep is no longer my friend

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“Your mind will take on the character of your most frequent thoughts.”

— Marcus Aurelius

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Two types of Unhealthy INTJs

Lowered eyes, looking morose, completing work fast and thorough. Maybe over-doing it and providing tight-lipped responses to everyone. At this point, social interaction is a nuisance, and you are on the brink of grayness, intolerable to even the slightest sensory changes. Aiming for perfection, but enshrouding yourself with long periods of melancholic rumination and isolation if not attained. Over exploitation of self, including over awareness and consciousness of one’s doings and thoughts, which leads to puzzled and esoteric reflections that confuse even yourself; solipsism. Sulking about a high grade because it is still low in your standards. Becoming embodiments of manipulation and cynicism.

Frantic eyes, but hidden and passive face. Obsessive indulgence on an object/person, utter negligence of all others (to the point of being bluntly rude). Not doing work at all, but instead losing yourself in trivial things and escaping into an inner world of fantasy and delusions. Finding solace in them, a type of solemn peace. Under exploitation of self, not finding a link between material thoughts and reality; dissociation and absurdism. Stubbing your toe and blaming the table for it. Becoming embodiments of skepticism and volatility.

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How Does Ni work?

This is how I experience Ni, and how I observed it in Ni users I know.  Listening is hard I will often stop listening because the subject made me think about something else (something more interesting), then this new idea will lead me to another one, then another… In a few seconds, I’ll be far away in my head and will sometimes say things that’ll look totally random. I can also get enthusiastic and jump to a new subject, middle-sentence, because I got a new (better) idea to talk about (which can be annoying to other people). And having to pay attention to uninteresting things is intellectually painful because I have to make the effort to not drift away in my mind. Thinking about everything, all the time Our thought process is not straightforward unless we’re working on it to be that way (with Te’s help, for example, to get something done). We’re not thinking about a few things: we’re thinking about everything at once. Picture a black hole: no idea can escape; we think them all. It might seem to other people that we only have good ideas, or that we can’t have many ideas, because we’ll express only the best of them. We can’t trust an idea unless we’re sure we can’t think a better one. Paralysis How do you know you made the best choice? How can you be sure your idea is the best? You can’t. You don’t know. This can get us stuck. Sometimes, we miss opportunities by hesitating too long. We have to rely on our other functions to move, to do something. And we have to trust ourselves.  Hello, intensity, my old friend. Ni is deep. Sometimes, a bit heavy. It makes us drawn to intellectual things, art with a great meaning, talking about what moves people (love, their interests, hard things they experienced, things that changed them…), books on various topics… I often won’t think someone is my friend if we don’t share something special. If you’re just a body to spend time with and have fun, that’s nice, but I won’t be your friend unless I’m sure I deeply know you. Turn it off, please! Ni is all about wisdom, blah blah… I wish I could turn my brain off sometimes. I try to, mostly through my inferior Se: eating, drinking, singing (I sing so much)… I’ll watch stupid movies to give myself a break and laugh about silly things. I often avoid so-called intelligent movies because most of them fail to both amaze me and amuse me. And I’ll almost never miss a chance at watching something creative or weird. Creativity Ni needs to find the best ideas, or the best plans. The way to get to that is through creativity. Sometimes, the perfect way to go is an old, overused one, and it’s ok. I won’t try something for the sake of it being new if there is a less fun but more intelligent way. Most Ni-people I know are into arts or writing, or both. Personal arts and writing projects give Ni all the freedom it needs to fully bloom and it feels so nice.

Dedication and precision for the right things If something is not interesting, I can’t go on for a long time unless I think it’s worth the effort. I also noticed, from me and also from Ni-aux users, that for a thing to be considered as done, it doesn’t have to be flawlessly done if it’s not important (chores, meaningless work…) but some other things won’t be remotely okay to us unless they are perfectly done.

Humor I’ve been told by many people I should think about pursuing a career as a stand-up comic, but many people also don’t get my jokes at all. My INTJ friends told me that they often get taken seriously when joking, and that people can’t tell when they’re being sarcastic (so they just look like they are pretty mean or especially stupid). Both of them amaze me with how they can push the smallest thing into the most epic long-lasting joke, making fun links between things. (And watch up for self-depreciating humor from INTJs. We love that.)

Strange memory I absorb information all the time. Ni collects knowledge and, later, fishes out what is useful. Sometimes, I don’t even know how I know something. I just do - because I read about it years ago or because I made links from another bit of knowledge. I’m also the kind of person to forget whole days or conversations if they were not meaningful. I often refer to my memory as impressionist. I have many blurry memories from which I keep the overall feeling and no detail.

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About Those Types Misconceptions

INFP: They’re fierce - INFPs often remain silent and are very observant of other people and what makes them who they are, but this apparent softness hides a very passionate drive to do what is right, and if ever a situation or a person does not align with their principles, you will definitely know about it - do not underestimate them.

