bdbdbdbdmn
bdbdbdbdmn
madman and polluted
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evil genius, kind fool. generally contrary and severely difficult. i'm sorry for contaminating you.
Don't wanna be here? Send us removal request.
bdbdbdbdmn · 18 hours ago
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bdbdbdbdmn · 20 hours ago
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hi. fuck ice. here is how you can help families affected by unlawful deportation
edit: and FUCK LAPD. here is how you can help bail out protestors who are in the trenches, facing mass arrests and putting their bodies on the line.
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bdbdbdbdmn · 20 hours ago
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if gay men and lesbians interact, they immediately bond into bisexuals, releasing particles of trans in the reactions.
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Are we dead ass 🥀? Seeing this on pride month is wild work ~ 🌿🫧
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bdbdbdbdmn · 20 hours ago
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"proship dni" is a win-win for me because either i like or even reblog your post and i was disobedient at you (me:+1, you: +1-1=0), or i don't like or reblog your post and you miss out on engagement (me: +1, you: +1-1=0)
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bdbdbdbdmn · 20 hours ago
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Young trans men will come online, looking for community, guidance, and support only to be pushed away and mocked for expressing any vulnerability and insecurity, as if they were naive to think they deserved any ounce of care.
The cruelty is especially jarring when it's presented as some sort of common sense. Is it common sense to tell trans boys, because some of these people are boys, 13-15-17 years old, that they should expect and accept adversarial reactions because of their boyhood and masculinity because that's just what being a man is?
These are trans people, trans children, which everyone seems to care about so much when it comes to legislation, but a lot less when they actually express needs and wants beyond 'I wanna be alive'
why can't trans boys be met with comfort when they express their pain to older members of the community?
What kind of trans elder are you going to be if in your twenties and thirties you are telling trans boys that it's normal for other queer and trans people to isolate them because of their gender?
A shit elder, that's what you are going to be, a shit fucking elder who at best will be left alone in your toxic circles and at worst will actively harm younger trans people.
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bdbdbdbdmn · 20 hours ago
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Hooray! Yay! Dykes!
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bdbdbdbdmn · 20 hours ago
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i think it's great to encourage people to be more confident and assertive and all, but i just feel like wording it as if shy people, insecure people, and people pleasers have some grand internal subconscious conspiracy to self-victimize in order to feel justified in resentment and revenge, and that they have/will sabotage every relationship and leave the other in shambles, maybe uh... i... i'm not sure that's gonna make these self-hating socially award people wanna get out more often or work on their relationships. people are made to feel pressured and uncomfortable, i don't feel like it's something they should be held morally responsible for, nor do i think that it's even that big of a deal.
i know, i get it, it is possible to submit to a fault and be self-doubting to an annoying degree, but that's not special. anyone can and does do that too. bold, confidant, confrontational people are just as fucking annoying as anyone else. i've been called both as some sort of argument against my character, same with being too mean and negative all the time or too idealistic and tolerant... also all the time??? kinda sounds like these are nothing words that don't have anything to do with morals or being the inherently better person or more enjoyable to be around. i think that it's not always that you dislike shyness, but maybe it's that you dislike that person and the way that they're doing shyness. because you don't like them. which is ok and also makes more sense. everyone just doesn't fucking like someone sometimes, that's life, but an entire portion of the human experience is bad and has no good use? i dunno...
and on this topic, i don't think that people really think that confidence is "sexy" because i think it depends. confidence can be ugly and enraging. sometime some people prefer someone shy. sometimes you just want for people you like to feel good and the ones you don't like to feel bad. the "confidence is sexy, shyness and people pleasers are unattractive losers" people annoyed me in the past so much that i actually thought some of these thoughts in an anti-confident/etc. direction which was frustrating because i don't have any objections to a correct person feeling correct, and i understand people who feel correct being assertive because, well, they think they're right. i now know what i was seeing was a "red flag" because these types of thinkers are extraordinarily impossible to have a discussion with and are not only often dicks, but by definition confident dicks. also i don't want them to call me shy and make fun of me and pressure me and make me into a spectacle. i'm not shy i just need for some help starting a conversation as well as maintaining it, if you think i'm shy it's because you aren't giving me anything i can work with. i'm like ai, you gotta give me the right prompt for me to generate the response you want. i'm trying my best and have been researching and improving for years but, like ai, i don't actually Get what the humans see in it. i am not a social coward, i public humiliation myself all the time. (stop saying i look like chicken little, he's dumb and a he's a coward and i am NOT a coward)
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bdbdbdbdmn · 21 hours ago
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Saying trans men don’t have male privilege is not saying they aren’t free from misogynistic views.
