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Stephanie Foo, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma

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"We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we start with someone new... ...our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once. And before you know it, your heart is worn out, and, as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it." André Aciman - Call Me By Your Name

This monologue resonated with me when I read the book and when I saw the film. It resonates even more now that I am 52 and feel like the days of men finding me attractive are behind me. I have gained weight... lost weight... gained more... lost some.

My body is stretched and deflated and I sometimes feel as though it's falling apart. I wasted so much of my youth hiding from my truth that I feel like I squandered a gift and now it's too late.

I am in a 20-year sexless marriage yet my need for intimacy is greater now than ever before. Intimacy. Not necessarily sex although I usually settle for the sex in order to satisfy my need for contact.

Keep the love my tumblr buddies.

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The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence started when three friends banded together to dress as nuns and recite a loving and forgiving liturgy to drive homophobic evangelists off of Castro Street in San Francisco. It worked. The organization quickly expanded as an advocacy group for gay rights.

When asked why they are dressed as nuns, the answer was, "We do all that traditional nuns have done for centuries. Our look might be unique, but our ministry is common. We serve our community. We have raised lots of money for AIDS and other social causes. We visit the sick, feed the hungry, clothe the naked, and sometimes disrobe the clothed! We are 21st Century queer nuns."

The Sisters primarily made a name for themselves through their AIDS activism. In 1982, The Sisters published Play Fair! which was the first humorous and easy-to-understand sexual health and safety pamphlet specifically intended for gay men.

The Sisters also used their presence to shame homophobic public figures, performing "exorcisms" on Phyllis Schlaffey, Jerry Fallwell, and Pope John Paul II, as well as on the steps of the U.S. House of Representatives.

In 2023, The Los Angeles Dodgers caused a huge controversy by selecting the Sisters to receive a "community hero award" on their Pride Night game (again, the Sisters are a legendary charity group that has literally saved lives), but then they gave in to right-wing pressure and cancelled it. Eventually, they realized how badly they had fucked up and re-invited the Sisters to their game.

The sisters remain active today with many chapters across the U.S. and Canada. Membership is open to all genders and sexualities.

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“Was that you?” (via spicy_disaster_)

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i think people underestimate how nice it feels to get an ask in your inbox especially if you have very few followers.

it really doesn’t take that much effort to send a small blog an ask. and it adds a little bit of joy to the recipient’s day!

do it, you cynical fuckers! be kind to a stranger by sending an ask today!

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Tumblr is known and also spoken of by its user base for its high proportion of lgbt+ users, but I'm curious as to if the lgbt+ user base is actually as large as though or if its just confirmation bias, so...

For fun if you want put how you identify in the tags and the part of tumblr you'd say you're here for

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My coming of age was in the 80's and this hits home for my gay awakening.

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Stop asking me how am I right after I clock in I was butt naked and happy literally 20 minutes ago

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MISS CONGENIALITY (2000) dir. Donald Petrie

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Pride was originally a riot. It's not supposed to be "family-friendly". Those who want family-friendly LGBT spaces are free to just create them. Take places that are already family-friendly and make them LGBT-friendly also. If you don't want to do that, then that's why Pride is still necessary.

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