ENFP: They’re very analytical - Yes ENFPs can seem a little crazy and like they’re constantly fooling around, but it is to be remembered that this type is extremely perceptive of their environment and of ideas, that they dissect carefully and draw conclusions from. They have true depth, and labelling them as shallow would be a big mistake. 

INFJ: They’re quite independent - It may sound strange but INFJs are quite independent. They strive to help people to be better individuals and to make the world a nicer place, but they follow their own rules and will not hesitate long to react if you go against them. Harmony is their priority, but don’t you cross them. The difference with INFP is that INFPs will simply see this other person who does not conform to their vision as not really worth their time, INFJs on the other hand trying to change this person’s mind-set for a kinder approach, etc.

ENFJ: They struggle - ENFJs are probably the most disorganised of all J-types, and they take on sometimes way more than they can carry. Even if these guys try to help people as much they can, sometimes it isn’t enough and that can go against them. The bubbly stereotype does not apply to all ENFJs unfortunately, since they can get depressed easily, and thereby stop their advising functions.

INTP: They really care - INTPs can sometimes seem off and uninterested, but this most-likely comes from a system of self-defence to prevent them from harm, as they may have been previously neglected for their ideas or conceptions of the world, and have been misunderstood. If an INTP likes and cares for you, there is nothing they would not do, and their aloofness is not to be taken as pride or smugness (although sometimes they like to be ;) and they genuinely care. 

ENTP: They’re just feeling half the time - ENTPs are absolutely mind-blowing master concealers. Their emotions get triggered by the littlest things, and they spend a lot of their time, if not almost all of it, concealing what they perceive as weaknesses under fair amounts of witty comebacks and confidence. These people are actually great empaths, but their chosen priority being logic, they often toss those feelings away for later, and often avoid them until it’s too late.

INTJ: They have feelings - Similar to ENTP, except INTJs truly master their emotions, and manage to chanel them instead of shutting them away. INTJs have a good deal of feelings, except they don’t necessarily feel the need to talk about them, and prefer rational advice when considering their emotional needs, which is seldom given. INTJs openly reject the myth that they lack feelings, and may feel even more misunderstood when they have the impression that they are expressing them, as sometimes they do, but in ways most people don’t perceive because they are seemingly so small, which can be hurtful. 

ENTJ: They’re understanding - I’ve said this already, I’m always quite awed by ENTJs, but once you get to know them, they are truly open people. More than once have I heard them give relationship advice, and try to help people understand concepts with detailed explanations and diagrams, they strive for a more efficient and knowledgeable world, which can be seen through a sometimes devoted attitude.

ISFP: They’re not always kind to themselves - ISFPs may appear as charismatic, different, inspired and like they like themselves quite a bit (and that is absolutely great) but sometimes, when their creativity lets them down for example, they have the impression that they are now devoid of their identity, and may feel lost, and even over-criticize themselves. They need to be understood and comforted in their unicity and worth, almost as if they possessed Fe but not quite.

ISTP: They can feel quite lonely - ISTPs love peace and quiet and alone time, but sometimes loneliness can become quite painful. Composing only 2% of the overall population, ISTPs often feel like few if any people actually understand them, and that it may be easier just to crawl back onto themselves and create a shell to self-sustain instead of socialising and creating bonds with people. 

ESFP: They’re nostalgic - Living in the moment is often a way for ESFPs to have peace of mind, as their brains are involved elsewhere. Their need for company and action is their way of escaping their responsibilities, that remind them once again that they’re adults or growing into adults now, and that means, for them, that fun is almost over and that they’re going to turn into “boring people”, or be coerced into becoming “normal people”, which their Fi has difficulty dealing with.

ESTP: They value your opinion greatly - ESTPs have strong views on many subjects and they are also very passionate individuals, but boy do they need to be validated. It’s not a bad thing, of course, it’s simply a little surprising (although it shouldn’t be) that someone under appearances so outgoing and frank and sometimes even careless may need approval that what they are doing is good, and that they are accepted.  

ISFJ: They’re strong - ISFJs may constantly be trying to please everybody and adhere to everything, but deep down, they know who they are. They know what they like, what they dislike, what they are willing to tolerate, and what they are not. They are capable of enduring so much without ever complaining, and are truly inspiring people, who can talk about anything they set their mind to. 

ESFJ: They’re insecure - Organisation and procedure are the ways in which ESFJs try to live by, but it can also truly hide a very anxious nature. Planning is what ESFJs do to prevent lack of resources and preparing ahead to survive is a way in which ESFJs feel that they are under control. Their bubbly nature shows their need to be loved and feel like they have worth. Don’t rely too much on them, although they really want to carry your load with, or even for, you.

ISTJ: They feel misunderstood - Nobody is as organised, structured and rigorous as ISTJs, and the world’ s messiness can be quite overwhelming to them sometimes. That feeling that they’re the only ones holding it all together and getting everything done for everyone can make them feel like they’re being used or that people don’t appreciate them for their true worth, for what they are deep down. 