It’s not a purely male thing to be misogynistic guys.
It’s not a male privilege to be misogynistic.
You can be a woman and be misogynistic.
Misogyny is not limited to men, it’s not a male only thing.
Trans men don’t have male privilege ≠ trans men can’t be misogynistic!
These are two different statements.
My post saying you can’t hold trans men and cis men in the same category IS NOT ABOUT FUCKING MISOGYNY.
It’s about the fact that the one of the only ways a trans man could potentially ever have some semblance of the same male privilege a cis man has in this society is if they are white, post op and have been on T for years, have an M gender marker and do not reveal they are transgender to anyone but their partner(s).
Pre-T trans men, trans men who like to be open about their identity, pre-op trans men, trans men who like being feminine sometimes. None of them have the male privilege we’re talking about here but they’re still all men.
There is a fundamental difference between cis and trans men/mascs in this society. You CANNOT hold them in the same category.
Nobody, not even a trans man, is free from being a misogynist.
But trying to claim that saying trans men/mascs don’t have male privilege is saying they can’t be misogynistic is wild.
Misogynistic views ≠ male privilege
Because it’s not male privilege to get away with/not get away with saying misogynistic statements.
Cis men can be misogynistic
Cis women can be misogynistic
Trans men can be misogynistic
Trans women can be misogynistic
GNC people can be misogynistic
It is not a male privilege to spout misogyny.
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bdbdbdbdmn · 1 day ago
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i've been hearing people describe trans people's deadnames as "their real Actual biological names." you mean like fucking mammal? human being? homo sapiens? earthlings? dude. come on. get your shit together. you know there's nothing biological about someone's ex-[legal] personal name🤦‍♂️i've already moved on to "it was never really their name in the first place (unless they like it that way)" and y'all are regressing past the default into some weird "your legal name given to/forced on you at birth is a biological fact now" bullshit. it was a paperwork mistake. it's not in your blood. it could never be real enough to be biological. "biological name" my ass, fucking ridiculous, the only thing "biological" about names is that biological creatures use them to sort ideas and convey concepts. but computers do that too now, so it's even more non-biological. and i know y'all aren't calling maiden names biological names so i don't even wanna hear "oh but, oh well, erm actually, um technically" stfu
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bdbdbdbdmn · 1 day ago
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I've been seeing this article used to explain that trans women have it worse than trans men due to a pay gap.
First of all, the article leads to this, which is also not a study, its just another article about a survey from the same news outlet. This is referenced numerous times for other, unrelated statistics about trans women. Now, that does have a whole lot of statistics about trans women, but it also has a lot of statistics about all trans people.
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[source for that graph btw - i suggest reading that study. its got a lot of interesting information with extensive graphs and mentions of variables]
I had to look through numerous reports because the article did not specify which one the graph about the wage gap was from. Turns out, its none of them.
Went back to the article looked at the other one it was referencing, trying to find an actual source. Found this press release, which does not even contain any statistics regarding transgender men.
Ok I managed to find this, which appears to be the source of the numbers in the wage gap graph. This is still not really a great source on the topic outside of a very, very narrow subject. The survey consisted of less than 7k people who were all employed already, so, not a great survey to use when discussing an entire community of people. Go read the explanation/summary/etc for yourself, but spoiler - even that acknowledges that this statistic has very narrow application.
One study of a couple thousand employed trans people that concluded that of the people surveyed...
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This study doesn't account for a lot of variables. The study itself acknowledges that it doesn't account for a lot of variables. I really don't think that this is a great example of of trans men having things better than trans women, but whatever
I think that the article being passed around is very misleading on its own. It has information both from a very extensive study that meticulously surveyed tens of thousands of people, and a graph that was made from information from a very very narrow study of less than 7k people. The information is presented in a very misleading way with a focus on transgender women.
