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tl;dr if everyone is guilty, big brother longer needs to differentiate between slave and free man when meting out punishment

(in case anyone needs an example/breakdown to illustrate the current problem)

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"transandrophobia isnt real" they say, while making blogs dedicated to doxxing trans minors of color because they are trans men who arent ashamed of it.

"transandrophobia isnt real" they say, while trying their absolute fucking hardest to make trans men, transmascs, and other transandronized people afraid for their safety and privacy.

they want us to stop talking, to sit down and shut up, to be afraid, to never stand up for ourselves.

and you know if someone made a blog called "truthsoftransmisogynys" and just used it to doxx trans women of color who are minors, nobody would fucking let that slide, but if you check any of the other queer tags on tumblr, nobody is talking about how fucked up this is. because transandronized people are acceptable targets right now, thats simply the long and short of it.

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Sorry we really went from free the nipple, take back the night, slut walks, and ending gender/sex segregation in sports being fucking milquetoast feminism 101 concepts to fucking girl dinner and "I just worry about fairness if we let trans girls play against cis ones" and "it was right of that woman to call the cops on a black man for existing near here in public during the day time because men are all violent monsters" and "radical feminism isn't transphobic we just need to kill all men including trans ones those oppressive traitors" and I will legit never be able to be normal about it. What the FUCK happened. I'd say I wonder what the feminists of my youth would say about this but I'm one and lemme tell ya I want to throw up. Go fucking read bell hooks or do something else useful please because all of this learned helplessness, gender essentialism, and transphobia dressed up as feminism is actively holding us back.

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thsi is literally fucking killing me

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thanks tumblr for taking down my piece about censorship! heres a more censored version. i think its an improvement, really

(hey. you can still see it uncensored on bluesky.)

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I am gently taking your hands and begging you, BEGGING YOU, to understand that humans are not inherently harmful to the planet. We are animals who are part of the ecosystem. We belong here. This is our home. We belong here. You belong here. Yes, you belong here.

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Trying to say that transandrophobia exists is so difficult because you'll have people saying,

"But androphobia doesn't exist," and to that you'll reply,

"It is transandro-phobia not trans-androphobia," and then they'll reply,

"But trans men are men and men don't get discriminated against for being men," and you'll reply,

"But trans men aren't cis, we're men but we don't get cis privileges like cis men do (especially if we don't pass or are poc or disabled). We're being discriminated against because we are transitioning to manhood and away from womanhood which people do not like," and then they'll reply,

"God you transandrocunt dork bros know nothing do you? You're so whiny. It's just transphobia. God get over yourselves and grow up. If we gave a term for every white woman who got her his feelings hurt we'd be here all day," and you'll WANT to reply with something like,

"Both transmisogyny and transandrophobia are subsections of transphobia. Technically all transmisogynistic actions are also transphobic ones, vice versa for transandrophobia, also wtf was that last bit that's really weird," but then you'll realise that it just isn't worth it and you block them, even if you really did just want to have an adult conversation about it.

And then you'll think about it for a little while and wonder how the hell we got here, seriously thinking that TRANS men do not experience any form of unique oppression.

Or maybe it's just me.

[this is a vent post that was hastily written, give me some grace if you have an issue for fucks sake]

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couldn’t have said it better myself.

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Hey trans people I just want to remind you that your experience is your own and there is no wrong way to describe it.

If you feel like you were "born in the wrong body", that's fine.

If you feel like you "used to be X gender but now you're Y gender", that's fine.

If you feel like you "were an X gender who chose to be a Y gender", that's fine.

If you feel like you've "always been Y gender", that's fine.

If you look at things with your deadname on or pre-transition photos and feel a sense of connection or recognition, that's fine.

If you look at things with your deadname on or pre-transition photos and feel like it's a completely different person, that's fine.

If you feel like you "killed the X gender you used to be", that's fine.

If you feel like "the X gender you used to be is still here but they're Y gender now", that's fine

Personally, I like to say that the little girl is still around, she just lets me do the talking now.

It's your experience and you can describe it however you choose.

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ponderous guy whose pronouns are huh/hmm

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the negativity and lack of up-to-date information surrounding phalloplasty is so prevalent among the larger queer and trans communities and i really just need younger trans men/mascs to know that phalloplasty can and in all likelihood will give you what you need to overcome bottom dysphoria

you don’t have to write yourself off from ever experiencing the joy of having a penis, and everyone who told you it’ll look “bad” or “not realistic” is most likely making assumptions off surgery results from 15-20+ years ago

there are resources that prove phalloplasty is an excellent option these days and you don’t need to base your decision off people who are clearly full of shit, phalloplasty will be a long road for sure but so is everything in life that’s worth doing

hop on r/phallo or phallo.net and you’ll learn so much about this kind of bottom surgery and see so many people who are living their best lives with their new dicks

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Question for my fellow trans masc/gnc people

are the Spencer’s binders any good?? I’m debating buying one but idk how actually good they are

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will testosterone make me an angry, unfeeling monster?

From the bottom of my heart, I promise you: No ❣️

The link between testosterone and anger/aggression is a common myth, but numerous scientific studies have concluded that there is not a correlation. Instead, socialization and confirmation bias are far more to blame for the prevaling belief. The reality is, appropriate testosterone treatments can reduce depression and stabilize moods. And that's for cis men and trans, not even getting into the quantifiably incredible effects it has reducing dysphoria and thoughts of suicide.

The predominant new emotion I noticed after starting tesosterone was joy. I encourage you to explore the possibility that this joy may be waiting for you as well.

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sometimes you’ll see some dickhead talking about some new dumbass version of social darwinism and “human nature” and it’s like bro you would not have been popular in the hunter gatherer village. you would not be in charge of the hunting party bro. they’d be talking shit about you around the fire every night bro like “grug fell into a tar pit again today and i really thought about not helping him, but i did and he didn’t even thank me :/” this is how your modern day neighbors talk about you too btw

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If you are able to, please consider donating to or commissioning my friend, Su.

He is a young transgender man of colour who has to pay entirely for his tuition (around $8000 CAD per year) to pursue his education. He receives no financial support from his family concerning his education and faces threats of either homelessness or forced marriage from them. Both options will end his education.

Here the link to his Ko-Fi: https://ko-fi.com/applesu

Thank you for your time.

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