ESTJ: They doubt a lot - ESTJs may appear very confident and they may be your bosses most of the time because they’re great administrators with a plan based on sound facts, but the truth is ESTJs are almost constantly questioning if they’re doing the right thing, and the fear of failure is very much present. 

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one of the things i feel like is misunderstood about slytherins is the intensity and ferocity of their feelings and emotions… especially love.

a slytherin’s cunning doesn’t come from coldness, their ambition doesn’t come from apathy. even if they may not always show it, even if they don’t always act like it, slytherins are incredibly emotional people. when you are in a slytherin’s inner circle and they are loyal to you, they love you. maybe it’s platonic love, maybe it’s romantic love, maybe it’s familial love. it doesn’t matter, you are loved. they let you in and love you with their whole heart.

that’s why they will protect you, that’s why they will fight for you, that’s why they are loyal to you. that’s why they would kill for you, and die for you, and give you the shirt off their back or the blood from their veins or the air from their lungs. that’s why the idea of something happening to you is unimaginable, the thought of losing you is unbearable… because it’s heartbreaking. 

that’s why if it’s you who hurts them, if it’s you who betrays them… you’ve broken their heart in the worst way. and they’ll feel that pain and heartbreak as deeply as they felt that love and devotion.

and hell hath no fury like a heartbroken slytherin.

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Truth about 4s 🙌

Hey! May i ask how you figured out you were a type 4? How do you experience disintegration to 2? Im trying to find my type

Honestly… lots of self awareness and finally being able to accept that I was a 4. Initially, I had gotten all of my enneagram knowledge from tumblr and I hated how 4s were portrayed so I never even considered being a 4. I thought I was a 5, 8, 9 and 1 before I realized I was a 4. My boyfriend and I decided to read Personality Types by Don Richard Riso (who is also a 4w3) and that completely changed my perspective. The book gives a brief chapter on each type and when it got to type 4 I just felt completely called out. My boyfriend also helped me a lot with realizing that’s who I was and how it didn’t have to be a negative thing, so I decided to embrace it. 

A lot of the stereotypes about 4s have truth to them. I’m moody, insecure, dramatic and can be hard to be around, especially to those who I am close with. To put it directly, my core fear is that there is something wrong with me, I have a fundamental flaw, that makes me much different from everyone else. Because of this “flaw” I am scared of being abandoned, unlovable and unworthy. Learning about the parent/child associations has helped me understand this better. Type 4s have a negative relationship to both parents because at some point they felt abandoned by them. This perceived abandonment caused us to withdraw into our heads and we were forced to create our own identity away from our parents. It was hard for me to accept that I had a negative relationship with my parents because I love them very much, but looking back at my childhood I definitely I recognize this. My mom struggled severely with mental and physical illness and my dad was overwhelmed by it and avoided us. I remember not feeling very loved and supported (even though I knew my parents were doing the best they could). I would look at everyone around me and just feel so separated from them. Not in a unique and special way but in a sad and lonely way that used to feel hopeless. I would see my friends being happy and loved by their families and I realized I didn’t feel like this from my parents so I thought that I was different and there was something wrong with me. Hence where the idea of the “fundamental flaw” came from. As a child, I ended up coping with this by finally adapting the mindset that I was different and that was just life - I saw things in a different way from everyone else and that is what sets me apart….. This is why most 4s are terrified of being seen as unoriginal, the same as everyone else, boring, and etc. It’s because our whole identify has been created on the basis of being set apart and if this is taken away then we are worthless (because of the flaw). 

Although integration happens when we let go of this feeling of being different/separated, I do think 4s have the unique ability to see life in a very rich way. One of our strengths is to be able to reach the depths of human nature and help others understand this side of life. 

Disintegration is hell lol. When I go to 2, I sit in self-pity and hate the world. It’s pretty pathetic. I demand to be taken care of and catered to, while simultaneously feeling/saying things like “why do you hate me? why don’t you love me? you never do anything for me” I constantly think I’m not good enough and that my boyfriend just wants someone else (even while he’s taking care of me). I hate this side of me and it’s something that I have had to work hard to counter. Understanding where it comes from and why I feel the way I do has helped me recognize when I start to have disintegration tendencies and I try to fight it. 

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i need to get laid¹

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¹gently, in the cold, dark earth

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typing my favorite songs

these are just songs that remind me of each type not necessarily suppose to be representative of the type as a whole 

9w1 

banana pancakes - jack johnson   

season 2 episode 3 - glass animals 

this life - vampire weekend 

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Gotta love when someone tries to post something at you but it really just describes themselves even more

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Tell a 9 to not hold stuff in but when they finally dare to say something that upsets them you get upset about it and don’t talk to them the rest of the night. And you wonder why we normally say nothing.