I'm not saying anything on the topic of who has it better or worse, I'm just saying that this information was presented in an extremely biased and misleading way. The actual numbers at hand are not very useful outside of a very, very small application. Do go read that bigger study though. That's very interesting and has a lot of breakdowns by both race and gender.
ok bye
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bdbdbdbdmn · 1 day ago
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I saw a post going around a while ago (including from a non-US moot) about getting comfortable lying to law enforcement
Here's the thing. In the US.
DO NOT TALK TO LAW ENFORCEMENT IN THE FIRST PLACE.
If you are in a situation where you're lying to law enforcement, you are already interacting too much. STOP TALKING.
You can ask if you are free to go. You can keep asking.
Per the National Lawyers Guild, ESPECIALLY do not lie to the FBI. Do not say things to them that could be construed as lying. Those are serious charges. The best way around that is NOT TALKING.
In the words of the National Lawyers Guild: SHUT THE FUCK UP.
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bdbdbdbdmn · 1 day ago
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Some of you haven’t fully unpacked the Gender Traitor view of trans men and transmascs and it shows.
You may not be calling us gender traitors outright but then you act as if we’re uniquely more likely to be misogynistic (including transmisogynistic or lesbophobic) than cis men. You imply that by transitioning we’ve escaped misogyny, as if that were the point in the first place. You’re quick to prescribe things like male entitlement to us with zero attempt to understand what might lead us to the decisions we make. You pull us aside to lecture us about how we have to watch ourselves to make sure we’re not misogynistic and how we as men have to use our male privilege to protect women (hey, why do you think the women need the men to protect them like that? It’s a bit patriarchal imo), all while never giving cis men the same spiel.
And then we’re stuck dancing around your assumption that we hate women because we’re trans men! We can’t just say we’re not women without going off about how womanhood is great even if it’s not for us, even though it’s perfectly reasonable to imagine we might have a lot of negative feelings about having been forced to live as girls and women when we aren’t women, even though the type of person who expects this out of, say, people who were raised Christian but aren’t as adults is generally someone most of us can agree is an unreasonable douche looking to convert the person back. And when anything about us makes women uncomfortable, regardless of whether it’s reasonable, we’re the ones who are supposed to accommodate you at our own expense. Trans men get forced into a separate waiting room at the gynecologist’s office because cis women “feel unsafe” about there being a man in the room. We ask to have our voices heard in the conversation surrounding abortion access and reproductive rights and we’re scolded for “making a women’s rights issue about men”. We find historical figures who show every single sign of fitting the description of trans men and cis women crawl out of the woodwork to yell at us for “erasing women from history.”
And with all this in mind, all I can think is that you just see us transitioning as a betrayal towards women. We turned our backs on the Sisterhood or whatever and now we’re the enemy. But as a trans man myself, all I’ve wanted was to just exist in peace as a man. I don’t see any gender as being some opposing force. It’s like hair color to me, just something different about everyone. It’s not my fault I was assigned the wrong gender at birth. It’s not my fault I was born with primary and secondary sex characteristics that give me gender dysphoria. It’s especially not my fault that for thousands of years women and those forcibly assigned as women were regarded as property and treated as such. And yet, somehow, it seems that I’m expected to apologize several times daily for all of this purely because I’m a trans man.
It’s so fucking infuriating. Just let me live, damnit.
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bdbdbdbdmn · 1 day ago
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"Transandrophobia isn't real because androphobia isn't real"
"I'm not homophobic, I'm not scared of gay people"
Spot the difference
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bdbdbdbdmn · 1 day ago
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Oh so now some cis men with a following on this site are seeing us as acceptable women to hate right along with cis women seeing us as acceptable men to hate. who could’ve seen that coming. the targeted bigotry against transmascs, nbs, and intersex people in the name of ~protecting women~ has clearly gone so well and been very #feminist
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bdbdbdbdmn · 1 day ago
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Let’s all light a candle and pour one out for all the trans men who never got to figure out they’re men because they were raised to believe they couldn’t ever be anything other than a wife and a mother and if they ever left the church that all their friends and family go to then they’ll burn in hell for all of eternity. May the names engraved on their tombstones fade to nothing and the dresses they were buried in disintegrate.
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bdbdbdbdmn · 1 day ago
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said this before and i will say it again but i think its a bit silly people expect transgender children to explain exactly what gender means to them using language and concepts that grown-up cis people are never expected to learn in their lifetime
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bdbdbdbdmn · 1 day ago
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Guys help why did I find this exchange so cute 😭
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